Do you allow your woman to maintain contact with men she's slept with?

[dallas' 4 eva]

If she is my girl then hell NO.........BUT in the same breath women can't do what men can do. That's for you square ass niggas

when it comes to this your ass can't either. You know it too.

Cain is right, women can't do what men can do and we need to start teaching this to the young ones.

Anyway.....

How you 'allow' an adult to do some shit? I wish my girl would come telling me who she'll 'allow' me to be in contact with.

Ok...the terminology is off, but you get the point. In a partnership there should be boundaries. Anyone who your s/o feels you keeping in contact with is disrespectful should be taken into consideration.

Me and my girl dated for a year before we got into a relationship. I made it very clear that I'm friends with an ex or two and had no plans of stopping communication. She got in a relationship knowing that.

Ok.....and if she wasn't ok with you keeping your past lingering you'd be out of a girlfriend. Whatever works for you.

I wouldn't be 'out' a GF. Never would have made her my GF. But essentially, yes.

So why are you putting your past ahead of your future?

I'm not. If a woman feels it's ok to try to tell me who to be friends with, that's not a person I want a future with. Or if a woman wants to know the situation and then try to flip the script randomly after we've been on the same page about it, that's also not a person I want a future with.

And the fact that I had a romantic relationship doesn't make the current friendship the 'past', it makes the romantic part the past.

So after y'all broke up you never got it in again right? And you and your ex are on the same page right? She doesn't want you and you don't want her right?

Right. Right. Right.

It;s really not as complicated as y'all are making it out to be.

The only possible way I can think of for this to work is that the sex was wack. Is that it? Hotdog-hallway thing? No diss I just can't relate. I see if there are children involved. But if I'm in love with someone I wouldn't be keeping old dick on the back burner.

Like I said I know how men are. I've been hit with the "need advice" bullshit and it's NEVER just that.

see ur problem is u expect these niggas to think like u bitches...

venus and mars..

estrogen and testosterone..

some shit u jus aint gonna get..

No I expect men to think like men. And yall very rarely don't have pussy on the brain.

You can't put that on all "men" you can only speak on the type of men you attract and choose then compare their thought process

But grouping all men together is quite foolish

all she' confirming for me is that she has yet to meet a real nigga in her life..

all the men she know.. family included.. her man included.. aint shit! hahaha

Man these females on here wouldn't know what to do if they met a real nigga. They too used to cats who let em do whatever because they think they can do what a man can do.

Fuck with a REAL MAN, and all these females attitudes will change about thinking they can do what I can do believe that.

What's a real man? Or is that a real nigga? Y'all get your lingo straight. Secondly I would never want to be with someone who "lets me do whatever I want to do" you don't know me I don't fuck with Beta males.

Then you would want to fuck with someone like me. I'm good to my woman, very good, but at the same time I have VERY high expectations of her because any shit I talk I back up.

Yeah...maybe...but you can't have exes as friends so we're at a stalemate.

Lol if you can't trust me to control myself like I would trust you then we would never work out anyway. Why be with someone you can't trust? I would hope a woman seeing my actions would learn I am 110% about all the shit I be talking about, but oh well a stalemate it is.

But you'd be mad at me for following yall and maybe trying to run her over... Setting me up for craziness. That's not fair to me.

No I would be upset because you said you only trust a man to be a man. Me and her don't go out and kick it like that, we are cool yes I check up on her and her kids because I was in her life for too long not to I do not do any extra shit like pay her bills or fuck her.

You claimed earlier you only trust a man to be a man, I don't think relationships are for you then if you have such... humble views about men. Females love to preach not all women are the same, not all men are the same and if you can't understand that then you should just have fun niggas forever and be done with it.

If you go into any situation expecting the worst you will get the worst because more than likely that is what you brought on? There is always room for compromise, like I said if we got married I would be willing to keep it down to a simple phone call here amd there and that is it, although I would miss her gumbo and jambalaya....

