Shacking up and the unwritten rule

[DRO]

i always hated that expression

the bills are real, the sex is real, the day-to-day issues are real.

The same problems you face getting married are the same ones you face in a co-habitation.

Only difference is, once sh** hits the fan (which happens half the time) you can walk away minus alot of headaches.

bruh... U aint just gone walk away from no relationship that you've been in for yeeeeeeeaaarrrsss!

Hell, in some places it becomes a common law marriage

if u stay that long, u might as well work out ya problems

 

[Midwest_Penny]

bruh... U aint just gone walk away from no relationship that you've been in for yeeeeeeeaaarrrsss!

Hell, in some places it becomes a common law marriage

if u stay that long, u might as well work out ya problems

no ring, no kids, give the bird the deuces

staying together to work out yo problems sucka shit

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

bruh... U aint just gone walk away from no relationship that you've been in for yeeeeeeeaaarrrsss!

Hell, in some places it becomes a common law marriage

if u stay that long, u might as well work out ya problems

If things are that bad and there's absolutely no resolving any of it, you should be thankful you are able to walk away before there are kids involved and things get that much more difficult.

 

[caddo man]

If things are that bad and there's absolutely no resolving any of it, you should be thankful you are able to walk away before there are kids involved and things get that much more difficult.

If you have been in a relationship for years. There are usually kids involved. Really 9/10 times there are kids after a year or two staying together.

 

[phantom0900]

bruh... U aint just gone walk away from no relationship that you've been in for yeeeeeeeaaarrrsss!

Hell, in some places it becomes a common law marriage

if u stay that long, u might as well work out ya problems

That sounds like settling IMO. I think a lot of people cheat, and lead unfullfilled lives because they settle as opposed to just letting the relationship run its course and letting it end when it is over. Dont work so hard to keep it alive. A strong relationship doesnt come easy, but it shouldnt be a huge struggle all the time.

 

[fullfledged]

That sounds like settling IMO. I think a lot of people cheat, and lead unfullfilled lives because they settle as opposed to just letting the relationship run its course and letting it end when it is over. Dont work so hard to keep it alive. A strong relationship doesnt come easy, but it shouldnt be a huge struggle all the time.

Agreed. The time you waste on a love that is dead could be spent on someone else starting anew.

 

[young law]

this shit is nearly always a financial thing

people like freedom

no

people luv freedom

so when folks have to rely on someone else to have a home,u know shit aint right

all i got to say is, watch what happen when one of them come up.

sure yo man luv you and do his best to keep the house together,

but his ass is one good job interview away from leaving

 

[Bussy_Getta]

i cant do it................

 

[Truerap]

i cant do it................

not the first time i heard you say that.

 

[kat2180]

this shit is nearly always a financial thing

people like freedom

no

people luv freedom

so when folks have to rely on someone else to have a home,u know shit aint right

all i got to say is, watch what happen when one of them come up.

sure yo man luv you and do his best to keep the house together,

but his ass is one good job interview away from leaving

Thats an extremely cynical point of view.

 

[haute]

Shacking up works for some

Just not for me

I'm not going through the headaches unless I plan on going all the way

 

[young law]

Thats an extremely cynical point of view.

if you say so hum
me personally,
i have seen it time and time again

money look funny,
move in together to save money

life gets back on track,
relationship over

 

[Shuffington]

If you have been in a relationship for years. There are usually kids involved. Really 9/10 times there are kids after a year or two staying together.

yeah.. its a high likely hood that shacking up will lead to a pregnancy

 

[damnkp]

since i got married too early i never had chance to shack up...but why would a single man give up all that freedom to live with a woman he doesn't plan on marrying?

 

[willhustle]

My thing is this...

Why play house?..why be at home with a man/woman.. Doing married things (trips, bills, sex, arguing, puttin up with nonsense) and that shyt aint official?



If u gone do allll of that plus more, just make it official

imo its like working for a company and not getting benefits...

One of the smartest post I done read in here so far.That "playing house" shit is for the birds you do that shit once you married not before then this is why so many dudes get put out at the end and is either in the streets or back living w/they mama.

 

[TokyoRose]

Tried it for a week..... that's as long as I lasted. The experience did shed light onto how things can be once you do get married. And I learned a lot

I mean, I understand why people move in before marriage to see if they can stand living together. Its a transition, a major change you have to be ready for.

it's one thing to be in a relationship, spend a night here and there but you can always go back to the comforts of your home, and do the things you are use to doing, your privacy, your space...you may think you know a persons habits but you never really know until you move in. so after my week's stint I cant blame people for testing it out because I would hate to be the person who doesn't know how to swim being pushed in the deep end all because now" we are married" and thats they way it's supposed to be...can i splash in the shallow end first?

 

[caddo man]

we lived together while we were engaged be4 we got married, i don't know if that counts as shacking up. i can say, it doesn't seem smart to live with someone you don't plan on being committed to and with for a long time.

The problem is they plan on being with that person for a long time but this decision is made after only a couple of months. At least give it a year or a year and a half!

And no you were engaged. I moved in with my wife and her mother six months before our wedding to help save money. F-up part was we couldnt sleep in the same bed.

 

[caddo man]

Tried it for a week..... that's as long as I lasted. The experience did shed light onto how things can be once you do get married. And I learned a lot

I mean, I understand why people move in before marriage to see if they can stand living together. Its a transition, a major change you have to be ready for.

it's one thing to be in a relationship, spend a night here and there but you can always go back to the comforts of your home, and do the things you are use to doing, your privacy, your space...you may think you know a persons habits but you never really know until you move in. so after my week's stint I cant blame people for testing it out because I would hate to be the person who doesn't know how to swim being pushed in the deep end all because now" we are married" and thats they way it's supposed to be...can i splash in the shallow end first?

You know but you just tend to overlook them.
She may clean up before you come over but that pile of clothes in the corner just never seem to go down.
Her cell never stay on. A sign she is either broke or forget to pay her bill. Bad credit.
Her fridge only has the meal she is about to cook you or she never cooked for you, sign she doesnt cook.
Never answers the phone in front of you. You know the sign.