atribecalledgabi
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LordZuko;c-10111145 said:atribecalledgabi;c-10111119 said:LordZuko;c-10111062 said:LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY;c-10111021 said:Madame_CJSkywalker;c-10110973 said:LordZuko;c-10109624 said:Madame_CJSkywalker;c-10109586 said:LordZuko;c-10109506 said:Madame_CJSkywalker;c-10109459 said:briffault law?
while humans are animals in biology, but we have far more ability to act against instinct and to create complex systems of socialization than any other animals right?
and if you study briffault's work, there is 0 reason to believe his law has any relevance to contemporary gender roles or behavior
because you'd then be aware that the law was specifically describing the behavior of non human animals and to a lesser extent early human tribes. he also goes on to argue that those systems were replaced by male dominated systems around the time we began cultivating crops for food and such
and you have to also ignore the majority of the last 4, 5 centuries or so
and what about rape?
you still want to argue women determine the conditions on which men and women associate sexually or romantically, then you'd have to show that no statistically significant number of women had ever been broken up with
women initiate divorce 2/3 of the time, but now we're not talking about some kind of hard social power imbalance... at most, it's a tendency. not to mention recently divorced women are more likely to live in poverty
and while i agree a woman would prefer association where she gains something (protection, your company, emotion, financial security, sex) ...you can say the same of men (sex, emotion, company, children, a maid, etc). most human relationships men or women, look for something to gain, exploit, learn, trade in a relationship
research also strongly suggest women afflicted with a serious illness were at least 3 times as likely to become separated or divorced as men with similar health problems
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cncr.24577/abstract
https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/12/men-more-likely-to-leave-spouse-with-cancer/
In order for you to act against instinct you'd have to understand or be aware of subconscious desire or conditioning. Subconscious is wired to the emotions not the intellect, so what you know doesnt have as much bearing as what you feel.
There's plenty of reason to see correlation with Briffault's work and contemporary man. After all contemporary man is an invention of the industrial revolution. There is nothing that took place in the industrial revolution that conditioned humans to act against their base tribal instincts. In fact it exacerbated this instinct through basic competition for resources and need for man power. The agrarian age in regards to human history is relatively yesterday.
The development of male dominated societies does not negate the influence females have on mate selection. Unless you are about to argue that most breeding was a form of rape then you'd have to concede that females chose the highest caliber men available to them. Same as today. Women select or make themselves available to men who meet a certain standard. That's what you've been arguing in other threads and drawing as a conclusion as to why so many females are unmarried today.
my biggest contention is that only women, look for something to gain, exploit, learn, trade in a relationship
and this suggestion women show no gratitude, appreciation nor reciprocation for the past, and always look to the future for their behavior does not jive with my reality
also the link to the research about women than men being more likely to stay with spouse diagnosed with terminal illness or similarly disabled runs counter to what you would expect
what about the efforts to police women's sexuality, romantic relationships and autonomy period via the church or man made laws/policies that made women the legal property of men; gave women little to no legal existence apart from her husband/father
prior to maybe 40, 50 years ago the systematic effort to keep women from higher education and a living wage
that had no impact on male and female relations...mate selection.... or nah?
Nobody gives a shit about your personal reality or circumstances.
You're conflating a system with ground level interaction.
You'd do better if you'd made the assertion that families had more to do with mate selection than an individual woman. Because Most of Human history and Even current history marriages are arranged between families.
To Which my response would be that women had suitors according to her station. That could range from 0 to 100. It's all based on her family lot. A woman would be encouraged to choose from among her suitors with advice from the elder women.
And what you conveniently forget is the role women play in the bed chambers next to powerful men, as elder women wielding subtle covert power and influence.
The myth and narrative that women were a universally oppressed class up until 50years ago is a myth.
For each scenario you used there were laws in place that protected females from harsh punishment and bound the husband to provide for her and his children.
lol
theories begin as personal observations...the question is can they be proven, duplicated/ maintained against objections
that said, the average woman wasn't cozing up with the rich and powerful...and elder women ultimately had to yield to men
as i've always maintained at one point in time the general consensus was that women were thought to be spoils of war or and the property of their tribes/fathers/ husbands. as little as 2,3 centuries ago there were laws that stated as such
she had suitors depending on the station of her family but her father generally had ultimate veto power regardless of her thoughts on the matter
research historical record, across tribes and cultures its generally the same story..with very few exceptions
and regardless of whether or not there were laws in place that protected women from harsh punishment and bound the husband to provide for her and his children, women having rights of there own legal and otherwise that didn't derive from the men in their lives is a relatively new concept
and throughout history you could see there were concerted efforts, here in america and beyond, to keep women from owning property; credit; voting; seeking out of higher education; owning their own businesses
here in america, until the late 1970s, 80s there were state laws on the books that required women to have male relatives sign business loans and the like....
WATCH THIS VID
This the one i couldn't find.
Karen Straughan is G.O.A.T. and even she admits to her own fuckery
She's a woman so it doesn't matter what she says or does tho
Strawman Alert.
Never said that it doesn't matter what a woman does. In fact i said the exact opposite. Karen's resume is dope.
You can't even meme right bitch.
Her resume and what she does is her talking...you don't know her to know if she actually applies what she says. But if a chick here says what they do, out come the pejoratives.