Xzibit checks his son on social media

[2stepz_ahead]

A lot of fathers are guarded and defensive about this topic, and as a result easily angered.

Now if those few exchange of tweets were the full extent of this, then to me it looks like an overreaction on Xhibit's part.

His son did not call him a deadbeat. He did not say he was a bad parent. He didn't even elaborate on the circumstances of why his father would not or could not be around. He simply acknowledged that the interview resonated with him, and he is entitled to own that experience. Fathers not being present affects children, period. Is he not allowed to utter this out loud? This includes parents who sacrifice time to earn and provide their kids as well. Children with fathers overseas in the military experience the same father hunger as kids whose dads are in jail. That's his experience. Parents are really sensitive people, and I get it. But when someone says "Not having my dad/mom around affected me," your ears don't always have to hear "You were a bad mom/dad. You aint shit."

This was last month... he clearly love his daddy. Xhibit in his feelings. Get over yourself

That behavior got Malcolm killed.

FAMILLY STUFF DONT GO PUBLIC!!

DONT BITE MILLIONAIRE HANDS THAT FEEDS YOU AND WILL PUT YOUR ASS IN A FERRARI!!

KEEP IT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DAD!!

I DONT WANT TO HEAR NONE OF THAT FAMILLY SHIT.

HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOUR PARENTS.

PEOPLE IN PARIS, MOGADICCIO, SIDNEY, KAZAKSTAN DONT HAVE TO READ ABOUT FAMILLY FEELINGS EXCEPT

THANK YOU DAD

THANK YOU MUM

The nigga didn't even say his dad was absentee. He said the interview spoke to him. He's entitled to that.

He is entitled to that. But it's odd that he can relate to a situation that he himself hasn't experienced. His saying the topic resonated with him implies his dad was absentee.

I'm pretty sure I could relate to someone whose dad was not around if mine was a fuckin rapper, all feelings aside. If you spent your child's formative years without much physical contact with them, then yes that affects them, even for the most well-meaning and good intentioned parents. These are highly sensitive topics that cause distress for fathers for good reason, but those are the facts.

The problem is how you assess that type of situation - appreciation / talking shit and calling them absentee or deadbeat ?

My father worked 2 jobs and my mother worked double-shifts and weekends a lot of the time.

Even if I didn't see one parent a whole lot, WTF I look like calling one of them out publicly for not being there or running around talking about I can relate to having absentee parents ? That's some fuck shit if you ask me.

I see how it happens to children though, in the current bitch-made society but once you get to be even a teenager talking that ignorant shit, you on some bullshit.

He didn't get on social media and go on a rant. In fact, he didn't even respond to his dad and Xhibit went on for more tweets after that talking big shit while responding to other followers. His son thanked Stylez for speaking on an issue that resonated with him, which we can all learn from, quite frankly. That's it, that's all. Joe Budden was crying on his podcast about the same interview. I suggest y'all go watch it before trying to check somebody about what they should feel connected to.

My parents are pretty much the shit too. I didn't want for a thing. Hard working people. Their names are tatted on me and I'd jump in front of an Ak47 for both of them. Annnnnnd with all that, they both taught me some of the worst, most fucked up, dysfunctional habits by the way they treated each other in front of me. Now I could hide from that or I could recognize that and correct my own shit. That's apart of being a sentient creature....part of the human experience. To have some perspective about "the stuff" that formed you. How you walk around tryin to act oblivious to the fact that you wasn't affected by your daddy not coming to one basketball game... In the name of somebody's ego. More often than not, parents fuck up their kids unknowingly. EVEN GOOD PARENTS. It's life.

here's the thing tho...no one is perfect. but the character should define the person not perfection.

if you respect that statement....it should be taught to your kids.

understanding why daddy aint home...should be instilled. he could be the very reason why a nigga work do hard.

so miss your dad....don't agree with absentee shit.

too different animals.

ole leopard don't change it spots ass niggas...but they don't know it's a cheetah they looking at.

just know what you speaking about

This man said "I can relate on many levels. Thanks @Stylez for speaking on this"

Whatever baggage yall bringing to this thread...idk man

so you hear your bf agreeing on many levels about his homies cheating hoe ass lazy gf...would you question him on what exactly he relating with?

