if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[Copper]

the older you get your chances of meeting women without prior children starts at slim

thats y u start to date young....to hell with the mature baby daddy having bishes...they just for smangin

 

[Emerald City Rolla]

While I can understand that darwinian urge to have your own kids, there is also something equally powerful in raising another's child or children. The power of instilling your own life experiences into another is something that echoes down the generations and would leave my corpse with a smirk well past the time when my lips have rotted away.

 

[texican11]

In my age bracket, there are very few men without a child or children...so, if I can love his children as my own, I expect the same.

In regards to meeting a man with no children, I don't put my children into the relationship unless I know something real is going to come from what we are doing. The relationships that involved men with no children, they fell harder for my kids. They still call to check on them, and take care of them when needed. I don't think any less of them, and I'm pretty sure they don't feel like complete asses for loving children that didn't come from their loins.

So How many times have you put your children thru this???

Dont you think is kind of fucked up that your kids gotta meet a bunch of dudes...

Hoping and praying that this one might be the one thats gonna become their father role model

I will NEVER raise a BASTARD....

 

[CapitalB]

fixed it dirty

nah.. i had it right..
cause if he want a women BUT not with kids he aint ready for responsibility.. and that comes with a relationship..

and if he worried about what others think when dealin with a woman outside forces will tear apart any relationship he gets in..

 

[CapitalB]

Well I found the girl "for" me and she isnt a single mother . U lost me with all the other shit. Now if we are to break up in the future , ok..move on . I think you confusing yourself with what I stated in my prior post. It wasnt the girl it was the situation. I wasnt comfortable , never was goin to feel comfortable. Im just not a dating single mother dude, im only 23 ill revisit this thought process if I turn out to be in my 30s and lonely and every girl around me has a child, which ya seem to always insist is usually the case.

exactly.. jus keep livin my dude..

 

[Ioniz3dSPIRITZ]

it isn't natural for a man to raise another grown man's child. No man wants to step into a ready made family and when he does its almost as if the presence of the child's father is forever ingrained. But realistically speaking I guess by todays standards its considerd acceptable and often praised especially within the black community. Knowing the probability of me finding a women over 25 without kids I guess I better accept it for what it is. However I will always look into that kids eyes and see a stranger.

 

[Real Lady]

some of ya'll were not raised or prepared for modern times, & have a little trouble accepting the new age era. People are having sex before marriage and a lot are having kids. People today do not look at kids as a curse or disaster. & more people are starting families at young ages. You are not going to find you a virgin at 35...

 

[NELLY'S BAND-AID]

exactly.. jus keep livin my dude..

YOU WAS TALKING TO HIM LIKE HE WAS IN HIS MID 30'S THOUGH DIRTY. YOUR LOGIC WAS SOUNDING LIKE A YOUNG BABY MAMAS LOGIC DIRTY. HE CLEARLY EXPLAINED TO YOU HIS SITUATION AND YOU SAID HE WASN'T READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP LOL. DIRTY HAVING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THAT NEEDS LOTS OF ATTENTION INVOLVED IS A BIG RESPONSIBILITY. THAT'S WHY PEOPLE WHO NOT READY FOR THAT BIG RESPONSIBILITY CHOOSE TO NOT INVOLVE THEMSELVES WITH BABY MAMAS. IT'S A BIG DIFFERENCE FROM ACTUALLY PLANING OUT HAVING A KID WITH A WOMAN WHEN YOU READY FOR THAT RESPONSIBILITY. NOW IF A GIRL WAS IN AN ACTUAL REAL RELATIONSHIP AND IT DIDN'T WORK OUT THEN THAT'S A LIL DIFFERENT. BUT WE TALKIN BOUT THE MAJORITY DIRTY. WE TALKIN BOUT ALL THESE TIP DRILLS POPPING BABIES OUT FROM DUDES THEY DIDN'T HAVE NO REAL RELATIONSHIP WITH. I see what you doing though dirty, play on playa. I respect yo pimp juice.

 

[whatevathehell]

it isn't natural for a man to raise another grown man's child. No man wants to step into a ready made family and when he does its almost as if the presence of the child's father is forever ingrained. But realistically speaking I guess by todays standards its considerd acceptable and often praised especially within the black community. Knowing the probability of me finding a women over 25 without kids I guess I better accept it for what it is. However I will always look into that kids eyes and see a stranger.

and this is how I feel about the situation....in my late 20's and its hard to find a chick without kids...every nice looking one has one, more often 2 and I feel what lurk is talking bout having that special moment....Im kinda feeling a chick with 2 kids right now, but Im just trying to fuck and nothing more...maybe if I had a kid of my own shit would be different, but to be honest no man really wants some hand me down kids.

I work with a dude who just turned 30 and his wife got 3 kids, none of them his....dude seem reasonably intelligent and is a good worker but deep down I think dude a lame for marrying an old chick...one of her kids grown with 2 kids still living with her that aint his. Take away the kids and she would have never given ol boy a second look.

 

[CapitalB]

So yo cap I understand you around 30 right? so basically in a couple year u tryin to pop this kid out correct ? U have any prospects or are u just letting whatever happens , happens? Do you find yourself more of a settler or a chooser at your age. I often hear this take what you can get additude when ppl hit close to 30 .

nah.. i have my shit lined up.. do i strike u as a nigga who's not calculating??
and i dont think ill ever have to "take what i can get" i can pull a 18 yr old bitch on up right now if i wanted..

im sayin keep livin cause if ur damn near 30 (me bein 29) and still thinkin like u are now u aint grow..
age aint nothin but a number.. and i know alot of immature 35+ yr olds.. dont be like them..

my eyes didnt open to the real world til i was 25.. thats when i realized all that shit that was told to me was bullshit..

