Is a girl with kids a turn off for u

[Beezus]

I wouldn't date a man with kids.

I'm trying to find someone to start a family with, not find someone that already has a family.

 

[BelovedAfeni]

Uhm

Nope

She can have as many as she can handle

I met a girl with six and the kids were a nonissue

 

[Beezus]

Sheesh @ 6

 

[Kat]

So I'm in an adult basketball league (c league fuck it trying to get in shape) and are best player is this short dude. Great point guard. Every game his girl is there with a kid, the kid always goes up to him after the games hugs him and says good game (kids probably 2-3 years old).

About two weeks ago after our game were all just chilling in the parking lot after the game and he walks up with the girl and the kid, so out center is like "oh hey it's lil tony" then all of a sudden out point guard rebates immediately "this kid ain't mine it's hers,"right away there was an awkward silence and the look on the girls face was priceless.

I would've said something smartass if I were her.

What is there to be said ? It's not his kid. Was he supposed to lie or some shit ?

Oh I guess Tony is his name..I misread that.

I still would've said something like nah its Lil Marcus.

 

[Kat]

But yeah we've had a couple instances of people going on about how my daughter favors my bf (she looks nothing like him) and he didn't announce that she wasn't his child.

Used to happen with my stepdad and little sister too.

Not that big a deal.

 

[mysticmonroe7]

It should but most guys don't care. A lot of guys don't think long term about sex, they think tonight not what if I get this chick pregnant. I know someone who dated a chick with 9 kids by a bunch of different dudes, some of the kids got taken away from her. FYI a chick who has kids that got taken away from her should be a deal breaker for men, because the mom is def a deadbeat. A mom has do bad things to get the kids taken away from her,or supervised visits,etc. As much as guys complain about single moms someone screwing them. Check out the video below

worldstaruncut.com/uncut/47288

Speaking as a women A guy can lose points if he has a kid, because dudes are just cumin in every women they meet. Unless your birth control failed theres no excuse to have a kid. If the person wouldn't make a good wife/husband they wouldn't make a good baby mama/daddy either. I was working at a clothing store and I thought this guy was cute buying clothes for his kid, then he asked me if someone could return stuff without a receipt and get cash. Basically he was worried that the baby mama would return the clothes for money, I know chicks that do it. That's a turn off if a guy or anyone has a crazy baby daddy/mama.

 

[T. Sanford]

It should but most guys don't care. A lot of guys don't think long term about sex, they think tonight not what if I get this chick pregnant. I know someone who dated a chick with 9 kids by a bunch of different dudes, some of the kids got taken away from her. FYI a chick who has kids that got taken away from her should be a deal breaker for men, because the mom is def a deadbeat. A mom has do bad things to get the kids taken away from her,or supervised visits,etc. As much as guys complain about single moms someone screwing them. Check out the video below

worldstaruncut.com/uncut/47288

Speaking as a women A guy can lose points if he has a kid, because dudes are just cumin in every women they meet. Unless your birth control failed theres no excuse to have a kid. If the person wouldn't make a good wife/husband they wouldn't make a good baby mama/daddy either. I was working at a clothing store and I thought this guy was cute buying clothes for his kid, then he asked me if someone could return stuff without a receipt and get cash. Basically he was worried that the baby mama would return the clothes for money, I know chicks that do it. That's a turn off if a guy or anyone has a crazy baby daddy/mama.

One of my homie's sister is like that. She have 6 kids, I think three of them someone else (a close relative of hers) have custody of. I remember it was Independence Day years back & me & my homie rode up at his sister house. She was on the porch with her daughters, One daughter (about 15 at that time) she was sharing her cigarette with & the other daughter (she was 12 at that time) was pregnant. I think her oldest son was in a gang & her youngest boy use to walk down the street with no shoes on. I use to tell that nigga to go home & put some shoes on.

The mother is about 37 & she stay at home with her mother but she always on FB like "I want a good man.............imma good woman". No good dude don't want all that baggage plus a girl that can't take care of herself. Plus when she had her own place, her place use to be doggone filthy & when a girl have a shitty & dirty house then that is a major deal breaker, no matter how fine that bitch is

 

[Aztec_Kang]

I'm not interested in single mothers. When I have a kid I want to be married first. It's not my fault your decisions didn't work out.

 

[willhustle]

Since I have no kids, yea it's a turn off.

This ^^^^

I'm not a kid person to begin with and I'm not trying to be bothered with a woman that got 2 different/multiple baby daddies. I'm trying to do something with my life not have it held down by a woman with kid(s). I ain't about/nor do I want that life.

I ain't clowning all single mothers b/c it's some that go out there and handle there business. So props to them and the ones on here that do.

 

[willhustle]

like some of yall said its situational... if she takes good care of her kid and is clearly a good parent then maybe.. but i think cats just prefer a chick with no kids because its usually a lot less in the hassle department.

This thread is done in some variation weekly...

but anyway I understand the "situational" thing but truthfully I think the irony of these niggas wouldn't date a chick with a kid and she has to meet all these standards yet they bring nothing to the table themselves.

Here's the thing though, how do you know what each person brings to the table? Also, why is it that you think that just b/c somebody has their life in order or trying to put it in order is supposed to date a male/female with kids when they don't have any? People are always gone have their personal preference on who & what they want/willing to deal with.

 

[GTariq]

My ex is a wonderful mother to her girls....

I would have taken a chance with one but I just cannot do two. Plus she want more in the future.

 

[So ILL]

Only if she's young.