Ladies: So you only give your man sex 1-2 times a month and you expect faithfulness?

[blakfyahking]

Tell us your story.

and by the way, i'm experiencing whats going on in this thread right now in my personal life. the sex has decreased dramatically as we try to rebuild our relationship. that, plus a baby has made it difficult. i held out for a while, but last thursday night this chick that likes me fucked the SHIT outta me. hadnt had a screw like that in a LOOOONG time. really didnt feel bad, either.

were friends for like a year.................then finally dated and fucked like rabbits for 2 years

got married.................fuck like rabbits the 1st year even tho there was a steady decline

throw in work, family issues, a mortgage, a newborn baby, and about 40lbs........................now you have a husband stressed the fuck out from work and dealing with a chick nagging every 5 mins cause she was insecure

throw in a military deployment, and the shit ultimately was a wrap

the biggest issue was the intimacy more than the sex disappeared, it's like we had different goals

ie., different goals like = I wanted some pussy, but she was "comfortable" LOL

 

[louis the great]

its funny. things arent so simple as "well if your wife aint fuckin you, just divorce her"

what if this man is in a situation where he genuinely loves his wife, and doesnt want to break up his family over some pussy. i keep going back to the chris rock movie because you rarely see it depicted from the perspective of a genuinely good guy in a tough spot.

If his Wife "loved" him she would be puttin out. Its that simple.

 

[nex gin]

i wouldn't think it's out of the realm of possibilities that a man will stray if he ain't gettin none. but i would never do that. i mean where are these women that just stop liking sex all of a sudden. if my man is layin it down, why wouldn't i want dick all the time? i've been with my man for almost 7 years and married for 4, and i can not go more than a few days w/o sex. i mean the sex is great and a lot of fun, why on earth would i want to deprive myself? if he's not gettin any that means i'm not gettin any either. i can come home from a long day at work, be tired as hell, but you better believe i'll wake up out my sleep for that dick. we're still in love, but more importantly still in lust and that def helps keep the spark alive

Unfortunately you are not the norm. I know women that love the sex w/ their partner but they just have a low libido. I remember a couple months ago Erykah Badu said that she doesn't care if her man sleeps around because she has a low sex drive and she understands that he has needs. It surprised me to hear that coming from her, but at least she acknowledged it.

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I'm just really surprised at the amount of women that I've encountered lately that are the opposite of you and wonder why their men are being unfaithful. Men are simple creatures for the most part. Fuck us and feed us and we pretty much good to go.

 

[American.Loo]

I can't even feel bad for chicks any more when it comes to this. The fact that they aren't even concerned about their man's needs speaks volumes to the level of selfishness. I could understand if there was a legitimate medical reason, but outside of that....they asking for problems. I been in my relationship 15 years so I know exactly how you feeling bruh.

word up. it was like i would ask her about it, and she'd be like "why, are you cheating?"

my reply "i'm the kind of nigga where, when i STOP asking you for sex, thats when you need to worry."

 

[im_lux]

A woman that only gives a man sex once or twice a month to her man doesn't expect shit. She already knows that relationship is over she's only fuckin him that one or two times to get him to stop bitchin and still pay her light bill. Plus a woman that is only fuckin you once or twice a month either isn't sexually attracted to you any more or she's fuckin someone else anyway. Either way it goes that woman is just counting the days till something better comes along.

 

[American.Loo]

If his Wife "loved" him she would be puttin out. Its that simple.

although i see where you're coming from, i think its possible to love someone yet still be out of touch with their needs.

 

[blakfyahking]

A woman that only gives a man sex once or twice a month to her man doesn't expect shit. She already knows that relationship is over she's only fuckin him that one or two times to get him to stop bitchin and still pay her light bill. Plus a woman that is only fuckin you once or twice a month either isn't sexually attracted to you any more or she's fuckin someone else anyway. Either way it goes that woman is just counting the days till something better comes along.

Really??? How old are you cuzzo?

cause if what you say is true, then there are a lot of married women out there waiting a long ass time LOL

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

although i see where you're coming from, i think its possible to love someone yet still be out of touch with their needs.

Your comment reminds me of this girl who was getting frustrated with her man because in her mind she thought her cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and taking care of the household should be enough to satisfy a man but there was a complete disconnect between each other and their wants and needs.

You can love someone but love alone is never enough. If you aren't in tune/at peace with your own self you can't really take care of another and vice versa.

 

[nex gin]

Really??? How old are you cuzzo?

cause if what you say is true, then there are a lot of married women out there waiting a long ass time LOL

lol exactly.

 

[allreasoned_out]

Yeah, it's crazy to expect that a man will be happy with that. Now some men might be happy with that, but a woman shouldn't expect that.

I'd be gone.

 

[im_lux]

Really??? How old are you cuzzo?

cause if what you say is true, then there are a lot of married women out there waiting a long ass time LOL

I'm almost 30...And yeah it's true though...As far as women that have been married for a very long time the sexual attraction runs out for some relationships. They lose interest in having sex with their husbands so yes they're counting the days. They know for a fact they don't just HATE SEX...They want better sex and a lot more than you know want better sex with a better man wether they feel they should act on it or not. I'm sure you've heard of a woman being married 20 sum odd years hasn't had sex with her husband in a very long time then gets divorced and fucks everybody she can find. I mean some women don't get to the point where they have the resources or the guts to leave their husband or don't want to leave because of the kids ect. But at the point a longterm married woman does not want to have sex with you for any reason but health you're pretty much together for the children or religious reasons. But don't get me wrong...A lot of women have these thoughts but do not act on them. Though a lot do.

