Im stuck at a crossroads with this girl, how should i handle the situation?
Update:
I tried the aggressive approach today. It went to shit. I kind of threatened that i was gonna leave if we didn't take it to the next level. She got mad and said that she isn't looking for sex in a relationship with a guy she has only spoken to for 2 months. I asked her how come she used to sleep over at guys before and so and so but she said she was young and it wasn't the same thing.
So i asked her what her plans are, she said she wanted to meet up more often, introduce me to her parents and so on. So sex was completely out of the equation and she'll even use it against me in case i try to get her drunk enough to have sex with me.
With all this being said. Thanks to those who actually helped me and posted serious answers, it does mean a lot. I am calling it quits.
I tried the aggressive approach today. It went to shit. I kind of threatened that i was gonna leave if we didn't take it to the next level. She got mad and said that she isn't looking for sex in a relationship with a guy she has only spoken to for 2 months. I asked her how come she used to sleep over at guys before and so and so but she said she was young and it wasn't the same thing.
So i asked her what her plans are, she said she wanted to meet up more often, introduce me to her parents and so on. So sex was completely out of the equation and she'll even use it against me in case i try to get her drunk enough to have sex with me.
With all this being said. Thanks to those who actually helped me and posted serious answers, it does mean a lot. I am calling it quits.
deadeye;8089293 said:
It's her way of bein when you see her and complete ignorance of things about sex. I always thought that was an indicator of lack of experience.
BlackCat;8089516 said:
Probably some of the best stuff posted on this thread. Very wise said, i feel so ashamed that i still let her get the best of me this way.
babelipsss
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You should have offered her money. You will never lose.
P-Dogg77;8089953 said:
Look bruh, once a femme starts fucking, she's gon keep fucking. Period.
And she say she slept with ( but not with ) some nigga she's only seen a couple times, but needs you to meet her Rents? Foh.
I know you want to believe her, because you want this to work, but she's playing you.
I'm not sure what she has to gain from stringing you along, but she's not being 100 with you.
Abort now so you can save some face.
P-Dogg77;8089953 said:
In all honesty, it didn't go to shit. You were able to cut the crap and get to the truth of the situation (she is either BS- ing you and/or yall ain't fuckin any time soon) It would have come out sooner or later. Now you can go your separate ways without wasting any more time.
Life is a series of learnig opportunities. Fail fast and and pick yourself up faster. And never fail the same way twice.
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SheerExcellence
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Ok p-dogg
Here some general advice for the future. I'm not a woman getting expert or anything, but I have some help for you.
1) get more confidence in yourself. You need to show confidence and synergy in your actions from jump. If you want to sleep with a girl don't pose as trying to be a "nice friend." Make your intentions clear from the beginning. You were over there throwing mixed signals. No one likes ppl sending mixed signals.
2) having said that don't force the issue so bluntly. Just play it cool. You aren't trying to scam and con, just be yourself.
3) fuck hours of long telephone convos
4) fuck falling in love so quick
5) stop putting women through background checks, don't ask about pasts...nothing good can come of it. Nothing. If you don't like what you hear you'll be upset, if you like what you hear you'll convince yourself it was all a lie anyway.
6) forget chasing virgins. You trying to find the one "pure" girl to fall in love with and live happily ever after? Come on, you're 20, stop believing in fairytales.
7) you should never get to the point when a girl talking about sleeping over and making you wear long underwear
8) woman have sex and give handjobs. There is nothing wrong with this. If she didn't tell you this at first its probably because there is no reason for her to go around telling who she gave handjobs too and who she kissed on the mouth. In fact, like I said before, steer clear of this sort of talk
9) relax and be yourself
Here some general advice for the future. I'm not a woman getting expert or anything, but I have some help for you.
1) get more confidence in yourself. You need to show confidence and synergy in your actions from jump. If you want to sleep with a girl don't pose as trying to be a "nice friend." Make your intentions clear from the beginning. You were over there throwing mixed signals. No one likes ppl sending mixed signals.
