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not_osirus_jenkins
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It's inevitable, fear of the inevitable will crush you.
I'm not scared of death. I'm scared of dying too soon.
I'm not scared of death. I'm scared of dying too soon.
I don't think death is what really scares people the most, I think it's fear of the unknown. That is what really scares me, the not knowing. Also leaving your loved ones behind and just the finality of it
Also if I think about death too much, it brings to the surface the nihilistic nature of the universe. Everything really is meaningless, including death, and therefore so is life. That fills me with too much anxiety and dread. So I just try not to think about it too much
Also if I think about death too much, it brings to the surface the nihilistic nature of the universe. Everything really is meaningless, including death, and therefore so is life. That fills me with too much anxiety and dread. So I just try not to think about it too much
dallas' 4 eva
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I'm more afraid I won't live a full life before I die than dying itself. Death is inevitable so it's completely irrational to fear it.
imgoingtoheavenru?
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There's no explanation for death outside of the Bible.
And there is no remedy for overcoming death outside of being born again by confessing that Jesus Christ is LORD and believing in your heart that He rose from the dead.
You can take that to the bank! Amen!
And there is no remedy for overcoming death outside of being born again by confessing that Jesus Christ is LORD and believing in your heart that He rose from the dead.
You can take that to the bank! Amen!
semi-auto-mato
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I don't know if it's really a fear of death if its grief from your grandmother loss. When my mom died of Cancer is was a shock to my system. Life became very hard. I started to self medicate to get thru the day. My wife pushed me to go to therapy and it was a great thing for me. You recognize its a problem and you are hear talking to us but do yourself a favor and call a professional. You can do group therapy or one on one for this. I would suggest one on one.
fortyacres
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anybody who actually tells you they are not scared to die is lying.
you might not think about it often but everyone shudders at the idea.
you might not think about it often but everyone shudders at the idea.
DoUwant2go2Heaven
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fortyacres;9546141 said:anybody who actually tells you they are not scared to die is lying.
you might not think about it often but everyone shudders at the idea.
That is why God became flesh! So that He can share in our humanity, so that by His death He might destroy him who held the power of death, that is, the devil! And free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death! Hallelujah!
You see, Yeshua died on the cross for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day to destroy death and it's power! And when you are BORN AGAIN you receive everlasting life! We do not receive a spirit of slavery that returns us to fear, but we receive the Spirit of sonship, by whom we cry, "Abba! Father!"
Hallelujah!
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Neophyte Wolfgang
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You hit the quarter life crisis to a mild degree its normal, I went through a similar phase. I questioned authority more, questioned religion and its practices and hypocrisies. Went atheist, but realized a lot of atheist are pseudo skeptics who are generally very cynical. Was atheist for a good 4-5 years, but then became more "spiritual" due to personal experiences I had Pre cog dreams and ESP flashes. Now I just consider myself a truth seeker, I question everything and the source and keep an open mind. All I have are my experiences and my truths. I accepted I don't know much about anything in life and neither do scientists. Just look at human minuscule impact on the universe.
Don't get fooled by degrees and authority a lot of them are really not that smart
You're at the perfect age to start self realization and development
Don't get fooled by degrees and authority a lot of them are really not that smart
You're at the perfect age to start self realization and development
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When I saw my grandmother pass, it was a relief to me. She had cancer and passed away peacefully after months of pain. When I looked at her afterwards, and said goodbye, I knew she was no longer present. I think if her soul was still present, I could have felt it somehow, but what was left was inanimate; my grandmother was elsewhere.
To me, her death was a great way to understand death. It's nothing to fear. There's somewhere that our spirits go for sure, but it doesn't matter where. We carry their teachings, their thoughts and memories within us. That's enough.
That said, a loved one passing before their time is something that I have yet to experience (and hope to never experience), but for those lives, you should do the best to celebrate the time they had with us; regardless of how they passed.
I know of a friend of a friend whose daughter was murdered by her husband (who's now in prison). The mother of that child holds an annual meet for everyone who has been affected by murder. There, they have a small gathering and celebrate their loved ones. When this is possible, anything is possible.
From a personal standpoint, death is nothing to fear. Whether it happens in the next minute, or the next decade, or whenever, it just happens. Accept it. Spend your life doing something worthwhile and get some fresh air, goals and get out and do something with yourself. When death arrives, it's best to smile, knowing that you lived your life as best as you could with what wisdom you had.
