Christmas..... At time for............ racism

[bignorm73]

Jesus..this story is just all kinds of fucked up, but two thoughts stood out:

1) Me and my man and children would have been GONE after that little exchange. I don't care if there were innocent parties there or not...

2) I would not be speaking to my sister if she allowed that shit to go down without checking her man. To me, if you're willing to commit your life to someone like that then you're guilty by association.

I don't know what to tell you Norm. I can't say certain members of my family don't have some racist tendencies, but I've never heard a peep about it personally and definitely not in front of my child or man. I wish they would..it would be over.

I really hope the kids didn't pick up on any of that and that ya'll still had a nice Christmas.

All this shit happened BEFORE we arrived. When we got there, they had already left 20 minutes prior.

Oh, if i was there, there would have either been a fight, or they wouldntve said shit.

 

[bignorm73]

Jesus..this story is just all kinds of fucked up, but two thoughts stood out:

1) Me and my man and children would have been GONE after that little exchange. I don't care if there were innocent parties there or not...

2) I would not be speaking to my sister if she allowed that shit to go down without checking her man. To me, if you're willing to commit your life to someone like that then you're guilty by association.

I don't know what to tell you Norm. I can't say certain members of my family don't have some racist tendencies, but I've never heard a peep about it personally and definitely not in front of my child or man. I wish they would..it would be over.

I really hope the kids didn't pick up on any of that and that ya'll still had a nice Christmas.

Its not just guilty by association, its cosigning. See, she allowing her daughter to be raised like that.

The whole "am i allowed to play with them" told it all. Thats why my wife is just now understanding.

When the subtle slick shit happened in the past, everyone who let that shit fly was in a way saying they

was okay with it. Then they act shocked when it escalates.

I offered to deal with the shit out in the open PLENTY of times, but she always said she would, and never did.

Did not want to be the angry dude at family functions. There main complaint about me always was that i never

came by. I mentioned to them after i found out about this, that this is why i dont come thru smh.

 

[7figz]

@BigNorm -

So why do y'all still go over the family's house if you know they're racist like that ?

It's one thing to stay with your wife knowing her family is like that but to go to gatherings with'em ?

 

[twinzmom]

I have never experienced that. Not that I don't believe that some where down the line someone had something to say.

Just don't let that ignorance come between you and your wife. If you two dont have an issue with each other dont create one.

 

[bignorm73]

@BigNorm -

So why do y'all still go over the family's house if you know they're racist like that ?

It's one thing to stay with your wife knowing her family is like that but to go to gatherings with'em ?

Only on christmas, easter and thanksgivings.

The past 2 years tho, the sisters family always was not there when we were.

Everyone says it was coincidence. I know better.

I think her mother tried to set it up, not knowing (or knowing) it would blow up.

 

[J-GUTTA]

Nah we dont

Long story short they (her family) said some things about my background and my parents about 8 years ago so I wrote them off just with just that. It only takes 1 time with me for the most part. I couldn't tell you what they look like at this point. Shit for all I know I've shaken their hands in clubs and aint even know.

 

[Africa United]

I feel for you OP. I hope I never end in your situation. Now your kids are forever mentally scarred by a granny-mushing, nigga-hating simpleton..

 

[illestni99ainne]

first time i met my wifes folks i remember we were @ runza eating and somehow convo got on how i like brownies so my wifes little cousin who was w/us @ the time turned to my mother in law and was like is that why his skin is so brown b/c he likes brownies? im sitting there like tha fuck list lil bastard just say?! and my moms in law was like oh out of the mouth of babes and everybody was joking about it. i look back now and laugh b/c lil kid just didnt know but i was mad as hell then.

 

[2nd chances]

yo that nigga internet thug says by law he's part black...there's a law out there that forces you to choose sides? lol..

that nigga is just the greatest to ever do this trolling thing meng...

anyway...come on big norm..how long did u know your wife before u married her?..i wouldnt be surprised if yall get to fighting and she has the same philosophy bruh....

 

[arbitration]

Its not just guilty by association, its cosigning. See, she allowing her daughter to be raised like that.

The whole "am i allowed to play with them" told it all. Thats why my wife is just now understanding.

When the subtle slick shit happened in the past, everyone who let that shit fly was in a way saying they

was okay with it. Then they act shocked when it escalates.

I offered to deal with the shit out in the open PLENTY of times, but she always said she would, and never did.

Did not want to be the angry dude at family functions. There main complaint about me always was that i never

came by. I mentioned to them after i found out about this, that this is why i dont come thru smh.

So what is she saying now that this is all out in the open for her to see? Still denying it?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Lol @ mushing grandma though. That racist dude is trill as fuck

 

[Bombella]

Who even fucking cares anymore...

 

[damobb2deep]

Pico doesn't have a weave

she's blessed with the mixedness

I lol'd at this

 

[7ElevenBeats]

Aight.

....

Any of yall dealing with BS like this?

Reminded me more of my thanksgiving when my sis brought home a hispanic dude

 

[Mdizzle9000]

i heard my dad say racist shit b4 but he'll never see my son anyway

 

[Darius]

Lol. I was fucking. She got pregnant.

I stepped up and handled mine.

that aint exactly 'handling' yours. you can fulfill your fatherly obligations without marraige. no hate, but you probably fucked your kids up worse by marrying this girl

 

[kataklysm]

You should've blown her spot up right there.

Usually I'm against snitching, but it would serve his wife right for going along with his racist bullshit...and the kids would be better off not having a bigot for a father.

Dude would be out of the picture because he wouldn't be able to get past that.

Not necessarily, but it definitely would have become ammunition during future fights.

 

[Darius]

but yeah, i can kinda relate to the struggle that you speak of. my cousin used to work as a manager for the UNC basketball team. after a few months on the roster, she started dating a player on the team. My uncle (her father) hated it. said he would disown her if she ever married a black guy. but anyway they are dating around christmas time (several years ago) and we were all getting together for christmas lunch. i got over there and the rumor was that she was bringing this dude over. but i couldn't ask or even talk about it because it was kinda like the 800lb gorilla in the room. you could just sense the tension around the house because we all wanted to meet the guy b/c he played for the heels, nobody cared about color, but we all knew where my uncle stood on the issue and so we had to temper our excitement. So anyway, everyone is at the house, and we see them pull up, a few people run to the window to see this tall lanky dude step out of the car, i turn around to see where my uncle is and he's got the i eat ass face. turns out the dude wasn't even black lol. so i guess we were all racist for assuming so. but he was i guess pan-american or south american, or something. but he wasn't afro. dude was cool as shit, he was shooting ball with us then my uncle finally sucks it up and calls him over, they start talking.....later he leaves with my cousin and i never saw him again...

 

[kataklysm]

Idk about that.

I can't see any racist white cat being ok with knowing that his white wife used to fuck black men.

Yeah you're probably right..he's an extreme case if he doesn't even want his kids playing with half-black kids.

Her sister is wack though..I think I took the most offense with that part.

 

[bignorm73]

that aint exactly 'handling' yours. you can fulfill your fatherly obligations without marraige. no hate, but you probably fucked your kids up worse by marrying this girl

I dont see being a father as an obligation.

And my kids are doing great, because of their constant access to me.

See, i saw shit like this story happening where she did not.

Can you imagine thier identitiy issues if they could only relate to the white side of the family?

How much worse it would be when they paint me as a dead beat dad, who is black, what they would say?

How it would seem true to them because I am not there?

I dont struggle with my decision because i see more and more each day how fucked up they would be if i were not here.