How much of your sexual past is your S/O aware of?

[kat2180]

And it begins.

And what begins?

Like that hasn't been discussed a thousand times.

My man knows I'm no angel, but he's 40 years old..he's not tripping over himself trying to get details. He doesn't care.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

if a chick actually getting paid $$$$

to have cat takes pics of the nature,

IMO that's far more...."respectable"

Sooo...it's far more respectable to get a facial for money than it is for someone to do it when they are having sex with someone they've been talking to for months and decided to finally sleep with?

Ok gotchu.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

hmmm.....sounds very reluctant of you. But better to come clean than to get caught out there.
Congrats!

Well who really volunteers the whole back story on their past sexual partners? Do you? I don't, and I don't expect him to.

 

[a.mann]

So if this was 20 years ago and there was no net, would that make her any less of a ho? Cuz it happens all the time. Only difference is it would be a polaroid in a shoe box under his bed. Oh well. Two people who liked each other got together and had sex, took pictures. Big fuckin deal. I swear people on here act so prudish and self-righteous like they are Amish puritans or some dumb shit. Get over it.

I'm the furthest thing from prudish here

self-rightous?

got me.

but yeah shit like that is a given. But the fact this IS the Internet Age actually makes it more damning,

for anyone to willingly place themselves in such ..."incriminating"... situations,

is more than good enough reason to question that person's character and judgement...lack of.

 

[a.mann]

Sooo...it's far more respectable to get a facial for money than it is for someone to do it when they are having sex with someone they've been talking to for months and decided to finally sleep with?

Ok gotchu.

if it's gone be placed on plubic display

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Maybe I have terrible judgment then. You're probably right. Character? Idk. I had been getting to know him for months, probably close to or over a year before then. He was a great person (still is, there's a whole story behind that which is not my biz to tell), so I can't fault him. But the fact remains, he was attracted to me, I was attracted to him. I don't recall him taking pics but it was a drunk night 2 years ago so I can't be sure. Either way, it's out there. Pics don't make or break me. I did it, whether or not pics were taken. The pics don't change a thing.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

if it's gone be placed on plubic display

Well then just thank your lucky stars that you're not the person that has to be married to me

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Bottom line is everything is kosher. I give him exceptional blowjobs, he always has a hot meal waiting for him, and I don't sleep around. He's happy, I'm happy. So just be happy for us! No need to be so negative.

 

[a.mann]

hahaha

I'm not coming down or judging you Cal

just sayin'

hell I have nudes and heading giving pics that would place a considerable stain on a few old jumps reps

but I personally don't get down like that

because in the long run,it says more about me than them

 

[a.mann]

You're talking about a one time sexual encounter with a dude she wanted to fuck. Him posting those pics was out of her control. I want to see how many people can honestly say they haven't taken pics or even recorded a sex session....

that's not helping the rebuttal here

as pointed out

this is Internet Age. Boundaries are pretty much non-existence.

so again for a person to willingly take certain pictures...send incriminating text,emails,tweets,FB status

with no thought on how this may ill effect them

calling that person foolish would be fair assessment

 

[thekillingjoke]

I gives a fuck about her sexual past, I done so much dirt I respect their soil. As long as you don't/didn't do any of the following:

1.Have a permanent STD

2.Fucked a family member or close friend

3.Have unresolved feelings for an ex

4.Videos of your hoe exploits circulating the net

 

[CashMeOutKing]

I treat hoes and reformed hoes like hoes... fuck em and forget about unless they bringing something to the table other then hoe activities

 

[hood president]

Yes a womans sexual past matters to me. I want to know how many she fucked in the past. I actually have standards and expectations and my girl being a hoe or being a former hoe is not one of them. Niggas who settle for those females are niggas who done did a lot of dirt so a girl being a hoe doesn't compare to the shit he done. I'm clean as a whistle so my girl has to be somewhat as cleans as me.

If you hoed in the past and found a good man anyway. More power to you and I hope your hoeing taught you but to say that women SHOULD go thru a hoe stage or women HAVE to is absurb. It may work for a few but not the majority.

 

[BlackThor356]

dont see why i shuld care, its not like theres a chance in hell of us getting married

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

He knows about my camming'; hell he asked if we could do it together.

Other than that, I share odd things here and there if they pertain to the conversation but he's not interested in every person I ever slept with. Who is.

I don't know if he thinks what I do is hoe-ish. I'm guessing not since he's still with me. But I have no problem being monogamous. For my age, my body count is relatively low. Sex with strangers is not my thing. Haven't done the actual one night stand, but I have slept with someone who I didn't know well at all. And it was mad uncomfortable; I was just self-conscious the whole time. So sex is more enjoyable to me if I've gotten to know the person.

