Let's be real, the buck stops with the female.

[Jemadore]

actually, that's sort of what I thought you were saying too.

another question tho - would you want child support from him, if he said from the jump he ain't want no kids ?

and another thing, why not take the pill if you fuckin' raw and don't want a kid ?

honestly I would never say never...at this point in my life I have too much pride and I hustle too hard to ask a nigga that told me fuck me and my child for a dollar...but I cannot say if times became hard and I saw this nigga in a maybach I would not ask...I want to spit on men when I see them move on with new lives and they forget about their first child...and become pissed of if their ex asks for some money on some "oh well I told that bitch not to have it"

plus I have seen situations to where the man wants a baby then all of a sudden changes their mind...and they expect the woman to follow ...

I want a child...he does not mind a child either we just are not trying for one officially...and I hate the pill...I used those with my ex and I was sick all the time as if I were pregnant and I gained weight..

 

[kzzl]

A woman's body is her own. They have far more options after the fact. That's just the truth of the matter. But just like a dude should have wore a condom, she should of said no when he didn't. Respect the temple that is your body. She let that nigga go in raw, risking pregnancy and whatever else the dice rolled. Women forget that they are the gatekeepers of life, all a man can do is insert the key.

I've taken that women blaming men for unwanted pregnancies is them admitting to their own inferior roles. She is incapable of thinking for herself and controlling what is done to her body. Needing someone else to tell her what to do with it. As such, she will be treated as the weakling she portrays herself to be. And she should bend to his will as he see's fit. I've met too many women, single and in relationships, that don't have kids. They know what they have and how to control it. I can't help but think a little common sense, from both parties involved, was all it took to prevent these accidental births out here.

Unless they were raped or some shit.

 

[ocelot]

A woman's body is her own. They have far more options after the fact. That's just the truth of the matter. But just like a dude should have wore a condom, she should of said no when he didn't. Respect the temple that is your body. She let that nigga go in raw, risking pregnancy and whatever else the dice rolled. Women forget that they are the gatekeepers of life, all a man can do is insert the key.

I've taken that women blaming men for unwanted pregnancies is them admitting to their own inferior roles. She is incapable of thinking for herself and controlling what is done to her body. Needing someone else to tell her what to do with it. As such, she will be treated as the weakling she portrays herself to be. And she should bend to his will as he see's fit. I've met too many women, single and in relationships, that don't have kids. They know what they have and how to control it. I can't help but think a little common sense, from both parties involved, was all it took to prevent these accidental births out here.

Unless they were raped or some shit.

but they dont hear you tho....

 

[T. Sanford]

LMAO.... you already know it... but like i said i have trouble with showing people that shit doesnt bother me...

I know that if i act like i dont care it would effect her but its gonna be hard... how do you laugh and joke with

a person after they give you that text...smhonly time and/or new pussy can fix this

@ 1st bolded, you dont, I'll just be like oh my bad I though this was ______. 2 weeks later be smashing her life lone best friend off

@ 2nd bolded, real shss, once you content with the new jumpoffs, thats when she'll start crawling back

 

[Knives Amilli]

Another big part of the problem is that men and women are on two different planets in regards to children.

What ch'all niggas aint understanding is a child doesn't carry the connotations of fear, responsibility, and the ending of your single, free life to most women. Only the SMART ones feel that way about kids.

Hell id say women, married or not, 9/10 feel a sense of ACCOMPLISHMENT and FULFILLMENT from getting knocked up. Remember, the traditional role of women in society is to nurture and find a suitable mate to keep them safe and fulfilled. Having a kid completes one half of their LIFES WORK. So they don't see it the same. Its nothing for them to get pregnant. And thats not factoring in the women who view kids as overgrown toys or gotten pregnant to trap a nigga.

Women for decades have seen their own moms, sisters, friends, cousins whatever get knocked up and take care of the bastards by themselves, so they know it can be done, how to do it, and what resources to use.

 

[blakfyahking]

I agree with this thread topic

that's why I don't believe in child support and increased welfare just because you have an extra child

that shit encourages single momma syndrome

 

[7figz]

Another big part of the problem is that men and women are on two different planets in regards to children.

What ch'all niggas aint understanding is a child doesn't carry the connotations of fear, responsibility, and the ending of your single, free life to most women. Only the SMART ones feel that way about kids.

Hell id say women, married or not, 9/10 feel a sense of ACCOMPLISHMENT and FULFILLMENT from getting knocked up. Remember, the traditional role of women in society is to nurture and find a suitable mate to keep them safe and fulfilled. Having a kid completes one half of their LIFES WORK. So they don't see it the same. Its nothing for them to get pregnant. And thats not factoring in the women who view kids as overgrown toys or gotten pregnant to trap a nigga.

Women for decades have seen their own moms, sisters, friends, cousins whatever get knocked up and take care of the bastards by themselves, so they know it can be done, how to do it, and what resources to use.

True indeed. Some of these females know it like the back of their hands. Get pregnant, apply for welfare + child support, go on facebook talking about how you are "both mother and father", rinse and repeat. Forget about working or preventing a child in the first place.

