Fair or Foul: Women Anonymously Discuss Regretting Having Their Children and Becoming Single Mothers

[Mister B.]

33 and no kids post.

 

[dallas' 4 eva]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

 

[desertrain10]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

because the woman have to carry the child for 9 months, of course she should be afforded the right to do as she pleases with her body ...

that said, a man can still choose not to have unprotected sex, right?

and while its true older women find themselves in similar situations, the majority of single mothers are/were indeed young/teen mothers and from low income backgrounds

I am not trying to suggest that most these women were taken advantage of by savvier older men. or that any one group is more at fault .... I'd even bet most of these young women were impregnated by men in their same age bracket who were themselves also naïve, in over their heads, and/or irresponsible

what I am disputing is that the majority or even half of single mothers were these seasoned adults consciously chasing thugs and dead beats

 

[caddo man]

'I agree as well…My daughter is seventeen now and I still have regrets….I am still trying to make peace with myself about having her…As a child I never wanted to have kids or a family..for that matter…I felt I wanted to explore the world and live my life on my terms…I joined the military and loved it…I allowed myself to get married and 3 years we separated and I found myself pregnant…We discussed it and I kept her but I ended up having to get out the Navy as both of us couldn’t deploy and didn’t really have anyone else to care for our daughter…Over the years I have delayed my dreams to be a Mom..I looked at my friends I was stationed with retiring now and honestly it hurts…I love my daughter but my feelings of not having kids has never waivered…I truly believe it’s not meant for everyone'

-Danyella Lanier, LA
https://www.facebook.com/danyella.white.1

I know I am wrong but damn if she put her whole name.

 

[emanuel08]

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[emanuel08]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

because the woman have to carry the child for 9 months, of course she should be afforded the right to do as she pleases with her body ...

that said, a man can still choose not to have unprotected sex, right?

and while its true older women find themselves in similar situations, the majority of single mothers are/were indeed young/teen mothers and from low income backgrounds

I am not trying to suggest that most these women were taken advantage of by savvier older men. or that any one group is more at fault .... I'd even bet most of these young women were impregnated by men in their same age bracket who were themselves also naïve, in over their heads, and/or irresponsible

what I am disputing is that the majority or even half of single mothers were these seasoned adults consciously chasing thugs and dead beats

 

[emanuel08]

no poll!?

i feel its fair..

alot of females feel this way but are shamed into puttin up the facade of bein happy..

i feel it does other females a disservice..

own up to ur mistake.. let others see and hopefully they can learn from it.. but parading around as if uv accomplished somethin gives others a false perception to a harsh reality..

kids can be a blessing as well as a curse depended on ur readiness for them..

this happens a lot wit women ... especially on facebook

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Not surprised. I've dealt wit two who pretty much admitted this wit me. Both wit that tone of regret.

One was pretty much blaming her daughter for not having a social life. How her life would've been so much different if she didn't pregnant. I just smh. Told her "According to you, you was out there wylin. Seems like your daughter slowed you down". Smh.

The other had the same tone of regret. Pretty much kept saying how she would've seen me more if she was a single mother, and didn't have to watch her son (the boy 14). She regret it the most it seems. Smh.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

because the woman have to carry the child for 9 months, of course she should be afforded the right to do as she pleases with her body ...

that said, a man can still choose not to have unprotected sex, right?

and while its true older women find themselves in similar situations, the majority of single mothers are/were indeed young/teen mothers and from low income backgrounds

I am not trying to suggest that most these women were taken advantage of by savvier older men. or that any one group is more at fault .... I'd even bet most of these young women were impregnated by men in their same age bracket who were themselves also naïve, in over their heads, and/or irresponsible

what I am disputing is that the majority or even half of single mothers were these seasoned adults consciously chasing thugs and dead beats

The bold works just as well as a means of shooting down the proposed right to abort children.

And where do people get this idea that you have the right to do whatever you want with your body regardless of what effect it has on others? That's not a right anyone has. If something you're doing with your body can harm others, there are restrictions. Like it or not, the decisions a woman makes with regards to pregnancy don't just affect her, so they shouldn't be just her choice. She should have the most say, but to just completely ignore the other parties involved is foul.

