What would you do?

[EmM HoLLa.]

that nigga aint a real nigga..

Came here to say this...

And this..

"But how you bitches let these bogus ass niggas sleep with you?" - Gucci Mane

Perhaps cause they just as if not more bogus than that bogus ass nigga.

Gotta agree with you my guy.. Got to..

 

[Beta]

Lol she coulda just stayed with a friend until she got a place with $800 rent..

But iono nothin

 

[Koltrain]

Don't sound like u ready to live on your own...I recommend baby steps. You first need to take ownership over your current situation. You can commit to a plan much better when you acknowledge that you can control the outcome and realize you're in your current situation due to your choices...It really has nothing to do with yo bum ass bf. You have to really believe you deserve better or anything u try to do will fail. Give yourself a short timeline to change the situation. Fill that timeline with specific goals to achieve. This can help build ur self confidence and generate momentum toward the changes you want for yourself.

You should also see if you can get an economic hardship deferment on your student loans and add that Payment to your savings till you work full time.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

Its sad cuz I know someone in the same situation. Been with him since age 17, he cheats, lies, treats her like crap and has even on at least 3 occasions that I know of told her to gtfo but nope she stay glued to his ass like a lost dog. Went from living with parents to the bf, they been together 13 yrs, ain't married, no kids between them. She will literally have to be pushed out of the house and made to leave before she goes on her own.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

Its sad cuz I know someone in the same situation. Been with him since age 17, he cheats, lies, treats her like crap and has even on at least 3 occasions that I know of told her to gtfo but nope she stay glued to his ass like a lost dog. Went from living with parents to the bf, they been together 13 yrs, ain't married, no kids between them. She will literally have to be pushed out of the house and made to leave before she goes on her own.

But what are u doing to help her

 

[Idiopathic Joker]

one of her stoner friends tried to get some na-na while I was trying to sleep one night.

Details please

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

Its sad cuz I know someone in the same situation. Been with him since age 17, he cheats, lies, treats her like crap and has even on at least 3 occasions that I know of told her to gtfo but nope she stay glued to his ass like a lost dog. Went from living with parents to the bf, they been together 13 yrs, ain't married, no kids between them. She will literally have to be pushed out of the house and made to leave before she goes on her own.

But what are u doing to help her

Pfft she doesn't want any help. She fights tooth and nail to stay there.

 

[blacktux]

Peace.

As others have said, please get yourself out of that situation before you happen to get knocked up. Its damn near a miracle that it hasnt happened yet being with the same person for 11 years.

With you having a nice little bag handy, and you still have your freedom (not married, no kids with dude) its time for you to spread your wings and fly. That shitty situation has become your comfort, the risk you are taking to leave and start your own life isn't even a big risk when there isn't much you would miss out on.

You have a man that doesnt want you

A dysfunctional home where your mom stays

And your current housing situation is coming to a close when his pops rolls out.

^^This is whats holding you?

Use your head and get out before its too late, don't even let him know you are leaving.

 

[Lefty_]

Yo this thread slap lol. @SimplyKrys You better 86 that nigga youngin.

 

[SimplyKrys]

1. Count ya blessing you ain't pregnant by this nigga

2. Bounce before you end up holding a life long L and get pregnant by this nigga

3. If shit is this bad now, you should've realized a while ago it won't get no better. You don't even need to be in a relationship right now. Your focus should be on you and your own life getting better. A relationship takes time, energy, and focus you simply should be putting into your career at this point

Shit I actually count my blessings that I have never been pregnant in my life period. I graduated HS in 2007 and there are girls that I went to school with that have 6 year olds now. Hell this one girl I was in 8th grade with now has an 11 year old. A few people even have three kids. And chances are I won't get prego being that I am on the shot. I'm not trying to have a kid any time soon. Also you're right I should be focusing on me, which is what I have been doing. I try to not let the dumb stuff he says bother me and just continue to stack chips until I get a higher paying job...A day that can't come soon enough.

 

[SimplyKrys]

does @SimplyKrys cook and clean?

Yes I do! I clean more than anyone in the house. If it wasn't for me the tub would be black af because no one else cleans it. Also I wash the dishes damn near every day. My bf's brothers lazy ass gf does not clean shit.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

does @SimplyKrys cook and clean?

