How many of you lazy hoes know how to make a plate for your man

[dr. zero_ahh]

I'm making an assumption here...

I'm assuming that you'll end up in a relationship with a woman that you consider "thoro". if that assumption is correct, she will take it upon herself to fix u that plate. to your specifics.

it'll be fine.

I'll be honest...I was raised to basically act as if "you're never gonna get married, involved, etc." Huge part of that was learning how to do a lot of things yourself. Cleaning, cooking, normal maintenance work with toilets, pipes, etc. (still gotta master car maintenance); and shit like that. So when the issue of who fixes the plate comes up, my instinct is to get my ass up and do it. I know it may be offensive and wrong...but it was never a big deal to me to fix my own if the lady did all the cooking. I never got complaints about it before.

 

[stilldat_dude]

Whether or not you agree with doing it or not isn't the most disturbing thing in this thread. The scary part is the fact that people can't understand and comprehend what that actions signifies. You don't agree with the action fine we agree to disagree but if you don't understand what it helps signify than you are lost for real. Niggas is seriously in here talking bout what the fuck does that prove or mean WTF??? In the words on Ed Lover CMON MAN. Niggas is still missing the POINT...no shit you can do it for yourself thanks for stating the obvious.

 

[Tha Killa]

@ Tha Killa^^

and Doc Zero for good measure lol.

What? Dude, she's from Texas. It doesn't surprise me they wouldn't find it petty or childish.

Like I said, I'm not opposed to making my own plate, but smackin' plates out of peoples hands 'cause they made a plate for dude instead of you is childish. Wheretheydothatat?

 

[lady_c]

I didn't see her say that. Maybe she wants to do some of those things but not all of them. Maybe she wants her man/husband to share in those duties with her. It shouldn't be all up to the woman to do all of the household responsibilities, just like it shouldn't be all up to the man to work and provide finances for the home. Marriage and relationships should be about equality and I see no reason why a man and a woman cannot share in the household duties. Maybe you could learn something from this young woman and up your standards in a man and not settle for a man that expects you to do ALL of the housework while he sits down on the couch in his draws playing PS3..

lol ok i will play along...

she previously said that she refuses to fix her man a plate. then included it in a list of other "traditions" typically done by a female. so it was a fair question to ask. you refuse to do one based solely on tradition, do you refuse to do all?

 

[jackthemack]

It seems like a lot of this is perhaps regional or if you've had a large family or not. A lot of these "customs" are generational and traditional

 

[tam]

i would. . . .

 

[Simma II]

lol, errything.....

Lol apparently so!

Oh well. I'm going to go watch Archer on hulu

 

[Simma II]

smh @ the lazy hoe comment....

From what I've read, you're the only female that says this

 

[Whatcha wearing?]

Your post made it seem like you were saying we shouldnt do it because its tradtionally a womans role. So if you refuse to fix a plate because yoou think its chauvinistic thinking in essence, and then you turn around and say cleaning and caring for children is a "womans tradtion" also, then it makes it seem like you would refuse to do those also just because of the same reason you wont fix your man a plate.

I think what the problem is white some of you, you dont see the give and take in it. Your use to messing with men who expect you to do the womanly things but dont want to do the tradtional manly things in return for you.

I dont have that in my relationship. I cook and clean. He takes care of the cars and lawn and maintence things. Its not like im having to do everything a woman and a man traditionally do.

Because she said something was defined as "traditionally a woman's role" doesn't mean she's not going to do it. What she says is that it's not MANDATORY for her to do such things. And quite frankly she's correct in what she's saying and you old hags are trying to convert her into your way of thinking which is basically outdated gender-role sterotypes.

Maybe she's willing to do some of the so-called "manly things" to help out her man and expects him to do some of the so-called "womanly" things in return. It's still give and take but with more sharing of the duties involved. No pre-set gender roles for each to follow.

I'm sure that relationship works well for you because it's the type of person you are. It's what you believe is right that you're doing. However if someone has different expectations for their relationship and doesn't agree with what you're doing then doing it in that way will be a negative thing for that person and their relationship because it will leave him/her unhappy and unfulfilled. What works for you doesn't work for everyone.

 

[hummingbird]

Whether or not you agree with doing it or not isn't the most disturbing thing in this thread. The scary part is the fact that people can't understand and comprehend what that actions signifies. You don't agree with the action fine we agree to disagree but if you don't understand what it helps signify than you are lost for real. Niggas is seriously in here talking bout what the fuck does that prove or mean WTF??? In the words on Ed Lover CMON MAN

Its like not sucking dick. And then wondering how the hell Ms Hoover from up the street ended up marrying the man of your dreams. Because she took the time and showed him she knew how to do that little trick he liked.

 

[Hobe cryant]

Any chick that becomes wifey gonna love me.I dont want no submissive slave doin my laundry and cleanin my mess up.Fuck outta here.

I'm already clean as hell and I barely eat.All she gotta do is look good and fuck me on a regular all that other stuff aint necessary,Now if she insist go head I still wont feel comfortable but I wont say no.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

smh @ the lazy hoe comment....