@blackrain here's a scenario

I'd probably be in my feelings the way Xhibit is in his now. But that wouldn't make his statement any less valid. It would just make me in my feelings. Now a spouse telling you that is one thing and how you respond would reflect how much you care about your relationship, but I don't really think a parent should disregard what a kid says about how their upbringing affected them...at least in most cases.

so wait....

if he said that an it wasn't true....how is that valid?

him making a statement doesn't make it right or valid an it's disrespectful. to you.

I mean if there are ways I could resemble someone's cheating, lazy hoe ass girlfriend, I'd like them to make it clear for me how they made that conclusion. But of course that's just you using an extreme example as a cheap way to prove a point. I can give you a real, more reasonable example. My man avoids confrontation. I'll say "You're not here for me." He has responded with "Yea I am. I do X,Y,Z for you." I'll say "Well...ok yea you do. But when we discussing some real shit, you leave. If you walk out the door while in the middle of argument, then that's telling me that I'm alone in this." See how 2 people can have 2 different interpretations of the same relationship? Now what he chooses to do with what I tell him is his discretion. But my experience is just that.

your example doesn't compare....

your argument is miscommunication.... an direct communication... nothing left to defend from some third party convo.

you actually already proved my point...twice.

an I agree...nigga was in his feelings.

.I'm just saying he may have a right

not saying you...but niggas can't process analogies or examples or use parallels to problem solve using critical thinking skills

 

[Go figure]

How does paying child support give someone a pass for being a deadbeat?

How is supporting your child financially such an insignificant act that someone can financially support their child and still be called a "deadbeat" ?

If the priority is "being there" for the child, then why do courts order fathers to pay money instead of ordering them to be there ?

Until someone can answer this question there need not be any other posts on this topic. According to the courts a man isn't a deadbeat if he pays his court ordered support.

The answer is: Because the state doesn't want to pay for them.

Which is also why they force men who aren't the actual fathers to pay child support also, court doesn't care if they are a deadbeat or not, as long as the state doesn't have to pay for them.

@"Kwan Dai"

 

[Go figure]

A lot of fathers are guarded and defensive about this topic, and as a result easily angered.

Now if those few exchange of tweets were the full extent of this, then to me it looks like an overreaction on Xhibit's part.

His son did not call him a deadbeat. He did not say he was a bad parent. He didn't even elaborate on the circumstances of why his father would not or could not be around. He simply acknowledged that the interview resonated with him, and he is entitled to own that experience. Fathers not being present affects children, period. Is he not allowed to utter this out loud? This includes parents who sacrifice time to earn and provide their kids as well. Children with fathers overseas in the military experience the same father hunger as kids whose dads are in jail. That's his experience. Parents are really sensitive people, and I get it. But when someone says "Not having my dad/mom around affected me," your ears don't always have to hear "You were a bad mom/dad. You aint shit."

This was last month... he clearly love his daddy. Xhibit in his feelings. Get over yourself

That behavior got Malcolm killed.

FAMILLY STUFF DONT GO PUBLIC!!

DONT BITE MILLIONAIRE HANDS THAT FEEDS YOU AND WILL PUT YOUR ASS IN A FERRARI!!

KEEP IT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DAD!!

I DONT WANT TO HEAR NONE OF THAT FAMILLY SHIT.

HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOUR PARENTS.

PEOPLE IN PARIS, MOGADICCIO, SIDNEY, KAZAKSTAN DONT HAVE TO READ ABOUT FAMILLY FEELINGS EXCEPT

THANK YOU DAD

THANK YOU MUM

The nigga didn't even say his dad was absentee. He said the interview spoke to him. He's entitled to that.

He is entitled to that. But it's odd that he can relate to a situation that he himself hasn't experienced. His saying the topic resonated with him implies his dad was absentee.

I'm pretty sure I could relate to someone whose dad was not around if mine was a fuckin rapper, all feelings aside. If you spent your child's formative years without much physical contact with them, then yes that affects them, even for the most well-meaning and good intentioned parents. These are highly sensitive topics that cause distress for fathers for good reason, but those are the facts.

The problem is how you assess that type of situation - appreciation / talking shit and calling them absentee or deadbeat ?

My father worked 2 jobs and my mother worked double-shifts and weekends a lot of the time.

Even if I didn't see one parent a whole lot, WTF I look like calling one of them out publicly for not being there or running around talking about I can relate to having absentee parents ? That's some fuck shit if you ask me.

I see how it happens to children though, in the current bitch-made society but once you get to be even a teenager talking that ignorant shit, you on some bullshit.

