How do you go about...

[allreasoned_out]

The first date IS when things should be dutch, it's when things start to get more serious that things could/should be paid/offered to be paid for.

Finally, a woman who sees things my way. And when they do start to get more serious, it shouldn't all or even mostly be the man's responsibility.

 

[buttuh_b]

LMAO use a gift card dude... hahaaa...

It's the first date bruh.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

biblical athiest is a woman1?!?!??!!

well i am actually shocked

Omg all this time in SL and R&R and you never heard it come out? Now I'm shocked!

Finally, a woman who sees things my way. And when they do start to get more serious, it shouldn't all or even mostly be the man's responsibility.

Exactly, its the most logical course of action. If the two are feeling each other, why wouldn't they want to "take turns" spending money on each other. Just makes most sense this way.

 

[buttuh_b]

Fuck these broads lucky as fuck. I wish I could go out to dinner with someone and get my shit paid for like its an understood code or some shit.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

why would your lack of a y chromosome be mentioned in the SL?

it's completely irrelevant to any matter being discussed in that forum

Those are my sentiments. My gender is not pertinent to the topics at hand. But the cat has been out of the bag for a while now.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

so first date we go walk in the park/stroll the beach, cool?

If you chose either of those strictly to avoid spending money, not cool. If you honestly want to do that anyway, that's fine. I love the beach.

But really you'd end up spending money on either of those two dates. I've gone to the beach and the conversation comes around to " Are you hungry?" And so he ends up taking me to a restaurant anyway. But in all fairness, I've never been on a bad date. Well a date where he wasn't interested. If that happened, I wouldn't blame him for not wanting to buy me a meal.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Why even waste your time?

If you ask a chic to go dutch on the first date she's probably not gonna go out with you again anyway.

Hell, there might not even be a first date if you hit her with that.

^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

[Trollio]

fuck for free first

lames date women they aint fuckin

trillest posting aorund

 

[ItsBboy!]

Women are bred to be selfish by nature. I've seen too many marriages where the woman doesn't pay for shit. She just kinda chills like she's just another one of the dudes kids and her income is totally disposable for herself. Just like women would love to have a good man that doesnt fuck every piece of puss that comes his way, ,men would love to have a good woman that say's she'll foot the bill and actually mean it.

It's not women or men themselves, it's the system and the attitudes that society expects/lets us get away with.

 

[The_Recruiter]

Women are bred to be selfish by nature. I've seen too many marriages where the woman doesn't pay for shit. She just kinda chills like she's just another one of the dudes kids and her income is totally disposable for herself. Just like women would love to have a good man that doesnt fuck every piece of puss that comes his way, ,men would love to have a good woman that say's she'll foot the bill and actually mean it.

It's not women or men themselves, it's the system and the attitudes that society expects/lets us get away with.

Thats a L for whoever puts up with a chick like that. Whats wrong with these broads?

 

[babafryo]

If you chose either of those strictly to avoid spending money, not cool. If you honestly want to do that anyway, that's fine. I love the beach.

But really you'd end up spending money on either of those two dates. I've gone to the beach and the conversation comes around to " Are you hungry?" And so he ends up taking me to a restaurant anyway. But in all fairness, I've never been on a bad date. Well a date where he wasn't interested. If that happened, I wouldn't blame him for not wanting to buy me a meal.

I understand your angle but how would you really know? i believe the best bargain wins. In general, if I can find a better deal somewhere I will take it, now say I find an equally attractive woman who agrees with going dutch on the first date and we actually and sincerely enjoy that first date... she just got scooped while you're still in the market for a partner (hypothetically) so how expensive is that first date really? its all in principle and i think its the most important.

p.s. what is wrong with paying for your own food? that is the strongest indication you can just turn and walk away if the person did not pan out to be who you perceived. do these dudes also believe in buying every chick they are attracted to at the club a drink? i consider it tricking off, its just silly to me. if we're compatible, great, sooner or later if we become an item you can expect access to my wallet but not on day one, no ma'am

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Then I wish you and her all the luck in the world. The thing is that wouldn't bother me because I wouldn't consider it a loss. By you asking me to go dutch, I know that you're not what I want. And vice versa by me refusing to pay my own way. So theoretically we both would be fine with not hooking up. I would encourage you to find someone who feels the same way as you do on this issue because it's indicative of something greater as you can see by the responses in this thread. I'm more old-fashioned when it comes to this whereas you're more progressive and that can spill over into other areas. So neither of us would be missing out on anything. And if I'm by myself, well so be it. At least I'm not settling for something that I don't want.

There's nothing inherently wrong with it. I just happen to be attracted to men with more old-fashioned ways who see themselves as the sole provider. I don't expect most women to see things as I do. I'm sure most of them don't. But my aim in life also doesn't coincide with most modern women so it comes with the territory.

