I would never marry a broke man .......

[Dupac]

what if you meet him while he catching the bus on the way to a job interview? he was stopping at the gas station to get some gum and change for the bus and was like

"excuse me miss, do you have a second?"

you gonna be like

"call me after you get a response from your potential hire, and i'll point you to a nice used dealership, then i'll give you that second"

 

[ms.jones]

What it seems like is, Ms.S should have catered to some fragile egos...while most statements made by men are blanket, for a woman to say such a thing is seen as derogatory, and insensitive. Interesting.

By not wanting to couple with a man that has no goals, ambition, or means, she is somehow seen as unworthy. On the other end of the spectrum, should a man say he doesn't want a woman with a high body count, or no discernible skills, its accepted. Only if she prefaced her comment, would her comment been ok.

Hmm.

Jonesy you speak truth through and through, but let's not act like when a man makes a statement like "I don't want an overweight woman" he's not attacked with a bunch of instant BMI/Health experts and how he shouldn't judge a woman's body because he doesn't understand how women's body's operate

Its still said none the less, and accepted. In this case, a man doesn't want a fat wife. Southern doesn't want a broke man. Why is it that she should preface her comment as to seem less materialistic and bitchy?

 

[blackrain]

It is my belief that while during the dating phase, flaws and misconceptions should be uncovered. In the case of Ms. Southern, at any point during the dating phase that she notices the man she is with is still in financial disarray after a set amount of time, she has every right to walk.

Your love conquers all attitude does not work every time in even the most hospitable of situations. One can only rely on the kindness of family for so long, as well as maintain the patience. Most women want a man that can provide, protect, and preserve. A man with no ends, an excuse for why he doesn't have his finances together, and a pocket full of dreams don't cut it after a certain point. Now, if she misses out, hey, her loss.

This is 100% true...but at the same time I can't think of any man who wants to be solely thought of for his monetary contributions to his family...there's alot more that goes into that...and to break it down to make it appear as if money is how a man's worth is determined by the woman in his life, then it pretty much says to other men "I can be an asshole, treat her like shit, so long as I'm not broke she ain't going nowhere"

A man will know the exact kind of woman he has. He can tell a gold digger versus someone who can add to his riches. By Southern stating that she wouldn't marry a broke man, she is letting it be known that she wants a man that can provide. Just as if I were to say, I want my man to have a job. I want my man to have a car. Is that too much to ask?

Nope not at all...but what me and Du are saying is that on their own those statements can be taken any number of ways so it's no surprise that somebody heard what Ms. S said and thought "Oh shit, something's up with ol girl...now with more explanation behind them you can easily see Ms. S wasn't in gold digger territory, but the statement on it's own is so broad that it opened her up to be viewed in a way that she didn't want to be...

To simply say "I don't want a broke man" leaves too many other qualities up in the air...it begs the further questions "just what can a man not being broke cancel out in her eyes? what bad personality traits would she possibly overlook so long as the man isn't broke"...people often say men don't pay enough attention to things women say, yet when we key in on some shit and want to know more about WHY a woman says/thinks a certain way about some shit we become "whiners, broke niggas, soft" etc...people can't have it both ways...you make a statement like Ms. S made you almost have to be ready to clarify it....

 

[Bussy_Getta]

No... Men say that too

 

[blackrain]

What it seems like is, Ms.S should have catered to some fragile egos...while most statements made by men are blanket, for a woman to say such a thing is seen as derogatory, and insensitive. Interesting.

By not wanting to couple with a man that has no goals, ambition, or means, she is somehow seen as unworthy. On the other end of the spectrum, should a man say he doesn't want a woman with a high body count, or no discernible skills, its accepted. Only if she prefaced her comment, would her comment been ok.

Hmm.

Jonesy you speak truth through and through, but let's not act like when a man makes a statement like "I don't want an overweight woman" he's not attacked with a bunch of instant BMI/Health experts and how he shouldn't judge a woman's body because he doesn't understand how women's body's operate

Its still said none the less, and accepted. In this case, a man doesn't want a fat wife. Southern doesn't want a broke man. Why is it that she should preface her comment as to seem less materialistic and bitchy?

She doesn't have to, but that would mean she has to accept the fact that some people, key word some, will see in her in a way she doesn't want to be seen...if she can accept that then cool no need to preface it...but seeing as how the statement of her being a gold digger didn't please her, I'd say she should probably make sure she communicates her ideas/thoughts better so she's not seen in a potentially negative light...you can't say whatever you want but not be able to handle the reactions/consequences of your words

 

[Dupac]

man cook out conversations can get deep......

you can't just throw some shit out there like that without thoroughly explaining yourself.....

like BR said, i get where she was going with it, and in all likely hood, i woulda swooped in to her defense.....

but i ain't gonna act like that shit ain't come off shallow as hell.....

