Trillfate;9408286 said:
@Khaleesi sorry your fam is breaking up.. but do remember when you posted your wedding pictures and the IC said "give it 2 years tops"... how u feel about that Negrodamus prediction coming true?
@Trillfate
I feel indifferent about it because the reasons why they felt that way are not the reasons why we broke up.
Truth is, I've changed a lot in the past year. It's like I've been moving forward and my husband has been staying perfectly still. He is comfortable with our current living situation.. He doesn't have the ambition that I do to want more. I don't wanna be an employee all of my life. I wanna be a boss, I wanna own my own practice, be a home owner, etc. I can't do all of that if my partner does not share the same ambition and dreams that I do.
He also does not share the same passion that I do regarding enriching the lives of black people... My people. I plan to open a practice in a predominantly black neighborhood and provide free physicals and health screenings for the uninsured. I also have many ideas of products that can be used for black women and black women only.
He refuses to come to BLM protests with me and just ignores me when I preach about social injustices. Him not being supportive with that is my biggest issue.
When I was cooning back then he was the one teaching me and showing me how shit is and how white supremacy is real in this country.... And its like the more confident and self assured that I became about myself and my race... The more he regressed and started saying stupid shit like "I'm not on any side". Where I would then reply, "you saying that you're not on any side means that you've chose the side of the oppressor". This is the main reason why I came to terms with the fact that we are no longer compatible.
I want to be with a partner that shares the same beliefs, passion, and has the same ambition as I do. @Simplicius just happens to be all of that and more.
Yeah we haven't met yet, but when we talk... He be saying shit that trips me out because it's like he's reading my mind. It's like he is me and I am him. He be telling me word for word things that I be saying in my head and I can do nothing but stay quiet every time that happens. I stay shook like
Shit is real trippy.
But yeah, my husband is an amazing father and he is a good person. We're on good terms, we have the utmost respect for each other and we're gonna do whatever is best for our daughter. She's always gonna have easy access to both parents and she's always gonna see nothing but love between us.