if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[CapitalB]

Shit I believe you , but I still dont fully understand that square slang..what do you mean you wouldnt deal with that type?

im for who's for me..
i give to those who give to me.. a square bitch simply takes...

for me to go into detail would require another thread.. cause i aint tryin to derail this one..

but long story short.. i aint fuckin with no bitch that aint workin for me.. square pegs dont fit in round holes..

 

[ms.jones]

exactly dirty!!! so what that got to do with his special moment of not raising another man kids and wanting to make and raise his own? respect that mans special moment. Having a responsibility of a kid is a big difference from all that other stuff you was talkin. if you equate a life long, life changing responsibility like raising a human being to stuff like virginity.....That bird logic dirty. Why you mad because somebody with no kids, single, and free as a bird don't want a woman that's the opposite?

First off, relax. Real adults speak in a calm manner.

Secondly, I must reiterate to you...using his logic, he wouldn't be "first". My point is, you aren't first for ANYTHING. I'm not discrediting his choices or decisions. I'm making a simple point. Don't fuck with a chick that has a kid, whoopty doo for you...just don't kid yourself about that "first" shit. He's not the first to bust a nut in her, he isn't first to break her hyman, hell he isn't the first for anything that is "special" in a relationship.

Let the man fight his own battles. Go sit down and watch.

 

[ms.jones]

exactly dirty!!! so what that got to do with his special moment of not raising another man kids and wanting to make and raise his own? respect that mans special moment. Having a responsibility of a kid is a big difference from all that other stuff you was talkin. if you equate a life long, life changing responsibility like raising a human being to stuff like virginity.....That bird logic dirty. Why you mad because somebody with no kids, single, and free as a bird don't want a woman that's the opposite? So I'm guessing you don't take planing out having a kid with a man who is devoted to you surrious? so people who rather purfurr doing dat are looking at life all wrong in your eyes?

To answer your edit, where the hell did you get that notion? Please, think critically when asking these questions.

 

[Emerald City Rolla]

and thats some real shit....

Yo, could you break this down for me? Yo no comprendo, esse.

 

[IamtheVILLE]

well first u need to change ur attitude and perspective of life and how u live it..

ur OP shows u aint ready for a woman..

but doggie this is the net. in real life im different. help a nigga out.

 

[texican11]

Good for you. And I've done this with the 2 men that I've been with for years..it took a year for them to even know I had kids. And no, I don't think its fucked up. I'm a woman, and I'm human. I want and need things just like any other human. If I had men in and out of my life, then yes. However, I don't have a revolving door. Never been my style, and never will be.

Lets breakdown the single mom mentality...not all single moms are the same..

Im an expert on this subject

1)"It took a year for them to even know i had kids" --Ms Jones

- This chick belongs to the

"Im ashamed of my kids and Im afraid this good man gonna leave my side cuz of my bastards"

and "The multiple kids" category (lets break it down)

"Im ashamed of my kids and Im afraid this good man gonna leave my side cuz of my bastards"

-This type of single mom is kind of shady

She hides everything including her kids

and uses excuses why she cant go on dates

-But when you as a man find out that she is asingle mom she is quick to turn herself into the victim

"Single mom... multiple kids"

This one is a tricky one because this means that she has more responsabilties

and more baggage

Things only get worse if she has multiple baby daddies

So Ms.Jones tell us do you have multiple babydaddies?????

 

[CapitalB]

Yo, could you break this down for me? Yo no comprendo, esse.

his girls is his "family"
and sometimes his girls come with kids.. they are his family also.. he takes care of all that..

a P that has a stable has to be family oriented... he got too many to care for.. care about..

 

[rico_ENS]

i would pipe but never wife a chick wit kids even tho i got 3 of my own*shrugs* am juss a nigga wit a different perspective n any woman that i deal wit is gon have to respect it....

 

[ms.jones]

Lets breakdown the single mom mentality...not all single moms are the same..
Im an expert on this subject

1)"It took a year for them to even know i had kids" --Ms Jones
- This chick belongs to the
"Im ashamed of my kids and Im afraid this good man gonna leave my side cuz of my bastards"
and "The multiple kids" category (lets break it down)

"Im ashamed of my kids and Im afraid this good man gonna leave my side cuz of my bastards"
-This type of single mom is kind of shady
She hides everything including her kids
and uses excuses why she cant go on dates
-But when you as a man find out that she is asingle mom she is quick to turn herself into the victim

"Single mom... multiple kids"
This one is a tricky one because this means that she has more responsabilties
and more baggage
Things only get worse if she has multiple baby daddies

So Ms.Jones tell us do you have multiple babydaddies?????

You gotta be kidding me, right? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!!!!!!

Dude, your thought process and logic is completely screwed. Why would I expose my kids to my dating life? Why would I want them to see anything that I do that does not require them directly? Think about it. I'm a single mother, that dates. Every date I go on, my kids see, and that would be ok for you? Or would you perfer that I keep my DATING life separate from my MOTHER life....get a clue you dick. Stop attempting to seem smart, when its the exact opposite.

I swear, the fucking guys this website attracts....scary.

Anyway, no, my children have the same father. The same man I was with for 7 years, good, bad and ugly.

This shit got me chuckling like a muthfucka. I swear, your attention whoring has gotten worst since you've started posting again.

 

[ms.jones]

Word I didnt even pick up that...how do you go a year without tellin ur man you have kids. That should be said in the first date, wouldnt yo want to know if he was even accepting of your kids before he invest feelings? Thats very deceitful. Quite possibly can ruin a potential relationship cuz I would just wonder what else you have been hiding.

