Fair or Foul: Women Anonymously Discuss Regretting Having Their Children and Becoming Single Mothers

[Westie]

Having children is not really as stressful as some people make it out to be as long as you can a decent job children are not that stressful

If you think that you're a shitty parent.

Hell nah, that's a bold statement. My daughter was easy as hell and still is to this day. Sleeping, eating schedule down when she was 2 months old. Incredibly intelligent. My son gonna be the same way. Money goes a long way in child rearing. There has not been a day when I have thought to myself that fatherhood has been even the least bit stressful.

Yeah I was just speaking to him. I know not everyone stresses. And I'm not talking about stressing because of children's behavior, I'm talking about world problems and how it affects our children, stressed about the future, etc. But if you don't have those worries cool.

 

[Westie]

lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence

A single mother is an unmarried mother so are we talking about single mothers who have no father for their children and no family and no friends? Because yes I can see that being a lonely existence. otherwise it's just fucking hard if you have those things, some or all.

By single mother, I mean mother who doesn't live with her partner or isn't in a committed relationship with the child's father or a step father.

So you can have a very functional co-parenting relationship, family and friends and lots of love around the child and the mother but it's the lonely simply because you're not fucking the father of your child? That's what you think?

Nah that's not what I think. If you're lucky to have alla that, sweet. Still, though. Need someone to talk to at 9pm Mon-Fri.

I'm not sure I mentioned sex anywhere

Or you could sleep or talk to a boyfriend or on the phone to someone... So many variables, but I value quiet time so maybe I'm the wrong person to look at that as not a huge deal.

Of course you could but everyday? I guess it's easier now with WhatsApp and shit though.

Idk what WhatsApp is

IDK maybe I'm in the minority but I value alone time so if I already talk to someone every single day other than my children, quiet is fine with me after a certain time. 13 years (for me) is a long time to talk to the same mother fucker so if you are happy with hearing everything your wife has to say after 9 p.m. every single night then congratulations to you. I think that's beautiful.

I value alone time too. It's different when you're choosin' to be alone. Havin' a child takes that choice away from you a lotta the time.

I'm single and, as far as I'm aware, childless.

So you're kind of on both sides of the fence then because you're saying being a single parent is lonely, but you won't have alone time with a child. It's really not a rare thing for a single mother to have family, friends and a man. Not all do, but I don't think lonely is the right word for all of them.

 

[zzombie]

Having children is not really as stressful as some people make it out to be as long as you can a decent job children are not that stressful

If you think that you're a shitty parent.

Hell nah, that's a bold statement. My daughter was easy as hell and still is to this day. Sleeping, eating schedule down when she was 2 months old. Incredibly intelligent. My son gonna be the same way. Money goes a long way in child rearing. There has not been a day when I have thought to myself that fatherhood has been even the least bit stressful.

Yeah I was just speaking to him. I know not everyone stresses. And I'm not talking about stressing because of children's behavior, I'm talking about world problems and how it affects our children, stressed about the future, etc. But if you don't have those worries cool.

I love you too bitch

 

[willhustle]

Life is about choices and it goes for both men & women. My problem with the article is the comment section though. Some of these women knew they were trying to accomplish goals or finish school but had babies w/the wrong guys and then want to regret being a parent because it's a burden. I think it's insulting to the child because they never asked to be brought into the world.

The way a person is from their personality when you get with them is what they were before you got with them.

 

[So ILL]

They don't regret having children, they regret choosing to lay down to conceive with niggas that ain't shit.

 

[not_osirus_jenkins]

I'm in my mid thirties and don't have any kids. I'm of the firm belief you need to have a great foundation first before you bring life into this world. I see too many uneducated, poor finances, shitty relationship,etc people having kids and making their lives ten times harder than it needs to be. My parents had a college education, career, and good finances before having me and i will continue on the tradition.

You're twenties should be your living and setting your foundation years because when you have kids or get married it's over.

False. What kind of lives do you niggas live? I'm 29, been married for 4 or 5 years (no bullshit I actually do not remember the date or year) have a 5 yr old girl thats about to turn 6 and a little boy that's due any day. I love this shit! I think becoming a father was the best thing that ever happened to me. We still travel, we still party and I have tea parties and build forts and play dress up. A balance of both. It's over when you're dead, not when you have kids or get married.

