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stupot0607
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Whats up Draft?
Mannn im 20 and ive never had a relationship with a girl which has lasted long at all. I mean ive had little things here and there, but ive always been to stuck in my ways to venture out and be someone to like sweep a girl off their feet so to speak. always had my head somewhere else when the opportunity came around with some girls.
At least you had a decent relationship where you knew what you wanted out of it.
Mannn im 20 and ive never had a relationship with a girl which has lasted long at all. I mean ive had little things here and there, but ive always been to stuck in my ways to venture out and be someone to like sweep a girl off their feet so to speak. always had my head somewhere else when the opportunity came around with some girls.
At least you had a decent relationship where you knew what you wanted out of it.
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think;2481973 said:You're a good poster and sadly this thread will fall to the wayside.
I don't think anything lasts forever anymore. Things just fall apart.
Take a hiatus and refind yourself. That's what I'm doing.
haha I've been watching the thread die a slow death. Your post sounds like a Roots album (see bolded).
Yeah, I'm 24 and I'm reaching that age where I think you take another turn in life. Initially I felt this change at 19, then again at 22 and now more recently at 24. I realise that most girls I meet don't interest me (where I'm from), I don't find them trustworthy nor interesting to speak with as they're too caught up in TV shows, Celebrities or drinking and I'm getting past the latter (clubbing).
I just think that it's interesting how posters here are quick to 'smut' out girls, but none have the stories that led them to this belief... I wanted to hear the stories.
stupot0607;2482043 said:Whats up Draft?
Mannn im 20 and ive never had a relationship with a girl which has lasted long at all. I mean ive had little things here and there, but ive always been to stuck in my ways to venture out and be someone to like sweep a girl off their feet so to speak. always had my head somewhere else when the opportunity came around with some girls.
At least you had a decent relationship where you knew what you wanted out of it.
Nothing stupot, just taking an interest in social affairs instead of Independent hip hop for a change lol.
That's probably because no girl has made you want to sweep them off their feet? As long as your head is stuck in a book or bettering yourself then it's cool :tu
Yeah and to be honest that's made me happy to be single ever since... but now I feel at 24 like things are changing... not as much clubbing, more time spent in bars (pubs), less time to socialise and meet people... but this is more a thread about what made people so bitter towards the other sex, but as yet, very few stories are being told!
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RuffDraft;2482310 said:haha I've been watching the thread die a slow death. Your post sounds like a Roots album (see bolded).
Yeah, I'm 24 and I'm reaching that age where I think you take another turn in life. Initially I felt this change at 19, then again at 22 and now more recently at 24. I realise that most girls I meet don't interest me (where I'm from), I don't find them trustworthy nor interesting to speak with as they're too caught up in TV shows, Celebrities or drinking and I'm getting past the latter (clubbing).
You ain't never lie. I'm close to your age, and I don't watch TV or pay attention to pop culture. I'm more into business ventures lately and studying philosophy and it's hard to meet those kind of people because usually they're not out in public. Or they may be at Chapters, Starbucks, the library, I dunno.
To contribute to the thread, the last 2 years I've been dating older women in their 30s. I figured they'd be more mature but apparently not. They're no better than the 20 somethings. The only thing good is that they're at their sexual peak. But even at that you gotta be careful or they'll rip your heart out.
Good luck with your journey. I'm gonna be doing me for awhile and saving for a house.
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think;2482329 said:You ain't never lie. I'm close to your age, and I don't watch TV or pay attention to pop culture. I'm more into business ventures lately and studying philosophy and it's hard to meet those kind of people because usually they're not out in public. Or they may be at Chapters, Starbucks, the library, I dunno.
To contribute to the thread, the last 2 years I've been dating older women in their 30s. I figured they'd be more mature but apparently not. They're no better than the 20 somethings. The only thing good is that they're at their sexual peak. But even at that you gotta be careful or they'll rip your heart out.
Good luck with your journey. I'm gonna be doing me for awhile and saving for a house.
@ bolded, same to you and that's exactly what I'm doing currently. But the prices are so high... I'm looking at two years for a deposit.
As for the rest, I'm with you and philosophy is an interesting subject. If you've not read it already, Paulo Coelho's 'The Alchemist' is a great book that will teach you a lot of things about your journey and what to look for. I don't ever go to a library due to living in a reasonably sized town and Starbucks is somewhere I do visit, but wouldn't go discussing with others there as I would on a course for instance. I've been thinking of taking up French though, that could be interesting come September.