For me, death is only scary if you do not fulfil your potential. Mankind persists because it's not about you. We are not selfish beings, not inherently anyways. We are all here to do greater good and advance the human species; just like any other species.
Find your passion, then pursue it.
After all, no loved one wants for another to mope around and be sad. Life is too short. Your loved one will still love you, even if they are absent without an explanation as to where they are; and you still have them in your heart and mind.
Turn off your computer / phone and go outside. Breathe some fresh air with some of your friends and family. Talk. And get therapy if you so wish, or at least read a book by the Dalai Lama. To me, he's insightful and interesting, and most importantly, inclusive of all human beings, regardless of gender, religion, or any other name that wrongfully groups others. We are all human.
Some examples that may resonate with you:
"Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions."
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them."
"Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck."
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."
"The purpose of our lives is to be happy."
To me, her death was a great way to understand death. It's nothing to fear. There's somewhere that our spirits go for sure, but it doesn't matter where. We carry their teachings, their thoughts and memories within us. That's enough.
That said, a loved one passing before their time is something that I have yet to experience (and hope to never experience), but for those lives, you should do the best to celebrate the time they had with us; regardless of how they passed.
I know of a friend of a friend whose daughter was murdered by her husband (who's now in prison). The mother of that child holds an annual meet for everyone who has been affected by murder. There, they have a small gathering and celebrate their loved ones. When this is possible, anything is possible.
From a personal standpoint, death is nothing to fear. Whether it happens in the next minute, or the next decade, or whenever, it just happens. Accept it. Spend your life doing something worthwhile and get some fresh air, goals and get out and do something with yourself. When death arrives, it's best to smile, knowing that you lived your life as best as you could with what wisdom you had.
For me, death is only scary if you do not fulfil your potential. Mankind persists because it's not about you. We are not selfish beings, not inherently anyways. We are all here to do greater good and advance the human species; just like any other species.
Find your passion, then pursue it.
After all, no loved one wants for another to mope around and be sad. Life is too short. Your loved one will still love you, even if they are absent without an explanation as to where they are; and you still have them in your heart and mind.
Turn off your computer / phone and go outside. Breathe some fresh air with some of your friends and family. Talk. And get therapy if you so wish, or at least read a book by the Dalai Lama. To me, he's insightful and interesting, and most importantly, inclusive of all human beings, regardless of gender, religion, or any other name that wrongfully groups others. We are all human.
Some examples that may resonate with you:
"Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions."
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them."
"Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck."
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."
"The purpose of our lives is to be happy."
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fortyacres;9546141 said:anybody who actually tells you they are not scared to die is lying.
you might not think about it often but everyone shudders at the idea.
I think people aren't scared of dying, just how you die is the scary part
its....JOHN B
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Sion;9544849 said:Go out and live brother. Indulge, love, cheat, lie, sing, dance, etc. Just really go out and live it up. You're too young to be bitter or scared of some shit like that. Fear is false evidence appearing real. That means it's an illusion.
Your life is not marked by how it ends but by how you lived it.
Cool screen name btw
You're definitely not living it up if you're not cheating, lying, indulging and hey don't forget stealing too...honestly what kind of bullshit advice is this? If you're an atheist then I guess it doesn't matter but even then if you have any respect for life wouldn't you want to be remembered for pretty much the opposite of everything you posted outside of love? (unless you can sing and dance not sure why that was thrown in there)
My only fear of death is the suddeness. The latest lost i had was about three weeks ago. An old head died in the living room while folks was all waiting to watch the game with him. Nigga had a heart attack right on the front couch and died in front of his sisters, nephews, everybody. And his daughters wedding was the following weekend.
So hopefully mines is late and quick.
So hopefully mines is late and quick.
fortyacres;9546141 said:anybody who actually tells you they are not scared to die is lying.
you might not think about it often but everyone shudders at the idea.
U sir sound like a girly man
Neophyte Wolfgang;9546196 said:You hit the quarter life crisis to a mild degree its normal, I went through a similar phase. I questioned authority more, questioned religion and its practices and hypocrisies. Went atheist, but realized a lot of atheist are pseudo skeptics who are generally very cynical. Was atheist for a good 4-5 years, but then became more "spiritual" due to personal experiences I had Pre cog dreams and ESP flashes. Now I just consider myself a truth seeker, I question everything and the source and keep an open mind. All I have are my experiences and my truths. I accepted I don't know much about anything in life and neither do scientists. Just look at human minuscule impact on the universe.
