Settling in relationships

[mryounggun]

That wasn't as clever as I anticipated, looking back at it. Fuck! SMH.

 

[Like Water]

It gotta suck to be the nigga she settled for

You tell that broad she ain't got enough goin for herself to be disrespecting the Turtles.

Flat ass... No tits... And a "decent" face? Not to mention she obviously has a bird brain... Hell, to me it sounds like the nigga in the relationship is the one settling.

These nuthin ass niggas need to stop gassing up these nuthin ass bitches and we'd see instances like this decrease dramatically.

 

[T. Sanford]

Running out of time for what exactly?

She's a 27 yr old single mom she thinks if she hits 30 and can't find a man she's gonna be alone forever

Before her relationship, she seem like she one of them type of chicks that always state that she is bored in her status & always gotta remind social network that she is single......."I'm bored, send me some colors"......."single life"....."ready to settle down" #TeamSingle# #TeamBored#

I can't take chicks like that seriously

 

[blackrain]

"If you’re under 30 and in a relationship right now, and you’re not head over heels, get out. You are way too young to be wasting your time with someone who doesn’t make you really happy to be with them every day. There’s nothing sadder than watching 23-year-olds settle."

--Carolyn Hall

Actually, there's nothing sadder than seeing anyone settle at any age.

What a dumb quote

Interesting. Care to explain why?

Because most people aren't instantly head over heels for their s/o.

I didn't see where she "instantly" head over heels, do you?

I see the part where she says if you're not then you shouldn't bother

Why should you bother staying in a relationship if you're not head over heels?

The person is basically your roommate at that point.

Because that's unrealistic.

lol..people aren't just 'head over heels' throughout an entire lifelong commitment.

Or maybe you just haven't met the right person to make you feel that way.

It seems like people expect feelings like that to disappear over time when I think it should get stronger the longer you are together.

Serious question, what's the longest relationship you've had? Relationships go through strain and stress for everyone. Staying in love is a choice and a hell of a lot of work. No one skips through a long term relationship with no problems. You don't like the person you're in love with all the time. Even parents don't like their kids all the time.

I know relationships go through hard ships. Every relationship does.

Being "in love" to me is not about flowery, sweet type of shit and ignoring the bullshit.

It's about maintaining a deep connection and purpose of being with someone while you still do.

People can have that but honestly it fades. Everyone gets used to each other. It comes back, but, yes, at some point that person will have nothing new under the sun to say to you. And you just have to work to renew that feeling.

I feel what you're saying. I just honestly can find someone to be with where y'all are are growing together. But if it's not even there in the beginning, then I do think that it is settling in some regard.

Problem with what you quoted though is that it doesn't allow for that time where those feelings grow into that "head over heels" feeling. It's written as if the relationship starts off on that level. Nobody starts off head over heels in love. That grows over time and gets stronger over time. That's what's unrealistic about it.

*shrugs*

I still don't disagree with her.

And the woman who wrote that is a divorcee, so she's been married before so maybe that's why she's so adamant about it.

That may have something to do with her unrealistic expectations lol.

 

[Dr.Chemix]

LOL...lonely hoes man.

So basically she settled with that nigga until something better comes along so she won't be alone

Even worse, the nigga is clueless, not picking up on the signs that she's a lonely bird looking for somewhere to perch

In essence, that nigga has paid her retainer fees.

He lost.

 

[Westie]

Y'all reap the benefits of desperate bitches all the time. Cut the bullshit.

 

[aneed123]

Eh.

Humans are going to initially judge someone by their appearance, but a man is more likely to gradually become more attractive to a woman as he displays other attractive non-physical traits.

I don't think that's necessarily settling, just recognizing what's more important in the long run.

ie money and good sex game. She gone cheat on dude too

 

[Chi Snow]

We've all had situationships:

Good sex, bad relationships..............

 

[shit happens]

Loca don't een know how her pussy works properly yet

And yall expected her to come up with some mind bowing explanations about her post

Shawty is jus wishful thinking hoping happily ever after is really nirvana

 

[So ILL]

It gotta suck to be the nigga she settled for

It'll only suck for him when something better comes around or if she's pissed off.