 

[desertrain10]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

because the woman have to carry the child for 9 months, of course she should be afforded the right to do as she pleases with her body ...

that said, a man can still choose not to have unprotected sex, right?

and while its true older women find themselves in similar situations, the majority of single mothers are/were indeed young/teen mothers and from low income backgrounds

I am not trying to suggest that most these women were taken advantage of by savvier older men. or that any one group is more at fault .... I'd even bet most of these young women were impregnated by men in their same age bracket who were themselves also naïve, in over their heads, and/or irresponsible

what I am disputing is that the majority or even half of single mothers were these seasoned adults consciously chasing thugs and dead beats

The bold works just as well as a means of shooting down the proposed right to abort children.

not really

And where do people get this idea that you have the right to do whatever you want with your body regardless of what effect it has on others? That's not a right anyone has. If something you're doing with your body can harm others, there are restrictions. Like it or not, the decisions a woman makes with regards to pregnancy don't just affect her, so they shouldn't be just her choice. She should have the most say, but to just completely ignore the other parties involved is foul.

I support not allowing women to have abortions past a certain a certain point in their pregnancy

but banning all abortions this isn't the same as outlawing drunk driving or outlawing the recreational use of a substance

while i agree taking into consideration the wishes of all parties involved in regards to whether or not a child is carried to term is ideal.... what if the father wants to keep the baby that the mother doesn't want? how are we to recognize his wishes? is it by basically forcing the woman to stay pregnant or she'd face criminal charges???

nope I can't get with that

we are taking about a biological process that happens inside of a woman's body

besides the health consequences , for many a pregnancy could potentially hurt their earning power and cost them their jobs

interjecting the law into the situation any further then it already is I'd argue is an act of discrimination

we would effectively be stripping away one group's right to their reproductive organs...and no, it isn't the same as requiring a man to pay cs

 

[The Lonious Monk]

not really

How does it not? A woman can choose not to have unprotected sex too. You talk about a woman exercising her agency. That's where it's done.

I support not allowing women to have abortions past a certain a certain point in their pregnancy

but banning all abortions this isn't the same as outlawing drunk driving or outlawing the recreational use of a substance

while i agree taking into consideration the wishes of all parties involved in regards to whether or not a child is carried to term is ideal.... what if the father wants to keep the baby that the mother doesn't want? how are we to recognize his wishes? is it by basically forcing the woman to stay pregnant or she'd face criminal charges???

nope I can't get with that

we are taking about a biological process that happens inside of a woman's body

besides the health consequences , for many a pregnancy could potentially hurt their earning power and cost them their jobs

interjecting the law into the situation any further then it already is I'd argue is an act of discrimination

we would effectively be stripping away one group's right to their reproductive organs...and no, it isn't the same as requiring a man to pay cs

I think things could be handled with some sort of mediation. What if the man is willing to compensate the woman for wages lost while pregnant? What if the man was believed to be sterile and this is his one and only chance at having a child? You don't think he should have a means of pleading his case.

And you feminists have to stop with this bullshit about regulating abortion being the same as stripping away reproductive organs it isn't. No one is saying women can't fuck til their hearts content. All people are saying is that if you do that, you do it knowing there are consequences, and you don't get a get out of jail free card. And yes, it is absolutely the same thing as requiring a man to pay cs. In both cases, the parents have to be responsible for their actions. You and women like you want to set up a scenario where women are able to pick and choose when they want to be accountable for their choices, but men's accountability is totally dependent on the whims of the women involved. This is just one more example of how feminists are full of shit when you say you want equality. You don't. You want the deck to be stacked in your favor.

I get that its a tough responsibility to be the incubators for the next generation, but society didn't place that responsibility on women, biology did. You guys want society to fix nature's "mistake," but not everyone agrees that it was a mistake. And that's the crux of a lot of feminist arguments. You guys like denying biological truths to support flawed world views.

 

[scorpio4lfe]

Where did you get this article, TS??? Stupidbitches.com ....Is being a single mother difficult at times?? YES but I've never regretted for one moment having my child. Being a single parent makes you stronger. It's the weak bitches that cry about what it prevents them from accomplishing what they want in life. Their child is not the problem. It's them.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

Where did you get this article, TS??? Stupidbitches.com ....Is being a single mother difficult at times?? YES but I've never regretted for one moment having my child. Being a single parent makes you stronger. It's the weak bitches that cry about what it prevents them from accomplishing what they want in life. Their child is not the problem. It's them.