I have very high expectations on the way I'm treated but as far as in expecting a man to be a man-yeah I do. And I don't believe in marriage so maybe *shrugs* but I never said all men cheat. I'm actually very trusting until proven otherwise. I'm talking about being tempted. Why would you purposely put a complication in a relationship off rip? Truthfully if there's something you're hanging on to so tightly maybe that's something you should try and work out.

And she cooks for you?????

Aww hell no this ain't innocent.

LOL Baby baby baby calm down she doesn't cook for me on demand. If she is cooking a dish she knew I always liked she calls me and asks if I would like some. If you trust me then why trip, I can understand not bringing on temptation, but trust me we have both moved on from that point completely, IT DOES HAPPEN. lol That is why we don't tell the new people we date that we used to date, we know how awkward it would get.

Why don't you believe in marriage? We aren't hanging on tightly trust me we are the closest of friends, but we don't see each other often at all(except when I got to pick up a plate of food basically. lol).

So do you introduce each other to your new spouses?

Yes I would, because nothing would happen between us. I am not controlled by my dick, I control my dick; believe me if I didn't, shit living in DALLAS, my ass would of been had about 5 kids by now. I need you to trust more @Westie you too fine to be insecure, crazy, and jealous it's not a good look at all.

 

[Westie]

If she is my girl then hell NO.........BUT in the same breath women can't do what men can do. That's for you square ass niggas

when it comes to this your ass can't either. You know it too.

Cain is right, women can't do what men can do and we need to start teaching this to the young ones.

Anyway.....

How you 'allow' an adult to do some shit? I wish my girl would come telling me who she'll 'allow' me to be in contact with.

Ok...the terminology is off, but you get the point. In a partnership there should be boundaries. Anyone who your s/o feels you keeping in contact with is disrespectful should be taken into consideration.

Me and my girl dated for a year before we got into a relationship. I made it very clear that I'm friends with an ex or two and had no plans of stopping communication. She got in a relationship knowing that.

Ok.....and if she wasn't ok with you keeping your past lingering you'd be out of a girlfriend. Whatever works for you.

I wouldn't be 'out' a GF. Never would have made her my GF. But essentially, yes.

So why are you putting your past ahead of your future?

I'm not. If a woman feels it's ok to try to tell me who to be friends with, that's not a person I want a future with. Or if a woman wants to know the situation and then try to flip the script randomly after we've been on the same page about it, that's also not a person I want a future with.

And the fact that I had a romantic relationship doesn't make the current friendship the 'past', it makes the romantic part the past.

So after y'all broke up you never got it in again right? And you and your ex are on the same page right? She doesn't want you and you don't want her right?

Right. Right. Right.

It;s really not as complicated as y'all are making it out to be.

The only possible way I can think of for this to work is that the sex was wack. Is that it? Hotdog-hallway thing? No diss I just can't relate. I see if there are children involved. But if I'm in love with someone I wouldn't be keeping old dick on the back burner.

Like I said I know how men are. I've been hit with the "need advice" bullshit and it's NEVER just that.

see ur problem is u expect these niggas to think like u bitches...

venus and mars..

estrogen and testosterone..

some shit u jus aint gonna get..

No I expect men to think like men. And yall very rarely don't have pussy on the brain.

You can't put that on all "men" you can only speak on the type of men you attract and choose then compare their thought process

But grouping all men together is quite foolish

all she' confirming for me is that she has yet to meet a real nigga in her life..

all the men she know.. family included.. her man included.. aint shit! hahaha

Man these females on here wouldn't know what to do if they met a real nigga. They too used to cats who let em do whatever because they think they can do what a man can do.

Fuck with a REAL MAN, and all these females attitudes will change about thinking they can do what I can do believe that.

What's a real man? Or is that a real nigga? Y'all get your lingo straight. Secondly I would never want to be with someone who "lets me do whatever I want to do" you don't know me I don't fuck with Beta males.

Then you would want to fuck with someone like me. I'm good to my woman, very good, but at the same time I have VERY high expectations of her because any shit I talk I back up.

Yeah...maybe...but you can't have exes as friends so we're at a stalemate.

