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SocialAssassinRati;4889691 said:VIBE;4889136 said:Yeah, I'm married. I've been with her for 12 years, married 4.
The first one, it was easy. Aside the nights and what not, it was peaceful and easy. Now with 4, it's hella difficult, constant fighting, a billion questions, trying to keep them all in check etc... It's stressful and hectic.
Can't wait until they grow out of this stage, everything is such a big deal to them LOL
damn bruh...yall were together 8 of them thangs BEFORE marriage...that shit should count toward the marriage like federal retirement plans or something...my girl and I been together two yrs and living together 1 and I might be bout ready to pop the ?.
I don't care about marriage TBH, it's stupid. We're together many years, we were practically "married".
evoljeanyes
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SocialAssassinRati;4889678 said:When youre grown and established...when you have a home to raise them in, when you are able to take care of yourself comfortably and you are mature enough to understand that life isnt so much about you anymore as it is raising your seeds and building a legacy for them to build onto.
How old are you family...you think parents should be home owners?
evoljeanyes
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bull6599;4889814 said:When ur money is right. Fuck having kids young so that you'll be young enough to enjoy life when they're grown. How young can u feel when u spend 20 years working 2 jobs to provide for they ass?
I hear you big dog. Lol...so you feel its mostly a financial situation?
evoljeanyes
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VIBE;4889801 said:SocialAssassinRati;4889691 said:VIBE;4889136 said:Yeah, I'm married. I've been with her for 12 years, married 4.
The first one, it was easy. Aside the nights and what not, it was peaceful and easy. Now with 4, it's hella difficult, constant fighting, a billion questions, trying to keep them all in check etc... It's stressful and hectic.
Can't wait until they grow out of this stage, everything is such a big deal to them LOL
damn bruh...yall were together 8 of them thangs BEFORE marriage...that shit should count toward the marriage like federal retirement plans or something...my girl and I been together two yrs and living together 1 and I might be bout ready to pop the ?.
I don't care about marriage TBH, it's stupid. We're together many years, we were practically "married".
Marriage is good for families bx both parents are mandatory
evoljeanyes
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Ms.Scorp;4889757 said:evoljeanyes;4889566 said:Ms.Scorp;4889513 said:When you're married, financially secure and BOTH of you are ready to start a family.
What does it take to be ready? How do you prepare for parenthood, get a dog?
Or do you just mean prepared to handle everything the situation throws at you?
Not trying to be condescending. Honest question
Yes, I mean mentally mature enough to handle being responsible for another life, there really is no age to determine that so it's an individual thing. Hell, I'm 30 and I'm still not ready for that responsibility.
Understandable...I thought you were going to hit me with some out of the way response.
evoljeanyes
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atribecalledgabi;4889720 said:eh...at first i was anti kids but now i'm like if im settled down with the right one and he wants kids i would be open to it. although personally i'd rather adopt.
don't wana have that convo before 30 tho
Not before 30? Why? School, freedom or finances?
At least when you're mature enough and your money is right. I see too many people nowadays having them like it's nothing. And a lot of them don't have a lot of money (or none at all), and are still kind of naive in the mind. It's kind of sad to see...
I'm 26, and my parents are starting to put some pressure on me to give them Grandchildren. I couldn't see myself having any until I was about 30, though. I think they can wait a few more years lol..
I'm 26, and my parents are starting to put some pressure on me to give them Grandchildren. I couldn't see myself having any until I was about 30, though. I think they can wait a few more years lol..
So ILL;4890027 said:At least when you're mature enough and your money is right. I see too many people nowadays having them like it's nothing. And a lot of them don't have a lot of money (or none at all), and are still kind of naive in the mind. It's kind of sad to see...
I'm 26, and my parents are starting to put some pressure on me to give them Grandchildren. I couldn't see myself having any until I was about 30, though. I think they can wait a few more years lol..
Forget your parents, if it's not that big on your list, don't do it!
I teach, I wouldn't have any children.
To all my future wifeys, 'Never gonna get it' is my response to that question in advance. Word to En Vogue.
atribecalledgabi
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evoljeanyes;4889890 said:atribecalledgabi;4889720 said:eh...at first i was anti kids but now i'm like if im settled down with the right one and he wants kids i would be open to it. although personally i'd rather adopt.
don't wana have that convo before 30 tho
Not before 30? Why? School, freedom or finances?
freedom mostly. i'm too selfish & inattentive to others to have to care about kid right now so i figure by 30 i will have softened up to the idea.
evoljeanyes
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atribecalledgabi;4890230 said:evoljeanyes;4889890 said:atribecalledgabi;4889720 said:eh...at first i was anti kids but now i'm like if im settled down with the right one and he wants kids i would be open to it. although personally i'd rather adopt.
don't wana have that convo before 30 tho
Not before 30? Why? School, freedom or finances?
freedom mostly. i'm too selfish & inattentive to others to have to care about kid right now so i figure by 30 i will have softened up to the idea.
That's understandable. Are you considering not doing it at all?
5th Letter
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whenever you are mentality and financially ready, it really doesn't matter the age.
Why bother having children? Why not see the world with the one that you love and share and indulge in all that you love and be able to live a stable, secure and enjoyable lifestyle? I see no point of having children, all they seem to do is bring stress, bills and joy; the first two means that I'm out as the latter can be found elsewhere.
NothingButTheTruth
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VIBE;4889030 said:I'm 25 with kids; 8, 6, 2 and 1.
I think having them young is great, as long as the two have a mature & responsible mindset.
^^^^^^^ *welfare recipient post* ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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NothingButTheTruth
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Ms.Scorp;4889513 said:When you're married, financially secure and BOTH of you are ready to start a family.
This minus the married part.
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evoljeanyes;4889149 said:ATTS;4889074 said:mryounggun;4889057 said:I had mine at 26. Pretty solid age. Mind right, money right, relationship right.
I had mine @ 23..i am 24 now....every thing was good...it was d perfect time...... for me
There is no specific age really....i know an homie who is 40...he n wifey tried for five yrs....and they finally got twins last yr....
Are you a working professional how is fatherhood for you? Were you financial straight from jump?
@EVOLJEANYES....yes...i went to college 17 -22 .... Me n wifey met in college...great career...college imprpved ny finances
NothingButTheTruth;4890368 said:VIBE;4889030 said:I'm 25 with kids; 8, 6, 2 and 1.
I think having them young is great, as long as the two have a mature & responsible mindset.
^^^^^^^ *welfare recipient post* ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
LOL nope
evoljeanyes
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ATTS;4890528 said:evoljeanyes;4889149 said:ATTS;4889074 said:mryounggun;4889057 said:I had mine at 26. Pretty solid age. Mind right, money right, relationship right.
I had mine @ 23..i am 24 now....every thing was good...it was d perfect time...... for me
There is no specific age really....i know an homie who is 40...he n wifey tried for five yrs....and they finally got twins last yr....
Are you a working professional how is fatherhood for you? Were you financial straight from jump?
@EVOLJEANYES....yes...i went to college 17 -22 .... Me n wifey met in college...great career...college imprpved ny finances
That's what's good g! Respect. Keep holding it down.these lil niggas need role models
evoljeanyes
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RuffDraft;4890310 said:Why bother having children? Why not see the world with the one that you love and share and indulge in all that you love and be able to live a stable, secure and enjoyable lifestyle? I see no point of having children, all they seem to do is bring stress, bills and joy; the first two means that I'm out as the latter can be found elsewhere.
This is how I used to think...but its not so bad.
So do you guys think girls or boys are more difficult