I don't think it's about strength or weakness. It's not like the chicks were saying they don't handle their responsibility. They were just saying they regret what they are missing. Maybe you adjusted better to motherhood than they did. That's cool. It doesn't mean you're stronger. And all this talk about what the mother's feel is beside the point anyway. How the child feels is what's important. I get so tired of hearing these chicks talk about how empowered they are because they are raising a child solo as if their empowerment is what matters.

 

[deadeye]

not really

How does it not? A woman can choose not to have unprotected sex too. You talk about a woman exercising her agency. That's where it's done.

I support not allowing women to have abortions past a certain a certain point in their pregnancy

but banning all abortions this isn't the same as outlawing drunk driving or outlawing the recreational use of a substance

while i agree taking into consideration the wishes of all parties involved in regards to whether or not a child is carried to term is ideal.... what if the father wants to keep the baby that the mother doesn't want? how are we to recognize his wishes? is it by basically forcing the woman to stay pregnant or she'd face criminal charges???

nope I can't get with that

we are taking about a biological process that happens inside of a woman's body

besides the health consequences , for many a pregnancy could potentially hurt their earning power and cost them their jobs

interjecting the law into the situation any further then it already is I'd argue is an act of discrimination

we would effectively be stripping away one group's right to their reproductive organs...and no, it isn't the same as requiring a man to pay cs

You and women like you want to set up a scenario where women are able to pick and choose when they want to be accountable for their choices, but men's accountability is totally dependent on the whims of the women involved. This is just one more example of how feminists are full of shit when you say you want equality. You don't. You want the deck to be stacked in your favor.

Couldn't have said it any better.

 

[scorpio4lfe]

Where did you get this article, TS??? Stupidbitches.com ....Is being a single mother difficult at times?? YES but I've never regretted for one moment having my child. Being a single parent makes you stronger. It's the weak bitches that cry about what it prevents them from accomplishing what they want in life. Their child is not the problem. It's them.

I don't think it's about strength or weakness. It's not like the chicks were saying they don't handle their responsibility. They were just saying they regret what they are missing. Maybe you adjusted better to motherhood than they did. That's cool. It doesn't mean you're stronger. And all this talk about what the mother's feel is beside the point anyway. How the child feels is what's important. I get so tired of hearing these chicks talk about how empowered they are because they are raising a child solo as if their empowerment is what matters.

The weakness is in them stating having a child prevented them from something or "missing" something as you stated. Whether it's the chick that thinks she will never get married or its the chick that stated it prevents her from traveling or the chick that stated it prevented her from an education. All of these things can be done with a child. And I disagree with the notion that it doesn't make you stronger...it does. All of the responsibility of you and another human being is solely on you so unless you have been a single mother or have faced the challenges of being a single mother; you truly have no idea.

 

[babelipsss]

Makes you stronger than what? A married mother? Nonsense.

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

Where did you get this article, TS??? Stupidbitches.com ....Is being a single mother difficult at times?? YES but I've never regretted for one moment having my child. Being a single parent makes you stronger. It's the weak bitches that cry about what it prevents them from accomplishing what they want in life. Their child is not the problem. It's them.

I don't think it's about strength or weakness. It's not like the chicks were saying they don't handle their responsibility. They were just saying they regret what they are missing. Maybe you adjusted better to motherhood than they did. That's cool. It doesn't mean you're stronger. And all this talk about what the mother's feel is beside the point anyway. How the child feels is what's important. I get so tired of hearing these chicks talk about how empowered they are because they are raising a child solo as if their empowerment is what matters.

That's because they are selfish.

Personal accountability. Your actions are the only thing you have full control over in this world. It stopped being about "you" once you decided to take steps to get bring a child into this world, despite the circumstances.

But people are so caught up in themselves....

 

[MrMinimalist]

We all know women are mostly mad as themselves for fucking up when they should've known better, that's all.

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

@desertrain10 It's not only young chicks getting knocked up. Chicks older than 25 are going through this too.

Women choose lame ass men (mostly), men choose lame ass women. Both got to do better. Women mostly decides the sex so they're mostly at fault with their shitty choices.