 

[nex gin]

word up. it was like i would ask her about it, and she'd be like "why, are you cheating?"

my reply "i'm the kind of nigga where, when i STOP asking you for sex, thats when you need to worry."

My sentiments exactly.

 

[nex gin]

i'm a regular martha stewart, cook, clean, garden, sew everything, lol. and @ the bolded, i AM thinking about myself, i can't go without the dick, i just can't. that nigga can piss me off, and i still be wantin to fuck

@ the bolded, you can not love sex and have a low libido. i'm ready to get it poppin at all times. honestly my hubby would say no before i ever did, lol. very few things if anything feel better than sex, i just don't understand how you can go from having it all the time to barely at all, does not compute

lol. What I meant was that they enjoy the sex w/ their partner, but they just have a low sex drive. And I agree w/ the how can you go from all to nothing. That shit makes absolutely no sense, but apparently it does to women cause a lot of dudes go through this.

 

[blakfyahking]

I'm almost 30...And yeah it's true though...As far as women that have been married for a very long time the sexual attraction runs out for some relationships. They lose interest in having sex with their husbands so yes they're counting the days. They know for a fact they don't just HATE SEX...They want better sex and a lot more than you know want better sex with a better man wether they feel they should act on it or not. I'm sure you've heard of a woman being married 20 sum odd years hasn't had sex with her husband in a very long time then gets divorced and fucks everybody she can find. I mean some women don't get to the point where they have the resources or the guts to leave their husband or don't want to leave because of the kids ect. But at the point a longterm married woman does not want to have sex with you for any reason but health you're pretty much together for the children or religious reasons. But don't get me wrong...A lot of women have these thoughts but do not act on them. Though a lot do.

I would agree with that logic, BUT....................given how many wives out there rollin on the low, I have to say you reachin a bit fam

there are plenty of issues that can make a woman not be as into sex as she used to, especially in a marriage because there are extra issues and responsibilities to deal with once you become a spouse

but some chicks go thru a rut and instead of facing their own issues, they'd just rather throw all the fault on the man

then when a man cheats and/or finally leaves, then he is a villain SMH

marriage is a rigged game against the man when shit doesn't go down well IMO..............women have way too much power in certain aspects

/happily divorced LOL

 

[Bussy_Getta]

I only get sex once every two weeks

 

[CMac]

i'm a regular martha stewart, cook, clean, garden, sew everything, lol. and @ the bolded, i AM thinking about myself, i can't go without the dick, i just can't. that nigga can piss me off, and i still be wantin to fuck

You wanting sex a lot looks like the physical aspect of the relationship will never be a problem, sounds like your the full package that nigga better not fuck up the marriage and lose you LOL

 

[im_lux]

I would agree with that logic, BUT....................given how many wives out there rollin on the low, I have to say you reachin a bit fam

there are plenty of issues that can make a woman not be as into sex as she used to, especially in a marriage because there are extra issues and responsibilities to deal with once you become a spouse

but some chicks go thru a rut and instead of facing their own issues, they'd just rather throw all the fault on the man

then when a man cheats and/or finally leaves, then he is a villain SMH

marriage is a rigged game against the man when shit doesn't go down well IMO..............women have way too much power in certain aspects

/happily divorced LOL

LOL divorced ass nigga all biased to the mans point of view haha...nah but yeah I hear you on the responsibilities and the changes in a womans life ect but the shit don't start RIGHT when they get married...as a matter of fact most of the sex declines dramatically years after being married. I would completely agree with you about it if it was right after a woman becomes a wife but it's not. It's normally after the monotony sets in. But every relationship and every wife and husband are different so don't think I'm saying your marriage is the same thing or the next man is but I just know from seeing so many married individuals go through these problems. Family friends people I've worked with speak to about marriages. Lol shit this 44 year old white lady (my brothers ex wife now currently married to a white man) is actually in groups like AA meetings sort of with women that feel this way about their husbands, lost the attraction needing someone to speak to trying to keep themselves from cheating or continuing to cheat on their husbands. Lol it's like an all female support group for women that aren't sexually satisfied any longer. But also I think despite what I've said if you've been married 10-15+ years I think a woman should be awarded some sort of leeway on the sex for short periods of time especially if you have young kids and or a very hectic life. I mean it's not cool for a woman to give her man a limited amount of sex but on the same note it's not really cool for a man to expect a woman to cook clean take care of home and kids all day long then finish your dinner and every night let you fuck after you finish watching ESPN...Marriage to me isn't really rigged in my opinion but not many people take the time to find the perfect balance of give and take before they take the time to plan a wedding. Most people just wing it.

 

[nex gin]

You wanting sex a lot looks like the physical aspect of the relationship will never be a problem, sounds like your the full package that nigga better not fuck up the marriage and lose you LOL

You ain't lying cuzzo cause I can count on my hands how many "quality" women I've met like her in my lifetime. Every dude I know complains about the same shit 2 the point that it really makes you question whether a couple can have a marriage w/o their being any infidelity at some point. Her man better not mess that up.

 

[nex gin]

I only get sex once every two weeks

So is it safe to say that you are one of those 1-2 times a month women? Are you in a relationship and if so, how do you think your man feels about that?

 

[Bussy_Getta]

No I'd do it everyday if I could