I believe in establishing some type of rapport before it even gets to the point that you're meeting in person. By rapport I mean a good deal of telephone convos to where you can get a feel for one anothers basic personality. If you decide that you have enough in common to sustain a couple hours in each others presence, well then the risk of "wasting your money" is not so great. I personally can tell from a single conversation whether a guy is someone I would be interested in going on a date with. I'm not going to agree to a date just to get a free meal or waste your money. If I'm going that means I'm genuinely interested and we vibe well.

 

[Jinx Monetary]

Just say you'll pay for this, and they can pay for something else. It's not really that big of a deal, unless you're dealing with someone who refuses to put a penny towards anything.

 

[DarcSkies]

Dude just dont go to a place that requires money. Go to the beach or drive around to a place with nice scenery or something.

That way when she gets hungry whatever bullshit fast food place u go to wont cost a lot.

I dont know why people still go on real "dates" anymore anyway. Thats just a bitch's way of eating and having a good time for free & on some lame's dime that they probably dont even plan on fucking anyway.

Its no different than me just walking up to an attractive female and saying, "here's a wad of cash cuz you're pretty...I'm gonna stand over here for 2-3 minutes while you decide if you're going to fuck me or not. If you dont...thats cool. You can still have the money."

THE FUCK?

 

[babafryo]

^^^

precisely. p.s. agreed Cali, different philosophies here.

 

[allreasoned_out]

Then I wish you and her all the luck in the world. The thing is that wouldn't bother me because I wouldn't consider it a loss. By you asking me to go dutch, I know that you're not what I want. And vice versa by me refusing to pay my own way. So theoretically we both would be fine with not hooking up. I would encourage you to find someone who feels the same way as you do on this issue because it's indicative of something greater as you can see by the responses in this thread. I'm more old-fashioned when it comes to this whereas you're more progressive and that can spill over into other areas. So neither of us would be missing out on anything. And if I'm by myself, well so be it. At least I'm not settling for something that I don't want.

There's nothing inherently wrong with it. I just happen to be attracted to men with more old-fashioned ways who see themselves as the sole provider. I don't expect most women to see things as I do. I'm sure most of them don't. But my aim in life also doesn't coincide with most modern women so it comes with the territory.

I believe in establishing some type of rapport before it even gets to the point that you're meeting in person. By rapport I mean a good deal of telephone convos to where you can get a feel for one anothers basic personality. If you decide that you have enough in common to sustain a couple hours in each others presence, well then the risk of "wasting your money" is not so great. I personally can tell from a single conversation whether a guy is someone I would be interested in going on a date with. I'm not going to agree to a date just to get a free meal or waste your money. If I'm going that means I'm genuinely interested and we vibe well.

So what you're saying is that you're only attracted to men who are willing to financially support their woman? This is actually worse than most women, who only expect a free meal on the first date. You want all your meals to be free.

 

[b@squ1@t redux]

I'm more old-fashioned when it comes to this

But my aim in life also doesn't coincide with most modern women so it comes with the territory.

I'm not going to agree to a date just to get a free meal or waste your money.

cali gets lames to pay her to plunge 2 X 4's in her cavernous snatch on camera so of course dude gotta ante up on that 1st

....................

 

[jackthemack]

Prolly why I don't go on dates alot. I don't meet many women I'd love to spend money on. Y'all hoes can continue to buy me shit tho please don't stop

 

[Niggersauce]

Man or women, whoever asks someone out is essentially courting them and should pay for the occasion.

If you dont want to pay then don't ask, if as a man you have a problem paying for a meal then wait for a chick to ask you out. I've split the bill some dates when a girl asks me out, sometimes they make me put my wallet up. One of the best feelings.

But if i ask a chick out i'm asking her to come out with me and get to know me, from that point she can choose the next meeting or go on with herself; i have the confidence that i will get a second date that either she will pay for or we will split. Hasn't failed me yet.

Some of yall dudes really have confidence issues and it shows. There are always women that will directly fuck you for hard cash if you just wanted a nut.

 

[playmaker88]

Dude just dont go to a place that requires money. Go to the beach or drive around to a place with nice scenery or something.

That way when she gets hungry whatever bullshit fast food place u go to wont cost a lot.

I dont know why people still go on real "dates" anymore anyway. Thats just a bitch's way of eating and having a good time for free & on some lame's dime that they probably dont even plan on fucking anyway.

Its no different than me just walking up to an attractive female and saying, "here's a wad of cash cuz you're pretty...I'm gonna stand over here for 2-3 minutes while you decide if you're going to fuck me or not. If you dont...thats cool. You can still have the money."

THE FUCK?

DarcMooney thats what the fuck im talkin about