Ladies: So you only give your man sex 1-2 times a month and you expect faithfulness?

[nex gin]

No I'd do it everyday if I could

^^^^^ My type of girl. Barring any unforseen craziness, bi-polarishness or baggage...you will probably make some man very happy one day.

 

[The_Recruiter]

Can the same be said about the opposite?

If he's only giving up the goods 1-2 a month, can he expect her to remain faithful?

Marriage is a losing game IMO. Everything fades, people change.

People can only expect so much when monotony sets in. No matter how much shit you try, its still gonna be that same person.

Newness/variety vitalizes people. Thats why affairs are exciting. Spouses can never compete with that feeling.

 

[thehonorable]

yeah marriage is a wierd thing for me

 

[Iheart~Cali]

I'd expect him to address the situation with me before he takes it upon himself to have some clandestine affair. But would I blame him for being unhappy, no. I'd just rather he break up with me before cheating.

Either way I don't foresee myself having to deal with this. Sex 1-2 times a month is not acceptable.

 

[nex gin]

lol he better act right and he does, for the most part (j/king). i think what makes our shit work is that we truly love each other and are in love, but we work on it, it doesn't seem like work tho. it's so cliche, but communication is key, it's so hard to learn how to communicate properly and effectively, but if you can it helps to really nip any problems/issues in the bud, cuz it's always the small things that build up over time that kill a relationship

^^^True @ bolded

The problem is when you have 1 party communicating and the other party giving you the deer in the headlights look like "naw...I'm not really that bad...I don't do that". If one person is in extreme denial, at that point can you really blame the other person for stepping outside of their relationship?

 

[nex gin]

I'd expect him to address the situation with me before he takes it upon himself to have some clandestine affair. But would I blame him for being unhappy, no. I'd just rather he break up with me before cheating.

Either way I don't foresee myself having to deal with this. Sex 1-2 times a month is not acceptable.

Apparently some women think it is, and they stay losing out chere in the relationship game. smdh

 

[JadaRoss]

No I'd do it everyday if I could

ur in a realtionship??alot of dudes on here want to be your everyday nigga to give u that everyday dik

 

[Mr. Terrific]

Yeah I saw that movie and the whole time I was looking at my wife like "you better be taking notes". Another woman will always be willing to do what yours won't.

I think what is bothering me is that I've been hearing a lot of women trying to justify their actions lately. They all say roughly the same thing.....emotional connection over physical connection. I completely understand that a deeper connection is required for a long lasting relationship. However, that doesn't negate the fact that we have physical needs as well. It's like once they got the man this "Mission Complete" alarm fires off in their heads which simultaneously cuts off the sex drive.

C/s

Women don't listen to men until it is too late. And to the women that are reading this thread, don't ever let it be "too late".

PSA for the women: for all the qualities that you want in a man and the qualities that a man wants in you, if you 2 have found one another then continue like everyday is the 1st day. Keep going to the gym, keep getting your hair done, buy some fly outfits, drink together, hit the clubs, and spend time apart too. When you stop doing all those things AND stop fucking him the way he wants you may find yourself calling Russ Parr dogging out men. Women you say all the good men are taken, that is true but they won't be kept for long. Me and my circle of friends are those dudes that chicks check for (no ego). What do you want? a dude that has a career and additional ambition? check! goes to the gym? Check! Gives you QT. Check! I used to be married, 1 cat steps out from time to time, and the 3rd has his eyes open because his wife is no longer fucking now that they are married. In all the cases the women are listening but are not hearing. I can go on about this topic...

just beware.

 

[one_manshow]

Its 2011 women are doing the same things men do. They will use that double standard shit to prove a point. If a man isn't pleasing his wife (schedule/lack of communication) she will quickly have another man on standby and then blame the man for not showing her affection when or if she gets caught. Its called the "emotion" cop out plea.

Believe it or not it comes down to risk taking some women love/get a thrill of doing stuff they know won't get them caught. I work with many and they are all conniving have husbands who make six figures nice house and live a happy life but still need that thrill of having someone on the side. You can be the "perfect husband" and a bitch will steal cheat on you regardless.

