Poly-life or nah...

[MallyG]

why cant you get a dildo an hold the nigga at night?

Because she thinks that he's a "nice guy". The minute a woman starts thinking that about her guy it's a wrap.

I actually want him to get another woman, but he doesn't think that she'll go for it.

Besides, who gets jealous over a nigga who plays the game all the time???

The fact that he feels that way plays a part in you not finding him attractive anymore subconsciously I'm sure. Now I see why you labeled him a "nice guy". He's at a point in life where he's always afraid to try. Wouldn't be surprised if people pleasing is a priority to him in life and it never should be.

He needs to work on himself cause it sounds like he's got self confidence/self love issues. If he doesn't nip it in the bud that will affect his love life and everything else for the rest of his days. No matter what until that is done every woman he encounters will want to be ghost and as far away from him as possible after a while just like you right now.

I don't believe that some men want to be monogamous.

I'd respect a man more for telling me what he is and isn't built for.

And he's not built for poly-life.

I wouldn't call it 'people-pleasing' but some of our problems stem from the fact that he doesn't want to have an argument. For me, that's an issue.

W/ all due respect.... that's bird logic b.

 

[Rozetta5tone]

Let me see your pussy. All those kids, I need to see the what that vag lookin like

 

[MistyKnight]

Here's the deal.

I just had a baby and his dad and I are cool. He 'loves' me and I think that he's a 'nice guy', but between his health and a lack of sex, I think that we should have an open relationship.

But.....there's more.

The middle son's dad and I have been playing with the idea of being polygynous. (Polygyny is a man having up to 4 wives).

He wants to work full-time while me and the other woman have part-time jobs/go to school. He is her kid's dad, as well. I genuinely care about her, too. Like, I'll go to war over her.

The catch is that he wants us to move to Detroit. And idk if I can do that.

I'm torn by what is good for me vs what's good for the kids.

What yall think?

Being a stay at home mom with a newborn and a toddler is the hardest shit ever :s

Thanks for this @Copper

Maybe it isn't as hard as I think it is, but everything SEEMS harder when you're running on little to no sleep for months lol

 

[anduin]

I can't lie.

I'm surprised by the responses.

You're not going to find the kind of response you're expecting. I understand your mentality but the amount of people that would accept that is low. For some it's an ego violation of what they'd feel is sharing their woman.

If you can pull it off, all the power to you but everything has to be out in the open. This poly shit is way easier for women imo but being honest is key to it all. People who accept it fully are the ones who can make it work, any hesitation or doubt and it comes back around to implode.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

This thot anthem is on MPR's current playlist....

Love Galore >>>>>>>

This song is trash.

Idk why people like it so much.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

I can't lie.

I'm surprised by the responses.

You're not going to find the kind of response you're expecting. I understand your mentality but the amount of people that would accept that is low. For some it's an ego violation of what they'd feel is sharing their woman.

If you can pull it off, all the power to you but everything has to be out in the open. This poly shit is way easier for women imo but being honest is key to it all. People who accept it fully are the ones who can make it work, any hesitation or doubt and it comes back around to implode.

To be fair, if I had the option I wouldn't step out and I wouldn't think about having a side nigga.

And if he were to have another woman, I'd be cool with it too.

 

[Kai]

why cant you get a dildo an hold the nigga at night?

Because she thinks that he's a "nice guy". The minute a woman starts thinking that about her guy it's a wrap.

I actually want him to get another woman, but he doesn't think that she'll go for it.

Besides, who gets jealous over a nigga who plays the game all the time???

The fact that he feels that way plays a part in you not finding him attractive anymore subconsciously I'm sure. Now I see why you labeled him a "nice guy". He's at a point in life where he's always afraid to try. Wouldn't be surprised if people pleasing is a priority to him in life and it never should be.

He needs to work on himself cause it sounds like he's got self confidence/self love issues. If he doesn't nip it in the bud that will affect his love life and everything else for the rest of his days. No matter what until that is done every woman he encounters will want to be ghost and as far away from him as possible after a while just like you right now.

I don't believe that some men want to be monogamous.

I'd respect a man more for telling me what he is and isn't built for.

And he's not built for poly-life.

I wouldn't call it 'people-pleasing' but some of our problems stem from the fact that he doesn't want to have an argument. For me, that's an issue.

That's what happens when men become too passive. Women love conflict. That's why I stopped biting my tongue ages ago. No fucks left to give.

By not speaking up and telling me details that could prevent things from happening, you are creating a problem.

I.e., I wanted to order a pizza because I had some coupons.

I called, placed the order, and fell asleep. I would periodically wake up to see if the pizza came. Each time, he would go to the living room.

After an HOUR AND A HALF, he tells me 'idk why you ordered from there. They always messing up our orders'. He followed up with 'I kept asking my bro if it had came and him and his gf said the same thing..they always messing up orders'.

