Let's talk mothers and child support

[Dupac]

thing is this bitch in court talking about my money......an how I can support him.

what about doing more than just buying Jordan's every few months an saying dad got the rest.

its not about vindictive or even if I need it. what she gives ain't really shit so they increased it. now I'm getting crazy texts from her family.

it was all good while I was coughing up the dough. niggas dressing nice an clubbing every night on my dollar when my kid needed a hair cut.

shit I was paying support an still doing shi while he was with me.

but for some odd reason...she should not be subjected to the same?

I'm not doing it becuz it was done to me...but the precedent was set.

her main reason for starting support was becuz I had a daughter an she wanted to make sure she got her cut.

think about that statement for a sec. it wasn't because I wasn't doing shit...she didn't want the money fukkin up

no we understand YOUR situation...

more power to you... we're just talking in general

 

[2stepz_ahead]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

yea....I don't need it but my son does. hopefully when I finally give him all the money...he won't give it right to his mother. she already working the.....your dad is taking all my money angle. that's her new reason to not do shit now.

 

[MsSouthern]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it

All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

Easy to say when you believe in the system, but many people (especially men) don't agree with the system.

It wouldn't be pride that stops me from getting child support, it would be if I didn't need it. And not putting my kid's relationship with their other parent in the hands of a shitty system.

Like you said tho, both parents should contribute, but child support would be a last resort.

Oh no doubt the system is flawed

I see and hear a lot of men say they don't need it. But honestly you can't be 100% sure. You can't predict the future . That's why I say put the money in a college fund or invest it. Your child will be glad you did . Who cares if the other parent deems it unfair or wrong

If a parent treats their child any different because they are ordered to support their child then fuck em . That's so over the top selfish it's disgusting.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I don't get why it has to come to if you need it or not.

that can mean you child has extra or more options down the line.

shit...tuition right now is a bitch.....but its a big difference between $20k and paying $16k.

even if you have the $4k why do it all to prove you can?

for what, for who?

 

[mryounggun]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

Fam, what the fuck is this shit? LOL. Real shit, there is an epidemic on the IC of only thinking in extremes. Either you a broke nigga who NEEDS money from his baby moms or you a fuck nigga who is using your kid to bleed her dry.

What about the niggas who CAN take care of their kids on their own, but it would put a financial strain on them or cause them to be living check to check?

What about the niggas who CAN take care of their kids on their own, but feel like a child needs to be financially supported by BOTH parents?

That's silly. Me being financially able to take care of my child should absolve their other parent from their responsibility? Fuck outta here. Obviously you shouldn't be using your kid as a pawn and taking someone's money just for the sake of taking it. But if we have a child together and breakup, then we're BOTH gonna share the financial responsibility of that kid.

 

[Dupac]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it

All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

Easy to say when you believe in the system, but many people (especially men) don't agree with the system.

It wouldn't be pride that stops me from getting child support, it would be if I didn't need it. And not putting my kid's relationship with their other parent in the hands of a shitty system.

Like you said tho, both parents should contribute, but child support would be a last resort.

Oh no doubt the system is flawed

I see and hear a lot of men say they don't need it. But honestly you can't be 100% sure. You can't predict the future . That's why I say put the money in a college fund or invest it. Your child will be glad you did . Who cares if the other parent deems it unfair or wrong

If a parent treats their child any different because they are ordered to support their child then fuck em . That's so over the top selfish it's disgusting.

that's not always true.....

especially considering that "your father is taking all my money, so i can't afford to do anything with you" angle that people love to spin..

i mean, it takes most people to be 25+ to become mature enough in life to realize how utterly fucked up the entire child support process can be.....

you can't expect a hormonal teenager with feuding parents to handle that shit objectively....they're going to see one parent as a victim and one as a bully....with the most manipulative one painting the picture as the victim....

bringing the system into it only gives them more validity to their claim

 

[Chi-Town Bully]

Just because 1 parent is able to take care of the child without any problems doesn't mean that they should and it shouldn't be a problem to want the other parent to help out.

 

[mryounggun]

Ayo @LysolJenkins‌, I got questions for you, bro! Questions that need answers! Lol.