 

[ptnutz]

i wouldn't think it's out of the realm of possibilities that a man will stray if he ain't gettin none. but i would never do that. i mean where are these women that just stop liking sex all of a sudden. if my man is layin it down, why wouldn't i want dick all the time? i've been with my man for almost 7 years and married for 4, and i can not go more than a few days w/o sex. i mean the sex is great and a lot of fun, why on earth would i want to deprive myself? if he's not gettin any that means i'm not gettin any either. i can come home from a long day at work, be tired as hell, but you better believe i'll wake up out my sleep for that dick. we're still in love, but more importantly still in lust and that def helps keep the spark alive

You are like a freakier (not in a bad way) version of my wife. After a couple of days she won't let me get any sleep until she gets hers. And we've been married 16 years.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

I'd expect him to address the situation with me before he takes it upon himself to have some clandestine affair. But would I blame him for being unhappy, no. I'd just rather he break up with me before cheating.

Either way I don't foresee myself having to deal with this. Sex 1-2 times a month is not acceptable.

. .

 

[bull6599]

If she aint giving it up enough for u then take it whenever u feel like it...it'll keep the excitement in the relationship

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

Apparently some women think it is, and they stay losing out chere in the relationship game. smdh

Mostly unhappy with their relationship females.

 

[deaththreats]

she can't give you sex 1-3 times a month and fuck tyrone 3 times week

the pussy needs a rest

lmfaooooo....

 

[bscoop]

Do people look at the reverse in these senarios, are men not giving their women the satisfaction they need?

Are men giving women these mind blowing, back breaking, earth shattering, tear jerking orgasm? Or all we under the guise that only our sexual hunger be fed?

 

[oldhead77]

Nex Gin,

what up homie???

Here's my confessional........

I got married December 2004 and my ex-wife kept me on PP (pussy punishment). We worked at the same got damn place but worked different shifts. I'd get home around midnight-ish or so; mind you the kids are fast asleep, and I'm initiating (being the aggressor) the intimacy but she's like "I'm tired wake me up in an hour"............................WTF???

Many occasions I tried the Bermie Mac (steal the puss, stir like mufukking coffee) approach but still I was sexually frustrated/deprived.

I'd have to wait till 2-3am to get a nut off and by that time I'm off maybe 1-2 jays so basically I was giving out some HHD (ho-hum dick) when I wanted to give her some AFDD (appetite for destruction dick). Basically my ex-wife would only fuck me 1 night out the week (2 nights a week is considered a good week).

One night I was in a not to be fucked with mood and it just so happens that on this particular night she decides she wants to initiate shit. I told her I'm tired and she tries to imply I'm fucking another chick. So we get into an argument and I volunteered to sleep on the couch. Next morning she decides to continue the argument when I decide I'm not wasting my time to argue. The climax of the scenario is that I was going out later that night and so she tells me if I go out then I better not bother coming home.

I was already in a fuck it mindset so her greenlight pretty much sealed the deal on my marriage. Needless to say I didn't bother coming home that night or any other night for that matter. The accumulation of drama, stress, sexual frustration, etc. took its toll and I didn't look back.

Divorced with not single ounce of regret.

Yall cats better take heed to all the horror stories (mine and the others posted) it just may save your life one day.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

i wouldn't think it's out of the realm of possibilities that a man will stray if he ain't gettin none. but i would never do that. i mean where are these women that just stop liking sex all of a sudden. if my man is layin it down, why wouldn't i want dick all the time? i've been with my man for almost 7 years and married for 4, and i can not go more than a few days w/o sex. i mean the sex is great and a lot of fun, why on earth would i want to deprive myself? if he's not gettin any that means i'm not gettin any either. i can come home from a long day at work, be tired as hell, but you better believe i'll wake up out my sleep for that dick. we're still in love, but more importantly still in lust and that def helps keep the spark alive

*lurks in powder room. sees kai's comment. applauds*

like someone said earlier, once they've done woo'd the brotha and finally lock it down wit him, it's "mission accomplished." they feel they no longer have to put forth the effort, b/c they already got him. a lot women have gotten lazy, and really expect the man to accept it. not the case. that's why a lot of mofos step outside the relationship. the saying will always stand true...

what you won't do, another woman will. ladies need to really think about that. the only woman that's suppose to be blowing his mind, is you. if u handle your business sexually, that brotha is less likely to step outside.

 

[King Erauno]

C/s
Women don't listen to men until it is too late. And to the women that are reading this thread, don't ever let it be "too late".