Don't get fooled by degrees and authority a lot of them are really not that smart
You're at the perfect age to start self realization and development
So many have problems with the bold if they're being told something they want to hear. They become just as blind a follower as those they have begun to criticize.
As for the thread though I've never feared death, it's inevitable. 2 things everyone on this planet will do and has done is be born and die. I'm scared of certain ways of dying. I have a fear of suffocating or drowning. That to me would be the worst way to go out...actually fearing being dead though nah. I mean I'ma be dead. Ain't shit I can do at that point so what is there to fear really? I know I'm doing my part to leave a good impact on the people around me so I know that when I am gone their memories will be good ones. I think those that fear death are worried somewhat about how they'll be remembered when they're not here to defend themselves from or explain away the inevitable bad things people they know will say about them because of how they may have treated some people. After something that happened to me summer 2005 where I came way too close to dying I made it a personal goal to make sure anyone I know not only knows the real me, but also is never in doubt about how I feel about them whether it be good or bad.
Will Munny
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I feel like most people who say they don't fear death haven't reaaaally had to come face to face with it before. We live an incredibly safe world and not many people really ever get seriously sick.
My grandmother has Alzheimer's and she'll probably be the first person that I am extremely close to that will pass on me. My grandfather died when I was 9 so I didn't really understand and he was sick the entire time
Just thinking about what I will do our feel when my grandmother passes terrifies me. Alzheimer's is scary as hell too because it's like death while the pain is still alive, well the death of your memories. Thankful she still knows who I am and stuff, but I can see really starting to slip
She keeps having these episodes where she remembers my 19 year old sister as a baby and starts looking for her all over the house and then thinks she's kidnapped cuz she can't find her. It's surreal
God willing, is far off but I don't know what I'll do if my husband passed before me, I don't think I could handle that, probably have a complete mental break down. I wish I could completely believe in a hereafter, that's probably put my mind at such ease, I just have too much doubt for blind, unquestioning faith
Best I can do is hope there is one
Just thinking about what I will do our feel when my grandmother passes terrifies me. Alzheimer's is scary as hell too because it's like death while the pain is still alive, well the death of your memories. Thankful she still knows who I am and stuff, but I can see really starting to slip
She keeps having these episodes where she remembers my 19 year old sister as a baby and starts looking for her all over the house and then thinks she's kidnapped cuz she can't find her. It's surreal
God willing, is far off but I don't know what I'll do if my husband passed before me, I don't think I could handle that, probably have a complete mental break down. I wish I could completely believe in a hereafter, that's probably put my mind at such ease, I just have too much doubt for blind, unquestioning faith
Best I can do is hope there is one
obnoxiouslyfresh
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Will Munny;9546812 said:I feel like most people who say they don't fear death haven't reaaaally had to come face to face with it before. We live an incredibly safe world and not many people really ever get seriously sick.
I remember when Patrick Swayze was in stage 4. Most cancer patients who are terminal have this graciousness about them.... Stuart Scott, Big Ang, etc. Patrick Swayze was the first person I ever saw say that he was so angry and couldn't find a silver lining. In the interview with Bara are Walters, he said he was so pissed. He felt robbed. I felt horrible for him. I couldn't imagine. I don't think any of us who haven't gone through that can imagine that shit.
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Will Munny;9545363 said:7figz;9544839 said:If I didn't have loved ones, I don't think I'd give 2 shits about death.
Not gonna lie, if I didn't know how sad it would make my mom I would have probably blown my brains out years ago.
Death isn't the scariest thing to me really, I can deal with that, it will be like sleeping and I love naps. What scares me way more than death is a life full of meaningless suffering.
There is a great philosophical essay by Albert Camus that touches on this. It's called the myth of Sisyphus. Basically asking that does recognizing the absurdity of the world lead to the conclusion that suicide is require. If everything is meaningless, what is the point of living. His summation is not to try to find meaning in the meaningless, but that the struggle against it has to be enough
Just the mere fact that you wish for meaning and order has to suffice, even if the pursuit of it is futile