He didn't get on social media and go on a rant. In fact, he didn't even respond to his dad and Xhibit went on for more tweets after that talking big shit while responding to other followers. His son thanked Stylez for speaking on an issue that resonated with him, which we can all learn from, quite frankly. That's it, that's all. Joe Budden was crying on his podcast about the same interview. I suggest y'all go watch it before trying to check somebody about what they should feel connected to.

My parents are pretty much the shit too. I didn't want for a thing. Hard working people. Their names are tatted on me and I'd jump in front of an Ak47 for both of them. Annnnnnd with all that, they both taught me some of the worst, most fucked up, dysfunctional habits by the way they treated each other in front of me. Now I could hide from that or I could recognize that and correct my own shit. That's apart of being a sentient creature....part of the human experience. To have some perspective about "the stuff" that formed you. How you walk around tryin to act oblivious to the fact that you wasn't affected by your daddy not coming to one basketball game... In the name of somebody's ego. More often than not, parents fuck up their kids unknowingly. EVEN GOOD PARENTS. It's life.

here's the thing tho...no one is perfect. but the character should define the person not perfection.

if you respect that statement....it should be taught to your kids.

understanding why daddy aint home...should be instilled. he could be the very reason why a nigga work do hard.

so miss your dad....don't agree with absentee shit.

too different animals.

ole leopard don't change it spots ass niggas...but they don't know it's a cheetah they looking at.

just know what you speaking about

This man said "I can relate on many levels. Thanks @Stylez for speaking on this"

Whatever baggage yall bringing to this thread...idk man

so you hear your bf agreeing on many levels about his homies cheating hoe ass lazy gf...would you question him on what exactly he relating with?

@blackrain here's a scenario

I'd probably be in my feelings the way Xhibit is in his now. But that wouldn't make his statement any less valid. It would just make me in my feelings. Now a spouse telling you that is one thing and how you respond would reflect how much you care about your relationship, but I don't really think a parent should disregard what a kid says about how their upbringing affected them...at least in most cases.

so wait....

if he said that an it wasn't true....how is that valid?

him making a statement doesn't make it right or valid an it's disrespectful. to you.

I mean if there are ways I could resemble someone's cheating, lazy hoe ass girlfriend, I'd like them to make it clear for me how they made that conclusion. But of course that's just you using an extreme example as a cheap way to prove a point. I can give you a real, more reasonable example. My man avoids confrontation. I'll say "You're not here for me." He has responded with "Yea I am. I do X,Y,Z for you." I'll say "Well...ok yea you do. But when we discussing some real shit, you leave. If you walk out the door while in the middle of argument, then that's telling me that I'm alone in this." See how 2 people can have 2 different interpretations of the same relationship? Now what he chooses to do with what I tell him is his discretion. But my experience is just that.

your example doesn't compare....

your argument is miscommunication.... an direct communication... nothing left to defend from some third party convo.

you actually already proved my point...twice.

an I agree...nigga was in his feelings.

.I'm just saying he may have a right

not saying you...but niggas can't process analogies or examples or use parallels to problem solve using critical thinking skills

Idk what the argument still is. N i know u werent responding to me but uh...

Do u know how often xzibit sees his son?

 

[Kwan Dai]

How does paying child support give someone a pass for being a deadbeat?

How is supporting your child financially such an insignificant act that someone can financially support their child and still be called a "deadbeat" ?

If the priority is "being there" for the child, then why do courts order fathers to pay money instead of ordering them to be there ?

Until someone can answer this question there need not be any other posts on this topic. According to the courts a man isn't a deadbeat if he pays his court ordered support.

The answer is: Because the state doesn't want to pay for them.

Which is also why they force men who aren't the actual fathers to pay child support also, court doesn't care if they are a deadbeat or not, as long as the state doesn't have to pay for them.

Men are only forced by the Govt. to pay when women either A. File a Claim or B. Are collecting Govt. assistance. Otherwise the Govt. doesn't give a rats ass.

So, while you are right. Your answer is still quite insufficient as it pertains to having a childs best interest. And again if a man is paying the courts will leave him be. The title of deadbeat doesn't fit. Deadbeat is term used for men\women who are not fulfilling they are court ordered supported. The govt are going after fathers who miss their weekend custody duties.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

A lot of fathers are guarded and defensive about this topic, and as a result easily angered.

