My name is My name

[yellowtapesport]

My wife don't even use her maiden name...and I damn near forgot that shit if it wasn't for this thread..

I don't wear no ring..but if she step out the house w/out hers..she got some 'xplainin to do (Ricky Ricardo)

Any nigga think otherwise was most likely raised by women.

 

[kzzl]

My family old school, my name got a suffix... could be a deal breaker. Her record better be clean at evaluation time. But me taking on hers will not be an option.

 

[MsSouthern]

My wife don't even use her maiden name...and I damn near forgot that shit if it wasn't for this thread..

I don't wear no ring..but if she step out the house w/out hers..she got some 'xplainin to do (Ricky Ricardo)

Any nigga think otherwise was most likely raised by women.

Why is she required to wear a ring but not you ?

 

[7figz]

Damn bitch, you wanna take everything else from me but you can't take my last name ?

Fuck that,- that bitch taking my first and last name... just with the Mrs. on the front - real old school like.

My grandma was on that shit. Mr. and Mrs. His first name His last name.

Hell nah..like you aren't even a person anymore..lol.

Fuck around and make her take the middle name too, be "Mrs. Larry Herbert Harris" and shit. Gonna be confused like a MF.

(Hell no, that's not my real name)

 

[yellowtapesport]

My wife don't even use her maiden name...and I damn near forgot that shit if it wasn't for this thread..

I don't wear no ring..but if she step out the house w/out hers..she got some 'xplainin to do (Ricky Ricardo)

Any nigga think otherwise was most likely raised by women.

Why is she required to wear a ring but not you ?

She don't say nothing about it..when we first got married I told her if she want me wear a ring she gotta buy it..bout a year later she bought me some stainless steel titanium bullshit I was like dont ever let this topic come up again and tossed that shit in the trash

 

[Shuffington]

A wife who doesn't want a ring vs a wife who wants a ridiculously huge expensive diamond ring.

out of those 2 extremes i'll take the former.

 

[MsSouthern]

My wife don't even use her maiden name...and I damn near forgot that shit if it wasn't for this thread..

I don't wear no ring..but if she step out the house w/out hers..she got some 'xplainin to do (Ricky Ricardo)

Any nigga think otherwise was most likely raised by women.

Why is she required to wear a ring but not you ?

She don't say nothing about it..when we first got married I told her if she want me wear a ring she gotta buy it..bout a year later she bought me some stainless steel titanium bullshit I was like dont ever let this topic come up again and tossed that shit in the trash

Why do you not want to wear one ?

And why throw it away? At least let her return it and buy herself something nice .....

 

[MsSouthern]

A wife who doesn't want a ring vs a wife who wants a ridiculously huge expensive diamond ring.

out of those 2 extremes i'll take the former.

That's a pretty broad spectrum

What about the in between?

 

[playboy buddy rose]

What kind of nigga carry his wife last name?

bitch niggas.

Preach

 

[HerbalVaporCapers]

Couldn't care less about a potential wife taking my name.

Down for some kinda hybrid last name for the youngins. As I'm a convert to Islam they probably wouldn't have my birth surname anyway

Definitely don't care about preserving some kinda last name legacy anyway

 

[AggieLean.]

Yea, my name gotta suffix at the end too. Lord willing I have a boy and he'll be the third...non negotiable.

So, gotta have my last name...none of that hyphenated shit...my boy gotta be the third...and to top it off I'm old school, I'd like for us to be introduced as mr and mrs my first and last name. I don't think I'm requiring too much lol

 

[HundredEyes]

Its funny, here in Indonesia people in general dont have family names. Theyll give their kids brand new names and shits hilarious af....you'll think a mofo has some Western/foreign heritage but nah, the parents just made it up lol.

For example: my mother in law has a Russian name and my father in law an Italian one. They have zero ties to those nation's. Their folks just digged the names. They gave their daughter a western name...

So I allmost chocked out my father in-law when he suggested to give my son a different last name...my son carries on my fams name and my wife has my last name added to her name...

Yeah it might be Petty and egocentric shit at the end of the day...but still my kids n wifey need my last name for unison/family bond related shit.

 

[CapitalB]

im disappointed in some of the shit im readin in here! smmfh

 

[LordZuko]

Basically, a woman taking on the last name represents the union of two people and two houses. How we one, how we unified but you still wanna refer to yourself by your single name? That would plant the seed of doubt in my mind, like is this bitch all in or nah? The man is the de facto leader of the house. You gotta bitch tryna say otherwise you got other issues already.

Put it like this, how disrespected and violated would Ned Stark be if he married Catherine Tully moved her in to Winterfell but she still introduced herself as a Tully not stark?

If you wanna keep your last name, why not keep your own place? Drive your own whip, pay for your own wedding and wedding band? Fuck it let's go on separate honeymoons. Why pretend we're together when obviously the only reason you want to be married is for the status you gain.

 

[riddlerap]

Hyphen? We ain't gettin married.

Won't take my last name? We ain't gettin married.

Want the kids to have your last name? We ain't gettin married.

Won't wear the ring? We ain't gettin married.

Want me to take your last name like a bitch? We ain't gettin married and I'mma kick you out the car while it's moving.

And I ain't budging on any of that shit. It ain't up for debate, discussion, or anything. I ain't with this feminist version of marriage.

 

[LordZuko]

I'm indifferent about whether I keep my last name or change it.

Only reason I flat out wouldn't change my name is if it was something really ethnic and my husband's last name is basic. And if that's the case then the kids are also gonna have my last name Latino style.

Goddamn when Trump gonna build that wall?

Kick this bitch over it like a field goal.

 

[Preach2Teach]

No plans to get married but if I did she would take my last name or there would be no wedding, smh at women trying to dominate men and turn them into women we will never be equal, when she can't open the jam jar who steps in with the strength and handles that shit? me!

 

[jono]

If her name is important for her business (branding) then yeah she can keep it.

For a normal woman I'm not as flexible but a hyphen is debatable.

 

[blacktux]

Disgusting that its even up for discussion.

Shows how far marriage has moved from its roots.

Women love to redefine everything, but leave those old archaic laws in place #gottem.

 

[luke1733]

Fellas

If you are married ...or if you plan to get married one day

How do you feel about changing your name to your S/O ?

Would you be willing to hyphenate it like Beyoncé and Jay-Z did ?

What if your wife wanted to keep her last name and not use yours at all ?

Side note :Women weren't even allowed to keep their last name until 1972

Why is it so important to you ?

Does it matter if your kids have your last name ?

Ladies feel free to chime in too

That's like her saying I don't want to wear your ring or get me one?

At the least I would ask for her to include her paternal name in her full name, but still have mine as the last name.

That's the way the Spanish culture does and it helps with following lineages. I'm not spanish, but I agree with that.

If she's not having that then we probably wouldn't be getting married anyway cause we're gonna differ on too much other stuff.

For her to take my name means something to me. It is a form of bonding and solidarity that no other woman can share and to me represents that we are one and the same with the same name.

At the end of the day, I just won't believe someone saying there's not more to it if she doesn't want to take my name. She might say it's nothing, or try to reflect it as not being important but I call bullshit on that. There's a reason she would be doing that, because in this culture it is still tradition and for her to be that determined to challenge it when it has to do with us would bring unnecessary conflict