4 years of marriage and now getting a divorce.

[MD_PROPER]

Just because she's irate about the divorce filing doesn't mean she wants to be married for the right reasons....some women get upset just because they think they're loosing face in front of family and friends...some women will stay in a bad marriage because they've bragged about how great the relationship was and they're afraid to look like a failure when it ends.

So dont take her emotions as an indication that she wants to stay together. She might just want the comfort and convenience you provide i.e. home, vehicle, money, food, etc.....

But if yawl didnt give it your BEST shot yet then try for your daughter's sake...dont look back and say yawl didnt try hard enough...

 

[jetlifebih]

Sad situation. The wife doesn't want the divorce. Her reactions after being served says it all. This marriage still can be saved but it sounds like the t/s is not interested. The blind side divorce move was uncalled for. He should have been upfront with it.

She wasn't upfront when with-holding on the intimacy....that blind side cold shoulder/no touch shit is uncalled for....grown ass woman can't communicate effectively...

 

[Koltrain]

Women withholding intimacy is one of the worst things you can do to a man.. Something had to happen if only six months ago things went bad.. ts gotta give more details into what caused the issue.

 

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[blackrain]

I've considered divorce a few times, but it's because my wife is a low key alcoholic. Our three kids the only reason we still together.

Sounds like in your situation you the one fucking shit up though. Always leaving to hang with the homies and hoes. Take accountability and stop fucking up. Or if you plain don't like her then end it and don't fight her on custody or anything cause again, you the one fucking up.

Get your wife some help asap. Trust me as someone who grew up with a mother with substance abuse problems your kids notice everything and it will have long term effects on them

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

You'll run into a lot of ain't shit bitches out here

Facts

 

[TheNightKing]

Women don't withhold intimacy for no reason. The reason might be bullshit, but it's not for nothing. That's where accountability comes into play.

 

[Mastery]

Impossible to give solid advice without details.

Thats is how you get bad advice.

/ thread

 

[jetlifebih]

Women don't withhold intimacy for no reason. The reason might be bullshit, but it's not for nothing. That's where accountability comes into play.

You can't use accountability after skipping over accountability in the first part of your thought....

On one hand the female doesn't have to hve accountability for not communicating her issue and fixing it instead of throwing gas on a fire by with holding intimacy....but the male has to have accountability for his actions that he has no idea will make her upset....it's like your saying because she is a female she doesn't have to take responsibility...

But let's play y'alls sick mind game....forget shorty for a second, I as a man should take accountability for something at this point.....I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY FOR BECAUSE SHE HASNT COMMUNICATED WHAT THE ISSUE IS....

Is this nigga supposed to crawl to her and beg her to tell him what he did that made her upset??? Really niggas??? If that's what it takes for a marriage.....count me out....my patience has worn to thin for simple shit like that....I couldn't imagine being knee deep into my psychological career to be dealing with women who can't communicate if not at the point of contention...at least after she thought about it and cooled down....

 

[texas409]

dude dropped that story and dipped......

 

[Antlerz]

Reconcile

Reconcile

Reconcile

You still have a chance my friend! But once the ship sails, it's gone forever! There is still hope! Don't give up and live a life of regret!

Reconcile

Reconcile

Reconcile

Thank you Tony Robbins

 

[TheNightKing]

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[TheNightKing]

Women don't withhold intimacy for no reason. The reason might be bullshit, but it's not for nothing. That's where accountability comes into play.

You can't use accountability after skipping over accountability in the first part of your thought....

On one hand the female doesn't have to hve accountability for not communicating her issue and fixing it instead of throwing gas on a fire by with holding intimacy....but the male has to have accountability for his actions that he has no idea will make her upset....it's like your saying because she is a female she doesn't have to take responsibility...

But let's play y'alls sick mind game....forget shorty for a second, I as a man should take accountability for something at this point.....I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY FOR BECAUSE SHE HASNT COMMUNICATED WHAT THE ISSUE IS....

Is this nigga supposed to crawl to her and beg her to tell him what he did that made her upset??? Really niggas??? If that's what it takes for a marriage.....count me out....my patience has worn to thin for simple shit like that....I couldn't imagine being knee deep into my psychological career to be dealing with women who can't communicate if not at the point of contention...at least after she thought about it and cooled down....

I'm speaking simply from a cause and effect perspective. He did some shit and her reaction was to withhold intimacy. He's accountable for causing it.

If he truly doesn't know what he did to cause it and he asks her, then it's on her and she's accountable for continuing the issue since she's not communicating.

I don't absolve anyone from accountability.

