That Awkward Moment when....

Sigh. Ladies, let me explain this for you:

If someone asks you a direct, close ended question (Can I take you out?)

Now, we all know there are TWO possible answers to a close ended question...But what do yall do? You give a NON-ANSWER (I have a boyfriend)

You have now done 2 things: 1) You have not answered the question, hence keeping the door open,

and 2) You are implying that if you DIDNT have a B/F, you'd be down. That is why Tyorne ignores that 'I have a b/f' shyt.

You're welcome.

"Thank you kindly but NO dear, I am married."

The reality is, some guys won't take no for a first answer unless the female seems annoyed, bothered or if she possibly becomes aggressive and rude, not at all my style. But you must admit that its true, just being friendly and carrying a certain type of energy which attracts others will make it a tad more difficult to get rid of gentleman callers.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Sigh. Ladies, let me explain this for you:

If someone asks you a direct, close ended question (Can I take you out?)

Now, we all know there are TWO possible answers to a close ended question...But what do yall do? You give a NON-ANSWER (I have a boyfriend)

You have now done 2 things: 1) You have not answered the question, hence keeping the door open,

and 2) You are implying that if you DIDNT have a B/F, you'd be down. That is why Tyorne ignores that 'I have a b/f' shyt.

You're welcome.

I might have to report u to the brotherhood for divulging this much game...

 

[Kat]

He asked if I had a boyfriend first though. When I said yes, he still handed me the number and said we should do lunch.

Which was whatever when I assumed he was single. Why should he care about my boyfriend? He still has the right to pursue. Finding out he was married though..smh!

 

[S2J]

Sigh. Ladies, let me explain this for you:

If someone asks you a direct, close ended question (Can I take you out?)

Now, we all know there are TWO possible answers to a close ended question...But what do yall do? You give a NON-ANSWER (I have a boyfriend)

You have now done 2 things: 1) You have not answered the question, hence keeping the door open,

and 2) You are implying that if you DIDNT have a B/F, you'd be down. That is why Tyorne ignores that 'I have a b/f' shyt.

You're welcome.

"Thank you kindly but NO dear, I am married."

The reality is, some guys won't take no for a first answer unless the female seems annoyed, bothered or if she possibly becomes aggressive and rude, not at all my style. But you must admit that its true, just being friendly and carrying a certain type of energy which attracts others will make it a tad more difficult to get rid of gentleman callers.

I hear you, but you dont hear me LOL

The use of an explanation, when NONE was asked for, is the opening. Trust me.

You'd be suprised how quickly a stern, non-smiling 'Im not interested.' shuts shyt down. What can i come back from w/ that?

Instead:

You say you have a b/f...He says 'I can be your 'friend'

You say 'I dont think he'd like that'...He says 'Oh, so you cant have friends?'

You say 'I can but i--'

STOP

Now you'r explaining and giving him conversation when other women would and already have shut him down. He smells your weakness. You have already Lost.

@ the 'friendly and certain energy'- I totally agree. I have to actually explain that to my s/o. You are in a relationship, you are not in the business of making friends or being a jolly person amidst random dudes. As an adult, there's no excuse to be naiive and think that you just being nice and just having conversation cant be construed as interest.

 

[S2J]

Sigh. Ladies, let me explain this for you:

If someone asks you a direct, close ended question (Can I take you out?)

Now, we all know there are TWO possible answers to a close ended question...But what do yall do? You give a NON-ANSWER (I have a boyfriend)

You have now done 2 things: 1) You have not answered the question, hence keeping the door open,

and 2) You are implying that if you DIDNT have a B/F, you'd be down. That is why Tyorne ignores that 'I have a b/f' shyt.

You're welcome.

I might have to report u to the brotherhood for divulging this much game...

Ahh fuck you right. But i just had to give her this work.

 

[S2J]

He asked if I had a boyfriend first though. When I said yes, he still handed me the number and said we should do lunch.

Which was whatever when I assumed he was single. Why should he care about my boyfriend? He still has the right to pursue. Finding out he was married though..smh!

What does this MEAN!?!? lol So you practice civil rights when it comes to dudes throwin game, huh? I must have missed that amendment...

 

[Kat]

lol..it just means from his perspective me saying I have a boyfriend really shouldn't make him feel like he can't pursue. I'm not married and my bf isn't his boy. That's my responsibility to shut him down.

However when I later found out he is married...smh.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

"dont speak to broads that r spoke for, that provokes war"... Common

 

[Kat]

Shoulda put a ring on it...Beyonce!

 

[Meta_Conscious]

"...I put one around her fucking eye" Big L

 

[haute]

please I've said flat out "NO"

with nothing before or after

and dudes still keep running their mouth as if something they say will magically make my pussy jump out of my body and into their hands

niggas are just rude sometime

 

[Meta_Conscious]

a lot of cats will do whatever... but still...

 

@s2jepeka and @stopitfive

Stop that! Lol. The awareness is there! I certainly am not speaking on my own behalf as myself and many others know exactly what we are doing. Not giving a close ended answer gives the space for further interaction. That room to further pursue is granted without clean and direct clarity. We are only responsible and in control of our own actions and this is where many start snoozing. Females being naïve isn't even the fact of the matter, they just aren't there during the whole encounter, they're "asleep". Had they been really present, the whole scenario would go down differently.

 

[S2J]

@s2jepeka and @stopitfive

Stop that! Lol. The awareness is there! I certainly am not speaking on my own behalf as myself and many others know exactly what we are doing. Not giving a close ended answer gives the space for further interaction. That room to further pursue is granted without clean and direct clarity. We are only responsible and in control of our own actions and this is where many start snoozing. Females being naïve isn't even the fact of the matter, they just aren't there during the whole encounter, they're "asleep". Had they been really present, the whole scenario would go down differently.

 

[LPast]

Some women give off that 'I have a man, but I might check you out' vibe. Taking numbers only makes them feel more comfortable.

 

[shit happens]

Locking eyes with your barber when getting edged

Ain't emm nothing on this earth more discomforting than that

 

[Dupac]

if it's happening every time......might be time to switch barbers

 

[shit happens]

Lol naw bro just speaking in general

 

[Bcotton5]

Locking eyes with your barber when getting edged

Ain't emm nothing on this earth more discomforting than that

LMAO cause this shit always happens to me too