Settling in relationships

[Westie]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

 

[Rasta.]

@Kat see you in your inbox in 5 minutes!

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

cop out

 

[Westie]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

cop out

Ok you're like #2 on that list.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

cop out

Ok you're like #2 on that list.

 

[Westie]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

cop out

Ok you're like #2 on that list.

*hugs*

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

Last i heard we name names on this site or nah?

You know there's not enough time in the day for that list

cop out

Ok you're like #2 on that list.

*hugs*

 

[Trollio]

You know why women luv dub?

cuz im random as fuck and im funny.

Its alway enjoyment with me, even when we argue. Never has a woman settled for me, she chose.

I'd be damned if I'm here 4th round draft pick that she got in a trade

 

[Tymoney19]

It gotta suck to be the nigga she settled for

 

[jetlifebih]

To me it be them niggas who chase females that be gettin settled on...that's just my opinion

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Hmmmm how ugly we talkin??

 

[deadeye]

Ppl just need to limit their expectations (from the start) and the shit will go as smooth as planned..

This...and the fact that when titles are bestowed on people, their attitude mostly change for the worse

Niggas want a chick that has a big ass..flat stomach ...can cook...fuck/nasty....sing in the choir....makes close to 100K..and likes sports...

 

[OmegaConflict]

Personally I would like some of the people in this thread (on this site in general) to keep their unreasonably high expectations cuz some of you really need to stay alone.

@cuntlyfe

shots..

 

[Cunt_Lyfe]

This 'head over heals' shit is problematic. Lol. What does that mean exactly, @Cunt_Lyfe‌? Explain that concept to me. Serious question.

"Head over heels", in my opinion, is basically where you feel a deep connection with person you're seeing.

You feel them.

I'm not talking about that high school rush of infatuation shit, but that real soulful type of shit.

Lol. Yeah, aight. Head over heels = a deep connection. Cool.

And this is probably why you will end up divorced at 35 with a bitch you don't really even love.

Good luck.

 

[Cunt_Lyfe]

"If you’re under 30 and in a relationship right now, and you’re not head over heels, get out. You are way too young to be wasting your time with someone who doesn’t make you really happy to be with them every day. There’s nothing sadder than watching 23-year-olds settle."

--Carolyn Hall

Actually, there's nothing sadder than seeing anyone settle at any age.

What a dumb quote

Interesting. Care to explain why?

Because most people aren't instantly head over heels for their s/o.

I didn't see where she "instantly" head over heels, do you?

I see the part where she says if you're not then you shouldn't bother

Why should you bother staying in a relationship if you're not head over heels?

The person is basically your roommate at that point.

Because that's unrealistic.

lol..people aren't just 'head over heels' throughout an entire lifelong commitment.

Or maybe you just haven't met the right person to make you feel that way.

It seems like people expect feelings like that to disappear over time when I think it should get stronger the longer you are together.

Serious question, what's the longest relationship you've had? Relationships go through strain and stress for everyone. Staying in love is a choice and a hell of a lot of work. No one skips through a long term relationship with no problems. You don't like the person you're in love with all the time. Even parents don't like their kids all the time.

I know relationships go through hard ships. Every relationship does.

Being "in love" to me is not about flowery, sweet type of shit and ignoring the bullshit.

It's about maintaining a deep connection and purpose of being with someone while you still do.

People can have that but honestly it fades. Everyone gets used to each other. It comes back, but, yes, at some point that person will have nothing new under the sun to say to you. And you just have to work to renew that feeling.

I feel what you're saying. I just honestly can find someone to be with where y'all are are growing together. But if it's not even there in the beginning, then I do think that it is settling in some regard.

Problem with what you quoted though is that it doesn't allow for that time where those feelings grow into that "head over heels" feeling. It's written as if the relationship starts off on that level. Nobody starts off head over heels in love. That grows over time and gets stronger over time. That's what's unrealistic about it.

*shrugs*

I still don't disagree with her.

And the woman who wrote that is a divorcee, so she's been married before so maybe that's why she's so adamant about it.

 

[mryounggun]

This 'head over heals' shit is problematic. Lol. What does that mean exactly, @Cunt_Lyfe‌? Explain that concept to me. Serious question.

"Head over heels", in my opinion, is basically where you feel a deep connection with person you're seeing.

You feel them.

I'm not talking about that high school rush of infatuation shit, but that real soulful type of shit.

Lol. Yeah, aight. Head over heels = a deep connection. Cool.

And this is probably why you will end up divorced at 35 with a bitch you don't really even love.

Good luck.

You mad? Simmer down, Cunt.

 

[Cunt_Lyfe]

This 'head over heals' shit is problematic. Lol. What does that mean exactly, @Cunt_Lyfe‌? Explain that concept to me. Serious question.

"Head over heels", in my opinion, is basically where you feel a deep connection with person you're seeing.

You feel them.

I'm not talking about that high school rush of infatuation shit, but that real soulful type of shit.

Lol. Yeah, aight. Head over heels = a deep connection. Cool.

And this is probably why you will end up divorced at 35 with a bitch you don't really even love.

Good luck.

You mad? Simmer down, Cunt.

Why would I be mad? It's your life. Live it how you see fit.

 

[topoftheworld]

It gotta suck to be the nigga she settled for

@Tymoney19‌ I think we have a couple of things going on here.

1. I read the thread but didn't see if you discussed your history with this young lady. we females are notorious for downplaying stuff to appease a male's ego. he may not be a "ninja turtle" after all.

2. life is a conglomerate of decisions and concessions for self-fulfillment and advancement. some direct, most indirect. maybe she knows exactly what she wants (companionship, family building, etc) and is taking the appropriate steps for realization, albeit via undesired means according to family and friends.

3. attractiveness is subjective and is subject to change at any time. when I met my high school sweetheart at 15, I didn't think he was cute at all. not even a little bit. in the months that I got to know him, I became physically attracted to him. we stayed together for six years. most times I couldn't even fantasize about anyone else, lol. funny I know.

 

[mryounggun]

This 'head over heals' shit is problematic. Lol. What does that mean exactly, @Cunt_Lyfe‌? Explain that concept to me. Serious question.

"Head over heels", in my opinion, is basically where you feel a deep connection with person you're seeing.

You feel them.

I'm not talking about that high school rush of infatuation shit, but that real soulful type of shit.

Lol. Yeah, aight. Head over heels = a deep connection. Cool.

And this is probably why you will end up divorced at 35 with a bitch you don't really even love.

Good luck.

You mad? Simmer down, Cunt.

Why would I be mad? It's your life. Live it how you see fit.

Only you can answer that, Cunt! I dunno. You just sound angry. But you say you ain't, so I take you at your word! Good talk though, Cunt!

 

[Cunt_Lyfe]

LMAO. K.