How Many of Y'all Have Taken Care of Someone Elses Child, Because of a Relationship?

[BangEm_Bart]

Single mothers ready to give they life to Christ and fuck the fuck buddies in the motel and shit

This stood out for not making sense in a thread full of not making sense.

There's truth to it but it's irrelevant.

 

[Kat]

If her dad isn't in the picture why wouldn't you want her to call you dad?

Just seen this @Kat

She not my child...she should call her father dad, whether he is a good father/dad or not...

I would die if my kids ever called another man dad....

I earnt that right when I planted the seed...and so did her bio father imo

I don't approve of step parents being referred to as "mum", "dad" unless they raised that child from near birth.

Oh I thought that he wasn't in the picture at all.

Now no more dammit!!

 

[PapaDoc223]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

Hey bruh that is jokes on ill pix.....but there is broads on ill pix that are EBRCable. Imma check out ill pix now.

 

[S2J]

Some of these single moms are lyin about bringin dudes around their kids. If they feelin you they rampin you up.

3 weeks in, 2nd date, 1st time comin to my crib and we pretty much established it was cutty time. She says 'Somethin came up with the sitter i can come and bring Miles then when he goes to bed----'

Biiiih

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

My situation is a bit different. Seeing as my household is comprised of 9 children. His, Mine and Ours.

My current husband and I dated for a year prior to me ever allowing him to even see my children let alone establish a

relationship. And that time frame was forced upon me due to him (my husband) growing insecure. I did not want my children/daughter under the impression that it was cool to have men in and out of the home.

I also, allowed their father to meet my now husband, Prior to him meeting my children out of respect. Having another man in your child's life can be nerve wrecking for a man "especially" when you have daughters.

My hubby's children lived in another state and were being kept from him at the time, so we didn't have the dating w/children issue most speak of.

However, the drama with his BM and children ensued fairly quickly once he and I married and we started demanding his rights to his children as their father.

To this day, we still deal with issues over that way, and we moved to TX to be closer to them. :-(

I have been the sole provider for the household for many years for many reasons. Is it difficult taking care of 11 people? yes... but if he and I were to separate this very day... would I continue to support "his" bio children, My step-children.

I can say yes.... and it may actually happen for a short period of time, but I doubt their mother would allow it. She despises me and only allows for them to stay here because of their father. Even though she lives in a hotel, she tried to fight for them to not come down and live with us.. Just drama.

Well damn. I'm intrigued like a muthafucca about this. Tell us more? How you living in a hotel and denying an established father rights?? lol

It is very difficult for fathers to gain full custody of their children. The burden of proof is on the father. He has to

prove that she is an unfit parent and living in a hotel does not constitute being unfit.

If that were the case then every mother/father with children living in homeless shelters would have their children taken away.

It just doesn't work that way. So... she took us to court to try and fight for them to stay with her.

We did not win full custody, but we did receive temporary custody until she is on her feet.

Wow.

 

[S2J]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

Hey bruh that is jokes on ill pix.....but there is broads on ill pix that are EBRCable. Imma check out ill pix now.

Every ngga not gettin the same quality cutty. Seen nggas say ebrc to REGULAR lookin ic chicks

 

[taeboo]

Like @Pico said I try to avoid chicks that have kids. Too much drama behind it, I've learned my lesson

#NoKidsLife#

 

[T. Sanford]

@Kat I see that reaction tf u laughing at?

 

[MsSouthern]

My situation is a bit different. Seeing as my household is comprised of 9 children. His, Mine and Ours.

My current husband and I dated for a year prior to me ever allowing him to even see my children let alone establish a

relationship. And that time frame was forced upon me due to him (my husband) growing insecure. I did not want my children/daughter under the impression that it was cool to have men in and out of the home.

I also, allowed their father to meet my now husband, Prior to him meeting my children out of respect. Having another man in your child's life can be nerve wrecking for a man "especially" when you have daughters.

My hubby's children lived in another state and were being kept from him at the time, so we didn't have the dating w/children issue most speak of.