Yes I do! I clean more than anyone in the house. If it wasn't for me the tub would be black af because no one else cleans it. Also I wash the dishes damn near every day. My bf's brothers lazy ass gf does not clean shit.

dont be a live in maid that gets paid with dick

 

[SimplyKrys]

seems to me....

the very thing you hated about your mom.....you just became.

if she ain't got heat or electric an she got a nigga....he aint taking care if home.

sound familiar.

we already talked about this.

you need to leave dude, start off small...maybe in cheap apartments and relocate to that place.

look online for a job elsewhere....if you get it...you already have the money to move. negotiate a deal with a local extended stay hotel or something. move your things into storage, and bounce.

you don't owe an explanation to anyone once you roll.

afterwards. you need to surround yourself with more positive people and people who will bring positive influence into your life to help with your self esteem.

it seems your esteem was already low and you got into something that kill it a bit more.

don't sacrifice who you are because of your financial situation. you sacrifice your financial situation because of who you are. that's more important.

These are some powerful words. To be honest with you, going on my own scares me but I need to face my fear.

fear is a method of mind control. you will learn alot about yourself by being on your own.

you don't know what or who you are if you never had to face odds alone.

you need a mentor or some guidance. someone to walk you thru this.

yes. it's scary. but loving yourself should not be an option you need to think about.

someone talked about the mirror.

let's try this....look in the mirror, and ask yourself ...are you important?

are you happy?

is this what you want?

is he touching you like you want?

saying the words you want to hear?

planning a future, you are apart of?

do you see love in his eyes?

do you feel passion in his touch?

going out his way to think of you first?

are you a temple that deserves respect?

does he worship your temple?

do you respect yourself?

can you do it by yourself?

try to give honest answers to yourself without crying.

record yourself asking yourdelf these questions.

look at it...how do you look? how do you feel about how you look.

Am I happy: Yes and no...I'm happy for the fact that I don't still live at my high as a kite cousin's house.

Is this what I want: No! I always thought that by the time that I was 27/28 y.o. I'd be much better off in life.

Is he touching you like you want?: Not really, there are plenty of times I try to cuddle with him and does not want me to lay on him.

Saying the words I want to hear: HELL NO, because with the things he says it sounds like he's trying to obviously move on without me and if he wants to leave it is what it is.

Planning a future you are a part of: Not really, he keeps talking about getting a house but does not mention me moving in with him

Do you see love in his eyes?: Not really, I feel like he cares for me, but is falling out of love.

Do you feel passion in his touch?: The only passion I feel from him is when he is giving me the D to be honest with you.

Going out of his way to think of you first?: This is hard to anwser

Do I respect myself? Definitely

Can I do it by myself? Yes I can but I need to be making more $$ first.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

seems to me....

the very thing you hated about your mom.....you just became.

if she ain't got heat or electric an she got a nigga....he aint taking care if home.

sound familiar.

we already talked about this.

you need to leave dude, start off small...maybe in cheap apartments and relocate to that place.

look online for a job elsewhere....if you get it...you already have the money to move. negotiate a deal with a local extended stay hotel or something. move your things into storage, and bounce.

you don't owe an explanation to anyone once you roll.

afterwards. you need to surround yourself with more positive people and people who will bring positive influence into your life to help with your self esteem.

it seems your esteem was already low and you got into something that kill it a bit more.

don't sacrifice who you are because of your financial situation. you sacrifice your financial situation because of who you are. that's more important.

These are some powerful words. To be honest with you, going on my own scares me but I need to face my fear.

fear is a method of mind control. you will learn alot about yourself by being on your own.

you don't know what or who you are if you never had to face odds alone.

you need a mentor or some guidance. someone to walk you thru this.

yes. it's scary. but loving yourself should not be an option you need to think about.

someone talked about the mirror.

let's try this....look in the mirror, and ask yourself ...are you important?

are you happy?

is this what you want?

is he touching you like you want?

saying the words you want to hear?

planning a future, you are apart of?

do you see love in his eyes?

do you feel passion in his touch?

going out his way to think of you first?

are you a temple that deserves respect?

does he worship your temple?

do you respect yourself?

can you do it by yourself?

try to give honest answers to yourself without crying.

record yourself asking yourdelf these questions.

look at it...how do you look? how do you feel about how you look.

Am I happy: Yes and no...I'm happy for the fact that I don't still live at my high as a kite cousin's house.

are you sure you are happy?

happy people wont stay around and allow someone to steal their shine or beat them down or break them.

the fact you are still there...tells me you are broken inside and allow something that is not cool.

if your happiness is based off of being with a verbal abuser vs a drug abuser who coulda got you raped....

sweetie

you should try to understand what true happiest is.

you too young for this shit....because you have the means to do better.

whats stopping you?

you have to work on why you are still there. mentally, he has you.

