cheating while married...let's talk.

[Rasta.]

My point was when a man "wants to" stay married, he has to work harder than a female.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

when I was married, I fucked everything moving... even had a couple chicks come to the crib and smash in our bed...

why?

I was young and felt like my wife didnt respect me... i didnt even consider it cheating because I told shorty I wouldnt stand for certain treatment...

wow..... why didn't you just get a divorce ?

what did she do to make you feel disrespected? I mean cheating on her is one thing... bringing a chick to the house yall share and fucking her in the bed yall share is another. IMO of course.....

And I'm not sure how you can even say that wasn't cheating.... unless yall had an open marriage or something like that.

bringing chicks to the crib was foul...

I feel like i tried hard(not hard enough in hindsight). I tell shorties off the top, I aint no sucka so if i feel light i'm being treated second rate, I'll use u and do me... no surprises with me...

So it was more of an ego thing for you? Treat me like shit and I'll do the same to your or worse......

Just because someone is upfront about things doesn't mean it's right.

yes... I was young and very ego driven...

it may not b "right" but its fair... I'm not sneaky or deceitful... if i tell u str8 up, u cant act surprised...

 

[2stepz_ahead]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

@Du Du, i can without a doubt tell you that men who want to stay married work harder in relationships or marriage than women. Women tend to relax and get too comfortable cos "they got one"...

veyr true...because they think hes a good dude an wont go no where because he really wants her an no one else.

so once thats in the mind...they feel they can relax because he dont want no one else.

 

[nex gin]

I'm sure married men can attest to this. Having a wedding ring on is the equivalent of Axe body spray in those commercials. You put that shit on, and broads be on you like the ring is invisible. I don't know if it is a thrill to them to try and take another woman's man or what. I've had women outright come at me like.....

ME: I've got a woman

HER: So. I don't know that bitch

@LysolJenkins

Good story fam. Just reading your story...the signs where there that gal had some problems and could potentially be very "messy" if things didn't go her way. Glad you and wifey worked it out though cause it could've ended a lot worse.

Part of the reason I dont wear mine often..I actually get fucked with less....

That's some real shit though. It really opened my eyes up to how a lot of women think. Women may not want to admit it, but there are a lot of them out there that really don't give a damn if a man is married or not. To them, there are certain "benefits" to being w/ a married man.

 

[Dupac]

My point was when a man "wants to" stay married, he has to work harder than a female.

i can agree to that

 

[Crude_]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

Marriage definitely isn't for the weak it takes a lot of discipline and being content with what you have at home.

I know a lot people who are married but I more so look at those people who've been together 15-20 years or more to see what has worked for them.

If you a man prepare to compromise and pass up a lot of pussy.

I do enjoy having someone to share things with and someone I actually like being around even when we aren't having sex.

I can't say that for a lot of the women I fooled with prior to meeting my wife.

It has its pros and cons but it can work for those who are willing to work at it.

 

[Dupac]

for women it's about that emotional attachment....

as long as she's attached to you emotionally....you can beat on her cheat on her, do whatever the fuck you want.. she ain't going no where, she ain't fucking around... she just gonna be there and deal with it....

but the second that emotional attachment is severed.....she's gone....like rkell'ys song when a women's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do about it

but men....we're definitely the work horses....we put a lotta time sacrifice and effort into our marriages..for us it ain't just about chilling and being happy..... men gotta put that whole joint on their back and go above and beyond to ensure that shit works out....so yea i agree that for a marriage to work, the man does much more work than the woman

 

[Rasta.]

for women it's about that emotional attachment....



as long as she's attached to you emotionally....you can beat on her cheat on her, do whatever the fuck you want.. she ain't going no where, she ain't fucking around... she just gonna be there and deal with it....

but the second that emotional attachment is severed.....she's gone....like rkell'ys song when a women's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do about it

but men....we're definitely the work horses....we put a lotta time sacrifice and effort into our marriages..for us it ain't just about chilling and being happy..... men gotta put that whole joint on their back and go above and beyond to ensure that shit works out....so yea i agree that for a marriage to work, the man does much more work than the woman

Co-sign at the bolded! And when you got a good women who sees the sacrifices you make for the relationship or marriage, it keeps her on her toes cos she knows she'll never find another. It's simple and difficult at the same time...simple cos when both understand this, everyone is working at and on it. Difficult cos two individuals of different characteristics putting aside their egos, personalities etc. to achieve a common goal can test your mental fortitude...

 

[DNB1]

God's original intention was for man to have many wives and concubines.

All the early males in the bible had many wives.

I do believe the stance changed after Soddom and Gomorah. Then the 10 comandments were born.

Tho shalt not covert another mans wife...or some shit like that...

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribsg and then closed up the place with flesh. 22Then the Lord God made a woman from the ribh he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

again based on scripture I think this was God's ORIGINAL intention...and after the fall the ideal was corrupted...yes many men Including Soloman and David had many wives....doesnt mean that God approved...

but we just gon agree to disagree....im not derailing the thread.....

You're right....

 

[2stepz_ahead]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

Marriage definitely isn't for the weak it takes a lot of discipline and being content with what you have at home.

I know a lot people who are married but I more so look at those people who've been together 15-20 years or more to see what has worked for them.

If you a man prepare to compromise and pass up a lot of pussy.

I do enjoy having someone to share things with and someone I actually like being around even when we aren't having sex.

I can't say that for a lot of the women I fooled with prior to meeting my wife.

It has its pros and cons but it can work for those who are willing to work at it.

this will sum up most of the problems tho

like someone said men have to work harder in a marriage...women feel like they gave up such a lifestyle now you have to be her everything...but the problem lies within the beginning.....

think about it

alot of men tell another man to not get married or to think about it after you think about it...an to make sure...an to tell why shes the one. if we hear some bullshit we usually call the guy out on it.

how many women are honest with another woman? they make it sound like married life is so sweet an how they make him suffer by holding out an he gives in eventually.

none of them tell them to not hold out or he may cheat and that its hard work.

now Du said ..he know a few happily married men who wouldn't trade it for the world. they may have found the right one. but dudes are honest.

how many women are honest about they life?

 

[blackrain]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

The fantasy of that man transferring that commitment over to them. Notice it's rarely women who are happy in life that do that shit. It's usually somebody already looking for something they never had

 

[haute]

stop it wasn't shit

Glad you decided to be shit tho thumps up

 

[Meta_Conscious]

the saints r the sinners that keep trying...

 

[blacktux]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

 

[Chi Snow]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

U share ya wife and u proud?

Whateva bruh

 

[blacktux]

Shared*

Everything changes with time. Life is good.

 

[Disciplined InSight]

The stories in this thread...whoa.

Joey Greco would have a field day with you niggas.

 

[sweetheart93]

Damn @Stopitfive you ain't shit.

How do you sleep at night.

:|

 

[Trollio]

^^cracka loving slut

 

[sweetheart93]

^^cracka loving slut

I bet you won't fight me tho