However, the drama with his BM and children ensued fairly quickly once he and I married and we started demanding his rights to his children as their father.

To this day, we still deal with issues over that way, and we moved to TX to be closer to them. :-(

I have been the sole provider for the household for many years for many reasons. Is it difficult taking care of 11 people? yes... but if he and I were to separate this very day... would I continue to support "his" bio children, My step-children.

I can say yes.... and it may actually happen for a short period of time, but I doubt their mother would allow it. She despises me and only allows for them to stay here because of their father. Even though she lives in a hotel, she tried to fight for them to not come down and live with us.. Just drama.

Well damn. I'm intrigued like a muthafucca about this. Tell us more? How you living in a hotel and denying an established father rights?? lol

It is very difficult for fathers to gain full custody of their children. The burden of proof is on the father. He has to

prove that she is an unfit parent and living in a hotel does not constitute being unfit.

If that were the case then every mother/father with children living in homeless shelters would have their children taken away.

It just doesn't work that way. So... she took us to court to try and fight for them to stay with her.

We did not win full custody, but we did receive temporary custody until she is on her feet.

In Texas...Temp orders turn into final orders most of the time

Especially if the kids live with you for more than 6 months.

After that you can petition to be the custodial parent. I'm not saying what you should or shouldn't do .... Sounds like you are looking out for the kids so if being with you and their dad is best .... That's what should happen.

 

[MsSouthern]

Some of these single moms are lyin about bringin dudes around their kids. If they feelin you they rampin you up.

3 weeks in, 2nd date, 1st time comin to my crib and we pretty much established it was cutty time. She says 'Somethin came up with the sitter i can come and bring Miles then when he goes to bed----'

Biiiih

I had a hard rule about waiting a year except with my current man

For one ... Unless you are in it for the long haul then why waste anyone's time or emotions . And two ... I'm not looking for a replacement daddy. My sons dad is a good man.

We waited 2 months and then took the kids on vacay with us.

5 years later ... Zero regrets

 

[Kat]

@Kat I see that reaction tf u laughing at?

Imma call the pound..@ me one more MFn time!

 

[BangEm_Bart]

@Kat I see that reaction tf u laughing at?

Imma call the pound..@ me one more MFn time!

No leave my dog alone before I bite your nipple off.

 

[S2J]

Yall nggas rude as fuk man smh Give her a break. Stop callin @kat to this thread

 

[Kat]

@Kat I see that reaction tf u laughing at?

Imma call the pound..@ me one more MFn time!

No leave my dog alone before I bite your nipple off.

Oh my bad I didn't know that was you.

 

[blackrain]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

When I "RC" chicks, birth control was used, unlike a lot of dumb people who didn't think of using it or couldn't afford it.

I know it sounds crazy and it seems prideful

But I

Couldn't shake the feelin' that I was lied to

She ran out the room with mad tears in her eyes

Left her pills on the dresser right next to my copy of Get Back

I put 'em in my hand

Then put one in my mouth

Sure enough, all this time she been poppin' Tic Tac's

-Phonte, Close Call

Takes a whole lot of trust to believe random chicks are takin BC just bc they tell you son...

It also take a dumb nigga to nut up in a random chick just because she tells him she's taking BC.

 

[Reesey]

My situation is a bit different. Seeing as my household is comprised of 9 children. His, Mine and Ours.

My current husband and I dated for a year prior to me ever allowing him to even see my children let alone establish a

relationship. And that time frame was forced upon me due to him (my husband) growing insecure. I did not want my children/daughter under the impression that it was cool to have men in and out of the home.

I also, allowed their father to meet my now husband, Prior to him meeting my children out of respect. Having another man in your child's life can be nerve wrecking for a man "especially" when you have daughters.

My hubby's children lived in another state and were being kept from him at the time, so we didn't have the dating w/children issue most speak of.

However, the drama with his BM and children ensued fairly quickly once he and I married and we started demanding his rights to his children as their father.