2) having said that don't force the issue so bluntly. Just play it cool. You aren't trying to scam and con, just be yourself.
3) fuck hours of long telephone convos
4) fuck falling in love so quick
5) stop putting women through background checks, don't ask about pasts...nothing good can come of it. Nothing. If you don't like what you hear you'll be upset, if you like what you hear you'll convince yourself it was all a lie anyway.
6) forget chasing virgins. You trying to find the one "pure" girl to fall in love with and live happily ever after? Come on, you're 20, stop believing in fairytales.
7) you should never get to the point when a girl talking about sleeping over and making you wear long underwear
8) woman have sex and give handjobs. There is nothing wrong with this. If she didn't tell you this at first its probably because there is no reason for her to go around telling who she gave handjobs too and who she kissed on the mouth. In fact, like I said before, steer clear of this sort of talk
9) relax and be yourself
SheerExcellence
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Also one more thing, I don't know how much you liked this girl or what your plans were from the beginning, or what you guys had in common to make you go after get in the first place...
But I'd steer away from girls that have issues with virginity or talk about how they sleep in bed with guys and don't do anything
Regardless of if its true or not, it shows, to me, an insecurity with her sexuality and an inability to display certain aspects of herself...
Anyone in any relationship should not be afraid of sex after two months. I'm not saying she should be a freak, but its not something that should be causing this much tension
That is a sign that means to me that I shouldn't waste my time.
But I'd steer away from girls that have issues with virginity or talk about how they sleep in bed with guys and don't do anything
Regardless of if its true or not, it shows, to me, an insecurity with her sexuality and an inability to display certain aspects of herself...
Anyone in any relationship should not be afraid of sex after two months. I'm not saying she should be a freak, but its not something that should be causing this much tension
That is a sign that means to me that I shouldn't waste my time.
SheerExcellence;8090152 said:
Nah, she should. She definitely should.
Or she should at least be willing to become one for her dude.
A lot of people won't admit it, but no person is worth staying in a relationship with if the sex is wack.
* Great Friendships + Great Sex = Great Relationships.
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SheerExcellence
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BEAM;8090350 said:
I'm just saying
Two months in she might not be ready for you to piss and shit on her yet...
But she shouldn't be making you sleep in long johns, either
That's my point
UPDATE:
I took her virginity yesterday and we've met for a couple of times ever since, i've done many things with her that other guys couldn't do. It turned out she has been fingered before as well, so much for the picture that i had of her being completely untouched.
Now we're on the verge of becoming a couple. She treats me really well and seems good overall but i can't get over the fact that she's been intimate with 2 other guys before, she had known them well and met them for a couple of times as well. She didn't blow them, have sex or something like that. She had kissed 7 guys it turned out as well.
I just need to know if this sounds like some girl who i can get into a relationship with or not? Considering that she still waited a lot to lose her virginity but i'm just slightly bothered by her past.
I took her virginity yesterday and we've met for a couple of times ever since, i've done many things with her that other guys couldn't do. It turned out she has been fingered before as well, so much for the picture that i had of her being completely untouched.
Now we're on the verge of becoming a couple. She treats me really well and seems good overall but i can't get over the fact that she's been intimate with 2 other guys before, she had known them well and met them for a couple of times as well. She didn't blow them, have sex or something like that. She had kissed 7 guys it turned out as well.
I just need to know if this sounds like some girl who i can get into a relationship with or not? Considering that she still waited a lot to lose her virginity but i'm just slightly bothered by her past.
GodSpeed215
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Drop pics of this whore or STFU and GTFO
Splackavelli
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You said your girl used to hang out with sluts well I got news buddy she's also a slut and they travel in packs. She's playing you and playing that innocent role. You need to tell her to drop the good girl act take it to the next level and have your fun with her.
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