 

[blackrain]

man cook out conversations can get deep......

you can't just throw some shit out there like that without thoroughly explaining yourself.....

like BR said, i get where she was going with it, and in all likely hood, i woulda swooped in to her defense.....

but i ain't gonna act like that shit ain't come off shallow as hell.....

Pretty much...that's one of those statements that if somebody knows you sounds harmless but to a group of people who don't know you that well can come off either way

 

[BlackThor356]

yea men say that alot....so when women say it about men i guess their trying to give us a taste of our own medicine...even if the application of the saying is questionable given the situation...making it just a defense mechanism

 

[deadeye]

"Oh shit, something's up with ol girl...now with more explanation behind them you can easily see Ms. S wasn't in gold digger territory, but the statement on it's own is so broad that it opened her up to be viewed in a way that she didn't want to be...

So basically...right or wrong...Ms. S just put herself in the same category (albeit for different reasons) as the married chick that the people at the BBQ said they didn't like.

 

[deadeye]

woman's body because he doesn't understand how women's body's operate

Its still said none the less, and accepted. In this case, a man doesn't want a fat wife. Southern doesn't want a broke man. Why is it that she should preface her comment as to seem less materialistic and bitchy?

Double standards.

 

[blackrain]

"Oh shit, something's up with ol girl...now with more explanation behind them you can easily see Ms. S wasn't in gold digger territory, but the statement on it's own is so broad that it opened her up to be viewed in a way that she didn't want to be...

So basically...right or wrong...Ms. S just put herself in the same category (albeit for different reasons) as the married chick that the people at the BBQ said they didn't like.

If she clarified what she said or her man let his friend know how she really is then nah she didn't...but if that statement was just left to stand on it's own...probably

 

[Dupac]

a nigga can say he don't want a fat wife out loud at a cookout if he wants too.. they gonna slam his ass too....

shit one time i made a comment on how i think women exaggerate delivery pain simply because they know men can never experience it.....

i thought someone was about to pull out a gun....

 

[Bussy_Getta]

*shrug* what ever you say Thor

I don't see how I need to get defensive over not marrying a broke ass but ok

 

[blackrain]

*shrug* what ever you say Thor

I don't see how I need to get defensive over not marrying a broke ass but ok

It's the response to it...like when a woman gets turned down by a man and her instant reaction is "Oh that nigga must be gay" or any other attack on his manhood

 

[caddo man]

If a dude has a broke chick, this is actually the norm. I know plenty of cats that girlfriends, wives and BM are at home, in school, or working a $13.00 an hour job with no prospect of doing better.

A female get a broke dude and she is guaranteed to get talked behind her back. All these single chicks my wife know that has good jobs or their own company, would turn there nose up to a dude that is not on their level. These broads 40 y.o. (fine as hell, too) but cant find a dude because their standards are high as hell. Hasnt been in a real relationship in over a decade. they living life. Going out of town for every season, partying all the time, but single as hell. They been single for so long, they dont know how to act in a relationship.

 

[Dupac]

well damn,,,,

 

[bgoat]

Look like some of the niggas from the BBQ is in this thread....Got damn!! I don't see what's the fuckin problem with what she said.

 

[Will Munny]

I dont really think love is real, people just settle. Especially as they get older when they are trying to recover from their past failed marriages and relationships. If love was real, nobody with kids or that was already married would get married again because who wants someone like that? Nobody does, but they will settle for one when they get older.

 

[BlackThor356]

*shrug* what ever you say Thor

I don't see how I need to get defensive over not marrying a broke ass but ok

It's the response to it...like when a woman gets turned down by a man and her instant reaction is "Oh that nigga must be gay" or any other attack on his manhood

exactly, it seems womens 1st approach to disagreements is to assault a dudes manhood

 

[deadeye]

These broads 40 y.o. (fine as hell, too) but cant find a dude because their standards are high as hell. Hasnt been in a real relationship in over a decade. they living life. Going out of town for every season, partying all the time, but single as hell. They been single for so long, they dont know how to act in a relationship.

'Type of chicks who think they're wifey material just because they've got their own money.

smh.

Wait...

They've got their own money???

Pics of these young ladies...and how many of them don't have kids?