cheating while married...let's talk.

[nex gin]

Haute is a homewrecker top 3 trillest IC women

 

[Meta_Conscious]

when I was married, I fucked everything moving... even had a couple chicks come to the crib and smash in our bed...

why?

I was young and felt like my wife didnt respect me... i didnt even consider it cheating because I told shorty I wouldnt stand for certain treatment...

wow..... why didn't you just get a divorce ?

what did she do to make you feel disrespected? I mean cheating on her is one thing... bringing a chick to the house yall share and fucking her in the bed yall share is another. IMO of course.....

And I'm not sure how you can even say that wasn't cheating.... unless yall had an open marriage or something like that.

I mean to me, it sounds like he just validated her not respecting him.

She probably sensed his ain'tshitness.

nah... I always been a good dude... I'm not to b taken for weak tho... we were young tho...

 

[BeleeDatPleighboy]

A large % of men has cheated in a relationship at least once be it sexually or emotionally or even mentally. It's in a man's nature to be with more than one woman.

where does the bolded come from ?

I've seen comments like this or similar one's.... who decided that it's in a man's nature to want to be with more than one woman?

Instincts of mammals.

But isn't cheating a conscious decision...... are you saying men can't control themselves?

Yep cheating is a conscious decision just like lying but do you do it? The answer is probably yes.

Am I saying cheating is right no I'm not but its foolish to think that men are like women and vice versa.

Just like women tend to be emotional a lot of guys have strong sexual urges.

Unlike women though a lot of men see sex purely as fulfilling a physical need nothing emotional.

Thats why you see a lot of men that are married or in relationships that fuck other women but come home to their mate like it isn't nothing.

and on the flip side thats why men seem to be hurt more when we find out our gal is stepping out...even if we are doing dirt...because the woman usually forms an emotional bond with the dude she fucking with....so its deeper than just sex. They are getting an emotional need met outside the marriage as well...so not only does the other nigga have her body...he has part of her mind/emotions as well.....

 

[Dupac]

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

you represent what they lack in their lives...and they want it.....

chris rock said it best..

Women HATE women. You get any two girlfriends in this room, been girlfriends for 25 years, you put a man in between them, "Fuck that bitch," "Fuck that bitch." Guys are not like that. Guys actually think that there are other fish in the sea, and if a guy introduces his boy to his new girlfriend, and when they walk away, his boy goes, "Aww man, she's nice, I gotta get me a girl LIKE that." If a woman introduces her new man to her girlfriend, and they walk away, her girlfriend goes "I gotta get HIM, and I will slit that bitch's throat to do it." Every girl in here got a girlfriend they don't trust around their man.

 

[Rasta.]

God's original intention was for man to have many wives and concubines.

All the early males in the bible had many wives.

I do believe the stance changed after Soddom and Gomorah. Then the 10 comandments were born.

Tho shalt not covert another mans wife...or some shit like that...

Honestly, the Bible is the most hypocritical literature out there but that's another discourse...looking around existence alone, nature affirms my belief that man is not meant to lay with one woman

 

[2stepz_ahead]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

you never gonna be used to the shit...i hear what you trying to say...but if the shit happens enough evenually someone can wear you down if what you have at home aint strong.

alot of the chick that come at my neck ...its not about the money..because most dont see it or understand what they are looking at...its more about the confidence i show and way i treat my wife.

yes the way i treat my wife has chicks trying to get at a nigga

 

[MsSouthern]

when I was married, I fucked everything moving... even had a couple chicks come to the crib and smash in our bed...

why?

I was young and felt like my wife didnt respect me... i didnt even consider it cheating because I told shorty I wouldnt stand for certain treatment...

wow..... why didn't you just get a divorce ?

what did she do to make you feel disrespected? I mean cheating on her is one thing... bringing a chick to the house yall share and fucking her in the bed yall share is another. IMO of course.....

And I'm not sure how you can even say that wasn't cheating.... unless yall had an open marriage or something like that.

bringing chicks to the crib was foul...

I feel like i tried hard(not hard enough in hindsight). I tell shorties off the top, I aint no sucka so if i feel light i'm being treated second rate, I'll use u and do me... no surprises with me...

So it was more of an ego thing for you? Treat me like shit and I'll do the same to your or worse......

Just because someone is upfront about things doesn't mean it's right. I have a friend who has been dating this guy for about 2 years. He has told her from the jump that he can never be satisfied with one woman in his life. Even if they marry ... he can only give her 6 out of 7 nights.

She tolerates it for some reason... thinking if she monopolizes his time that no other woman can be a part of his life but when he is not around her she is driving herself crazy worried about who he is with.