 

[fullfledged]

the fathers that don't put on a condom or pull out.

it takes 2 pimpn so both are to blame.

bad strategy, pre cum can slide into a chick without you even knowing it. sperm are thirstier than anything

 

[s_a_m_r_i_o]

I can't front, thus thread does have a valid point. A lot of these hefas knew these niggas ain't about s@@@, yet they still laid wit him.

You're right and that's why dudes shit on single mothers when they (the moms) believe they're the best thing ever for a man after having a child.

 

[ocelot]

bad strategy, pre cum can slide into a chick without you even knowing it. sperm are thirstier than anything

Don't believe the hype... Sperm die when they are in a chick... Pre cum is not that strong

 

[Bussy_Getta]

dont fuck someone that you couldnt see being a fit parent first of all
use protection
hope for the best

 

[UPTOWN]

You're right and that's why dudes shit on single mothers when they (the moms) believe they're the best thing ever for a man after having a child.

not exactly disagreeing here .... but yo fam ... im telling you .... babes with one kid are goat!!!! LOL

not enough time to smother you

and plenty of time to hold you down

and the whole you gotta be my kids daddy shit is wayyyyyy more rare than you would think

 

[Copper]

not exactly disagreeing here .... but yo fam ... im telling you .... babes with one kid are goat!!!! LOL

not enough time to smother you

and plenty of time to hold you down

and the whole you gotta be my kids daddy shit is wayyyyyy more rare than you would think

if u trying to date and smang yeah probably....but if u looking for something serious...thats damaged goods bruh bruh

 

[UPTOWN]

Another big part of the problem is that men and women are on two different planets in regards to children.

What ch'all niggas aint understanding is a child doesn't carry the connotations of fear, responsibility, and the ending of your single, free life to most women. Only the SMART ones feel that way about kids.

Hell id say women, married or not, 9/10 feel a sense of ACCOMPLISHMENT and FULFILLMENT from getting knocked up. Remember, the traditional role of women in society is to nurture and find a suitable mate to keep them safe and fulfilled. Having a kid completes one half of their LIFES WORK. So they don't see it the same. Its nothing for them to get pregnant. And thats not factoring in the women who view kids as overgrown toys or gotten pregnant to trap a nigga.

Women for decades have seen their own moms, sisters, friends, cousins whatever get knocked up and take care of the bastards by themselves, so they know it can be done, how to do it, and what resources to use.

LOL ... nigga please ... furthermore .. having a kid is in fact a big responsibility. but you obviously dont have a child if you think all that other shit is a reality when having a kid LOL. ive pulled chicks just because my son was a cute baby and thats just seeing his baby pic .. not him actually being an infant at the time .... your study of women needs to go further my friend. alot of the shit yall believe is either a myth or is not as common as you think

 

[UPTOWN]

if u trying to date and smang yeah probably....but if u looking for something serious...thats damaged goods bruh bruh

your a fool if you think that. shit just doesnt work out sometimes between two ppl

so if you have a kid ... and you and your ex are no longer together ... are YOU damaged goods?? you are going to be spending time with your kid right??? LOL

so what part of having a kid makes you damaged goods??

 

[UPTOWN]

do yall niggas have dads up in here?? LOL

the lack of manhood is amazing up in here LOL

 

[Copper]

your a fool if you think that. shit just doesnt work out sometimes between two ppl

so if you have a kid ... and you and your ex are no longer together ... are YOU damaged goods?? you are going to be spending time with your kid right??? LOL

so what part of having a kid makes you damaged goods??

listen if I have a kid and Im seperated and theres a woman that im talking to that doesnt have a child and doesnt want to date me I'll understand...so yeah I might be damaged goods to her I cant fault her for that. When dating someone people look for compatability and theres nothing wrong with thinking ur incompatible with someone that has or doesnt have a kids if your with/without one ur self.....and somepeople are ok with it and some are not...it works for some and others it doesnt....we each have our own preferences

 

[Focal Point]

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what was this thread about again?

 

[7figz]

...
so what part of having a kid makes you damaged goods??

I'm going to venture out and say -

• The stretch marks
• The baby daddy who she "will always care about"
• The rebellious kid saying "you ain't my daddy"
• The weekends where it's "his turn" to get the baby and the awkward moments around that.
• The *baby wuz here!* pussy.
• ... and so on.

 

[UPTOWN]

listen if I have a kid and Im seperated and theres a woman that im talking to that doesnt have a child and doesnt want to date me I'll understand...so yeah I might be damaged goods to her I cant fault her for that. When dating someone people look for compatability and theres nothing wrong with thinking ur incompatible with someone that has or doesnt have a kids if your with/without one ur self.....and somepeople are ok with it and some are not...it works for some and others it doesnt....we each have our own preferences

so is a woman with a child damaged goods or just not your preference??? LOL

a chick like pinky and cherokee etc ... thats damaged goods ... and they dont even have kids LOL

fact is yall just dont think sometimes before you post. if you want a chick with no kids etc ... thats cool ... cause i really frown on more than 1 kid. but a womens mentality is key. ill take em with or without .... but alot of women are dumb as shit until they have a kid. thats an often overlooked aspect.

i just find it funny how niggas got all these random rules that have nothing to do with choosing a good mate and typing like they on some real shit or something

if youre not basing it on your/her immediate situation then you cant be winning. your just generalizing