Shacking up and the unwritten rule

[Real Lady]

it trips me out that some people are in denial that others really fall inlove. If people want to shack up or get married, leave them alone. love is love. People who never fell inlove for-real want others to prove their love for each other by making up these rules and regulations that suppose to diagnose what real love is. Real love really don't give a fuck, if you want to know the truth. When people fall inlove they don't give a fuck about impressions or rules. It is what it is. U fight u make up, you break up, you get back together, you say shit u don't mean, you hurt you cry u laugh. It's not a perfect picture, but all this bullshit people come up with to prove others are not inlove, is just jealousy coming from the ones that never fell inlove for-real.

 

[salamerican1]

it trips me out that some people are in denial that others really fall inlove. If people want to shack up or get married, leave them alone. love is love. People who never fell inlove for-real want others to prove their love for each other by making up these rules and regulations that suppose to diagnose what real love is. Real love really don't give a fuck, if you want to know the truth. When people fall inlove they don't give a fuck about impressions or rules. It is what it is. U fight u make up, you break up, you get back together, you say shit u don't mean, you hurt you cry u laugh. It's not a perfect picture, but all this bullshit people come up with to prove others are not inlove, is just jealousy coming from the ones that never fell inlove for-real.

Even Otis Redding is looking at you from hevean with the lemon face thinkin' kill yo self and that beautiful nigga loved EVERYBODY, #truestory

anyway, man I'm thinkin' of movin' in with this chick i USED to mess around with, but then i moved outta town and for 4 months we aint been in touch.

Just a few days ago we chopped it up and i mentioned to her my plans of moving out and she proposed that i come stay with her. She said she'd only charge me 170/month and that got me like DAYM WORD?

But fuck i don't wanna feel tied down to somebody right now so i'll just make that straight with her

The thing that urks me though is what if we do some shit on some "spur of the moment" shit, no dj quikk

 

[J-GUTTA]

Must be a young cat who wasn't looking beyond getting in-house pussy.

No he's about 30 just doesn't want to get married. His girl has it together too a lawyer and down to earth when I met her. But that's face value who knows. Son is crazy though when he told me he's trying to work it out becasue he would miss the dogs.

 

[kat2180]

If we're living together, you are mine and mine only. This ain't a roommate situation.

 

[Mindstarter]

My thing is this...

Why play house?..why be at home with a man/woman.. Doing married things (trips, bills, sex, arguing, puttin up with nonsense) and that shyt aint official?

If u gone do allll of that plus more, just make it official

imo its like working for a company and not getting benefits...

Excatly. If I were to ever shack up with someone (Im not plannig on to, just saying) I would treat them like a roommate first, gf/bf second. Meaning that we pay 50/50 on the rent and utilities and no joint accounts. I'm not going to tie my finances to someone who Im not tied to legally....fuck that.

 

[salamerican1]

If we're living together, you are mine and mine only. This ain't a roommate situation.

Type shit said that would make me go ape shit on a chick

specially if i'm payin' mufuckin' rent

 

[J-GUTTA]

If we're living together, you are mine and mine only. This ain't a roommate situation.

So Kat do ya'll split the rent or is it you pay the rent and I'll pay the rest type shit?

 

[kat2180]

So Kat do ya'll split the rent or is it you pay the rent and I'll pay the rest type shit?

We don't even do it like that..it's what's due and who gets paid by then type of thing.

He's a generous person, so he doesn't split hairs. He know he makes more so he takes more financial responsibility. If there comes a time that he needs money (like when he got let go) he knows I would hold him down.

 

[kat2180]

Type shit said that would make me go ape shit on a chick

specially if i'm payin' mufuckin' rent

The fuck?

So you're living with your woman and still living single at the same time? Fuuuuuck that.

 

[J-GUTTA]

We don't even do it like that..it's what's due and who gets paid by then type of thing.

He's a generous person, so he doesn't split hairs. He know he makes more so he takes more financial responsibility. If there comes a time that he needs money (like when he got let go) he knows I would hold him down.

So is this the nice way of you saying he pays most of the bills yo? BTW did ya'll ever give that money back?

 

[salamerican1]

The fuck?

So you're living with your woman and still living single at the same time? Fuuuuuck that.

She aint my chick, she's "technically" my ex, we aint livin' together yet we........

You know what fuck you, i done posted my situation on the page before

A nigga just not relevant enough for his opinion or input to be of any importance

you right my nigga, fuck my ideals

 

[lighthearted25]

Funny this thread was made cuz my boyfriend and I thinking about shacking up. I'm struggling on bills so having some help is my main concern but I'm still iffy about it. I can see drama unfolding, like if that nigga didn't come home till late when I know he been off work or vice versa.

 

[blackrain]

Funny this thread was made cuz my boyfriend and I thinking about shacking up. I'm struggling on bills so having some help is my main concern but I'm still iffy about it. I can see drama unfolding, like if that nigga didn't come home till late when I know he been off work or vice versa.

why wouldn't that be an issue even if ya'll live apart?

 

[Louis Cipher]

why wouldn't that be an issue even if ya'll live apart?

^^^this...

 

[lighthearted25]

why wouldn't that be an issue even if ya'll live apart?

I guess because I don't be on him like that and he's not on me. Like I don't have to know where he is 24/7 but I feel like if we lived together I'd wanna know. If he's not with me in bed late at night I'm gonna start wondering as opposed to now when he isn't with me at night I just assume he with friends at his place or sleep. Yea I know doesn't quite make sense.

* activates GPS app on boyfriend's phone*

 

[blackrain]

I guess because I don't be on him like that and he's not on me. Like I don't have to know where he is 24/7 but I feel like if we lived together I'd wanna know. If he's not with me in bed late at night I'm gonna start wondering as opposed to now when he isn't with me at night I just assume he with friends at his place or sleep. Yea I know doesn't quite make sense.

* activates GPS app on boyfriend's phone*

so long as you know the bold if you ever try to explain it to him and expect an actual response

 

[lighthearted25]

so long as you know the bold if you ever try to explain it to him and expect an actual response

Lol.......

 

[raevanaa]

When shacking up with someone, it sometimes is for financial reasons but most of the time it is for relationship reasons. There is a unwritten rule on Shacking up and by my understanding it is the default to marriage rule. Just act like you are married and you should not have a problem.

Most of time guys have a problem with this rule because they arent trying to make that type of commitment. Even though they are sleeping in the bed every night with the same person. That commitment part just never seems to materialize.

Most women use this rule to the fullest but they do not convey this rule to their S/O. It suppose to be understood from the time the addresses were changed. You stay in the same residence, you have on an imaginery ring on.

What are your intepretation of the rules when shacking up?

shacking up=playing house=pretending like you're married until you actually get married.

don't invite someone in your home if you don't intend to spend the rest of your life with them

 

[kat2180]

So is this the nice way of you saying he pays most of the bills yo? BTW did ya'll ever give that money back?

We both put in..it ain't like he's paying all the bills and I'm just working for spending money.

And nope, he kept it and hasn't heard shit about it since.

 

[caddo man]

I guess because I don't be on him like that and he's not on me. Like I don't have to know where he is 24/7 but I feel like if we lived together I'd wanna know. If he's not with me in bed late at night I'm gonna start wondering as opposed to now when he isn't with me at night I just assume he with friends at his place or sleep. Yea I know doesn't quite make sense.

* activates GPS app on boyfriend's phone*

This makes sense. It is easy to assume when you dont live with that person. But when live with that person and can see that they are not at home at 3am. That is when the problem occur.