Lol if you can't trust me to control myself like I would trust you then we would never work out anyway. Why be with someone you can't trust? I would hope a woman seeing my actions would learn I am 110% about all the shit I be talking about, but oh well a stalemate it is.

But you'd be mad at me for following yall and maybe trying to run her over... Setting me up for craziness. That's not fair to me.

No I would be upset because you said you only trust a man to be a man. Me and her don't go out and kick it like that, we are cool yes I check up on her and her kids because I was in her life for too long not to I do not do any extra shit like pay her bills or fuck her.

You claimed earlier you only trust a man to be a man, I don't think relationships are for you then if you have such... humble views about men. Females love to preach not all women are the same, not all men are the same and if you can't understand that then you should just have fun niggas forever and be done with it.

If you go into any situation expecting the worst you will get the worst because more than likely that is what you brought on? There is always room for compromise, like I said if we got married I would be willing to keep it down to a simple phone call here amd there and that is it, although I would miss her gumbo and jambalaya....

I have very high expectations on the way I'm treated but as far as in expecting a man to be a man-yeah I do. And I don't believe in marriage so maybe *shrugs* but I never said all men cheat. I'm actually very trusting until proven otherwise. I'm talking about being tempted. Why would you purposely put a complication in a relationship off rip? Truthfully if there's something you're hanging on to so tightly maybe that's something you should try and work out.

And she cooks for you?????

Aww hell no this ain't innocent.

LOL Baby baby baby calm down she doesn't cook for me on demand. If she is cooking a dish she knew I always liked she calls me and asks if I would like some. If you trust me then why trip, I can understand not bringing on temptation, but trust me we have both moved on from that point completely, IT DOES HAPPEN. lol That is why we don't tell the new people we date that we used to date, we know how awkward it would get.

Why don't you believe in marriage? We aren't hanging on tightly trust me we are the closest of friends, but we don't see each other often at all(except when I got to pick up a plate of food basically. lol).

So do you introduce each other to your new spouses?

Yes I would, because nothing would happen between us. I am not controlled by my dick, I control my dick; believe me if I didn't, shit living in DALLAS, my ass would of been had about 5 kids by now. I need you to trust more @Westie you too fine to be insecure, crazy, and jealous it's not a good look at all.

Insecure is a stretch...but jealous and crazy I'll take. Ah well....

 

[DarcSkies]

There's no such thing as "allow" with anybody with free will. If she has any kind of respect for you she'll check her own behavior so you dont have to. Any female worth two shits knows not to do certain things in a relationship.

She's free to do as she pleases. And Im free to find out about it and kick her in her fuckin cervix.

has a dude who can't control his situation called dudes who can "insecure" yet?

Generally females pull this shit out of their bag of "Tricks 4 Weak Niggas."

When a bitch tells her man he's "being insecure" that's a red flag. One of the oldest wackest mind games in the book. Only works on weak niggas/females though.

 

[dallas' 4 eva]

If she is my girl then hell NO.........BUT in the same breath women can't do what men can do. That's for you square ass niggas

when it comes to this your ass can't either. You know it too.

Cain is right, women can't do what men can do and we need to start teaching this to the young ones.

Anyway.....

How you 'allow' an adult to do some shit? I wish my girl would come telling me who she'll 'allow' me to be in contact with.

Ok...the terminology is off, but you get the point. In a partnership there should be boundaries. Anyone who your s/o feels you keeping in contact with is disrespectful should be taken into consideration.

Me and my girl dated for a year before we got into a relationship. I made it very clear that I'm friends with an ex or two and had no plans of stopping communication. She got in a relationship knowing that.

Ok.....and if she wasn't ok with you keeping your past lingering you'd be out of a girlfriend. Whatever works for you.

I wouldn't be 'out' a GF. Never would have made her my GF. But essentially, yes.

So why are you putting your past ahead of your future?

I'm not. If a woman feels it's ok to try to tell me who to be friends with, that's not a person I want a future with. Or if a woman wants to know the situation and then try to flip the script randomly after we've been on the same page about it, that's also not a person I want a future with.