PSA for the women: for all the qualities that you want in a man and the qualities that a man wants in you, if you 2 have found one another then continue like everyday is the 1st day. Keep going to the gym, keep getting your hair done, buy some fly outfits, drink together, hit the clubs, and spend time apart too. When you stop doing all those things AND stop fucking him the way he wants you may find yourself calling Russ Parr dogging out men. Women you say all the good men are taken, that is true but they won't be kept for long. Me and my circle of friends are those dudes that chicks check for (no ego). What do you want? a dude that has a career and additional ambition? check! goes to the gym? Check! Gives you QT. Check! I used to be married, 1 cat steps out from time to time, and the 3rd has his eyes open because his wife is no longer fucking now that they are married. In all the cases the women are listening but are not hearing. I can go on about this topic...

just beware.

are u serious? wtf...shit sounds just like an off switch after the wedding

 

[nex gin]

Nex Gin,

what up homie???

Here's my confessional........

I got married December 2004 and my ex-wife kept me on PP (pussy punishment). We worked at the same got damn place but worked different shifts. I'd get home around midnight-ish or so; mind you the kids are fast asleep, and I'm initiating (being the aggressor) the intimacy but she's like "I'm tired wake me up in an hour"............................WTF???

Many occasions I tried the Bermie Mac (steal the puss, stir like mufukking coffee) approach but still I was sexually frustrated/deprived.

I'd have to wait till 2-3am to get a nut off and by that time I'm off maybe 1-2 jays so basically I was giving out some HHD (ho-hum dick) when I wanted to give her some AFDD (appetite for destruction dick). Basically my ex-wife would only fuck me 1 night out the week (2 nights a week is considered a good week).

One night I was in a not to be fucked with mood and it just so happens that on this particular night she decides she wants to initiate shit. I told her I'm tired and she tries to imply I'm fucking another chick. So we get into an argument and I volunteered to sleep on the couch. Next morning she decides to continue the argument when I decide I'm not wasting my time to argue. The climax of the scenario is that I was going out later that night and so she tells me if I go out then I better not bother coming home.

I was already in a fuck it mindset so her greenlight pretty much sealed the deal on my marriage. Needless to say I didn't bother coming home that night or any other night for that matter. The accumulation of drama, stress, sexual frustration, etc. took its toll and I didn't look back.

Divorced with not single ounce of regret.

Yall cats better take heed to all the horror stories (mine and the others posted) it just may save your life one day.

Damn fam. I feel ya pain bruh.

One thing you mentioned is what I think causes a lot of the problems and that is how we process things differently than women. Men can be tired, pissed off at the world, on their death bed or whatever and they will still be ready to fuck...no matter what problems are going on. On the other hand, some women ( don't wanna generalize ) allow non-relationship problems to affect the physical aspect of their relationship. The "I'm tired from working all day" or the "I'm pissed off for whatever insignificant reason that has nothing to do w/ my man so I'm not in the mood" lines are what I hear in most men's scenarios. These women may have good men who are taking care of every relationship need and household responsibility. The problem is they take their good man for granted. My neighbor always complains to me about his wife and how she neglects him. I be feeling sorry for dude forreal cause his situation is just like yours was, if not worse. Hell I would've been bounced if I was in his shoes. Like Mr. Terrific said though "Women don't listen to men until it is too late.". Then when the man cheats, it's all his fault? Now how is it the man's fault when he been telling her ass for 7 years that there is a problem?

 

[oldhead77]

Damn fam. I feel ya pain bruh.

One thing you mentioned is what I think causes a lot of the problems and that is how we process things differently than women. Men can be tired, pissed off at the world, on their death bed or whatever and they will still be ready to fuck...no matter what problems are going on. On the other hand, some women ( don't wanna generalize ) allow non-relationship problems to affect the physical aspect of their relationship. The "I'm tired from working all day" or the "I'm pissed off for whatever insignificant reason that has nothing to do w/ my man so I'm not in the mood" lines are what I hear in most men's scenarios. These women may have good men who are taking care of every relationship need and household responsibility. The problem is they take their good man for granted. My neighbor always complains to me about his wife and how she neglects him. I be feeling sorry for dude forreal cause his situation is just like yours was, if not worse. Hell I would've been bounced if I was in his shoes. Like Mr. Terrific said though "Women don't listen to men until it is too late.". Then when the man cheats, it's all his fault? Now how is it the man's fault when he been telling her ass for 7 years that there is a problem?

Most women feel that "he's just talking shit" or in other words they're testing us to see where our heads are/how we'd react to certain shit.

How can a woman invent yet fail so miserably at testing her man is the 64 million dollar ???