She tells me ... well at least he's honest and not doing it behind my back.

I just call bull shit on that .....

 

[rip.dilla]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

Ehhhh

Women are always quick to blame men for infidelity. .. But women are they're own worst enemies

 

[bgoat]

A large % of men has cheated in a relationship at least once be it sexually or emotionally or even mentally. It's in a man's nature to be with more than one woman.

where does the bolded come from ?

I've seen comments like this or similar one's.... who decided that it's in a man's nature to want to be with more than one woman?

men in the bible had more than one wife...i think thats what he is talking about. I could be wrong tho

But that's not nature.... that's something somebody decided and wrote about.

Not just men. All mammals, but of course some can control themselves.

I'm referring to @Cain1 statement about what's in a man's nature.....

Cheating is something a person decides to do....it's not like breathing or blinking ... which is involuntary.

Cain1 statement as I take it is that men are here to reproduce. Women weed out the weak for the dominant.

The reason there is cheating among humans, is because humans went against nature and forced relationships. I know the man species is supposed to be more civilized than animals, but we are more alike to animals(mammals) then we want to admit.

 

[Rasta.]

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

you represent what they lack in their lives...and they want it.....

chris rock said it best..

Women HATE women. You get any two girlfriends in this room, been girlfriends for 25 years, you put a man in between them, "Fuck that bitch," "Fuck that bitch." Guys are not like that. Guys actually think that there are other fish in the sea, and if a guy introduces his boy to his new girlfriend, and when they walk away, his boy goes, "Aww man, she's nice, I gotta get me a girl LIKE that." If a woman introduces her new man to her girlfriend, and they walk away, her girlfriend goes "I gotta get HIM, and I will slit that bitch's throat to do it." Every girl in here got a girlfriend they don't trust around their man.

It can boost a man's ego into cheating if he has no self restraint...married or committed guys are hit on or seduced 3x more than single guys..

 

[Dupac]

A large % of men has cheated in a relationship at least once be it sexually or emotionally or even mentally. It's in a man's nature to be with more than one woman.

where does the bolded come from ?

I've seen comments like this or similar one's.... who decided that it's in a man's nature to want to be with more than one woman?

Any male who read the bible, Torah, Koran or watched national geographic. Males are not naturally predisposed to be with one mate but men will go against their nature and settle down and become settled with one woman.

If the man was open and honest he would still fuck something else if he could. That's just fact

it's the same thing with killing a nigga.....

shit's called being civilized and abiding to the laws of the land.....

in today's society if i want to be married to one women, i have to forsake all others....i'm good with that....i like being married, i like being a part of the society i'm in, so i'll take that shit and live with it...

if you anger me, it might be in my nature to rage out and kill you....

but since i know that shit is against the law, i know my black ass will go to jail, i just gotta check myself, go against my nature, and fall back....

there's ton's of things in our make up that we have to learn how to control, elsewise we'd just be savages

 

[Dupac]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

you never gonna be used to the shit...i hear what you trying to say...but if the shit happens enough evenually someone can wear you down if what you have at home aint strong.

alot of the chick that come at my neck ...its not about the money..because most dont see it or understand what they are looking at...its more about the confidence i show and way i treat my wife.

yes the way i treat my wife has chicks trying to get at a nigga

same here, i get that....i understand that, and i watch that shit....

i ain't finna let some big booty bitch fuck up my whole life cuz she upset her baby daddy ain't putting in the work i put in with my family......

you just gotta recognize shit for what it is...

 

[BeleeDatPleighboy]

God's original intention was for man to have many wives and concubines.

All the early males in the bible had many wives.

I do believe the stance changed after Soddom and Gomorah. Then the 10 comandments were born.

Tho shalt not covert another mans wife...or some shit like that...

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribsg and then closed up the place with flesh. 22Then the Lord God made a woman from the ribh he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

again based on scripture I think this was God's ORIGINAL intention...and after the fall the ideal was corrupted...yes many men Including Soloman and David had many wives....doesnt mean that God approved...

but we just gon agree to disagree....im not derailing the thread.....

 

[nex gin]

I'm sure married men can attest to this. Having a wedding ring on is the equivalent of Axe body spray in those commercials. You put that shit on, and broads be on you like the ring is invisible. I don't know if it is a thrill to them to try and take another woman's man or what. I've had women outright come at me like.....

ME: I've got a woman

HER: So. I don't know that bitch

@LysolJenkins

Good story fam. Just reading your story...the signs where there that gal had some problems and could potentially be very "messy" if things didn't go her way. Glad you and wifey worked it out though cause it could've ended a lot worse.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

 

[Rasta.]