 

[T. Sanford]

I don't know the whole story but if y'all are verbally abusing each other in front of the child then its probably better to part ways; that's if yall can't patch the differences up. Don't rob your child out of her happiness because the parents can't get along. I seen this episode on a numerous occasions that the child will pick a side & grow up to envy one of or both of her parents

 

[aneed123]

Sad situation. The wife doesn't want the divorce. Her reactions after being served says it all. This marriage still can be saved but it sounds like the t/s is not interested. The blind side divorce move was uncalled for. He should have been upfront with it.

I dont know... sometimes women think they can with hold sex and argue all the time but the woman side of they brain has them thinking the man good and aint going no where... She know damn well she aint gave homie none... She accountable a well and the surprise divorce papers may make her wanna work towards ssaving her marriage instead of going thru the motions.

 

[aneed123]

Women don't withhold intimacy for no reason. The reason might be bullshit, but it's not for nothing. That's where accountability comes into play.

You can't use accountability after skipping over accountability in the first part of your thought....

On one hand the female doesn't have to hve accountability for not communicating her issue and fixing it instead of throwing gas on a fire by with holding intimacy....but the male has to have accountability for his actions that he has no idea will make her upset....it's like your saying because she is a female she doesn't have to take responsibility...

But let's play y'alls sick mind game....forget shorty for a second, I as a man should take accountability for something at this point.....I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY FOR BECAUSE SHE HASNT COMMUNICATED WHAT THE ISSUE IS....

Is this nigga supposed to crawl to her and beg her to tell him what he did that made her upset??? Really niggas??? If that's what it takes for a marriage.....count me out....my patience has worn to thin for simple shit like that....I couldn't imagine being knee deep into my psychological career to be dealing with women who can't communicate if not at the point of contention...at least after she thought about it and cooled down....

I'm speaking simply from a cause and effect perspective. He did some shit and her reaction was to withhold intimacy. He's accountable for causing it.

If he truly doesn't know what he did to cause it and he asks her, then it's on her and she's accountable for continuing the issue since she's not communicating.

I don't absolve anyone from accountability.

naw B.... u making an assumption he did something to start the whole cause and effect thing ur arguing... We dont know who caused what. She coulda did something first , then he reacted, now she mad withholding sex... we dont know who started what but we do know that its2 grown adults in that marriage and accountability is a 2 way street not just on the man because his wife mad.

 

[jetlifebih]

We def are missing the other 2 sides of the story(hers and the un-persuaded truth)

 

[deadeye]

I wish I could hear her side of the story. But anyway y'all should get counseling and if that don't work then end it.

I just wish dude would come back in the thread and answer our questions.

 

[deadeye]

And all the I love you's stopped between me and her. It has been so bad that I almost thought about cheating on her numerous of times because we haven't had sex with each other since November of 2016. And we use to have a lot of sex but it suddenly stopped.

Just re-read the O/P.

We're all assuming that she's withholding sex, but dude never actually said that.

All he said was that it suddenly stopped.........and that they haven't had sex with each other.

So, it could be a mutual.

But yeah, it's all speculation until/unless dude comes back and explains what's going on in more detail.

 

[TheNightKing]

Women don't withhold intimacy for no reason. The reason might be bullshit, but it's not for nothing. That's where accountability comes into play.

You can't use accountability after skipping over accountability in the first part of your thought....

On one hand the female doesn't have to hve accountability for not communicating her issue and fixing it instead of throwing gas on a fire by with holding intimacy....but the male has to have accountability for his actions that he has no idea will make her upset....it's like your saying because she is a female she doesn't have to take responsibility...

But let's play y'alls sick mind game....forget shorty for a second, I as a man should take accountability for something at this point.....I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY FOR BECAUSE SHE HASNT COMMUNICATED WHAT THE ISSUE IS....

Is this nigga supposed to crawl to her and beg her to tell him what he did that made her upset??? Really niggas??? If that's what it takes for a marriage.....count me out....my patience has worn to thin for simple shit like that....I couldn't imagine being knee deep into my psychological career to be dealing with women who can't communicate if not at the point of contention...at least after she thought about it and cooled down....

I'm speaking simply from a cause and effect perspective. He did some shit and her reaction was to withhold intimacy. He's accountable for causing it.

If he truly doesn't know what he did to cause it and he asks her, then it's on her and she's accountable for continuing the issue since she's not communicating.

I don't absolve anyone from accountability.

naw B.... u making an assumption he did something to start the whole cause and effect thing ur arguing... We dont know who caused what. She coulda did something first , then he reacted, now she mad withholding sex... we dont know who started what but we do know that its2 grown adults in that marriage and accountability is a 2 way street not just on the man because his wife mad.

We all making assumptions, lol. From his own admission he leaving the house to chill with his boys and female friends, contemplating cheating. I don't believe he just started that all of a sudden. That's all I have to go on. He ain't say she did anything.