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caddo man;8891399 said:Damn yall separate your money though?
WE DO... WE NEED TO COMBINE... BUT I DONT KNOW HOW THATS GONE WORK, CAUSE I MIGHT OVER SPEND FR...
mryounggun
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caddo man;8883846 said:BackInWhite;544226 said:You in a committed relationship
Y'all decide to move in together
Y'all goin Dutch on the bills or should the man take care of all that?
Men, women, wassup?
Never move in with a chick until she has on that ring. So many mfer in some BS because of this. Cant kick the bitch out because you stuck with the bills or you dont feel like going thru the moving process.
Then you still have people that are married and going Dutch with two separate accts. WE are married. Bills get paid first with both of our money. You need to learn some restraint if I cant trust you with money.
Seem like we gotta different POVs on everything. I personally don't understand how a person could logically consider marrying a person without living with them first.
mryounggun
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We split everything down the middle in my crib. Except cable. I don't want that shit so I ain't paying for it.
Other than that though, 50/50.
In my experience, most people only want to abide by traditional gender roles when it benefits them.
Other than that though, 50/50.
In my experience, most people only want to abide by traditional gender roles when it benefits them.
yellowtapesport
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the dukester;8895499 said:I would actually volunteer to pay all the bills.
It's a strategy that has served me well in the past. Let me explain. When you pay all the bills, you not only "pay the cost to be the boss", you get at a minimum 3-4 fuck ups (ie. cheat passes) when you get sloppy with your game.
Plus you get a clean crib, home-cooked meals, sloppy toppy when playing PS4 (bitch ain't doing nothing else) and you get to have a legitimate excuse for being "gone all the time" (bitch I'm at work.....Cause I'm the only one WORKING).
Plus her friends constantly tell her "girl, you got a good man." In my opinion, the upsides, far outweigh the downsides.
This....but
DWO;8882779 said:Best way to keep a woman happy is to make sure she feels needed....
As long as she feels her contribution to the house hold bills are absolutely essential, her self worth will soar...
The quickest way to make her feel like you don't need her is to set it up to where her money isn't needed,
A woman is much more likely to seek outside the relationship when she feels unneeded
THIS makes more sense the older and more experienced i get
yellowtapesport;8899265 said:the dukester;8895499 said:I would actually volunteer to pay all the bills.
It's a strategy that has served me well in the past. Let me explain. When you pay all the bills, you not only "pay the cost to be the boss", you get at a minimum 3-4 fuck ups (ie. cheat passes) when you get sloppy with your game.
Plus you get a clean crib, home-cooked meals, sloppy toppy when playing PS4 (bitch ain't doing nothing else) and you get to have a legitimate excuse for being "gone all the time" (bitch I'm at work.....Cause I'm the only one WORKING).
Plus her friends constantly tell her "girl, you got a good man." In my opinion, the upsides, far outweigh the downsides.
This....but
DWO;8882779 said:Best way to keep a woman happy is to make sure she feels needed....
As long as she feels her contribution to the house hold bills are absolutely essential, her self worth will soar...
The quickest way to make her feel like you don't need her is to set it up to where her money isn't needed,
A woman is much more likely to seek outside the relationship when she feels unneeded
THIS makes more sense the older and more experienced i get
ever wonder why chicks ride so hard for bum ass niggaz?
they have that nurturing need, they have to take care of somebody, they have to feel needed..
now your woman ain't gotta kick out so much that she taking care of you in that sense, but you absolutely have to make sure she contributes enough so that her need to feel needed is met.....
shit's a balance....look at ginger in casino...ace gave her everything, he didn't need her for shit..... but she went back to the nigga that needed her money cuz she felt like they were more of a team....
mryounggun
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@DWO The thing is that it doesn't have to be financial. Women feeling needed in pretty much any way is key to most of their self-esteems. I think this is prolly the reason that some of my past relationships didn't work out. There is nothing that I actually NEED from a s/o and I refuse to play that 'Let me make her feel needed.' game.
Shit is childish to me.
If I fuck with you, it's because I love you and you ENRICH my life. Not because I need you in any way. I feel like that's how relationships should be but it rubs most women the wrong way.
Shit is childish to me.