I've never gone there with the 30 year olds, but fair play. I think all women are irrational beings who make decisions based around their feelings. I think they'll never really control them unless you find one of those really unemotional kinds of girls. But hell yeah @ sexual peak haha
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stupot0607
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RuffDraft;2482310 said:Nothing stupot, just taking an interest in social affairs instead of Independent hip hop for a change lol.
That's probably because no girl has made you want to sweep them off their feet? As long as your head is stuck in a book or bettering yourself then it's cool :tu
Yeah and to be honest that's made me happy to be single ever since... but now I feel at 24 like things are changing... not as much clubbing, more time spent in bars (pubs), less time to socialise and meet people... but this is more a thread about what made people so bitter towards the other sex, but as yet, very few stories are being told!
Hahah well man i know how hard it is trying to stay away from hip hop, i do the same sometimes. i find it drives people away from me, not many people like hip hop up where im from, yet i know all this stuff and NEED to talk to it, and all my closest mates dont like hip hop. cause likei only had 1 mate who likes hip hop and he moved away. so then i joined the IC to get all my hip hop discussion out the way.
But with women, i dunno mate, like i dont think ive ever met a girl who i thought i really cared for. i mean i liked a few, and cudnt get a few out my head. but that feeling has never lasted. so im gonna presume that ive never really felt like i might have a future with them. which too be honest bums me out. but im not gonna be upset about it.
The worst thing any girl has done to me, is when i met this girl on holiday and it was me and my mate (i was 16 at the time). neither of us got with her. and she tagged me along for a while, we stayed in touch, rang each other alot and that. and i was like "i really like you ect" and we got really close and then she told me she liked my mate and regretted not sleeping with him on the holiday i was on. so i was like "fine then, fuck you" and just cut off contact, and she turned kinda weird about it. and to be honest i wish i hadnt told her to fuck off coz now i miss her (not in a romantic, but a mate sense) , i just wish i didnt leave things so fucked up.
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**2sweet**
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think;2481973 said:You're a good poster and sadly this thread will fall to the wayside.
I don't think anything lasts forever anymore. Things just fall apart.
Take a hiatus and refind yourself. That's what I'm doing.
Funny thats the same thing that my brother is doing, I feel for him though. He should be living his life and I really think that how he grew up is affecting him today...its kinda sad actually.
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stupot0607;2482407 said:Hahah well man i know how hard it is trying to stay away from hip hop, i do the same sometimes. i find it drives people away from me, not many people like hip hop up where im from, yet i know all this stuff and NEED to talk to it, and all my closest mates dont like hip hop. cause likei only had 1 mate who likes hip hop and he moved away. so then i joined the IC to get all my hip hop discussion out the way.
But with women, i dunno mate, like i dont think ive ever met a girl who i thought i really cared for. i mean i liked a few, and cudnt get a few out my head. but that feeling has never lasted. so im gonna presume that ive never really felt like i might have a future with them. which too be honest bums me out. but im not gonna be upset about it.
The worst thing any girl has done to me, is when i met this girl on holiday and it was me and my mate (i was 16 at the time). neither of us got with her. and she tagged me along for a while, we stayed in touch, rang each other alot and that. and i was like "i really like you ect" and we got really close and then she told me she liked my mate and regretted not sleeping with him on the holiday i was on. so i was like "fine then, fuck you" and just cut off contact, and she turned kinda weird about it. and to be honest i wish i hadnt told her to fuck off coz now i miss her (not in a romantic, but a mate sense) , i just wish i didnt leave things so fucked up.
Hahaha you and me both, I had a friend who liked hip hop a lot, but now he too has left (gone to Taiwan), but none of them would delve deeper into hip hop apart from the charts so I always been on the IC since 03 to discuss it. Honestly at the minute though, too damn busy to listen to anything and my car CD player is broken (I put two discs in it (FAIL!)), so that's why it's slow over in The Essence at the minute, but I'm going to get it going after this week again. Believe.
Man, if you're 20 you have nothing to worry about, there are plenty of women out there for your age, do you party on weekends? By that I mean, visit clubs and stuff? Not that it's the best place to meet a girl but there's a healthy selection! You have a positive outlook on it though, so that's cool.
I've been there with that last paragraph in ways, I think all women like a man who will listen and discuss with them on a non-sexual level. But the fact that she listened to you say those things and then switch up on you like that was wrong. You did the right thing in cutting contact but I get what you mean on a friendship level, I still speak to my ex intermittently. But honestly, there's so many more women out there, especially for a 20 year old, that I'm sure you can find that friendship with someone else and probably someone who you like in a more romantic way, as you say.
