Will relationships ever get outdated?

[Da Roc]

If you look around at all the divorce rates, breakups, domestic violence, infidelity, etc, it already is outdated, depending on who you ask. Relationships aren't valued or held sacred like they used to back in our folks' days.

Personally, no I don't think people will ever outgrow them. When you find someone that stands out from what you're used to and motivates you to be better, you don't just let someone like that slide by. I do think the rules and standards for a relationship will keep changing for alot of people over time. They already have compared to yesteryear.

 

[fiat_money]

If humans stop being so emotional they will "die out" to an extent.

 

[desertrain10]

sex is so over hyped in our culture...so many people think fucking whenever the opportunity presents itself will cure them of their depression or that nagging void inside. the over sexing of our culture has probably added to our increasing divorce rates. confusing blinding lust with deep love etc etc....

anyways back to the topic at hand.... no, relationships are here to stay....

and why are relationships unhealthy? lol...or did i misunderstand what you were saying...

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[Neophyte Wolfgang]

Well the certain things relationships bring out of people. Like stress, fighting, murder, manipulation. We already face alot of that in the real world

 

[loch121]

No every creature has some type of relationship for the most part even if it's just mating

 

[desertrain10]

Well the certain things relationships bring out of people. Like stress, fighting, murder, manipulation. We already face alot of that in the real world

what? ..jealousy, envy, greed, lust, etc brings the worst out of people not relationships....

and did you know married men live longer than single men? ... just sayin. lol

 

[Mr.Audigier216]

As,long as there are chick flicks and/or Tyler Perry films.....no.....never

 

[The Douce]

no, evolution is part of the reason we do seek out relationships with other people. no man can be an island in this world

evolution has nothing to do with it. it's dependant on species whether or not said person/animal chooses to stay with the mate. Lobsters do it.. and swans. many animals dont.

 

[Ol Jay's]

lol @ humans evolving but relationships becoming extinct

Spoiler

relationships evolved humans

 

[The Douce]

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

The only thing I've learned from relationships is most people ain't shit!

 

[blakfyahking]

sex is so over hyped in our culture...so many people think fucking whenever the opportunity presents itself will cure them of their depression or that nagging void inside. the over sexing of our culture has probably added to our increasing divorce rates. confusing blinding lust with deep love etc etc....

anyways back to the topic at hand.... no, relationships are here to stay....

and why are relationships unhealthy? lol...or did i misunderstand what you were saying...

.

that's a pretty naive view about sex and relationships LOL

I think relationships in their current form are already outdated

you'd be a dumbass to get married these days (no shots @ the married folks)

especially cause mofos love to minimize the impact of finances when it comes to marriage and relationships

most of the people you see who make it work for the long term usually have lowered expectations about life :shrugs

 

[desertrain10]

sex is so over hyped in our culture...so many people think fucking whenever the opportunity presents itself will cure them of their depression or that nagging void inside. the over sexing of our culture has probably added to our increasing divorce rates. confusing blinding lust with deep love etc etc....

anyways back to the topic at hand.... no, relationships are here to stay....

and why are relationships unhealthy? lol...or did i misunderstand what you were saying...

.

that's a pretty naive view about sex and relationships LOL

I think relationships in their current form are already outdated

you'd be a dumbass to get married these days (no shots @ the married folks)

especially cause mofos love to minimize the impact of finances when it comes to marriage and relationships

most of the people you see who make it work for the long term usually have lowered expectations about life :shrugs

naive, how?

shot gun weddings, confusing lust/good sex for love, not getting to know the other person as well as one should before making such a commitment are all substantial reasons as to why marriages just don't work ....as well as financial difficulties, which really one could argue again that couples don't properly take the time and effort to consider their future spouse's finances before marriage...

what i really think t/s was asking was is monogamy is outdated? i would agree if all your want is sex. but, if you decide that you want anything more out of your relationships such as a stable home life for your children, then it will always be relevant. and as long as there's jealousy and stds it may be the best option

and there's risks involved but i really don't see whats dumb about getting married, especially if you go about it the right way... which is often the case with a lot of major life decisions...

 

[TheFix]

Niggas didn't learn from the tortoise and the hare I see. At some point you gotta slow it down. Yea do ya thing why you single and young, do it well, get it out your system. But anybody who's in a long, stable relationship knows. Synergy is what it is niggas, on all levels.

 

[blakfyahking]

sex is so over hyped in our culture...so many people think fucking whenever the opportunity presents itself will cure them of their depression or that nagging void inside. the over sexing of our culture has probably added to our increasing divorce rates. confusing blinding lust with deep love etc etc....

anyways back to the topic at hand.... no, relationships are here to stay....

and why are relationships unhealthy? lol...or did i misunderstand what you were saying...

