I coach youth football this year and see and hear things that amaze me.
Boys need their father, or some type of male influence, plain and simple.
As a mom, there is only so much I can do for my son. I show him the gentleness and care of a woman, however, I can never teach him the subtle ways of a man. There are things he will never share with me that he shares with my guy, and I'm ok with that. The boys that I coach.. They don't have that outlet and it shows. Some often them are the bitchiest boys I have ever met. I can't get mad at them, as they are only behaving in the way that they are exposed to daily. When they get around my other coaches, they don't know or understand the 'maleness' and in turn, behave like a scorned female.
If any of you males on here have the free time and the capacity to care, go out and coach. Be a mentor, a big brother... Something. Even though bad choices were made somewhere down the line by a child growing up in a single household or by victim of circumstances, the cycle has got to stop somewhere. Our boys need you badly.
Boys need their father, or some type of male influence, plain and simple.
As a mom, there is only so much I can do for my son. I show him the gentleness and care of a woman, however, I can never teach him the subtle ways of a man. There are things he will never share with me that he shares with my guy, and I'm ok with that. The boys that I coach.. They don't have that outlet and it shows. Some often them are the bitchiest boys I have ever met. I can't get mad at them, as they are only behaving in the way that they are exposed to daily. When they get around my other coaches, they don't know or understand the 'maleness' and in turn, behave like a scorned female.
If any of you males on here have the free time and the capacity to care, go out and coach. Be a mentor, a big brother... Something. Even though bad choices were made somewhere down the line by a child growing up in a single household or by victim of circumstances, the cycle has got to stop somewhere. Our boys need you badly.
gdatruth2.0
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i got 2 daughters (2 & 8). Whenever I make moves with them solo ppl treat me like a god damn father of the year. 'Oh thats sweet'
'How old are they?'
Extra discounts at stores
and striking up conversations out the blue
they arct like seeing a good black father = spotting the Big Foot
'How old are they?'
Extra discounts at stores
and striking up conversations out the blue
they arct like seeing a good black father = spotting the Big Foot
Idiopathic Joker
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All I know is, last month I took my daughter to six flags. Being a single dad out and about with your kid having fun, these bitches notice. My daughter is the world's greatest wingman
mryounggun
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JokerKing;7139067 said:
What's the custody situation with your daughter? Her mom still around?
Idiopathic Joker
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mryounggun;7139083 said:
She still around. We ain't together, but we still respect each other.
mryounggun
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JokerKing;7139098 said:
I'm saying though. What the custody like? 50-50? You get weekends? She get weekends?
VulcanRaven
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All the men in my family that are good fathers, their kids are turning out better than the ones who father was bad or was not there. My brother raised his wife's son like his own along with the two daughters they have together. All good kids. All the problem children I know father is in jail, not around or just not a good role model.
Fathers are beyond important or at least a positive male figure on both the males and the females. That is a fact that can not be denied. That same brother who is 10 years older than me was that role model the majority of the time when my father was not around. I don't know where I would be if he had been a bad influence or not there.
Fathers being there does not guarantee an easier life or that a child will grow up positive, but it increases the chances from what i been through and witnessed personally. These women deal with certain men, because that is who their mother dealt with and they view drama, abuse and abandonment as normal. Their perception is ruined by negative male figures from their childhood.
Fathers are beyond important or at least a positive male figure on both the males and the females. That is a fact that can not be denied. That same brother who is 10 years older than me was that role model the majority of the time when my father was not around. I don't know where I would be if he had been a bad influence or not there.
Fathers being there does not guarantee an easier life or that a child will grow up positive, but it increases the chances from what i been through and witnessed personally. These women deal with certain men, because that is who their mother dealt with and they view drama, abuse and abandonment as normal. Their perception is ruined by negative male figures from their childhood.
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No matter how you slice it, men gotta raise men. They will be raised by men directly by having him in his life, or indirectly by watching what he sees and ordering his world in whatever way makes the most sense to him. We take the most chances with these young boys lives when we allow them to make the decisions on the role models they choose, and lack the knowledge and experience in life to make the safest most correct choice. They been breaking up our families since they brought us here got here, why the fuck ya'll think we in the position we in now? Take away the authority figure in the house, then systematically program the sons in the way they see fit. Parental unit can function with one of the parts, but the whole point of the unit is synergism and making something bigger than the sum of the parts.
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Colin$mackabi$h
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^^^Preach.
Idiopathic Joker
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mryounggun;7139108 said:
She lives with her mom, but she don't mind me coming over whenever I want to see my daughter. She's know I'm responsible and I'll do right, so she don't trip if I say I'm taking our daughter to my place all weekend or we going to six flags. My daughter's mother believes a mother has no right keeping her children from a positive male role model. I try to be that for my little girl.
Negro_Caesar
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Man bitches ain't shit. They refuse to say niggas r needed.
Arya Tsaddiq
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ms.jones;7139052 said:
This is all I been saying on here....
It aint these boys faults they gotta grow up without a father or strong male presence in their lives. We like to complain about our communities and society in general but dont wanna take little steps to collectively fix the big issues.
GOAT for you.
The Lonious Monk
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Ehh, I don't think he made a good argument. I think there are things only a man can give, but I don't really think any of the things he named counts. A better way to go about it would have been to say that the mother can only give her side of those things. She can only give her story and her security, which will never be as complete as being able to give both sides.
These women need to stop being so sensitive though. They accused the man of taking away from mothers. He wasn't. He was just saying that the father has an important role that mothers can't fully fill, and that's true. It's not an insult to single mothers to say they can't be fathers. I don't know why some women can't understand and acknowledge that.
These women need to stop being so sensitive though. They accused the man of taking away from mothers. He wasn't. He was just saying that the father has an important role that mothers can't fully fill, and that's true. It's not an insult to single mothers to say they can't be fathers. I don't know why some women can't understand and acknowledge that.
Knock_Twice
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One of the realest lines I heard someone/OG say
"You'll never learn to become a man until you see a man"
"You'll never learn to become a man until you see a man"
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