Props for contributing :tu
**2sweet**;2482427 said:Funny thats the same thing that my brother is doing, I feel for him though. He should be living his life and I really think that how he grew up is affecting him today...its kinda sad actually.
How did you grow up differently to your brother? Why does he feel like he needs to find himself? Sometimes, finding yourself is fun!
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stupot0607;2482407 said:The worst thing any girl has done to me, is when i met this girl on holiday and it was me and my mate (i was 16 at the time). neither of us got with her. and she tagged me along for a while, we stayed in touch, rang each other alot and that. and i was like "i really like you ect" and we got really close and then she told me she liked my mate and regretted not sleeping with him on the holiday i was on. so i was like "fine then, fuck you" and just cut off contact, and she turned kinda weird about it. and to be honest i wish i hadnt told her to fuck off coz now i miss her (not in a romantic, but a mate sense) , i just wish i didnt leave things so fucked up.
You did the right thing. She downright disrespected you. Maybe the choice of words were harsh, but it was a natural reaction. Props to you for cutting her off.
I've cut off all my exes. What's the reason for keeping them around? It will just keep the pain around. Plus, it wouldn't be fair to the next girl that I'd be dating.
You're fine, don't sweat it, as she's not worth 2 seconds of your time. You'll find someone worthy, just you watch.
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**2sweet**;2482427 said:Funny thats the same thing that my brother is doing, I feel for him though. He should be living his life and I really think that how he grew up is affecting him today...its kinda sad actually.
How's he doing and how long has he been doing it for? Maybe that's what he needs to do to get back on track. He should come back fully recharged.
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renagade410.
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RuffDraft;2481282 said:'So you thought it was going to last forever?'
My questions are as follows:
What happened to that relationship which caused it to end?
Why did you think that particular relationship would last?
Do you think you'll feel that same way about someone in the future? If you have already, did it surprise you?
She was a virgin and once i broke her she went buck wild and blamed it on me cheating a looooooooon time ago
I thought it would last cuz we had been togethjer so long....dumbass logic but when your 16 or so it made sense then especially when everybody just messin around
I feel the same way with my girl now but that also makes me fear that the same results could happen....im old enough now to where if they do i understand thats life....
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American.Loo
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I'm 28 and pretty much become jaded toward true love and all that jazz.
I honestly dont know very many happily married people. And for the record, I dont count people that have been married less than 7 years as "happily married". lemme know how you feel when yall been married like 12 years bruh.
Also, i feel like this generation has become far too "social". Blame the web. Its impossible to let the past be the past when old flames are one click away. Your spouse can cheat on you without even leaving the house now. so yeah, i doubt i'll ever be married.
but thats just me. i still love women and dating, but that about it.
I honestly dont know very many happily married people. And for the record, I dont count people that have been married less than 7 years as "happily married". lemme know how you feel when yall been married like 12 years bruh.
Also, i feel like this generation has become far too "social". Blame the web. Its impossible to let the past be the past when old flames are one click away. Your spouse can cheat on you without even leaving the house now. so yeah, i doubt i'll ever be married.
but thats just me. i still love women and dating, but that about it.
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American.Loo;2484907 said:I'm 28 and pretty much become jaded toward true love and all that jazz.
I honestly dont know very many happily married people. And for the record, I dont count people that have been married less than 7 years as "happily married". lemme know how you feel when yall been married like 12 years bruh.
Also, i feel like this generation has become far too "social". Blame the web. Its impossible to let the past be the past when old flames are one click away. Your spouse can cheat on you without even leaving the house now. so yeah, i doubt i'll ever be married.
but thats just me. i still love women and dating, but that about it.
Hell to the fucking yeah! It's only natural that someone gets curious what their ex has been up to and bam, sparks ignite. This is especially more so for women since they are social creatures and tend to be the nurturant, housewife types.
I think I'm starting to accept the fact that there is no such thing anymore as true love and a committed relationship. Maybe I need to marry some 3rd world bitch.
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renagade410.;2484870 said:She was a virgin and once i broke her she went buck wild and blamed it on me cheating a looooooooon time ago
I thought it would last cuz we had been togethjer so long....dumbass logic but when your 16 or so it made sense then especially when everybody just messin around
I feel the same way with my girl now but that also makes me fear that the same results could happen....im old enough now to where if they do i understand thats life....
I hear you. After the shit that's happened to me, I will never ever give myself fully to a woman. I will always hold back.
