My gf still lives with her family at 28 + doesn't have her own car.(When did you move out ur fam?)

[Mr Popo]

She got a job and making money. She doesn't have a care because she uses her dad's. Which means she should be able to be saving even more money. How much money does she have saved up?

 

[caddo man]

Now she works, she makes her own money, full time job at the bank, and she lives comfortably thanks to being with her fam, but I'm wondering if she plans to move out or plans to just get wifed up and move out. She doesn't have her own car either. She drives her dad's car time to time.

She's a fun girl, she's a dancer, she works out, dresses well, well read, well cultured, friendly to people, squeaky clean from head to toe, classy, and sweet loving. But she's a traditionalist, she seems to talk about other ppl around her getting married a lot these days, like often. She never asks for shit, she buys me food, we split bills, she's very caring and never dips into my pocket, she'll try to pay for my gas, and all that. Take bus to come see me so I don't have to drive every time back and forth.

Now I got my own crib and car paid for, she didn't know that until we dated well over a month, and personally I'm in no rush to get married, maybe another 5 yrs or so, I got shits to accomplish. But something about her not seeming to looking for her own spot by now or her own car even by now really bothers me. I've always been around independent women who had their own pad, or drove their own car, things like that. This bothers me abit, should it?

Outside of the car thing, You described me and my wife up until we got married. She had no intentions of moving out until we got married.

19 and I was out

It only took me one time to pay that tuition out of pocket before I dipped.

 

[its....JOHN B]

Maybe she's not ready to buy a house right now and doesn't want to spend a third of the money she makes on rent and utilities, I dont know but the way you describe her it sounds like she's not reliant on her family but it benefits her and doesn't make sense to her to move out just for the sake of moving out, your really going to fault someone because she's a family oriented person? Honestly you sound like a bitch right now, I could see a bitch like Kat making a thread like this, making a thread about a guy who is perfect for her but lives with his mom and it's such a turn off, meanwhile he's making a thread on a separate forum about finding a girl whose perfect for him but has a history of sucking multiple dicks, what should he do?

 

[MsSouthern]

I moved out when I was 18

Never went back

 

[S2J]

It's always interesting that people say, I want to get married after I get things accomplished. IMO, the goal is to marry someone that will help you accomplish your goals.

I don't think most successful people have this mindset. I guess it's a generational thing.

Say bruh...Tha fuk does that even mean tho?

Not every ngga needs a 'you can do it' pat on the back. If anything I'd guess that marriage will sap that motivation and make you comfortable. Hence they call it settling down...it aint called turning up.

It can be a stay at home and watch the kids. It can be anything.

Successful people don't wait because being successful should be a life long goal. We can talk about Kings, athletes, modern entrepreneurs, Presidents.

None Of them said I want to wait until I get married or stopped after getting married. I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting, but it isn't a reason not to.

Well, i def disagree but ok...

On a related tangent i watched the Steve Jobs movie last night and that ngga was damn near bout tokill his g/f when he found out she was pregnant Lol This ws before he made it big

Ngga said 'how can you do this to me! Get out!' Lmao Only linked back up w/ her n the kid after he rolled out Apple and made millions.

Extreme example, but i think the jist of it is accurate. Usually you atleast get on your path to your goals before taking on a wife/kids.

Jobs is a good example. He had wife and kids. His last decade was his most successful.

Uh, no. Did you watch the movie or are you familiar with his story? His pivitol years, age 20-30, he was an asshole and closed off EVERYONE, even the mother of his daughter who he didnt marry until years later, and even his daughter who accordign to the movie he dint meet until years down the line.

You cant attribute his new success (on top of his already million dollar empire by that time) to him gettin married . Cmon now. He is poster child of career first, family second.(not that thats right)

 

[Sour-Cream]

Messing with a bitch that's over 25 and not independent nor putting forth effort speaks volumes further down in the relationship.

 

[caddo man]

Messing with a bitch that's over 25 and not independent nor putting forth effort speaks volumes further down in the relationship.

Not always.

 

[Ree4er Madness]

I wouldn't put much energy into her state, if she's doing her part, as you say, I wouldn't even look at where's she's at, just try and understand what she wants in her future,

long as she aint staying at home because she's lazy..she will catch the bus, don't know too many chicks that will catch the bus for a dude

This times 1000.......I don't know hardly ANY chicks who will even ride the bus PERIOD, let alone to see a dude....Sounds like a keeper...Honestly...Because chicks are embarrassed to ride the bus for whatever reason...This shows that she's humble and doesn't care what others might think about her...

 

[BeleeDatPleighboy]

What is her fam background? If theyre south east asian for example, there is a good chance her fam aint letting her go out the house untill shes married.

Yea she's Hakka chinese. Chinese but born and bred in Pakistan, somehow she looks more brown, looks filipino ish. That's why I'm easy going too, I know that family culture.

Seems like you already know the situation. If thats her culture breh...thats why she still lives there.

Real question is will you be able to deal with and be sensitive to the cultural differences if/when you marry her......

 

[MallyG]

TS, do you know how much she has stacked up? That would let me know a lil' more about her habits?

 

[YC11]

No I don't, I'll snoop around and check her bank account info. She just got a promotion at work, damn... I need to rethink this.

 

[TRILLip Brooks]

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