How would I have known that they mess up orders if he hadn't spoke up?

Whyyyy would you even let me order from them if that was the case??

The shit pmo because it was for MY SON. Smmfh

Wait, what? This is an argument? This shit so damn immature minded. And why you need to wait an hour and a half to figure out they fucked up the order. Maybe it just slipped his mind about how they be fucking up orders or he ain't know where you ordered from at first.

All that to say this, you seem immature as hell and if this is how you are with a one on one relationship. Trust me, there's no way you are level headed and forward thinking enough to handle all the challenges and nuances of your man having two women. If you were you wouldn't have 3 baby daddies.

Leave ibs boy if you're not happy, but don't move his baby away from him, that's super selfish. Oh and don't come to Detroit, niggas will scoop the other chick and have y'all forced back into monogamy lol

 

[AggieLean.]

Yea, don’t take that niggas son away.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

why cant you get a dildo an hold the nigga at night?

Because she thinks that he's a "nice guy". The minute a woman starts thinking that about her guy it's a wrap.

I actually want him to get another woman, but he doesn't think that she'll go for it.

Besides, who gets jealous over a nigga who plays the game all the time???

The fact that he feels that way plays a part in you not finding him attractive anymore subconsciously I'm sure. Now I see why you labeled him a "nice guy". He's at a point in life where he's always afraid to try. Wouldn't be surprised if people pleasing is a priority to him in life and it never should be.

He needs to work on himself cause it sounds like he's got self confidence/self love issues. If he doesn't nip it in the bud that will affect his love life and everything else for the rest of his days. No matter what until that is done every woman he encounters will want to be ghost and as far away from him as possible after a while just like you right now.

I don't believe that some men want to be monogamous.

I'd respect a man more for telling me what he is and isn't built for.

And he's not built for poly-life.

I wouldn't call it 'people-pleasing' but some of our problems stem from the fact that he doesn't want to have an argument. For me, that's an issue.

That's what happens when men become too passive. Women love conflict. That's why I stopped biting my tongue ages ago. No fucks left to give.

By not speaking up and telling me details that could prevent things from happening, you are creating a problem.

I.e., I wanted to order a pizza because I had some coupons.

I called, placed the order, and fell asleep. I would periodically wake up to see if the pizza came. Each time, he would go to the living room.

After an HOUR AND A HALF, he tells me 'idk why you ordered from there. They always messing up our orders'. He followed up with 'I kept asking my bro if it had came and him and his gf said the same thing..they always messing up orders'.

How would I have known that they mess up orders if he hadn't spoke up?

Whyyyy would you even let me order from them if that was the case??

The shit pmo because it was for MY SON. Smmfh

Wait, what? This is an argument? This shit so damn immature minded. And why you need to wait an hour and a half to figure out they fucked up the order. Maybe it just slipped his mind about how they be fucking up orders or he ain't know where you ordered from at first.

All that to say this, you seem immature as hell and if this is how you are with a one on one relationship. Trust me, there's no way you are level headed and forward thinking enough to handle all the challenges and nuances of your man having two women. If you were you wouldn't have 3 baby daddies.

Leave ibs boy if you're not happy, but don't move his baby away from him, that's super selfish. Oh and don't come to Detroit, niggas will scoop the other chick and have y'all forced back into monogamy lol

He gave me the number for the restaurant and talked to his family about how they mess up orders but never said anything to me.

We didn't argue about it, but I was salty.

I just ordered from somewhere else.

If they wanna scoop her, they can. No one is against that.

 

[Chi Snow]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

 

[Kai]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

i barely even said anything!

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

She's good.

I respect her opinion about this.

 

[Busta Carmichael]

I fucks with Kai hardbody dun

 

[Copper]

*Kai post 3 paragraphs*

"I barley said shit"

 

[nawledge_god]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

She's good.

I respect her opinion about this.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

She's good.

I respect her opinion about this.

Can't see it

 

[Copper]

Come on Kai, don’t run off another female yo

She's good.

I respect her opinion about this.

Great rebuttal

 

[D. Morgan]

This thread has some wild shit in it but I'll say this she got something going on if niggas ain't or can't pull out.

Especially if she ain't been pushed down a flight a stairs?

I don't think that.

All 3 situations had different circumstances.

You know that was a compliment right?

 

[D. Morgan]

This thread has some wild shit in it but I'll say this she got something going on if niggas ain't or can't pull out.

Especially if she ain't been pushed down a flight a stairs?

Or niggas gon nig

What's understood doesn't need to be said!

 

[MistyKnight]

This thot anthem is on MPR's current playlist....

Love Galore >>>>>>>

This song is trash.

Idk why people like it so much.

AGREE.

My top 3 is Love Galore, Supermodel and my favorite is Garden