Now if those few exchange of tweets were the full extent of this, then to me it looks like an overreaction on Xhibit's part.

His son did not call him a deadbeat. He did not say he was a bad parent. He didn't even elaborate on the circumstances of why his father would not or could not be around. He simply acknowledged that the interview resonated with him, and he is entitled to own that experience. Fathers not being present affects children, period. Is he not allowed to utter this out loud? This includes parents who sacrifice time to earn and provide their kids as well. Children with fathers overseas in the military experience the same father hunger as kids whose dads are in jail. That's his experience. Parents are really sensitive people, and I get it. But when someone says "Not having my dad/mom around affected me," your ears don't always have to hear "You were a bad mom/dad. You aint shit."

This was last month... he clearly love his daddy. Xhibit in his feelings. Get over yourself

That behavior got Malcolm killed.

FAMILLY STUFF DONT GO PUBLIC!!

DONT BITE MILLIONAIRE HANDS THAT FEEDS YOU AND WILL PUT YOUR ASS IN A FERRARI!!

KEEP IT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DAD!!

I DONT WANT TO HEAR NONE OF THAT FAMILLY SHIT.

HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOUR PARENTS.

PEOPLE IN PARIS, MOGADICCIO, SIDNEY, KAZAKSTAN DONT HAVE TO READ ABOUT FAMILLY FEELINGS EXCEPT

THANK YOU DAD

THANK YOU MUM

The nigga didn't even say his dad was absentee. He said the interview spoke to him. He's entitled to that.

He is entitled to that. But it's odd that he can relate to a situation that he himself hasn't experienced. His saying the topic resonated with him implies his dad was absentee.

I'm pretty sure I could relate to someone whose dad was not around if mine was a fuckin rapper, all feelings aside. If you spent your child's formative years without much physical contact with them, then yes that affects them, even for the most well-meaning and good intentioned parents. These are highly sensitive topics that cause distress for fathers for good reason, but those are the facts.

The problem is how you assess that type of situation - appreciation / talking shit and calling them absentee or deadbeat ?

My father worked 2 jobs and my mother worked double-shifts and weekends a lot of the time.

Even if I didn't see one parent a whole lot, WTF I look like calling one of them out publicly for not being there or running around talking about I can relate to having absentee parents ? That's some fuck shit if you ask me.

I see how it happens to children though, in the current bitch-made society but once you get to be even a teenager talking that ignorant shit, you on some bullshit.

He didn't get on social media and go on a rant. In fact, he didn't even respond to his dad and Xhibit went on for more tweets after that talking big shit while responding to other followers. His son thanked Stylez for speaking on an issue that resonated with him, which we can all learn from, quite frankly. That's it, that's all. Joe Budden was crying on his podcast about the same interview. I suggest y'all go watch it before trying to check somebody about what they should feel connected to.

My parents are pretty much the shit too. I didn't want for a thing. Hard working people. Their names are tatted on me and I'd jump in front of an Ak47 for both of them. Annnnnnd with all that, they both taught me some of the worst, most fucked up, dysfunctional habits by the way they treated each other in front of me. Now I could hide from that or I could recognize that and correct my own shit. That's apart of being a sentient creature....part of the human experience. To have some perspective about "the stuff" that formed you. How you walk around tryin to act oblivious to the fact that you wasn't affected by your daddy not coming to one basketball game... In the name of somebody's ego. More often than not, parents fuck up their kids unknowingly. EVEN GOOD PARENTS. It's life.

here's the thing tho...no one is perfect. but the character should define the person not perfection.

if you respect that statement....it should be taught to your kids.

understanding why daddy aint home...should be instilled. he could be the very reason why a nigga work do hard.

so miss your dad....don't agree with absentee shit.

too different animals.

ole leopard don't change it spots ass niggas...but they don't know it's a cheetah they looking at.

just know what you speaking about

This man said "I can relate on many levels. Thanks @Stylez for speaking on this"

Whatever baggage yall bringing to this thread...idk man

so you hear your bf agreeing on many levels about his homies cheating hoe ass lazy gf...would you question him on what exactly he relating with?

@blackrain here's a scenario

I'd probably be in my feelings the way Xhibit is in his now. But that wouldn't make his statement any less valid. It would just make me in my feelings. Now a spouse telling you that is one thing and how you respond would reflect how much you care about your relationship, but I don't really think a parent should disregard what a kid says about how their upbringing affected them...at least in most cases.

so wait....

if he said that an it wasn't true....how is that valid?

him making a statement doesn't make it right or valid an it's disrespectful. to you.

