Ladies how do you feel about your man watching porn in a relationship

[Kai]

So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?

I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

Worked for her .... could never be me

If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

 

[gns]

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[MsSouthern]

So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?

I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

Worked for her .... could never be me

If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

Hey if it works for y'all then that's great.

I've learned that what is right for me doesn't have to be right for someone else

I was just curious

 

[LPast]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

 

[CapitalB]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

why does she have to be naive??

like what exactly is she bein naive to?? seein as she knows and accepts the dynamics of their relationship??

the only thing u got right was her being secure.. secure in herself and secure with her standings with her dude.

i made a post earlier thats probably gonna remain ignored about how its actually the opposite..

its YOU niggas who are not in open relationships that are the naive ones.. and have the ego.

when it comes to relationships y'all be so hung up on sex u lie to get it.. lie to keep it..

even if it means lying to urself..

when relationships is so much deeper then that..

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Kai just came in and derailed the thread.

 

[Chi Snow]

I really don't give a damn, but my man gets pussy on demand plus he can fuck who ever he wants irl too, so he really don't give much of a fuck about porn. More than anything we probably watch it together to set the mood or he'll watch it while he gets some head

 

[Chi Snow]

I see I'm late to the party

Damn

 

[Focal Point]

@Kai this is fairly old news for you, you have always been open about your relationship is and y'all understanding props... By the way, you have a sister and a friend whom are like minded?

 

[R0mp]

So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?

I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

Worked for her .... could never be me

If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

What a cuckquean. Lmao.

 

[Kai]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

Lol, I can't believe you remember this. Don't forget the minced onion and dash of lemon juice

 

[CapitalB]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

Lol, I can't believe you remember this. Don't forget the minced onion and dash of lemon juice

yo tuna aint seein mine..

i put all that in as well.. also some shit i aint go list that sets it over the top..

i dont mince tho..

i like the crunch.. otherwise I'm chewing on mush. lol

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

@Kai

You ever consider making a video series with some 1-3 minute video clips of various relationship advise?

Think about it.

I'll pass, this works for us and we are perfect for each other. I can't and don't want to tell anyone else what to do in there relationships. Only advice I'd give is to be honest and open with each other about your needs and wants.

wow this is interesting.....so if you don't mind me asking when was the last time he stepped out?....or does the fact that you give him the ultimate hall pass as well as still handlin your own bizness even make him want to step out?

I haven't asked him recently, but as far as a I know it's been a while. The sentiment at the end of your post is pretty apt, him being able to do whatever wants has made him exceptionally picky actually

He be passing on hoes more than not. Now imagine this vs guys that are supposed to be strictly monogamous, when let's be real they're most likely still cheating anyway. In that situation those guys gotta take whatever opportunity presents themselves.

So it'd be the not so cute chick at the club cuz your girl is out of town and it'll be your only chance to do something without getting caught. Beggars can't really be choosers.

And he doesn't play games with these chicks. If they trying it with the mind games, or think he's gonna be chasing them, he's quick to go ghost on them lol

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

With all relationships communication is key.. With age i've found that you may not get every women to agree but there are women who are perfectly all right with this kind of relationship as long as it is understood from the beginning.. Prop to @kai I wish you and your husband a strong and enduring marriage..

 

[Chi Snow]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

Grade A creeper.......

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

Grade A creeper.......

"No, don't come..."

"I'm here."

......

"I'm getting rained on..."

 

[Kai]

So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?

I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

Worked for her .... could never be me

If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

What a cuckquean. Lmao.

Lol, I guess, I don't have any interest watching him fuck other hoes tho,

The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my nigga....

He ain't going NO WHERE.

Lol, I can't believe you remember this. Don't forget the minced onion and dash of lemon juice

yo tuna aint seein mine..

i put all that in as well.. also some shit i aint go list that sets it over the top..

i dont mince tho..

i like the crunch.. otherwise I'm chewing on mush. lol

Unless you're making your mayo from scratch like I do I doubt it does lol

Solid albacore tuna, with fresh mayo on a toasted brioche bun, then you put the tuna mix on the bun with some marble cheddar on top. Put under the broiler for a min. And on the other bun lettuce and tomato with a little bit of Greek dressing............perfection

 

[Kai]

Kai just came in and derailed the thread.

Sorry lol

 

[blackrain]

With all relationships communication is key.. With age i've found that you may not get every women to agree but there are women who are perfectly all right with this kind of relationship as long as it is understood from the beginning.. Prop to @kai I wish you and your husband a strong and enduring marriage..

I've said on the IC plenty of times let what you will and won't go for known up front and it eliminates alot of confusion and put the onus on the other person to decide whether or not they're truly game for it.

As for the whole open relationship thing..it ain't for everybody. It does take a certain security in yourself to know that your partner fucking someone else can have nothing to do with their feelings for you. It's just a fuck. Most people, men included, don't have the mentality it would take to accept that. Just look at how suspicious the average nigga would be if their lady told them they could fuck somebody else. Their first thought would be she's fucking somebody else too