I don't believe most people come into their own and settle in their ways until their 30s. That's why the divorce rate is 50 percent right now. I see no reason why anyone in their right mind should get married in their 20's other than the pressure of family and society to follow an outdated norm.

I agree with you on this. In any other situation I would say don't get married til later in life but my wife is my best friend. We do everything together, but we have our seperate lives. Balance is essential in relationships just like life.

 

[_Lefty]

This thread has a zionist media agenda feel just springing up on Father's Day like this.

I saw these articles being talked about over a week ago. Everything ain't a conspiracy

I was about as serious as a bill cosby pharmacy proposal

 

[smp4life]

If a chick got a kid, I head for zee hills! There's a puff of smoke and my outline busted through the wall like a cartoon.

 

[Max.]

Eh

I aint reading this thread shit seems depressing

Single mom ^

 

[TayGettem]

Fck dis stupid hoes

 

[StillFaggyAF]

 

[Ajackson17]

Organisms are born to reproduce everything is a product of you. But you die without reproduction you failed for all time.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

so if these women had a man around that was a good dude...

would their outlook on parenting be different or the same...

sounds like they mad at the choice in mate they made not the child that reminds them daily of the poor decision they made.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

honestly i read this and know chicks like this.

they are not taking responsibility for their actions.

if the dad was around and they was able to pursue all the things they wanted in life but still ended up not shit....who could they blame....

what if they never had kids and still ended up not shit who would they blame...

are they mad they missing out on life or are they mad they didnt prepare properly when life threw them a curve which it does.

i hear bullshit

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I said it before, I'll say it again, KIDS ARE WOAT!

Kids are great but it's hard af to be a good parent.

it is....

people make that seem simple as shit...

they tend to not understand the frustrations of being a parent. some parent take shit out on kids...its not right but it can be understood...

its even harder being the responsible parent.... trust me..

 

[TayGettem]

Organisms are born to reproduce everything is a product of you. But you die without reproduction you failed for all time.

I honestly don't see it that way

 

[Kwan Dai]

Foul. The regret should be for the choices they made well before the child was conceived. Considering, that there are worse outcomes from dealing with people of questionable character, a child should be a blessing.

 

[LPast]

Through bad relationships, unplanned pregnancies, death, divorce, NO one wants to become a single parent. Can we all agree on that?

Even if you manage well, you will never get the appreciation that would come from having a partner. That lack of appreciation breeds resentment. The lack of a cohesive environment breeds resentment. Knowing that father who isn't around gets off easy breeds resentment. Knowing you life is forever changed breeds resentment.

It's hard to get into a 'good space' when you consider all of this.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Through bad relationships, unplanned pregnancies, death, divorce, NO one wants to become a single parent. Can we all agree on that?

Even if you manage well, you will never get the appreciation that would come from having a partner. That lack of appreciation breeds resentment. The lack of a cohesive environment breeds resentment. Knowing that father who isn't around gets off easy breeds resentment. Knowing you life is forever changed breeds resentment.

It's hard to get into a 'good space' when you consider all of this.

exactly...thats why when i hear niggas shit on they single parents or parent who want something more for them than average shit.....it pisses me off something terrible.

niggas could be left on the side of the road like in india.

but i think alot of people of people need to understand their parents dynamic before shitting on one or the other.

as seen here.... all mother aint good mothers mentally which shows but hidden behind strong woman bullshit

 

[Kwan Dai]

Through bad relationships, unplanned pregnancies, death, divorce, NO one wants to become a single parent. Can we all agree on that?

Even if you manage well, you will never get the appreciation that would come from having a partner. That lack of appreciation breeds resentment. The lack of a cohesive environment breeds resentment. Knowing that father who isn't around gets off easy breeds resentment. Knowing you life is forever changed breeds resentment.

It's hard to get into a 'good space' when you consider all of this.

exactly...thats why when i hear niggas shit on they single parents or parent who want something more for them than average shit.....it pisses me off something terrible.

niggas could be left on the side of the road like in india.

but i think alot of people of people need to understand their parents dynamic before shitting on one or the other.

as seen here.... all mother aint good mothers mentally which shows but hidden behind strong woman bullshit

This is overlooked quite often. It takes two tango and there are always two sides to a story. It sucks when a child is a caught in the middle but we all have our struggles in life to overcome.