That's always been my biggest point, at the end of the day unless the man is just taking the pussy women have the final say so in who gets to hit and who doesn't, she also chooses whether to keep the baby or not. The man aint got no say so what so ever in this situation which is why women have to eat the biggest portion of that L. Sorry for actually having to be held accountable for your actions, that's equality for ya ass.

because the woman have to carry the child for 9 months, of course she should be afforded the right to do as she pleases with her body ...

that said, a man can still choose not to have unprotected sex, right?

and while its true older women find themselves in similar situations, the majority of single mothers are/were indeed young/teen mothers and from low income backgrounds

I am not trying to suggest that most these women were taken advantage of by savvier older men. or that any one group is more at fault .... I'd even bet most of these young women were impregnated by men in their same age bracket who were themselves also naïve, in over their heads, and/or irresponsible

what I am disputing is that the majority or even half of single mothers were these seasoned adults consciously chasing thugs and dead beats

The bold works just as well as a means of shooting down the proposed right to abort children.

not really

And where do people get this idea that you have the right to do whatever you want with your body regardless of what effect it has on others? That's not a right anyone has. If something you're doing with your body can harm others, there are restrictions. Like it or not, the decisions a woman makes with regards to pregnancy don't just affect her, so they shouldn't be just her choice. She should have the most say, but to just completely ignore the other parties involved is foul.

I support not allowing women to have abortions past a certain a certain point in their pregnancy

but banning all abortions this isn't the same as outlawing drunk driving or outlawing the recreational use of a substance

while i agree taking into consideration the wishes of all parties involved in regards to whether or not a child is carried to term is ideal.... what if the father wants to keep the baby that the mother doesn't want? how are we to recognize his wishes? is it by basically forcing the woman to stay pregnant or she'd face criminal charges???

nope I can't get with that

we are taking about a biological process that happens inside of a woman's body

besides the health consequences , for many a pregnancy could potentially hurt their earning power and cost them their jobs

interjecting the law into the situation any further then it already is I'd argue is an act of discrimination

we would effectively be stripping away one group's right to their reproductive organs...and no, it isn't the same as requiring a man to pay cs

Never mind. @"The Lonious Monk" took the words outta my mouth

 

[The Lonious Monk]

Where did you get this article, TS??? Stupidbitches.com ....Is being a single mother difficult at times?? YES but I've never regretted for one moment having my child. Being a single parent makes you stronger. It's the weak bitches that cry about what it prevents them from accomplishing what they want in life. Their child is not the problem. It's them.

I don't think it's about strength or weakness. It's not like the chicks were saying they don't handle their responsibility. They were just saying they regret what they are missing. Maybe you adjusted better to motherhood than they did. That's cool. It doesn't mean you're stronger. And all this talk about what the mother's feel is beside the point anyway. How the child feels is what's important. I get so tired of hearing these chicks talk about how empowered they are because they are raising a child solo as if their empowerment is what matters.

The weakness is in them stating having a child prevented them from something or "missing" something as you stated. Whether it's the chick that thinks she will never get married or its the chick that stated it prevents her from traveling or the chick that stated it prevented her from an education. All of these things can be done with a child. And I disagree with the notion that it doesn't make you stronger...it does. All of the responsibility of you and another human being is solely on you so unless you have been a single mother or have faced the challenges of being a single mother; you truly have no idea.

It's not weakness to acknowledge what you view as truth. Yeah, it's possible to do a lot of stuff as a single parent, but it's also factual that you can't do any of that as easily as you would be able to without that child. And the fact of the matter is if you're a good parent single or otherwise, you will have to sacrifice for your child. You don't know the circumstances of those women. One said having the child prevented her from getting her education. Yeah, it's possible to be a single parent and do that, but it's also possible that her set of circumstances prevented her for doing so. I don't really understand the criticism for these women being honest about what they have gone through and had to give up. Again, I'm glad that they are saying these things because it puts things in perspective.

And ya'll women really need to stop with the "if you're not me, you can't comment" rhetoric. That's just a weak way of trying to shut down conversation. I'm not a crackhead, but I have a good idea what crack addiction does to people. I'm raising my girls with my wife, and the experience of that is all that I need to know that I wouldn't want to do it solo. That's not just because it would be too much of a burden on me, but mostly because I know that now matter how strong I became in the process, I couldn't offer them everything they needed. I have far more respect for women that can acknowledge the difficulties associated with single motherhood than the ones that try to use it to pump themselves up.