Real easy. First off, don't make a man your "man" after only a year of dating. And second, I don't make kids, or if he has any my first line of questioning. If after dating for a year, and my kids are a deal breaker for him, then goodbye. When you care about me, you will care about them

 

[Emerald City Rolla]

You gotta be kidding me, right? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!!!!!!

Dude, your thought process and logic is completely screwed. Why would I expose my kids to my dating life? Why would I want them to see anything that I do that does not require them directly? Think about it. I'm a single mother, that dates. Every date I go on, my kids see, and that would be ok for you? Or would you perfer that I keep my DATING life separate from my MOTHER life....get a clue you dick. Stop attempting to seem smart, when its the exact opposite.

I swear, the fucking guys this website attracts....scary.

Anyway, no, my children have the same father. The same man I was with for 7 years, good, bad and ugly.

This shit got me chuckling like a muthfucka. I swear, your attention whoring has gotten worst since you've started posting again.

I respect that ms.jones. My mother actually gave up dating until both me and my bother were out of the house against mine and my brother's urging. From my perspective I'd like to know that information a little sooner than a year down the road but I understand the logic behind it.

 

[texican11]

@Ms Jones

So you think is fair for the guy that u are dating to not even know that u have kids????

Lets talk about it...

He might even fall in love with you thinking that u are a good woman with no drama everything he wants

and a few months later he finds out that u have multiple kids from some dude who did not give a fuck about you or them BASTARDS

And now that he is in love he gotta take care of baby issues/ baby daddy drama and everthing else that

comes with single motherhood...

But of course you will never see it from a guys point of view

Because you only thinking and care about your "wants and needs"

whata selfish CUNT...

 

[Emerald City Rolla]

his girls is his "family"
and sometimes his girls come with kids.. they are his family also.. he takes care of all that..

a P that has a stable has to be family oriented... he got too many to care for.. care about..

That makes sense. All these hollywood depictions of pimps be messing with a mind. Though I'm sure there are plenty of those out there.

 

[Stiff]

Real easy. First off, don't make a man your "man" after only a year of dating. And second, I don't make kids, or if he has any my first line of questioning. If after dating for a year, and my kids are a deal breaker for him, then goodbye. When you care about me, you will care about them

Really though??? An entire YEAR of dating and you could still not be "with" that dude? That's a waste of time imo

 

[CapitalB]

That makes sense. All these hollywood depictions of pimps be messing with a mind. Though I'm sure there are plenty of those out there.

it does... and there is..

but the "there is" part is due to too many watchin movies.. listenin to rap songs.. and reading books that are meant to entertain and not enlighten, then thinkin thats what they want to do and thats how they have to be..

 

[beezy f baby]

Cant be a step mom. This is why i dont like to date guys with kids. I want that special bond with someone and dont wanna share it with another woman.

 

[Ioniz3dSPIRITZ]

some of ya'll were not raised or prepared for modern times, & have a little trouble accepting the new age era. People are having sex before marriage and a lot are having kids. People today do not look at kids as a curse or disaster. & more people are starting families at young ages. You are not going to find you a virgin at 35...

If I make to the age of 25 without kids it will be because of one thing.............CONDOMS! If i was smart enough to use a contraception why couldn't these women with all these kids do the same or atleast choose a dude to sleep with whom had respect for himself and her to not go in the twat unprotected. It seems as if the only ones praising men taking care of out wedlock children are the single mothers themselves. Could that be the case here?

 

[CapitalB]

@Ms Jones

So you think is fair for the guy that u are dating to not even know that u have kids????

Lets talk about it...
He might even fall in love with you thinking that u are a good woman with no drama everything he wants
and a few months later he finds out that u have multiple kids from some dude who did not give a fuck about you or them BASTARDS

And now that he is in love he gotta take care of baby issues/ baby daddy drama and everthing else that
comes with single motherhood...

But of course you will never see it from a guys point of view
Because you only thinking and care about your "wants and needs"
whata selfish CUNT...

if anyone falls in love with someone without truly knowing them is an idiot..

ill butt out now. hahaha

 

[im_lux]

his girls is his "family"

and sometimes his girls come with kids.. they are his family also.. he takes care of all that..

a P that has a stable has to be family oriented... he got too many to care for.. care about..

^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Thank you kind sir.

 

[ms.jones]

@Ms Jones

So you think is fair for the guy that u are dating to not even know that u have kids????

Lets talk about it...
He might even fall in love with you thinking that u are a good woman with no drama everything he wants
and a few months later he finds out that u have multiple kids from some dude who did not give a fuck about you or them BASTARDS

And now that he is in love he gotta take care of baby issues/ baby daddy drama and everthing else that
comes with single motherhood...

But of course you will never see it from a guys point of view
Because you only thinking and care about your "wants and needs"
whata selfish CUNT...

Ok...let me get this straight...me dating, and not knowing if this will be anything serious....I should put all my cards on the table?

If I am able to get with you, go out on dates, enjoy some alone time, and let things build, why should the addition of adding my kids be any more an issue? Were they an issue beforehand, and everything was good? What makes you think things still won't be good? No such thing as a "balance" huh? Never heard of an single mother with no bullshit ass issues huh? Just ain't normal, is it?

Get it right, you nimrod....after a year of getting to know someone, I can pretty much gauge the reaction I will get. Dating means we are just friends, nothing more, nothing less, until it is discussed. At that moment, that's when things get real, and either you can still love me and stay, or walk away, and enjoy the time we had....but I bet my kids will not be any wiser if you decide to bounce.