.

that's a pretty naive view about sex and relationships LOL

I think relationships in their current form are already outdated

you'd be a dumbass to get married these days (no shots @ the married folks)

especially cause mofos love to minimize the impact of finances when it comes to marriage and relationships

most of the people you see who make it work for the long term usually have lowered expectations about life :shrugs

naive, how?

shot gun weddings, confusing lust for love, not getting to know the other person as well as one should before making such a commitment are all substantial reasons as to why marriages just don't work ....as well as financial difficulties, which really one could argue again that couples don't properly take the time and effort to consider their future spouse's finances before marriage...

what i really think t/s was asking was is monogamy is outdated? i would agree if all your want is sex. but, if you decide that you want anything more out of your relationships such as a stable home life for your children, then it’s still very relevant. and as long as there's jealousy and stds it may be the best option

and there's risks involved but i really don't see whats dumb about getting married, especially if you go about it the right way... which is often the case with a lot of major life decisions...

it's naive in the sense that you seem to believe things are just that simple

it ain't just about love and lust shorty

long term monogamy requires a lot.............and if anything american culture is very restrictive when it comes to sex

finances aren't just an issue beforehand, they become an issue later in the relationship as well

people seem to forget that they go thru significant changes over the course of their lifetime

and those changes can make staying in an exclusive relationship really difficult

you saying wanting more like a stable home for your children, but that doesn't have anything to do with monogamy

jealousy and stds are still a factor in a monogamous relationship whether if someone is cheating or not

mofos got to stop believing in their imaginary bubbles they created for themselves

that's why I say relationships in a sense are outdated, cause it's rare that people are together cause they really want to be

there always seems to be an outside pressure that makes them claim they are happy in their relationship

but I'll leave that alone LOL

 

[desertrain10]

sex is so over hyped in our culture...so many people think fucking whenever the opportunity presents itself will cure them of their depression or that nagging void inside. the over sexing of our culture has probably added to our increasing divorce rates. confusing blinding lust with deep love etc etc....

anyways back to the topic at hand.... no, relationships are here to stay....

and why are relationships unhealthy? lol...or did i misunderstand what you were saying...

.

that's a pretty naive view about sex and relationships LOL

I think relationships in their current form are already outdated

you'd be a dumbass to get married these days (no shots @ the married folks)

especially cause mofos love to minimize the impact of finances when it comes to marriage and relationships

most of the people you see who make it work for the long term usually have lowered expectations about life :shrugs

naive, how?

shot gun weddings, confusing lust for love, not getting to know the other person as well as one should before making such a commitment are all substantial reasons as to why marriages just don't work ....as well as financial difficulties, which really one could argue again that couples don't properly take the time and effort to consider their future spouse's finances before marriage...

what i really think t/s was asking was is monogamy is outdated? i would agree if all your want is sex. but, if you decide that you want anything more out of your relationships such as a stable home life for your children, then it’s still very relevant. and as long as there's jealousy and stds it may be the best option

and there's risks involved but i really don't see whats dumb about getting married, especially if you go about it the right way... which is often the case with a lot of major life decisions...

it's naive in the sense that you seem to believe things are just that simple

it ain't just about love and lust shorty

long term monogamy requires a lot.............and if anything american culture is very restrictive when it comes to sex

finances aren't just an issue beforehand, they become an issue later in the relationship as well

people seem to forget that they go thru significant changes over the course of their lifetime

and those changes can make staying in an exclusive relationship really difficult

you saying wanting more like a stable home for your children, but that doesn't have anything to do with monogamy

jealousy and stds are still a factor in a monogamous relationship whether if someone is cheating or not

mofos got to stop believing in their imaginary bubbles they created for themselves

that's why I say relationships in a sense are outdated, cause it's rare that people are together cause they really want to be

there always seems to be an outside pressure that makes them claim they are happy in their relationship

but I'll leave that alone LOL

yes long term monogamy requires a large amount of selflessness and self control which a lot of people don't have, unfortunately...

but it can be done....not as impossible as you make it seem...really about personal preference and one's values/belief system imho

jealousy and stds play a greater role in a polygamous relationships than monogamous ones....

money can make or break a relationship, doesn't mean one should avoid monogamous relationships or marriage all together

and children benefit from two parent house holds tremendously and provides them with stability....bringing multiple partners into the equation will only complicate matters especially with young children are in the picture

 

[blakfyahking]

yes long term monogamy requires a large amount of selflessness and self control which a lot of people don't have, unfortunately...

but it can be done....not as impossible as you make it seem...really about personal preference and one's values/belief system imho

jealousy and stds play a greater role in a polygamous relationships than monogamous ones....

money can make or break a relationship, doesn't mean one should avoid monogamous relationships or marriage all together

and children benefit from two parent house holds tremendously and provides them with stability....bringing multiple partners into the equation will only complicate matters especially with young children are in the picture

you really believe the bolded shorty?

