How much niceties and smooth talking do you do early on with a chick

[Conscious__Nkechi]

do you act hard, as though you arent really feeling her, and spit the niceties and smooth talking to get her feeling like you really care. I found a great woman, who is sorta the romantic type so I stay telling her stuff to get a smile on her face. She is def. feeling me, I look forward to see how things go

PS-Im not talking about jumpoffs or im talking women you are really feeling

Now dont get me wrong im not simpin, but I def. hit her with some nice lingo to let her know im feeling her, but I don't overdo it to where it gets sickening

And there lies the issue.

 

[ImSoReal]

well I dont get what you mean, im not normally the type of guy who expresses his feelings to anyone, so if Im talking to a woman and things are good, but I don't have that extra feeling for her, I can come up standoffish and uninterested, but like with the woman im talking to right now, I feel a huge vibe and chemistry we stay having fun, so I let her know how Im feeling I dont go overboard with it, but I will def. hit her up through text a couple times and tell her she is on my mind, and when we talk in person I let it know where she stands

 

[kat2180]

All men do this before they get you hooked.

 

[American.Loo]

back when I was out there (which wasnt very long ago)

i practiced what you call 'tension and relief'

be sweet, then distant, then very very interested, then cold.

usually works. women seem to like their emotions messed with.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

back when I was out there (which wasnt very long ago)

i practiced what you call 'tension and relief'

be sweet, then distant, then very very interested, then cold.

usually works. women seem to like their emotions messed with.

I don't know, doesn't sound like a "woman" to me. Sounds like a confused girl *shrugs*

 

[American.Loo]

I don't know, doesn't sound like a "woman" to me. Sounds like a confused girl *shrugs*

Well you havent been loving me right lately anyway so maybe you're giving me the 'tension and relief' treatment.

so cold.

 

[ImSoReal]

back when I was out there (which wasnt very long ago)

i practiced what you call 'tension and relief'

be sweet, then distant, then very very interested, then cold.

usually works. women seem to like their emotions messed with.

naw the women I deal with that wouldnt let that shit go, especially since the girl im talking to is 10 years older than me

 

[-Vincenzo-]

none basically, i tried it but im not a niceties smoothy smoothy person. girl told me nigga i know you aint like that, so stop it. now im back to just crackin jokes and showing interest by looking out for them a little, makes them fall head over heels in love.

 

[American.Loo]

naw the women I deal with that wouldnt let that shit go, especially since the girl im talking to is 10 years older than me

10 years older than you? Interesting.

Hows that working out. Are you trying to build something real?

 

[ImSoReal]

none basically, i tried it but im not a niceties smoothy smoothy person. girl told me nigga i know you aint like that, so stop it. now im back to just crackin jokes and showing interest by looking out for them a little, makes them fall head over heels in love.

I do both, I stay cracking jokes, but Im also letting them now they are on my mind, but thats when im really feeling them

 

[ImSoReal]

10 years older than you? Interesting.

Hows that working out. Are you trying to build something real?

Things are good, we have been out twice, had a blast both times, we talk and text throughout the day. Honestly I havent had a vibe this good in a long time

 

[taeboo]

back when I was out there (which wasnt very long ago)

i practiced what you call 'tension and relief'

be sweet, then distant, then very very interested, then cold.

usually works. women seem to like their emotions messed with.

I can't stand when men do this.

 

[s_a_m_r_i_o]

do you act hard, as though you arent really feeling her, and spit the niceties and smooth talking to get her feeling like you really care. I found a great woman, who is sorta the romantic type so I stay telling her stuff to get a smile on her face. She is def. feeling me, I look forward to see how things go

PS-Im not talking about jumpoffs or im talking women you are really feeling

Now dont get me wrong im not simpin, but I def. hit her with some nice lingo to let her know im feeling her, but I don't overdo it to where it gets sickening

I'm the only one who caught this or am I just reading it wrong. You're feeling this chick aren't you?

back when I was out there (which wasnt very long ago)

i practiced what you call 'tension and relief'

be sweet, then distant, then very very interested, then cold.

usually works. women seem to like their emotions messed with.

I agree with this because when you get your hopes up and show interest, they'll do something stupid to mess it up so it's best to give a little, make it seems like you're not interested, then prove that you are and take it from there.

 

[CollegeBoi12]

nah, I don't sell these females any false dreams

 

[-Vincenzo-]

I do both, I stay cracking jokes, but Im also letting them now they are on my mind, but thats when im really feeling them

dont you feel weird sending a text "i was thinking about you" or something like that? i used to outsource the communication process of certain broads to my nigga and he was like lets send her a text saying "how r u doin? you been on my mind all day", nigga i never felt so awkward. shit like that just aint me, i could donate a girl my kidney, kill for her but that emotional stuff isnt working for me. never said i love you to anyone that doesnt have the same blood as me in my whole lifetime.

 

[Jonas.dini]

Real talk if I'm really into the chick and for real strategizing, what I'll do is be polite and nice and talkative at first but not all touchy feely or anything, and then as we get to know eachother and she tells me stuff about herself I touch her and start being a little sweeter to her, that way she thinks that I'm becoming interested in her, as opposed to her thinking that I'm already into her but trying to make her like me.

Bottom line tho (if you aren't into subtle psychological manipulation like me), you don't want to come off as sappy or as liking her too much right away, but at the same time I'ma let her know if I'm interested.

 

[Jonas.dini]

Oh maybe I misunderstood the question a little, y'all talkin about sending frufru texts like 'I wuv u'...?...

Hell no I don't do that. Women do not like that kind of shit imo, especially if you're doing it all the time.

 

[HustleTree]

nah, I don't sell these females any false dreams

This here ....

 

[TheFix]

Everybody shows a highlight reel for the first 3-6 months, some mentally tough people can pull that shit off for over a year, I call that shit the ambassador stage. But eventually, the bitch starts fartin, and the niggas get mad insecure. And the playoffs begin. That's typically when you find out if a relationship is for real.

 

[CapitalB]

And there lies the issue.

exactly.. if u gotta dance to catch d bitch.. u go have to keep dancin to keep her..

jus be u from jump..
sure u want get as many females.. but the u get is for u..