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Idiopathic Joker
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I once had a bitch named Mandy May
Used to be up in them guts like everyday
The pussy was the bomb, had a nigga on sprung
I was in love like a muthafucka lickin' the protung
The homies used to tell me that she wasn't no good
But I'm the maniac in black, Mr. Joker Eastwood
So I figure niggaz wouldn't trip with mine
Guess what? Got gaffled by one time
I'm back to the muthafuckin' county jail
6 months on my chest, now it's time to bail
I get's released on a hot sunny day
My nigga D.O.C. and my homey Dr Dre
Scooped in a coupe, Joker we got news
Your girl was trickin' while you was draped in your county blues
I ain't been out a second
And already gotta do some muthafuckin chin checkin
Move up the block as we groove down the block
See my girl's house, Dre, pass the glock
Kick in the do', I look on the flo'
It's my little cousin Daz and he's fuckin' my hoe, yo
(Bitches ain't shit)
I uncocked my shit...I'm heart-broke but I'm still loc'ed
Man, fuck a bitch!
Used to be up in them guts like everyday
The pussy was the bomb, had a nigga on sprung
I was in love like a muthafucka lickin' the protung
The homies used to tell me that she wasn't no good
But I'm the maniac in black, Mr. Joker Eastwood
So I figure niggaz wouldn't trip with mine
Guess what? Got gaffled by one time
I'm back to the muthafuckin' county jail
6 months on my chest, now it's time to bail
I get's released on a hot sunny day
My nigga D.O.C. and my homey Dr Dre
Scooped in a coupe, Joker we got news
Your girl was trickin' while you was draped in your county blues
I ain't been out a second
And already gotta do some muthafuckin chin checkin
Move up the block as we groove down the block
See my girl's house, Dre, pass the glock
Kick in the do', I look on the flo'
It's my little cousin Daz and he's fuckin' my hoe, yo
(Bitches ain't shit)
I uncocked my shit...I'm heart-broke but I'm still loc'ed
Man, fuck a bitch!
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Mr. Terrific
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RuffDraft;2481282 said:My questions are as follows:
What happened to that relationship which caused it to end?
Why did you think that particular relationship would last?
Do you think you'll feel that same way about someone in the future? If you have already, did it surprise you?
I'm an older poster. Matter of fact had a birthday recently. I was in a long term relationship call marriage and not just of the short variety. In the end it was different perspectives on life. I'm always trying to get to the next level as far as education, career, life experiences and she was just content with being comfortable. In the beginning I thought it was going to last because of the facade that was put up by her. She is not a bad person at all but she didn't know herself. She pretended to be what I wanted and as time went on she showed her true colors. Before we broke up we had a discussion on this and I told her how disappointed I was that she 'pretended' to be what she had no desire to be.
Now...well I wouldn't say that I'm a mess but I have no interest in a serious relationship. It is on the lowest rung of my achievement pole. I'm working on my career and business ventures. I do have a female friend that I'm into. She has so far demonstrated #1 status, but I still want to be a man-whore and enjoy the freedom. In the end I can't be alone forever. We are not meant to live that way. I'm just not sure when I'll be ready to settle down again.
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think;2484438 said:You did the right thing. She downright disrespected you. Maybe the choice of words were harsh, but it was a natural reaction. Props to you for cutting her off.
I've cut off all my exes. What's the reason for keeping them around? It will just keep the pain around. Plus, it wouldn't be fair to the next girl that I'd be dating.
You're fine, don't sweat it, as she's not worth 2 seconds of your time. You'll find someone worthy, just you watch.
Did you ever feel like cutting an ex off was like losing a best friend though? Took me a while to completely rid of my ex, once you share a number of years together, you have all the same memories and things, it's tough to let go like that when you're on that level. Not that I don't think it's the right decision, because it is. But then It's a complicated one because sometimes it might be better to chalk up the loss to the relationship and work on your friendship because you appreciate that few people understand you like they do... that's just a question, not saying I stand by that...
Young-Ice;2484581 said:will munny said it best
'first loves the sweetest first cuts the deepest'
Definitely, what's strange about it though is that some people never experience it. Those that experience the 'cuts' too much, start to lose affection, integrity and belief altogether (which is quite sad).
renagade410.;2484870 said:She was a virgin and once i broke her she went buck wild and blamed it on me cheating a looooooooon time ago
I thought it would last cuz we had been togethjer so long....dumbass logic but when your 16 or so it made sense then especially when everybody just messin around
I feel the same way with my girl now but that also makes me fear that the same results could happen....im old enough now to where if they do i understand thats life....
So you cheated on her before you took her virginity? There's no reason to seek revenge, she should have accepted the fact that you cheated and moved on with the relationship, or flat out decided that what you did was unacceptable and broken it off with you... I guess that's pointing out the obvious though.