cause no one is talking about having multiple partners around their children

by your logic single parents can't provide their children stability..................which only further encourages someone to be in a relationship that doesn't make them happy

and that is my issue with monogamy

there are plenty of mofos in monogamous relationships who are faithful and still got to deal with a jealous s/o LOL

marriage is only a good idea when it's mutually beneficial for both parties.............but unfortunately shit changes, and people call settling for something blatantly unfair as being selfless

especially here in America.........the lack of gender roles coupled with the acceptance of double standards makes marriage a foolish prospect unless there is some way you can get over on the next person

and what's selfless about binding yourself exclusively to someone at possibly the expense of yourself? cause time is something you can't get back. all you can hope is that the time spent gave you an experience that was worth it.

and of course, I'm speaking on logic alone...........when emotions get involved of course people purposely blind themselves to justify taking the plunge haha

 

[desertrain10]

yes long term monogamy requires a large amount of selflessness and self control which a lot of people don't have, unfortunately...

but it can be done....not as impossible as you make it seem...really about personal preference and one's values/belief system imho

jealousy and stds play a greater role in a polygamous relationships than monogamous ones....

money can make or break a relationship, doesn't mean one should avoid monogamous relationships or marriage all together

and children benefit from two parent house holds tremendously and provides them with stability....bringing multiple partners into the equation will only complicate matters especially with young children are in the picture

you really believe the bolded shorty?

cause no one is talking about having multiple partners around their children

by your logic single parents can't provide their children stability..................which only further encourages someone to be in a relationship that doesn't make them happy

and that is my issue with monogamy

there are plenty of mofos in monogamous relationships who are faithful and still got to deal with a jealous s/o LOL

marriage is only a good idea when it's mutually beneficial for both parties.............but unfortunately shit changes, and people call settling for something blatantly unfair as being selfless

especially here in America.........the lack of gender roles coupled with the acceptance of double standards makes marriage a foolish prospect unless there is some way you can get over on the next person

and what's selfless about binding yourself exclusively to someone at possibly the expense of yourself? cause time is something you can't get back. all you can hope is that the time spent gave you an experience that was worth it.

and of course, I'm speaking on logic alone...........when emotions get involved of course people purposely blind themselves to justify taking the plunge haha

you don't necessarily have to be married, i'm talking about long term monogamous relationships... anyways

so are you really disputing that a two parent house hold isnt the ideal situation for a child? lol.... no knock on single parents, but the facts and stats state otherwise... and what kid wouldn't benefit from the luxury of having both parents in house emotionally, mentally, physically etc....hell my mom was a single parent but she struggled with me and my 2 brothers so it def wasn't by choice or ideal but shit happens....

secondly lets not act like the risk of catching a std doesn't double when you have more than one sexual partner at a time... jealousy as well is more of an issue for polygamous couples as well. its laughable to suggest differently.

and of course in a open relationship or unfaithful one, a parent would try to shield their child from their infidelities and whatnot as much as they can but its not always possible... when a partner is unfaithful it does have an emotional impact on you and its naive to think your child doesn't take notice when one parent is hurting or when mommy/daddy are fighting more than often....really when you consider the ups and downs of every relationship than you couple that with bringing more people into the equation it complicates things no denying that

but yea not all marriages are meant to last and i'm all about doing what makes you happy but monogamy has plenty of merits and like i said again its all about personal preferences, one's beliefs and values...

its cool you wanna live free of a commitment but not every one thinks or feels the same way you do.... *shrugs*

 

[blakfyahking]

shorty I'm not exclusively talking marriage, but all long term exclusive relationships

as far as std risk, you still at the same risk whether you boldface polygamous, or you riding on the faith that your s/o is faithful.............risk is risk............and when it comes to your life, 5% chance of death ain't better than 50% chance of death...........you still risking death in both cases LOL

bottom line is you should be safe and accountable in either case and not put ya life in someone's hands

as far as a two parent home, no I'm not disputing the benefit of two parents for a child

what I'm saying is that shit is idealistic, and it encourages mofos to stay in situations that aren't a benefit for the child or the parent

there is no emotional impact if your s/o is "unfaithful" in an open relationship.......that's the whole point

and I have no issue with someone who believes in monogamy so stop catching feelings mayne haha

all I'm saying is the stated benefits of monogamy don't outweigh the sacrifices when you are honest and stop trying to live the disney fairytale............and that's the real reason why many relationships don't seem to last and why monogamy appears to be so hard

many people just ain't falling for that brainwashing shit no more

IMO if you want to be monogamous, then do it for the right reasons..........but not cause some external influence leads you to believe monogamy is the pinnacle of all relationships

 

[atribecalledgabi]

no. as we evolve we'll learn what it actually means to be in successful relationships. dumb, unprepared niggas/bitches will literally let bad relationships kill em. only the strong survive. so in about 500 years relationships, especially marriages, won't be death sentences. lol