To this day, we still deal with issues over that way, and we moved to TX to be closer to them. :-(

I have been the sole provider for the household for many years for many reasons. Is it difficult taking care of 11 people? yes... but if he and I were to separate this very day... would I continue to support "his" bio children, My step-children.

I can say yes.... and it may actually happen for a short period of time, but I doubt their mother would allow it. She despises me and only allows for them to stay here because of their father. Even though she lives in a hotel, she tried to fight for them to not come down and live with us.. Just drama.

Well damn. I'm intrigued like a muthafucca about this. Tell us more? How you living in a hotel and denying an established father rights?? lol

It is very difficult for fathers to gain full custody of their children. The burden of proof is on the father. He has to

prove that she is an unfit parent and living in a hotel does not constitute being unfit.

If that were the case then every mother/father with children living in homeless shelters would have their children taken away.

It just doesn't work that way. So... she took us to court to try and fight for them to stay with her.

We did not win full custody, but we did receive temporary custody until she is on her feet.

In Texas...Temp orders turn into final orders most of the time

Especially if the kids live with you for more than 6 months.

After that you can petition to be the custodial parent. I'm not saying what you should or shouldn't do .... Sounds like you are looking out for the kids so if being with you and their dad is best .... That's what should happen.

Yes Texas laws are much different then California laws. Hopefully the law swings in our favor regarding this.

 

[Peace_79]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

When I "RC" chicks, birth control was used, unlike a lot of dumb people who didn't think of using it or couldn't afford it.

I know it sounds crazy and it seems prideful

But I

Couldn't shake the feelin' that I was lied to

She ran out the room with mad tears in her eyes

Left her pills on the dresser right next to my copy of Get Back

I put 'em in my hand

Then put one in my mouth

Sure enough, all this time she been poppin' Tic Tac's

-Phonte, Close Call

Takes a whole lot of trust to believe random chicks are takin BC just bc they tell you son...

It also take a dumb nigga to nut up in a random chick just because she tells him she's taking BC.

I dont know fam... Its a lot of "random chicks" out there that would probably have you saying fuck a condom... especially if they told you they was on BC.

#KeepinitReal

I can introduce you to this wonderful forum call the Ill Pix Community which contains more than a few such specimens.

Before you browse, peep exhibit A

 

[blackrain]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

When I "RC" chicks, birth control was used, unlike a lot of dumb people who didn't think of using it or couldn't afford it.

I know it sounds crazy and it seems prideful

But I

Couldn't shake the feelin' that I was lied to

She ran out the room with mad tears in her eyes

Left her pills on the dresser right next to my copy of Get Back

I put 'em in my hand

Then put one in my mouth

Sure enough, all this time she been poppin' Tic Tac's

-Phonte, Close Call

Takes a whole lot of trust to believe random chicks are takin BC just bc they tell you son...

It also take a dumb nigga to nut up in a random chick just because she tells him she's taking BC.

I dont know fam... Its a lot of "random chicks" out there that would probably have you saying fuck a condom... especially if they told you they was on BC.

#KeepinitReal

I can introduce you to this wonderful forum call the Ill Pix Community which contains more than a few such specimens.

Before you browse, peep exhibit A

No...there really aren't any. A woman being fine as hell ain't enough for me to say "fuck my future let me risk it all for this one nut". Truth be told, I'm simply too selfish and enjoy my life the way it is to have put myself at risk like that. Those moments of pleasure ain't worth the lifetime of dealing with somebody that i don't even know for sure if I even want to see the next damn day let alone the next 18+ years of my life co-parenting a child. I'm not about to put my own future in the hands of somebody else just because she got a nice ass and some nice titties. That's why I'm about to turn 30 w/ no kids, no angry ex baby mommas, and no dumb ass stories about chicks trying to trap me or set me up.

 

[Peace_79]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

When I "RC" chicks, birth control was used, unlike a lot of dumb people who didn't think of using it or couldn't afford it.

