Let's talk mothers and child support

[Dupac]

shit's hilariously tragic bruh......

in theory i give you all the props in the world for carrying that shit through......women should not get a pass.....and i applaud you for taking that chick to the cleaners.....

but i don't know if i could do that shit myself....some how i'd feel dirty......like i'd feel like i was being petty or something......but i am glad you're getting that money

Why would you feel petty for taking the measures to get the mother to take care of her responsibility

My daughters mother tried to pull the same stuff, she thought that since I was married that my wife would take over her responsibilities. I don't really need the money but I'm not about to just let her get a pass

cuz i think child support as a whole is petty as shit......

while there are some circumstances where it is put to good use, more times than not it's some bitter ass vindictive petty ass bullshit.....

and when it comes to the kids, i don't think i'd participate in that shit at all if i had the option...

i'd prolly take the high road of anything you willingly want to contribute is always welcome, but i'm not going to force you to be a parent...

 

[a.mann]

shit's hilariously tragic bruh......

in theory i give you all the props in the world for carrying that shit through......women should not get a pass.....and i applaud you for taking that chick to the cleaners.....

but i don't know if i could do that shit myself....some how i'd feel dirty......like i'd feel like i was being petty or something......but i am glad you're getting that money

Why would you feel petty for taking the measures to get the mother to take care of her responsibility

My daughters mother tried to pull the same stuff, she thought that since I was married that my wife would take over her responsibilities. I don't really need the money but I'm not about to just let her get a pass

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[7figz]

Me personally I wouldn't want the support if I didn't need it, but I ain't mad at you

^ Agree.

I might do it tho off GP tho since system does niggaz so dirty.

 

[shit happens]

Do she got dat ass?

If not i don't care and fuck the broke hoe

This shit chea is sad dena bitch riddled with "feelings and regret"

All parents should pull their weight and meet the child's needs

 

[DarcSkies]

Do unto others as they would do unto you

 

[Chi Snow]

U sounding like a bitch right now TS

 

[gdatruth2.0]

not sure why this type of discussion devolves into discussions about pettiness or needing money.

2 ppl created that child and 2 ppl should be responsible for supporting that child regardless of sex or income.

 

[Dupac]

Do unto others as they would do unto you

this here.. if u dealing with a petty ass bitch, who you know without a doubt would send you to child support with no fucks given...then absolutely..

but if you actually respect the person you had a child with.....and you want them to take an active role without being forced by the state....why add that complication?

i just can't get over how many women are so quick get the state involved in their relationship....and pretend to be so oblivious as to how that completely destroys the fabric of everything....

i feel like if i had full custody of my child, i'd give the mother every opportunity to do her part without being all vindictive about it......

i dunno, it's just a tough situation to call altogether...

 

[Dupac]

not sure why this type of discussion devolves into discussions about pettiness or needing money.

2 ppl created that child and 2 ppl should be responsible for supporting that child regardless of sex or income.

2 adults should be mature enough to manage that situation without getting the state involved out of pure spite.....

 

[a.mann]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

 

[7figz]

@DWO postin' that real shit right now. I wouldn't want child support either if I had custody of the kid.

But I think that would send the wrong message to the already-biased system. They'd prolly look at it as "males shouldn't get child support" plus, like @DWO said, once you know you dealin' with the type of bitch who would do it to you - then hell yeah.

 

[mryounggun]

Man, fuck all that. Niggas who have children and then don't financially support them is fuck niggas! Conversely, women who have kids and don't financially support them are...uh-whatever the female version of fuck niggas is! If I had full custody of my son, my ex would be financially supporting him in some form. I doubt it'd ever make it to the courts, but she'd have to break bread every month if I had custody.

 

[LPast]

Currently in this situation.

Wanted to talk it out w shorty and handle it ourselves but she spat that ' see you in Court...I need that bread'

For the sake of my son and our relationship I gotta handle biz...

She's not trying to be fair to me but I'll do my best to be fair to her

How much did you want to contribute financially per month?

 

[7figz]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

This isn't the same as "using the child as a pawn".

When you start shit like "you can't see your kid unless....", then you approach that territory.

This is more between the parents and the system.

 

[MsSouthern]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it

All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

 

[Dupac]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it



All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

but forcing the system into a relationship can cause irreparable harm.....

i understand each parent has a responsibility..but at what price?

 

[MsSouthern]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it



All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

but forcing the system into a relationship can cause irreparable harm.....

i understand each parent has a responsibility..but at what price?

If you have something outside the courts ..... Cool

But at least set up custody

It sucks to have to force someone to take care of their child but if you let them just do whatever then you are not thinking about the best interest of the child.

And it's not about whether or not you can afford it either.

 

[7figz]

I encourage all custodial parents to seek support unless you have a deal with the other parent.

Even so at least get custody set up so everyone has rights

I used to see a lot of men not want to file .... Maybe a pride thing

I would still tell them to open a college fund and put the support there if you don't want it

All parents should be financially responsible for their kids. No one should get a pass

Easy to say when you believe in the system, but many people (especially men) don't agree with the system.

It wouldn't be pride that stops me from getting child support, it would be if I didn't need it. And not putting my kid's relationship with their other parent in the hands of a shitty system.

Like you said tho, both parents should contribute, but child support would be a last resort.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

thing is this bitch in court talking about my money......an how I can support him.

what about doing more than just buying Jordan's every few months an saying dad got the rest.

its not about vindictive or even if I need it. what she gives ain't really shit so they increased it. now I'm getting crazy texts from her family.

it was all good while I was coughing up the dough. niggas dressing nice an clubbing every night on my dollar when my kid needed a hair cut.

shit I was paying support an still doing shi while he was with me.

but for some odd reason...she should not be subjected to the same?

I'm not doing it becuz it was done to me...but the precedent was set.

her main reason for starting support was becuz I had a daughter an she wanted to make sure she got her cut.

think about that statement for a sec. it wasn't because I wasn't doing shit...she didn't want the money fukkin up

 

[a.mann]

So far no guy here has openly admitted to actually needing the financial support and contributions of their respective baby mommas

They just want to have her paid to....uh..."teach her a lesson".

Basically use the child as pawn to enact their personal vengeance on the mother AND the courts that "favor" women over men.

And this behavior is to be applauded and commendable(?)

This isn't the same as "using the child as a pawn".

When you start shit like "you can't see your kid unless....", then you approach that territory.

This is more between the parents and the system.

How is the child NOT a pawn, when a guy openly admits he DOS NOT need the financial support of the woman to help take care of the kid...

He only seeking CS because...."her,her her,the courts,the courts,the system,the system"

Not damn thing to do with how it is benefiting the child.

Because he can take care of the child completely without her

But "thanks" to the child he can "make her pay" if she chooses NOT TO willingly participate and contribute