All potential SOs should undergo a thorough background check

[think]

I do ask questions and draw conclusion and assumptions from the answers I get but I don't worry too much past that. Whats done in the dark generally comes to the light. If they're lying or hiding stuff it will eventually come out or I will figure it out on my own generally.

Blind faith.

 

[leftcoastkev]

They do these for jobs, why not for a person you plan to invest your all in and spend the rest of your life with? You want to be sure right? Blind faith is just not enough.

This includes:

- Giving all screennames and passwords to social networking sites
- Giving your usernames in forums and checking out your post history
- Getting full access to all IM programs and email accounts
- Access to cell phone address book and bills for call logs

This would make everything transparent between the two. If you got nothing to hide and want to build the foundations, surely this is the way to go.

yay or nay? Add on to the list.

nay.
damn, is this what the game is coming to? i wouldn't waste my time with all that insecure shit. if she with me, then she with my program right now. i'm assume a broad fucked with dudes before me. i don't want no virgin bitch.

i wanna know the important shit but i'll be damned if i'm revolving my whole life around the possibilities of outside fuckery (investigating call logs and bills and "forum post history"??lol). y'all niggas sound like y'all got guilty consciences morphing into full blown paranoia.

 

[Crude_]

Blind faith.

Maybe but I consider it to be more comfortable with myself not insecure.

 

[think]

Maybe but I consider it to be more comfortable with myself not insecure.

I consider it to be protecting my investment, especially if I'm dead serious about it.

For the record, I'm half serious. Of course, I'm not gonna be all up in a bitch's grill. I use an approach that's in between. But you can't blame the thought of doing this full on.

 

[Sh0t]

Check how much DEBT the chick has before anything else.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

which prolly was just a tongue kiss on a dare. i dont see you the type to have a dirty past.

It wasnt no skeleton in the closet type shit but it did have the potential to blow up ya know

 

[meekins]

It wasnt no skeleton in the closet type shit but it did have the potential to blow up ya know

i feel it. honesty is always necessary. it shows respect and earns trust.

with that said... you care to share yo stories with me?

 

[Bussy_Getta]

he knew of 1 person i fooled around with and I dated his boss
this happened before I even knew who he was but I felt he still should know

 

[think]

he knew of 1 person i fooled around with and I dated his boss
this happened before I even knew who he was but I felt he still should know

You good.

We need more females like that.

 

[meekins]

he knew of 1 person i fooled around with and I dated his boss
this happened before I even knew who he was but I felt he still should know

WOW.. yea thats something i woulda needed to know before there was anymore advances lol.. boss, tho? smh.. lol.. hell naw.. lol

was it like a relationship, or just 1 them jumpoff relationships...

to know that the man that gives you orders and have to answer to, also layed pipe to my girl? smh... tsk tsk tsk... lol

 

[Bussy_Getta]

It wasnt a serious relationship but it wasnt jumpoff, he ended up catchin feeling over the fact I stopped talkin to him for my current bf and tried to make his job complicated and start hella shit. he ended up gettin demoted tho lol

 

[meekins]

It wasnt a serious relationship but it wasnt jumpoff, he ended up catchin feeling over the fact I stopped talkin to him for my current bf and tried to make his job complicated and start hella shit. he ended up gettin demoted tho lol

oh ok. thats all good, then. im thinking yall was getting down, forrea before you ever knew yo current. but since you chalked the boss for him, then that aint nothing to fuss about. so basically.. he took his boss' chick. thats a nice win lol.

 

[kat2180]

nay.

damn, is this what the game is coming to? i wouldn't waste my time with all that insecure shit. if she with me, then she with my program right now. i'm assume a broad fucked with dudes before me. i don't want no virgin bitch.

i wanna know the important shit but i'll be damned if i'm revolving my whole life around the possibilities of outside fuckery (investigating call logs and bills and "forum post history"??lol). y'all niggas sound like y'all got guilty consciences morphing into full blown paranoia.

lol...co-sign.

Yall are sounding a little over the top in here.

 

[DMTxTHC]

Baby/childhood photos should be at or near the top

 

[Aristo_V300]

Don't have time for that bullshit...

 

[D-Marco]

Thats some insecure shit if i ever saw it. Nobody's perfect so ur gonna run into a flaw in every chick.

LMAO @ seriously checking thru a chick emails and im history. Sound like one of those dudes who wanna off himself after his wifey cheat.

 

[MsSouthern]

perks of the job is that I can run background checks on folks

now needing passwords and IP checks and phone bills is stalkerish

I just want to make sure I'm not dating a child molester.... a murderer .... someone who lies about owning his house ... etc

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

They do these for jobs, why not for a person you plan to invest your all in and spend the rest of your life with? You want to be sure right? Blind faith is just not enough.

This includes:

- Giving all screennames and passwords to social networking sites
- Giving your usernames in forums and checking out your post history
- Getting full access to all IM programs and email accounts
- Access to cell phone address book and bills for call logs

This would make everything transparent between the two. If you got nothing to hide and want to build the foundations, surely this is the way to go.

yay or nay? Add on to the list.

Nay.
No.
Nuh uh.

 

[Sh0t]

Go back 150 years, and stuff like this was rather common. Probably not even that far back. Families were often VERY inquisitive of potential suitors for their scions, etc.

The only way to really do this well is to marry a girl young enough to not have much of a past. 20 is good

 

[meekins]

Go back 150 years, and stuff like this was rather common. Probably not even that far back. Families were often VERY inquisitive of potential suitors for their scions, etc.

The only way to really do this well is to marry a girl young enough to not have much of a past. 20 is good

sheeeeeeeeeid... 20 is too old if you tryna catch a clean past'd chick/. these girls is having 3sums with 2 girls/dudes at 15-16 now.. getting train'd on.. swallowing groups of dudes, etc etc.. you nmine as well marry a pre-teen if you lookin for a clean past.