And the fact that I had a romantic relationship doesn't make the current friendship the 'past', it makes the romantic part the past.

So after y'all broke up you never got it in again right? And you and your ex are on the same page right? She doesn't want you and you don't want her right?

Right. Right. Right.

It;s really not as complicated as y'all are making it out to be.

The only possible way I can think of for this to work is that the sex was wack. Is that it? Hotdog-hallway thing? No diss I just can't relate. I see if there are children involved. But if I'm in love with someone I wouldn't be keeping old dick on the back burner.

Like I said I know how men are. I've been hit with the "need advice" bullshit and it's NEVER just that.

see ur problem is u expect these niggas to think like u bitches...

venus and mars..

estrogen and testosterone..

some shit u jus aint gonna get..

No I expect men to think like men. And yall very rarely don't have pussy on the brain.

You can't put that on all "men" you can only speak on the type of men you attract and choose then compare their thought process

But grouping all men together is quite foolish

all she' confirming for me is that she has yet to meet a real nigga in her life..

all the men she know.. family included.. her man included.. aint shit! hahaha

Man these females on here wouldn't know what to do if they met a real nigga. They too used to cats who let em do whatever because they think they can do what a man can do.

Fuck with a REAL MAN, and all these females attitudes will change about thinking they can do what I can do believe that.

What's a real man? Or is that a real nigga? Y'all get your lingo straight. Secondly I would never want to be with someone who "lets me do whatever I want to do" you don't know me I don't fuck with Beta males.

Then you would want to fuck with someone like me. I'm good to my woman, very good, but at the same time I have VERY high expectations of her because any shit I talk I back up.

Yeah...maybe...but you can't have exes as friends so we're at a stalemate.

Lol if you can't trust me to control myself like I would trust you then we would never work out anyway. Why be with someone you can't trust? I would hope a woman seeing my actions would learn I am 110% about all the shit I be talking about, but oh well a stalemate it is.

But you'd be mad at me for following yall and maybe trying to run her over... Setting me up for craziness. That's not fair to me.

No I would be upset because you said you only trust a man to be a man. Me and her don't go out and kick it like that, we are cool yes I check up on her and her kids because I was in her life for too long not to I do not do any extra shit like pay her bills or fuck her.

You claimed earlier you only trust a man to be a man, I don't think relationships are for you then if you have such... humble views about men. Females love to preach not all women are the same, not all men are the same and if you can't understand that then you should just have fun niggas forever and be done with it.

If you go into any situation expecting the worst you will get the worst because more than likely that is what you brought on? There is always room for compromise, like I said if we got married I would be willing to keep it down to a simple phone call here amd there and that is it, although I would miss her gumbo and jambalaya....

I have very high expectations on the way I'm treated but as far as in expecting a man to be a man-yeah I do. And I don't believe in marriage so maybe *shrugs* but I never said all men cheat. I'm actually very trusting until proven otherwise. I'm talking about being tempted. Why would you purposely put a complication in a relationship off rip? Truthfully if there's something you're hanging on to so tightly maybe that's something you should try and work out.

And she cooks for you?????

Aww hell no this ain't innocent.

LOL Baby baby baby calm down she doesn't cook for me on demand. If she is cooking a dish she knew I always liked she calls me and asks if I would like some. If you trust me then why trip, I can understand not bringing on temptation, but trust me we have both moved on from that point completely, IT DOES HAPPEN. lol That is why we don't tell the new people we date that we used to date, we know how awkward it would get.

Why don't you believe in marriage? We aren't hanging on tightly trust me we are the closest of friends, but we don't see each other often at all(except when I got to pick up a plate of food basically. lol).

So do you introduce each other to your new spouses?

Yes I would, because nothing would happen between us. I am not controlled by my dick, I control my dick; believe me if I didn't, shit living in DALLAS, my ass would of been had about 5 kids by now. I need you to trust more @Westie you too fine to be insecure, crazy, and jealous it's not a good look at all.

Insecure is a stretch...but jealous and crazy I'll take. Ah well....