I mean if there are ways I could resemble someone's cheating, lazy hoe ass girlfriend, I'd like them to make it clear for me how they made that conclusion. But of course that's just you using an extreme example as a cheap way to prove a point. I can give you a real, more reasonable example. My man avoids confrontation. I'll say "You're not here for me." He has responded with "Yea I am. I do X,Y,Z for you." I'll say "Well...ok yea you do. But when we discussing some real shit, you leave. If you walk out the door while in the middle of argument, then that's telling me that I'm alone in this." See how 2 people can have 2 different interpretations of the same relationship? Now what he chooses to do with what I tell him is his discretion. But my experience is just that.

your example doesn't compare....

your argument is miscommunication.... an direct communication... nothing left to defend from some third party convo.

you actually already proved my point...twice.

an I agree...nigga was in his feelings.

.I'm just saying he may have a right

not saying you...but niggas can't process analogies or examples or use parallels to problem solve using critical thinking skills

Idk what the argument still is. N i know u werent responding to me but uh...

Do u know how often xzibit sees his son?

an this is my point...

no I don't. but do we know if he's a deadbeat or absentee?

just because a statement is made don't make it true..no matter who says it

 

[Go figure]

an this is my point...

no I don't. but do we know if he's a deadbeat or absentee?

just because a statement is made don't make it true..no matter who says it

Son says: man i relate to styles p interview about absent fathers

Father: "bruh it wasnt my fault your mothers a bitch stop blaming me"

How in any way can u assume from X's response that he does come around enough?

One can only deduce that he doesnt regardless of the reasons which the son may or may not understand.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

an this is my point...

no I don't. but do we know if he's a deadbeat or absentee?

just because a statement is made don't make it true..no matter who says it

Son says: man i relate to styles p interview about absent fathers

Father: "bruh it wasnt my fault your mothers a bitch stop blaming me"

How in any way can u assume from X's response that he does come around enough?

One can only deduce that he doesnt regardless of the reasons which the son may or may not understand.

come around an come around enough....subjective.

son could have wanted him there more...that doesn't make him absentee.

can we stop acting like no matter how much you do...some people will say it's not enough.

an let's not act like brainwashing doesn't multiply that.

wording in shit makes a regular statement a hate filled or entitled statement.

 

[Go figure]

come around an come around enough....subjective.

son could have wanted him there more...that doesn't make him absentee.

can we stop acting like no matter how much you do...some people will say it's not enough.

an let's not act like brainwashing doesn't multiply that.

wording in shit makes a regular statement a hate filled or entitled statement.

2steps that u?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

come around an come around enough....subjective.

son could have wanted him there more...that doesn't make him absentee.

can we stop acting like no matter how much you do...some people will say it's not enough.

an let's not act like brainwashing doesn't multiply that.

wording in shit makes a regular statement a hate filled or entitled statement.

2steps that u?

lol.....you aint shit nigga...lol

 

[Hevalisk]

Men are only forced by the Govt. to pay when women either A. File a Claim or B. Are collecting Govt. assistance. Otherwise the Govt. doesn't give a rats ass.

So, while you are right. Your answer is still quite insufficient as it pertains to having a childs best interest. And again if a man is paying the courts will leave him be. The title of deadbeat doesn't fit. Deadbeat is term used for men\women who are not fulfilling they are court ordered supported. The govt are going after fathers who miss their weekend custody duties.

The courts use of the word deadbeat, is not the definition of a deadbeat.

If a father is not in their child's life, they are not parenting, therefore they are a deadbeat.

Unless there is some unavoidable circumstance preventing them from being a father, a father not is their child's life is all three of these things; idle,feckless, and disreputable. *looks at the definition of deadbeat*

It's seems like the title deadbeat fits them very well.

And no, just paying child support is not enough.

dead·beat

ˈdedˌbēt/Submit

nouninformal

1.

an idle, feckless, or disreputable person

 

[LUClEN]

Lol. The courts don't use the word deadbeat

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

Will the deadbeat approach the bench?

 

[LUClEN]

I'd watch Judge OB if you called people deadbeats on TV.

Be like judge Judy but for family court

 

[Hevalisk]

Lol. The courts don't use the word deadbeat

I've never been in court before, so I wouldn't know.