aneed123;c-10062264 said:
Madame_CJSkywalker;c-10060984 said:
aneed123;c-10060462 said:
the lines gonna be so blurred that flirtung is gonna be sexual harassment...
there is a big difference between abusing your power over a subordinate (sexual harassment), engaging with someone sexually without their consent (sexual harassment) and bad flirting
its a blurred line now tho. im a flirt... if a,chick u hollern at let's u say rub her shoulder or touch her thigh and she don't trip u know she feeling u... now days thats sexual harrassment... shit is stupid
you telling lena in billing she "cute" shouldn't warrant an out cry and or you being investigated
what you (we all) should be asking from the jump...
-could my actions (or words) potentially scare or alarm someone? (i.e. following someone around costco and to their car)
- has the person already made it clear to me that they are uninterested? (i.e. said they were in a relationship, asked you to stop or moved to the other side of the room)
-is this "compliment" really an uninvited and/or easily misconstrued assessment on my part of this person's attractiveness/body? (i.e. dick sucking lips, fat ass )
- is this the appropriate place and time? (i.e. trying to holla at someone you are interviewing for a job. inappropriate)
if you answer no to these questions 95% of time you aren't going to be accused of harassment
and context is important. do you know her well enough to assume that she wouldn't take offense to your language or advances. would most consider ur language or advances crude or disrespectful. have you already earned her trust that you touching her thigh is nothing that could potentially make her uncomfortable or feel intimidated. have u already earned her trust that you're actually interested in her as a person and not just her 'ass' or 'titties'
considering flirting involves engaging with the person that you are talking to as a person, and responding to their response. if you aren't getting a response or the response isn't clearly positive, you continuing to engage is a problem to
it's really not hard or confusing. it just requires thought and being considerate of other ppl. there is still more than enough room to express ur interest. the office or bus stop is not the club 2am on a friday night.