When you and your lady broke up, why did she get custody and not you?

 

[HarlemThumzUp]

Cuz get that paper! Keep applying pressure on her ass til yo seed turn 18. Would she give you a break if you asked for it ? Fucc no.

 

[blackrain]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it

All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

This is why I can't really agree 100% with folks saying the TS is petty. It's not petty to want someone to step up in the role they chose as a parent and take care of their child. It's moreso in how you go about it and in this instance using the courts isn't a bad idea being that ol' girl already seems a bit unstable and willing to use dirty tactics. May as well have legal documents to certify her being a nut case in terms of child rearing.

 

[7figz]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

This isn't the same as "using the child as a pawn".

When you start shit like "you can't see your kid unless....", then you approach that territory.

This is more between the parents and the system.

How is the child NOT a pawn, when a guy openly admits he DOS NOT need the financial support of the woman to help take care of the kid...

He only seeking CS because...."her,her her,the courts,the courts,the system,the system"

Not damn thing to do with how it is benefiting the child.

Because he can take care of the child completely without her

But "thanks" to the child he can "make her pay" if she chooses NOT TO willingly participate and contribute

So having a parent contribute to their child is using them as a pawn (because the other parent can afford to take care of them) ? We just gon' have to disagree on that.

Are they pawns when women do it ? Of course not.

 

[LPast]

Let's talk joint custody for a minute. How does this work? Alternate weeks, months, weekends?

 

[a.mann]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

Fam, what the fuck is this shit? LOL. Real shit, there is an epidemic on the IC of only thinking in extremes. Either you a broke nigga who NEEDS money from his baby moms or you a fuck nigga who is using your kid to bleed her dry.

What about the niggas who CAN take care of their kids on their own, but it would put a financial strain on them or cause them to be living check to check?

What about the niggas who CAN take care of their kids on their own, but feel like a child needs to be financially supported by BOTH parents?

That's silly. Me being financially able to take care of my child should absolve their other parent from their responsibility? Fuck outta here. Obviously you shouldn't be using your kid as a pawn and taking someone's money just for the sake of taking it. But if we have a child together and breakup, then we're BOTH gonna share the financial responsibility of that kid.

Then just say you need the help.

Because if you are taking her to CS court for any reason other than you needing the financial support of raising the child it's NOT about the child,it's about the mother

 

[a.mann]

No amount of money can make a person be a responsible parent.

That's something they have to decide to be.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

a lot of dude just don't want they kid.

its easier to send a check than to make cheese grits on a winter morning and making sure the meals are balanced an making sure them crumb snatchers are dressed right an doing they homework an meeting teachers an fake smiling other parents at the game.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Cuz get that paper! Keep applying pressure on her ass til yo seed turn 18. Would she give you a break if you asked for it ? Fucc no.

I already told my son when turns 18,.....I'm gonna cry. not becuz he's an adult but becuz I don't have to deal with his mother anymore

 

[mryounggun]

Real shit, a lot of y'all niggas sound like bitches! Fuck outta here with the 'get all the bread you can', 'put your foot on her neck' bullshit. Y'all niggas is part of the reason that the child support system is fucked up now! T/S, calculate the REAL number that it costs to reasonable take care of the kid per month, then hit her for half of that. No more, no less.

Niggas in here sounded like scorned women. Shit is disgusting. If you just as petty, childish and money-hungry as a hoodrat bird broad, then niggas should stop complaining about them and start looking in the mirror.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Let's talk joint custody for a minute. How does this work? Alternate weeks, months, weekends?

it depends. I had the shit spelled out to the holiday, birthday an leap year an pick up time an drop off time an who can pick him up or drop him off.

you be specific otherwise a lot if shit will fall thru the cracks an you'll be back at square one.

 

[Purr]

Fuck that.

Prailms, shouldn't have to fight for the mother to contribute financially. She is not the primary parent, and she works. She should help out financially, even though he can afford it. This money isnt going to Prailms, it is going directly to the son in a savings account.

She should pay to help out her son's future because it helps her out in the long run.

 

[nex gin]

Women want to be treated as equals. Hey...