A large % of men has cheated in a relationship at least once be it sexually or emotionally or even mentally. It's in a man's nature to be with more than one woman.

where does the bolded come from ?

I've seen comments like this or similar one's.... who decided that it's in a man's nature to want to be with more than one woman?

Any male who read the bible, Torah, Koran or watched national geographic. Males are not naturally predisposed to be with one mate but men will go against their nature and settle down and become settled with one woman.

If the man was open and honest he would still fuck something else if he could. That's just fact

it's the same thing with killing a nigga.....

shit's called being civilized and abiding to the laws of the land.....

in today's society if i want to be married to one women, i have to forsake all others....i'm good with that....i like being married, i like being a part of the society i'm in, so i'll take that shit and live with it...

if you anger me, it might be in my nature to rage out and kill you....

but since i know that shit is against the law, i know my black ass will go to jail, i just gotta check myself, go against my nature, and fall back....

there's ton's of things in our make up that we have to learn how to control, elsewise we'd just be savages

In as much as i want to agree with you, what is within inherently is greater than what is outside. Man may choose to fit in to the societal construct by suppressing his natural tendencies but it does come out (case in point homosexual tendencies)...you can never cheat nature or time..

 

[Dupac]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

i know several...

they don't tell me the shit is easy, but they all say they wouldn't have traded it in for the world

 

[BeleeDatPleighboy]

I'm sure married men can attest to this. Having a wedding ring on is the equivalent of Axe body spray in those commercials. You put that shit on, and broads be on you like the ring is invisible. I don't know if it is a thrill to them to try and take another woman's man or what. I've had women outright come at me like.....

ME: I've got a woman

HER: So. I don't know that bitch

@LysolJenkins

Good story fam. Just reading your story...the signs where there that gal had some problems and could potentially be very "messy" if things didn't go her way. Glad you and wifey worked it out though cause it could've ended a lot worse.

Part of the reason I dont wear mine often..I actually get fucked with less....

 

[Rasta.]

man that option shit is ego and a lack of awareness.....

if you are aware that you're in a position that attracts women....it's not gonna surprise you or catch you off guard when they start throwing themselves at you....

when dudes aren't expecting that shit, their ego has them think that this chick is actually interested in them...it was something they did or how they looked that attracted these women....not their position of power, or prestige that attracted them.....

you just gotta stop lying to yourself and be aware of what's going on...

if i'm driving a $100,000 car and wearing a $10,000 suit or whatever making like 6 figures a year, i can't be all shocked and surprised if i got some bad ass chick following me around while i'm shopping for some other luxurious shit rich niggaz buy.....

the shit comes with the territory....niggaz just gotta be on point about that shit

And for the life of me, i don't understand how/why females throw themselves at married or committed guys...

honestly, its becaus alot of women dont know how to treat they husband so its easy. then the guy feels all important now and will do anything for the chick to keep her because she just added a new spark to his life.

i have yet to run into double digit happily married men in real life.

@Du Du, i can without a doubt tell you that men who want to stay married work harder in relationships or marriage than women. Women tend to relax and get too comfortable cos "they got one"...

 

[Dupac]

A large % of men has cheated in a relationship at least once be it sexually or emotionally or even mentally. It's in a man's nature to be with more than one woman.

where does the bolded come from ?

I've seen comments like this or similar one's.... who decided that it's in a man's nature to want to be with more than one woman?

Any male who read the bible, Torah, Koran or watched national geographic. Males are not naturally predisposed to be with one mate but men will go against their nature and settle down and become settled with one woman.

If the man was open and honest he would still fuck something else if he could. That's just fact

it's the same thing with killing a nigga.....

shit's called being civilized and abiding to the laws of the land.....

in today's society if i want to be married to one women, i have to forsake all others....i'm good with that....i like being married, i like being a part of the society i'm in, so i'll take that shit and live with it...

if you anger me, it might be in my nature to rage out and kill you....

but since i know that shit is against the law, i know my black ass will go to jail, i just gotta check myself, go against my nature, and fall back....

there's ton's of things in our make up that we have to learn how to control, elsewise we'd just be savages

In as much as i want to agree with you, what is within inherently is greater than what is outside. Man may choose to fit in to the societal construct by suppressing his natural tendencies but it does come out (case in point homosexual tendencies)...you can never cheat nature or time..

depends on how much self control you have, and how strong your urges are....

the fact is every man does not cheat....that's a fact....

many do....but everyone doesn't...

so regardless how attractive i find other women, or how much of a urge i have to resist..it's my choice to resist it....

everyone faces temptation...that's life....

it's a choice however to yield to it or not...

if i choose not to...then it is what it is