If I had a partner I would never ask her to be monogamous. I would want her to have sex and romantic relationships with other people if it would make her happier, I'd identify with her pleasure. For all my faults I'm not a naturally jealous or envious person, there was a time when I actually felt the need to try to be jealous or hold onto what little jealousy I felt but the idea of my wife having sex or being in love with other men doesn't bother me at all, it turns me on (or at the very least I would be neutral to it if I disliked the other men). If the people she was having sex with were friends of mine then it might make me feel closer to them, it would be 'cozy'; like we were one big family (not that I have friends). I could easily be with only one woman because I could easily be with no woman and I don't plan on ever being with one let alone multiple. I wouldn't be interested in one or multiple committed romantic relationships even if it were an option (by commitment I mean an agreement to continue the relationship in future or to 'work' on it regardless of how we actually feel and trying to reproduce feelings we no longer have as opposed to just acting on how we feel right now, in the moment), at least not for non-altruistic reasons.
Anyways, the idea of a woman wanting to have sex with or being in love with multiple men (or men and women) at the same time is a turn on for me. So are sexually adventurous and (very, very) promiscuous (but responsible) women.
Trashboat;7611602 said:
More women sounds like more headaches but at the end of the day living a way you don't like is chump shit
Unless you're talking about marriage or cohabitation, multiple relationships wouldn't necessarily have to be serious. You wouldn't have to live with all of them. Would you think multiple friendships were more headaches than just one?
Monogamy is against the spirit of competition that drives all men.
Monogamy, polygyny and polyandry all promote competition, polygamy or polyamory does not (people sometimes confuse polygamy - multiple marriages, with polygyny - men being allowed multiple wives but wives only being allowed one partner, polyandry is women having multiple husbands but their husbands being married only to them). Competition would still exist in a polygamous society but polygamy doesn't foster that, if people were polygamous they wouldn't have to choose between people they were relatively attracted to and people they were more attracted to, nobody would have to leave one person *for* another. Rejection would have nothing to do with other people since someone could date two people who would otherwise be competitors in a monogamous society that gave them the ultimatum of choosing one or the other.