If you were secure you wouldn't be jealous(anyone can be crazy). If you can't trust somebody you are a fool to get with them in the first place. All that extra is unnecessary and should never even come up. What's the problem miss lady talk to me why you so jealous? Randall knows he'll help you through it.

 

[damobb2deep]

.. They act as if Double standards were created by men in a secret men only town hall meeting ..

Double standards were, have been, and still are created by men in male-centric societies.

Sure some of them have backfired, but the root of why double standards exist is hurt feelings.

Men didn't want to have to deal with certain realities, yet wanted to have their cake and eat it too, so they crafted social perceptions / consequences that helped encourage a certain results..

It was men who came up with the rule "NEVER put your hands on a woman" and it was men who came up with the rule "men should be chivalrous to women" that benefits women... if men wanted to "have our cake and eat it too" why give y'all the upper hand in a situation that if we fuck up we can lose money or go to jail?

 

[Westie]

Boy bye

 

[God_Yunn]

If she is my girl then hell NO.........BUT in the same breath women can't do what men can do. That's for you square ass niggas

when it comes to this your ass can't either. You know it too.

Cain is right, women can't do what men can do and we need to start teaching this to the young ones.

Anyway.....

How you 'allow' an adult to do some shit? I wish my girl would come telling me who she'll 'allow' me to be in contact with.

Ok...the terminology is off, but you get the point. In a partnership there should be boundaries. Anyone who your s/o feels you keeping in contact with is disrespectful should be taken into consideration.

Me and my girl dated for a year before we got into a relationship. I made it very clear that I'm friends with an ex or two and had no plans of stopping communication. She got in a relationship knowing that.

Ok.....and if she wasn't ok with you keeping your past lingering you'd be out of a girlfriend. Whatever works for you.

I wouldn't be 'out' a GF. Never would have made her my GF. But essentially, yes.

So why are you putting your past ahead of your future?

I'm not. If a woman feels it's ok to try to tell me who to be friends with, that's not a person I want a future with. Or if a woman wants to know the situation and then try to flip the script randomly after we've been on the same page about it, that's also not a person I want a future with.

And the fact that I had a romantic relationship doesn't make the current friendship the 'past', it makes the romantic part the past.

So after y'all broke up you never got it in again right? And you and your ex are on the same page right? She doesn't want you and you don't want her right?

Right. Right. Right.

It;s really not as complicated as y'all are making it out to be.

The only possible way I can think of for this to work is that the sex was wack. Is that it? Hotdog-hallway thing? No diss I just can't relate. I see if there are children involved. But if I'm in love with someone I wouldn't be keeping old dick on the back burner.

Like I said I know how men are. I've been hit with the "need advice" bullshit and it's NEVER just that.

see ur problem is u expect these niggas to think like u bitches...

venus and mars..

estrogen and testosterone..

some shit u jus aint gonna get..

No I expect men to think like men. And yall very rarely don't have pussy on the brain.

You can't put that on all "men" you can only speak on the type of men you attract and choose then compare their thought process

But grouping all men together is quite foolish

It's called risk management

Personally as long as it's respectful i wouldn't mind if my man kept in touch with an ex ... If it came to light their relationship was purely sexual that would be a red flag though

Not at tall

a red flag huh

If pussy was the only driving force and thats what you expect he expects then what does that say about you as a woman?

are you not more than your pussy? Is that all you have to offer is pussy?

On a "rare" occasion those men yall speak of don't have pussy on the brain where does the friendship go?

Reality is the flesh is weak

Realizing this I try not to place myself into situations that could possibly lead me to giving in to temptation like keeping in close contact with someone I obviously found sexually attractive at one point in time

I expect the same from my s/o

It's crazy how many of the you feel as though men and women can't be friends, but at the same time expect your s/o to be cool with you associating with an ex, someone of the opposite sex

Its not crazy. You just don't understand cause you're a woman.

Or

You dont want to see what's right in your face to make you understand and that's also because....you're a woman

No I can recognize when I being confronted with bullshit

so don't try to feed me bullshit, than expect for me not to either question ur bullshit or move on to the next lol

Hypothetically

So as a woman with a man.