If I fuck with you, it's because I love you and you ENRICH my life. Not because I need you in any way. I feel like that's how relationships should be but it rubs most women the wrong way.
the thread is about bills.....so i applied the logic to bills....however that doesn't take away from the very important part of needing someone.....
but bruh, your woman has to feel needed...there's no getting around that
if you feel like you don't have a need for her....then you're absolutely right that's why your relationships didn't work out....that shit's essential.. yall have to need eachother
nobody is going to stay anywhere for long where they're not needed.....it's just basic social interactions
but bruh, your woman has to feel needed...there's no getting around that
if you feel like you don't have a need for her....then you're absolutely right that's why your relationships didn't work out....that shit's essential.. yall have to need eachother
nobody is going to stay anywhere for long where they're not needed.....it's just basic social interactions
mryounggun
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DWO;8899413 said:the thread is about bills.....so i applied the logic to bills....however that doesn't take away from the very important part of needing someone.....
but bruh, your woman has to feel needed...there's no getting around that
if you feel like you don't have a need for her....then you're absolutely right that's why your relationships didn't work out....that shit's essential.. yall have to need eachother
nobody is going to stay anywhere for long where they're not needed.....it's just basic social interactions
Couple questions.
1. What specifically do you need your wife for?
2. Where does maturity playa role in all this? To me it seems extremely immature to be only want to be with someone if they actually NEED you for something. That's dangerous to me. I need my woman to be a fully-formed, fully functional, autonomous person before I ever come along.
mryounggun
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@DWO And to clarify, I don't mean what stuff do you make her FEEL like you need her for, like you mentioned in your orbital post. I mean what do you ACTUALLY need her for.
it's a difficult thing to explain to someone who's never had someone that close to them.....
there's a certain kind a understanding, support, and warmth that comes with the right companion that you never even noticed existed before....
i was always self motivated, and very independent on my own.... but once you really allow someone in.....everything changes..
my wife keeps me honest as shit.....theres so much more i care about that i wouldn't give a fuck about had it not been for her....i'm way more sensitive and passionate than i ever could have imagined.....
i'd be a cold bastard if she ever died or we parted for any reason.....
it's very difficult to explain, but i absolutely need her...i can't imagine how foul i'd be if she was taken from me...
there's a certain kind a understanding, support, and warmth that comes with the right companion that you never even noticed existed before....
i was always self motivated, and very independent on my own.... but once you really allow someone in.....everything changes..
my wife keeps me honest as shit.....theres so much more i care about that i wouldn't give a fuck about had it not been for her....i'm way more sensitive and passionate than i ever could have imagined.....
i'd be a cold bastard if she ever died or we parted for any reason.....
it's very difficult to explain, but i absolutely need her...i can't imagine how foul i'd be if she was taken from me...
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also it's ironic that you use the word maturity, because the person who feels they're so dependent that they don't need anybody for anything, is often the most immature....
some of the most emotionally damaged and unbalanced people I've personally interacted with are those who for whatever specific reasons, can't keep a relationship for the life of them....
ultimately i guess it's all about balance...it's tuff to list specifics, because each relationship is different, but it's all about balance. for me i need that companionship, i need that person to understand me, i need that person in my corner to keep me focused on what it's all for....
some of the most emotionally damaged and unbalanced people I've personally interacted with are those who for whatever specific reasons, can't keep a relationship for the life of them....
ultimately i guess it's all about balance...it's tuff to list specifics, because each relationship is different, but it's all about balance. for me i need that companionship, i need that person to understand me, i need that person in my corner to keep me focused on what it's all for....
mryounggun
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@DWO Yeah,I just realized that we we're talking about 2 totally separate things. When I say I don't need my woman, I mean that before she came along, I had a full, enriched life. There was nothing missing. And if - God forbid - we wen't our separate ways...things my life would still be full and enriched. That's what I mean by NEED.
Seems like you're talking about something else.
Agree?
Seems like you're talking about something else.
Agree?
yellowtapesport
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Yall niggas sound like the lil devil on one shoulder arguing with the angel on the other..
mryounggun
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Lol. So no answer. Got it. Agree to disagree.
mryounggun
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yellowtapesport;8900294 said:Yall niggas sound like the lil devil on one shoulder arguing with the angel on the other..
Yeah that's usually what it sounds like when two niggas are having a rational conversation on the IC.
We split rent and we can divide the bills. I would never live with a man who would pay all the rent. I would feel some type of way. Hell we get into a fight and I can see him throwing that in my face like "I can leave my shoes anywhere, you know what this is my house, I pay the damn rent, I do what I want." Even worse, the mofo could kick you out at 4am in the morning. Smh
Groceries/food, I would expect both to contribute but I prefer to buy my own groceries.
Groceries/food, I would expect both to contribute but I prefer to buy my own groceries.