I fix my mans plate all the time whether he wants me to or not its jus something i feel as tho i SHOULD do... please young man do not mistake that for something i HAVE to do... the only thing i HAVE to do is stay black n die and really M.J. proved i dont HAVE to stay black. LOL

The problem today it that the things we should do we act like we are too good and above someone to do... THats why divorce rates are so high and why these nigga stay on the hard on hoes movement. ITS OK TO PLEASE YOUR MAN!

quality post..

 

[dr. zero_ahh]

word. some other cats are lookin at it from that angle too. and that's a good mentality...

but this isn't about the men. it's about what the women do for their men.

Well like you said, I wouldn't get with anyone who wasn't "thoro" (that's a correct assumption ha ha). I'd get with someone who knows what reciprocation means because I've noticed, I'm not the hardest dude out to please...be nice, keep yourself up, be smart and logical, no unnecessary drama and reciprocate and we'll be fine. She's even allowed to make decisions in the house according to what I know she's good at! You can't go wrong w/that type of compromise.

 

[Whatcha wearing?]

lol ok i will play along...

she previously said that she refuses to fix her man a plate. then included it in a list of other "traditions" typically done by a female. so it was a fair question to ask. you refuse to do one based solely on tradition, do you refuse to do all?

I'm pretty sure i read her say that it wasn't mandatory that she did so and that he could fix his own plate. I also read that she said she'd fix him a plate on special occasions but she didn't see it as a necessity for everyday. She didn't refuse to do it SOLELY on tradition she also had the reasoning that he could simply do it himself.

 

[Tha Killa]

smh @ the lazy hoe comment....

I fix my mans plate all the time whether he wants me to or not its jus something i feel as tho i SHOULD do... please young man do not mistake that for something i HAVE to do... the only thing i HAVE to do is stay black n die and really M.J. proved i dont HAVE to stay black. LOL

The problem today it that the things we should do we act like we are too good and above someone to do... THats why divorce rates are so high and why these nigga stay on the hard on hoes movement. ITS OK TO PLEASE YOUR MAN!

Wow. Just wow. Half breeds talkin' 'bout "stay black and die"? Wheretheydothatat?

^^^

Hypocritical nigga post

Haha. You know you're wrong for talkin' about Mike like that. Hahaha. Damn ma.

i would. . . .

Why does this NOT surprise me?

 

[hummingbird]

Because she said something was defined as "traditionally a woman's role" doesn't mean she's not going to do it. What she says is that it's not MANDATORY for her to do such things. And quite frankly she's correct in what she's saying and you old hags are trying to convert her into your way of thinking which is basically outdated gender-role sterotypes.

Maybe she's willing to do some of the so-called "manly things" to help out her man and expects him to do some of the so-called "womanly" things in return. It's still give and take but with more sharing of the duties involved. No pre-set gender roles for each to follow.

I'm sure that relationship works well for you because it's the type of person you are. It's what you believe is right that you're doing. However if someone has different expectations for their relationship and doesn't agree with what you're doing then doing it in that way will be a negative thing for that person and their relationship because it will leave him/her unhappy and unfulfilled. What works for you doesn't work for everyone.

Lady C just summed up why it came accross as she wouldnt do those things.

And I know what works for me doesnt work for all. I even stated that in this thread. And not once did I tell her she would end up alone or any of the other stuff. Because I know she may find a man who doesnt mind fixing his own plate while she mows the lawn. I know there are couples out there like that. I jsut stated that it doesnt work for me and mine so I see no reason for us to change the way we are. Again you both have me confused with other posters who said those things to her.

 

[Focal Point]

i take it that you didnt see the other thread where all the old female posters don't mind cum on their face.

next thread would be about wiping his ass.

what's wrong with some machismo on ya face... that's love baby

 

[lady_c]

I'm pretty sure i read her say that it wasn't mandatory that she did so and that he could fix his own plate. I also read that she said she'd fix him a plate on special occasions but she didn't see it as a necessity for everyday. She didn't refuse to do it SOLELY on tradition she also had the reasoning that he could simply do it himself.

you did read that. and what i meant by solely on tradition is that she is not going to do it just because thats how it's always been done (i.e. tradition). so again, it was a fair question based on her previous responses and her grouping all of the "traditions" together - shes refusing to do one is she refusing to do the others...real basic.

 

[Focal Point]

Both sides have a point. I'd fix my man's plate cause that's how I grew up.....Momma always taught me to do so....but it's refreshing to see men who have no qualms making their own plate....when men start to demand that shit, it''s REALLY unnattractive....I'll do it because I love you not because you "put your foot down" or whatever....

at the end of the day, do what works for you

very good post

 

[Whatcha wearing?]

Lady C just summed up why it came accross as she wouldnt do those things.

And I know what works for me doesnt work for all. I even stated that in this thread. And not once did I tell her she would end up alone or any of the other stuff. Because I know she may find a man who doesnt mind fixing his own plate while she mows the lawn. I know there are couples out there like that. I jsut stated that it doesnt work for me and mine so I see no reason for us to change the way we are. Again you both have me confused with other posters who said those things to her.

Stop typin and send me a video of you deepthroating a baseball bat. Thanks in advance.