Why would you want male friends?

How do you make that work?

Huh? lol

I don't fuck with any of my exes

I do associate, I'm friendly with men at my job, school, etc because we see each other a lot and shockingly we share things in common

I'm friendly with guys I grew up with

We speak when we see each other and we may joke but that's as far as it goes... I don't talk to them for long periods of time over the phone, I don't go places alone with them or without my man, while in a relationship I don't even exchange phone numbers with other men unless it's work related, etc

So I guess I wouldn't say we were necessarily friends but more so associates

Same goes with my man. I have no prob with him speaking with his ex specifically if they grew up together and/or shared the same circle of friends...as long as things are respectful and no lines are crossed ...

however I can understand why some people want their s/o to end all contact with their ex lovers... Feel it could be alil extreme in some instances but obviously I'm not to keen it on it myself... It's about risk management, not necessarily because there's a lack of trust

Diff strokes, for diff folks I guess

So hypothetically you don't feel the need for male friends...you keep them at a distance...why is that?

For the same reasons I wouldn't want my man staying close with his ex or doing certain things with female associates



Are you comfortable with your girl having makes friends, or being close with her one of her exes?

If so I'm sure you can relate

Men, women we all have our weak moments, naive not to knowledge that fact

None of that matters at this point we eliminated that road.

What's the reasons you don't have close male friends when you're in a relationship or married?

You speaking for most women here in this country. So tread carefully

What?

When did we eliminate that road?

And stop acting slow lol

I cut off ex lovers/keep male friends, associates at a distance when I'm in a relationship because I respect the sanctity of my relationship, and I honestly don't want to put myself in a situation that may result in something inappropriate occurring or me doing something I will later regret

Get it?

You want the same from ur grl, you should be willing to show her the same respect, consideration for ur relationship

This double standard is self serving and has no basis in nature

Then he wasn't a friend,he was just an ex.

And I'm not slow I just wanted you to explain.

So you feel men can't be friends with a woman platonically?

 

[BigBallsNoWorries]

when it comes to being in a relationship

your game should be tight enough where she won't want to pursue other dudes from the past

easier said than done of course

a wise person told me

It's not about getting a girl, thats the easy part

It's about keeping the girl, that is the hard part

 

[MsSouthern]

The only ex I have contact with is my son's dad

I have no reason to speak to the others ....

 

[BigBallsNoWorries]

The only ex I have contact with is my son's dad

I have no reason to speak to the others ....

Not even that one nigga that u let smash on them lonely nights?

Not even a lunch nigga?

Surprising

 

[Trollio]

all my women luv wishbone

 

[CapitalB]

when it comes to being in a relationship

your game should be tight enough where she won't want to pursue other dudes from the past

easier said than done of course

a wise person told me

It's not about getting a girl, thats the easy part

It's about keeping the girl, that is the hard part

shiiiiiiiid..

that bitch better keep me! lol

 

[yoo]

Threads like these always have the brothas lying they asses off when they could easily just keep it g and say they want they cake and to eat it as well but the woman better not do it.

Life is full of double standards that let society run smoothly. Women have plenty that work in their favor.

 

[R.D.]

What the fuck is the appeal being "friends" with an ex

If I still wanted to be around that butch, I'd be with her

 

[Shizlansky]

My women was a virgin when we met.

Shrugs.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Lol @ "allow".

 

[trendsetta1030]

He can still fuck

 

[BEAM]

What the fuck is the appeal being "friends" with an ex

If I still wanted to be around that butch, I'd be with her

My sentiments exactly.

To me, former lovers can't just regress into being just friends. Too much intimacy / history..

To me, friendships with ex's have a supplementary nature; Which is potentially threatening to the current relationship..

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Unless they have a kid together, no contact is necessary. That's just total disrespect to the one you're currently with, and can lead to nothing but trouble.

 

[contemplate]

lol @ all of these absolute posts that apply to everyone

just because some of yall can't just be friends with an ex doesn't mean that applies to everybody