 

[ms.jones]

So How many times have you put your children thru this???

Dont you think is kind of fucked up that your kids gotta meet a bunch of dudes...
Hoping and praying that this one might be the one thats gonna become their father role model

I will NEVER raise a BASTARD....

Good for you. And I've done this with the 2 men that I've been with for years..it took a year for them to even know I had kids. And no, I don't think its fucked up. I'm a woman, and I'm human. I want and need things just like any other human. If I had men in and out of my life, then yes. However, I don't have a revolving door. Never been my style, and never will be.

 

[whatevathehell]

So yo cap I understand you around 30 right? so basically in a couple year u tryin to pop this kid out correct ? U have any prospects or are u just letting whatever happens , happens? Do you find yourself more of a settler or a chooser at your age. I often hear this take what you can get additude when ppl hit close to 30 .

this is whats happening to me my dude...Im approaching that magical number in a couple of years and rather than live the rest of my life in loneliness Im ready to do something I wouldnt have entertained when I was 25 and under..and that raise another motherfucker kid...I honestly feel like Ive lost in life but once thats motherfucker(s) grown and gone then hopefully shit should be all good..thats what I say If you find a good catch young dont fuck it up for nothing.

 

[CapitalB]

YOU WAS TALKING TO HIM LIKE HE WAS IN HIS MID 30'S THOUGH DIRTY. YOUR LOGIC WAS SOUNDING LIKE A YOUNG BABY MAMAS LOGIC DIRTY. HE CLEARLY EXPLAINED TO YOU HIS SITUATION AND YOU SAID HE WASN'T READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP LOL. DIRTY HAVING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THAT NEEDS LOTS OF ATTENTION INVOLVED IS A BIG RESPONSIBILITY. THAT'S WHY PEOPLE WHO NOT READY FOR THAT BIG RESPONSIBILITY CHOOSE TO NOT INVOLVE THEMSELVES WITH BABY MAMAS. IT'S A BIG DIFFERENCE FROM ACTUALLY PLANING OUT HAVING A KID WITH A WOMAN WHEN YOU READY FOR THAT RESPONSIBILITY. NOW IF A GIRL WAS IN AN ACTUAL REAL RELATIONSHIP AND IT DIDN'T WORK OUT THEN THAT'S A LIL DIFFERENT. BUT WE TALKIN BOUT THE MAJORITY DIRTY. WE TALKIN BOUT ALL THESE TIP DRILLS POPPING BABIES OUT FROM DUDES THEY DIDN'T HAVE NO REAL RELATIONSHIP WITH. I see what you doing though dirty, play on playa. I respect yo pimp juice.

hahahaha man.. im go have to read this a couple more times to gettit.. that "dirty" is fuckin me up. hahaha

brb..

 

[ms.jones]

naw dirty you said something that hit home and now her responses are emotional. She just mad cause most young men aint checking for no baby mamas. How you gone be mad cause a dude want to start his own family and not take in or adopt a child? Dats dat bird logic dirty.

Seems like you are the emotional one. I couldn't give a damn what he does or doesn't do. My point to him was that special moments are what you make them to be. Everything you do, or she does isn't going to be a first. Get it now?

 

[im_lux]

Lol @ all the step fathers in the world being simps...really? come on now.

Simps are almost always destined to end up a step father...But being a stepfather doesn't automatically make you a simp if that makes sense.

 

[CapitalB]

Cap
Also knowing what your "lifestyle" is , how would u feel if she didnt accept that? Or in a strange way how would u feel if she did accept that? I would think it takes aspecial personlity to look past all that and still want to have your child. Or do you even tell her at all?

wait... u think im about to have a kid with a square bitch?? hahahahahahaha fuckin hilarious my nigga..

that was a good one..

and even still.. ud be suprised at how many bitches still wanna fuck with me with what i do even though they dont wanna hoe for me..

 

[im_lux]

wait... u think im about to have a kid with a square bitch?? hahahahahahaha fuckin hilarious my nigga..

that was a good one..

and even still.. ud be suprised at how many bitches still wanna fuck with me with what i do even though they dont wanna hoe for me..

Show me a pimp, and I'll show you a family man.

 

[NELLY'S BAND-AID]

Seems like you are the emotional one. I couldn't give a damn what he does or doesn't do. My point to him was that special moments are what you make them to be. Everything you do, or she does isn't going to be a first. Get it now?

exactly dirty!!! so what that got to do with his special moment of not raising another man kids and wanting to make and raise his own? respect that mans special moment. Having a responsibility of a kid is a big difference from all that other stuff you was talkin. if you equate a life long, life changing responsibility like raising a human being to stuff like virginity.....That bird logic dirty. Why you mad because somebody with no kids, single, and free as a bird don't want a woman that's the opposite? So I'm guessing you don't take planing out having a kid with a man who is devoted to you surrious? so people who rather purfurr doing dat are looking at life all wrong in your eyes?

 

[Coby Vibes]

they dont make men like they used to.. boy. sometimes I really wonder how y'all nowadays dude define manhood. smh

 

[CapitalB]

Show me a pimp, and I'll show you a family man.

and thats some real shit....