I know it sounds crazy and it seems prideful

But I

Couldn't shake the feelin' that I was lied to

She ran out the room with mad tears in her eyes

Left her pills on the dresser right next to my copy of Get Back

I put 'em in my hand

Then put one in my mouth

Sure enough, all this time she been poppin' Tic Tac's

-Phonte, Close Call

Takes a whole lot of trust to believe random chicks are takin BC just bc they tell you son...

It also take a dumb nigga to nut up in a random chick just because she tells him she's taking BC.

I dont know fam... Its a lot of "random chicks" out there that would probably have you saying fuck a condom... especially if they told you they was on BC.

#KeepinitReal

I can introduce you to this wonderful forum call the Ill Pix Community which contains more than a few such specimens.

Before you browse, peep exhibit A

No...there really aren't any. A woman being fine as hell ain't enough for me to say "fuck my future let me risk it all for this one nut". Truth be told, I'm simply too selfish and enjoy my life the way it is to have put myself at risk like that. Those moments of pleasure ain't worth the lifetime of dealing with somebody that i don't even know for sure if I even want to see the next damn day let alone the next 18+ years of my life co-parenting a child. I'm not about to put my own future in the hands of somebody else just because she got a nice ass and some nice titties. That's why I'm about to turn 30 w/ no kids, no angry ex baby mommas, and no dumb ass stories about chicks trying to trap me or set me up.

Lol I feel you. I am in the same position you are in.

But, I am very forward thinking like that. Plus, I never played the field excessively - Been in good number of relationships.

I cant say I wasnt tempted tho. I can see how it could happen.

 

[willhustle]

the same cats in here on that "you a sucka for taking care of a kid that aint yours" be the main ones in illpix hollering "EBRC"...ummm...what do you think happens when you do the "RC"?

When I "RC" chicks, birth control was used, unlike a lot of dumb people who didn't think of using it or couldn't afford it.

I know it sounds crazy and it seems prideful

But I

Couldn't shake the feelin' that I was lied to

She ran out the room with mad tears in her eyes

Left her pills on the dresser right next to my copy of Get Back

I put 'em in my hand

Then put one in my mouth

Sure enough, all this time she been poppin' Tic Tac's

-Phonte, Close Call

Takes a whole lot of trust to believe random chicks are takin BC just bc they tell you son...

It also take a dumb nigga to nut up in a random chick just because she tells him she's taking BC.

I dont know fam... Its a lot of "random chicks" out there that would probably have you saying fuck a condom... especially if they told you they was on BC.

#KeepinitReal

I can introduce you to this wonderful forum call the Ill Pix Community which contains more than a few such specimens.

Before you browse, peep exhibit A

No...there really aren't any. A woman being fine as hell ain't enough for me to say "fuck my future let me risk it all for this one nut". Truth be told, I'm simply too selfish and enjoy my life the way it is to have put myself at risk like that. Those moments of pleasure ain't worth the lifetime of dealing with somebody that i don't even know for sure if I even want to see the next damn day let alone the next 18+ years of my life co-parenting a child. I'm not about to put my own future in the hands of somebody else just because she got a nice ass and some nice titties. That's why I'm about to turn 30 w/ no kids, no angry ex baby mommas, and no dumb ass stories about chicks trying to trap me or set me up.

Agreed ^^^^^ on all the bolded. I know I'm late to the "party" but I'm a just throw in my 2 cents on the subject. I didn't go through this thread and read all 20+ pgs of responses (obviously) because it's always back & forth arguments with these type of threads. What irks me though is that when people try to call others selfish for not wanting to date someone or be in a relationship with man/woman who has a kid(s). Everybody doesn't or isn't meant to take on the responsibility of dealing with someone else's kids especially if there is chaos & tension between the parents of said kid(s).

All I can say is that I'm glad that at 30+ that I don't have any baby mamas to claim, no children that I have to be responsible for at all. I am not a kid person and I have never been in to dealing with kids it's tiresome & consuming. Also, when I sit back and think on it if I'm single and putting/getting my life in order why would I even invest my time in women w/kids when I could pursue women without them? It makes no sense to me.