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deadeye;c-10065354 said:2stepz_ahead;c-10065342 said:deadeye;c-10065337 said:2stepz_ahead;c-10065320 said:luke1733;c-10064976 said:Storytime: had a neighbor who married his high school sweetheart. They were married at 18 and were like 38 when I met them. He was a truck driver until he fucked his back up and got disability. He put her through college all the way to her Master's. She was a school teacher. She graduated and divorced him. Lied to the courts saying he was abusive and cheating.
Now, he dragged me to court to tell the truth of what I saw. She was the one cussing her kids out in the front yard every day, and she was the one caught by him at Applebee's cheating on him. She also tried to set up his girlfriends to solicit him on FB so she could try to have evidence he cheated, and she tried throwing women is way when he went out. Dude didn't do shit. He was a homebody. Courts believed her anyway and she took the house and the kids. Months later her lawyers calling me asking if I know if her husband's working (bc they want to take even more of his shit). Now, this dude was cutting my grass for $45 a week and they want half of that.
I'm all for marriage, but I can talk all day on some shit. A ton of people are selfish and power hungry and ego maniacs. Some say they want the things they don't want and then don't want the things they say they want AND expect someone else to entertain them and make them happy. Most don't know what role they want the other to be or how to make a marriage work bc they've never seen a marriage work. People do what they know.
adding on to homies story....i know a couple just like that. dude helped put her thru college she got two degrees or some shit. her family got the hook up at this company so she along with her degrees is very high in the company.. she ended up cheating an the nigga she cheated with , she got a job at the comapny. and later she got her husband a job at the same company. her husband found out later that he knew the nigga she was cheating on him with. an had to look at this nigga everyday. he ended up creeping but she extra mad at him for doing it. an she keeps trying to leave him an finally they split up. i feel like thats a fucked up situation to be in. to help someone get to where they are then they begin to feel they are too good or dont need your shit.
i just couldnt picture myself not just walking out but...how do you keep your sanity in that? she used to straight up shit on him about not making loot when he put her thru college in order for her to make the loot she makes.
Yeah, that's definitely not for me.
Word to @gemini86 .
'Makes me wonder what the backstory is whenever I hear stories in the news about a man killing his entire family or his wife/gf.
I mean, not trying to justify it............but people just don't go off like that for no reason.
Something had to have triggered it, and going through something like that would definitely be a possible catalyst for something like that to happen.
Now, this isn't about right or wrong............it's about cause and effect.
yea the crazy thing is...he still is trying to get back with her. an she basically wants to "see whats out there"
this is the most fukked up part. see whats out there now that you are established and hes not as established cause he sacrificed his youth to help her become better. but she feels she sacrificed her youth being locked into a relationship...an thing is she has a mother and father.
an when we had the couples meetings....all the chicks would say but he cheated....so she has a right. they all skip over that she cheated first and he has to work with this nigga.
man shit i agree with you.....if my wife was to ever do that shit...i would cry for about 2-3 days...then just leave me the fukk alone an let me go on my way. any futher contact an i might nicole simpson her ass
Yeah, old girl is on another level of foul.
It's one thing to cheat, but to hook the nigga you're cheating with and your husband up with the same job?
Then has the nerve to talk down on him when he put her through school???
My father used to always say that........"the more you do for people, the less they appreciate it."
Never made sense when I was young, but I understand what he meant now.
I think what happens is, when some people get help like that..........at some point, instead of being grateful, they start to resent the person who helped them because they can't cope with knowing that they weren't able get to where they are on their own ........and that they owe somebody else for their success.
Backwards way of thinking, but it's more common than most people might think.
oh i get it.
an she cool as shit too.
but my problem has always been with girlfriends that put shit in her ear or any chicks ear for that matter. or the fact the cosign her fukkery. an even her parents who got loot....yet they allowed the man to take care of all her shit and pay the rent and mortgage and raise the kids while she focuses on school.
they just want someone who would have dont that for them.
but i say all this to say.....
i still tell and promote people to arrange couple meetings an have open discussion about the troubles in the relationship and how to handle the troubles someone else has.
the shit can be eye opening, helpful and cheaper than therapy. an sometimes you just dont know how blessed you are.