On the other hand, I'm not at all self-conscious about people seeing me naked obviously. I just have a phobia of strange men actually being able to touch me. Don't know what that makes me. A hoe? Ok....it is what it is. I can live with it, my hubby can live with it, it works for us. It's whatever.

My exact feelings...If it came up in conversation organically...We'd discuss...But an interrogation would lead to lies being told

 

[BelovedAfeni]

she just better be glad she is in the present
fin

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

honestly there's nothing wrong with a woman being a hoe, as long as its not for a long period of time and as long as she learns from her mistakes as she goes. There's no easy way to learn about men and sex and adult relationships except for hands on practice.

what doesn't fit together is marrying a bitch that can't suck dick.
"let another nigga train her"

Hands on practice cannot be obtained in a monogamous relationship? A female must have hoe tendencies or cheat at some point down the line to become skilled in her fellatio and sex game? And a woman who has not had several penises in her mouth automatically qualifies as a woman who cannot suck the soul out of her man?
I highly disagree on that one. Practice makes perfect and quality can be achieved without racking up a higher quantity of penises a woman comes in contact with.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

the hoe phase is the phase that usually gets a woman ready for marriage. its the period where as a young woman, you enjoy a few penises to figure out what you like and what you don't. it gives a woman the opportunity to become a bit more experienced and worldly. this is the period where a woman gets her mouth and pussy game up to par so that she'd know how to please a man when it does come time for her to settle down with someone long term.

some women's hoe phases are longer than others. some condone this behavior for the long term and carry it well into their adult years. some turn it into lucrative careers.
some women's hoe phases occur earlier or later. a lot of pretty girls get ran through at a young age because of this. ever wonder why that bad bitchl from middle/high school is ran through by the time she's 21? its cuz she started her hoe phase at like 15.

then there are the women who don't discover their inner hoe until they're in relationships or married already. these are the women who cheat on their husbands at age 41. they should have prolonged their hoe phase a bit longer, that way she'd realize niggas really ain't shit and that she should stay with the one's she's with. this is what happens when niggas cuff virgins and inexperienced chicks. sure, her naivete is attractive, but she isn't wife material because eventually that bitch is going to get curious. its human nature.

Really?

Call me an unfit wife and unlikely to take a husband if that's what it takes to prepare me for the long haul.

On a side note: What may be truth for some is fine and great, but to express it as a general blanket statement that applies to all women? It is not universal.
I've witnessed time and time again on this board that if certain others don't fit the mold it means the details of their version and perspective of things in their own lives is them not keeping it real. What is so difficult in grasping the concept that not everyone has to go down the same path in order to reach their destination? (rhetorical ?) It doesn't make the next persons reality any less factual, just different.

 

[blackrain]

Hands on practice cannot be obtained in a monogamous relationship? A female must have hoe tendencies or cheat at some point down the line to become skilled in her fellatio and sex game? And a woman who has not had several penises in her mouth automatically qualifies as a woman who cannot suck the soul out of her man?
I highly disagree on that one. Practice makes perfect and quality can be achieved without racking up a higher quantity of penises a woman comes in contact with.

i don't know why people seem to think this shit isn't true...

Really?

Call me an unfit wife and unlikely to take a husband if that's what it takes to prepare me for the long haul.

Yeah if a chick feels like she has to have taken multiple dicks in order to "prepare herself for me" I'm going to somewhat question her decision making skills

 

[blackrain]

I got you...I think Rae just said it for the clearer perception...

Because what girls consider just harmless fun

We would consider as a tease

Or just a woman being open about her sexual activity

We would consider her a hoe

Women think differently

And Raevanna is really dropping the science from a woman's perspective

It makes sense when you read her posts...

How else is the woman going to learn? Being a good girl and practicing with her one and only bf?

She's got too much on her mind, cuz women's minds constantly running

"Will I please him?" "Does he like the way I give him head"

They just think like that yo...they want to please naturally

Big ups to Raevanaa dropping the real science up in this thread

You def got respect from the doc ma...you're seasoned out here...

She's dropping it from her perspective...I know plenty chicks who would look at what she wrote and laugh dead in her face for saying a woman gotta have a certain amount of dicks in order to be ready for a long term serious relationship and marriage...that shit is only real science because it confirms niggas worst fears about women and that is that women can be just as sexually promiscuous as men can be...that women can be hoes...that shit is true for some, not all...I mean what exactly is it about a woman fucking multiple men that somehow prepares her better for a long term relationship? there's no logic in that shit