So me and my wife of 2 years (on and off girlfriend since 199) are getting a

[ms.jones]

Wow...cheated, got the jump preggo, and now he's unhappy. Didn't see that one coming.

 

[DarcSkies]

Wow...cheated, got the jump preggo, and now he's unhappy. Didn't see that one coming.

You neither huh?

 

[louis the great]

Atleast you got the kids. So she already put the nail in her own coffin. Homie go get that custody and handle your bizz. If I was you I wouldnt even be trippin at all.

 

[ms.jones]

Atleast you got the kids. So she already put the nail in her own coffin. Homie go get that custody and handle your bizz. If I was you I wouldnt even be trippin at all.

Not exactly...he has to prove beyond a shadow of doubt that she abandoned the kids...he's already stated that she still has interaction with them...

 

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[louis the great]

Not exactly...he has to prove beyond a shadow of doubt that she abandoned the kids...he's already stated that she still has interaction with them...

Interaction isnt support. Yea she probably call and what not but that dont mean to much at the end of the day.

 

[ceothachosen1]

get that child support

 

[797mrtemp797]

Same shit happened to my cousin man. I got mad respect for ya man. Hang in there man. You'll be alright!!

 

[ms.jones]

Interaction isnt support. Yea she probably call and what not but that dont mean to much at the end of the day.

Hmmm...sounds like another D.Wade situation....I can't call it...they both sound like they got a lot of growing up to do.

 

[louis the great]

Hmmm...sounds like another D.Wade situation....I can't call it...they both sound like they got a lot of growing up to do.

True he should have known better.

 

[MACPAT II]

Damn man you been keeping a life journal on the IC? Some people don't forget shit. Well with this new information can't say I blame her. Seems she has been dealing with your shit for a minute and probably just got fed up or had someone talk some sense into her. Seems like its time for both of you to just move on and it sounds like the kids will likely be in better hands with you anyway. So just accept the situation and move on with your life.

 

[gns]

i plan on leaving for a contracting job in qatar for a while so that would jus be a waste of time....now if i dont get the security clearance then YESSSSSS I AM

has security clearance.....wa-paaa

 

[Disciplined InSight]

You're sharing your wife.

 

[#1 pick]

i'm confused, you've been married for only 2 years and together longer, or you were married when you were 18?

if you want your kids living with you, you should be happy then.

kinda related, my husband's baby mama has for the 2nd time dropped their son off at our doorstep, like "you take him, i can't take care of him anymore". the first time she did it, she had primary physical custody and just up and moved downsouth and came back a year later after having another baby, thought his son was just coming to visit. but she tells him "oh i can't take care of both kids, you gotta keep him", which we did.

then 3 years later (last dec) she's upset cuz she was put on child support (she just would not contribute any other way) so she fabricated allegations that my hubby is physically abusive to their son. it was investigated and found baseless, but during the investigation, they had given her primary physical custody. and like a month ago, she drops him off, like "i'm going thru stuff wit my husband, prolly gettin a divorce, you take him". my husband's just fed up with her bullshit at this point and has filed for full custody.

i'd recommend getting all this stuff on paper cuz divorces can get messy, and the courts aren't always fair towards the father in these situations

Damn Kai, your husband has a babymama

 

[King Erauno]

yall been together too damn long. she wants to see what else is out there and see if the grass is greener. she'll come running back

 

[The Jackal]

Nigga you better go to the courts and file for child support. Stop fucking around and get that money

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

Maybe she needed to take some time to herself, maybe digest everything without disrupting the lives of the children and taking them from you
OR
maybe in her head you are "stuck" with the child and the baby so she might think it will "teach you some sort of lesson" to come to better appreciate her in your lives
OR
she is just simply selfish and does not care.
Moving away is a very drastic change and especially hard on the children. An 18 month old I would imagine is very attached to her so I don't know if they were taken into consideration or not in this process so only you have a better idea.

Me? I would never in my life do that.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

I think for one you should've never gotten married if you knew before hand you weren't all in...that was dumb on your part...

True story!

 

[Shuffington]

Its kind of funny that she (seems like) she doesn't want her kids.. right?. Well, not all women want their kids... they've just been fed a shitload of cultural socialization. Just as we all have. We assume that mother and child are first inline to start that unwavering natural bond thats why most women (during a split) retain custody of the child... I mean they do have to breast feed.(we assume)

As a man.. our main agenda is to Protect/Provide. By todays standards that means money. Our priority is financial. Most dudes dont want any one messing with their money. Society has men labeled this way, thats why alot of men who lost there jobs from the recession are depressed. For most men.. the minute there money game is low.. there P*ssy chances are even lower. Men (those who want to be fathers) would rather go broke raising a child alone.. then go broke raising a child through child support as a NCP imo.

So yeah... I wouldnt over think it... I would just get it recognized legally in some capacity.

 

[goat334]

i plan on leaving for a contracting job in qatar for a while so that would jus be a waste of time....now if i dont get the security clearance then YESSSSSS I AM

So the kids are going with you or what????