Yeah definitely, I've discussed that within this post.
It's true that it's life, but it doesn't make it any easier to accept. Hopefully you'll be straight with your girl now, props for sharing :tu
American.Loo;2484907 said:I'm 28 and pretty much become jaded toward true love and all that jazz.
I honestly dont know very many happily married people. And for the record, I dont count people that have been married less than 7 years as "happily married". lemme know how you feel when yall been married like 12 years bruh.
Also, i feel like this generation has become far too "social". Blame the web. Its impossible to let the past be the past when old flames are one click away. Your spouse can cheat on you without even leaving the house now. so yeah, i doubt i'll ever be married.
but thats just me. i still love women and dating, but that about it.
Yeah, I agree with your post, I feel like that part of peoples vernacular has somewhat faded as well and being quite old fashioned in my own beliefs (or just straight up the fact that I have morals) make it difficult sometimes to accept. Because in all honesty, I'd rather have a relationship like my Grandparents than to jump from pillar to post. I just find all that stuff a headache.
think;2485123 said:I hear you. After the shit that's happened to me, I will never ever give myself fully to a woman. I will always hold back.
Did she just take advantage of your kindness?
Mr. Terrific;2485779 said:I'm an older poster. Matter of fact had a birthday recently. I was in a long term relationship call marriage and not just of the short variety. In the end it was different perspectives on life. I'm always trying to get to the next level as far as education, career, life experiences and she was just content with being comfortable. In the beginning I thought it was going to last because of the facade that was put up by her. She is not a bad person at all but she didn't know herself. She pretended to be what I wanted and as time went on she showed her true colors. Before we broke up we had a discussion on this and I told her how disappointed I was that she 'pretended' to be what she had no desire to be.
Now...well I wouldn't say that I'm a mess but I have no interest in a serious relationship. It is on the lowest rung of my achievement pole. I'm working on my career and business ventures. I do have a female friend that I'm into. She has so far demonstrated #1 status, but I still want to be a man-whore and enjoy the freedom. In the end I can't be alone forever. We are not meant to live that way. I'm just not sure when I'll be ready to settle down again.
I like how you say you had a birthday recently, but won't share the age haha I'm getting closer to being like that... Hope you have a good birthday :tu
It's a shame that she put up that front, she must have wanted to be with someone with drive that's similar, but did her laid back approach affect your drive? What did you expect from her? Did she start off driven and just slowly fade back to the way she always was?
Definitely enjoy the freedom, especially after marriage, I'm at a point now where I've exhausted that freedom. Has your female friend demonstrated interest? Would you take it there?
Props for sharing :tu
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TheEyeronic1;2486672 said:very very very good thread...
Thanks, care to contribute?
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TheEyeronic1;2486831 said:ha, i wish i could. i cant...just yet.
maybe in like a week or so.
haha I hope that doesn't mean your relationships on the rocks, props anyways :tu
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Mr. Terrific
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RuffDraft;2486658 said:I like how you say you had a birthday recently, but won't share the age haha I'm getting closer to being like that... Hope you have a good birthday :tu
It's a shame that she put up that front, she must have wanted to be with someone with drive that's similar, but did her laid back approach affect your drive? What did you expect from her? Did she start off driven and just slowly fade back to the way she always was?
Definitely enjoy the freedom, especially after marriage, I'm at a point now where I've exhausted that freedom. Has your female friend demonstrated interest? Would you take it there?
Props for sharing :tu
My b-day was cool. Very chill and laid back. My friends broke me last year. Straight up white boy wasted. Blackouts and everything. This year I just wanted to chill. I hit 33.
She never affected my drive because I was carrying the both of us. It was when I said that she had the capacity to be more and tried to encourage her did I see that she was comfortable in just 'making it'. It was always something that kept her from finishing classes, working out, trying something new in life. Initially, I think she put forth an effort to shut me up. That never should be the case because one will revert back to what they truly are most of the time. Me on the other hand thought she was doing whatever it was for her own personal growth. So she would get on the new 'it' kick for about a month and then stop doing it. I ask about it and get some half ass answer. That shit built up inside me. Next thing I know I'm doing stuff by myself and not really missing her. Anyways.....
My friend, she is finally a free woman. She is enjoying life but hints at wanting to be with me. She has her own path to take and is focused on that. We don't know if we will have a chance to develop the friendship that we have to the next level. I would take it there if/when the time is right. She is the measuring stick for other women that come in my life. She so far embodies what I look for in a woman.
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