 

[SimplyKrys]

seems to me....

the very thing you hated about your mom.....you just became.

if she ain't got heat or electric an she got a nigga....he aint taking care if home.

sound familiar.

we already talked about this.

you need to leave dude, start off small...maybe in cheap apartments and relocate to that place.

look online for a job elsewhere....if you get it...you already have the money to move. negotiate a deal with a local extended stay hotel or something. move your things into storage, and bounce.

you don't owe an explanation to anyone once you roll.

afterwards. you need to surround yourself with more positive people and people who will bring positive influence into your life to help with your self esteem.

it seems your esteem was already low and you got into something that kill it a bit more.

don't sacrifice who you are because of your financial situation. you sacrifice your financial situation because of who you are. that's more important.

These are some powerful words. To be honest with you, going on my own scares me but I need to face my fear.

fear is a method of mind control. you will learn alot about yourself by being on your own.

you don't know what or who you are if you never had to face odds alone.

you need a mentor or some guidance. someone to walk you thru this.

yes. it's scary. but loving yourself should not be an option you need to think about.

someone talked about the mirror.

let's try this....look in the mirror, and ask yourself ...are you important?

are you happy?

is this what you want?

is he touching you like you want?

saying the words you want to hear?

planning a future, you are apart of?

do you see love in his eyes?

do you feel passion in his touch?

going out his way to think of you first?

are you a temple that deserves respect?

does he worship your temple?

do you respect yourself?

can you do it by yourself?

try to give honest answers to yourself without crying.

record yourself asking yourdelf these questions.

look at it...how do you look? how do you feel about how you look.

Am I happy: Yes and no...I'm happy for the fact that I don't still live at my high as a kite cousin's house.

are you sure you are happy?

happy people wont stay around and allow someone to steal their shine or beat them down or break them.

the fact you are still there...tells me you are broken inside and allow something that is not cool.

if your happiness is based off of being with a verbal abuser vs a drug abuser who coulda got you raped....

sweetie

you should try to understand what true happiest is.

you too young for this shit....because you have the means to do better.

whats stopping you?

you have to work on why you are still there. mentally, he has you.

It's mainly because I don't make enough per hour to go on my own. If I had a nursing degree I would have been able to chuck the deuces a long time ago.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

does @SimplyKrys cook and clean?

Yes I do! I clean more than anyone in the house. If it wasn't for me the tub would be black af because no one else cleans it. Also I wash the dishes damn near every day. My bf's brothers lazy ass gf does not clean shit.

What is your zodiac sign by chance?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

seems to me....

the very thing you hated about your mom.....you just became.

if she ain't got heat or electric an she got a nigga....he aint taking care if home.

sound familiar.

we already talked about this.

you need to leave dude, start off small...maybe in cheap apartments and relocate to that place.

look online for a job elsewhere....if you get it...you already have the money to move. negotiate a deal with a local extended stay hotel or something. move your things into storage, and bounce.

you don't owe an explanation to anyone once you roll.

afterwards. you need to surround yourself with more positive people and people who will bring positive influence into your life to help with your self esteem.

it seems your esteem was already low and you got into something that kill it a bit more.

don't sacrifice who you are because of your financial situation. you sacrifice your financial situation because of who you are. that's more important.

These are some powerful words. To be honest with you, going on my own scares me but I need to face my fear.

fear is a method of mind control. you will learn alot about yourself by being on your own.

you don't know what or who you are if you never had to face odds alone.

you need a mentor or some guidance. someone to walk you thru this.

yes. it's scary. but loving yourself should not be an option you need to think about.

someone talked about the mirror.

let's try this....look in the mirror, and ask yourself ...are you important?

are you happy?

is this what you want?

is he touching you like you want?

saying the words you want to hear?

planning a future, you are apart of?

do you see love in his eyes?

do you feel passion in his touch?

going out his way to think of you first?

are you a temple that deserves respect?

does he worship your temple?

do you respect yourself?

can you do it by yourself?

try to give honest answers to yourself without crying.

record yourself asking yourdelf these questions.

look at it...how do you look? how do you feel about how you look.

Am I happy: Yes and no...I'm happy for the fact that I don't still live at my high as a kite cousin's house.

Is this what I want: No! I always thought that by the time that I was 27/28 y.o. I'd be much better off in life.

Is he touching you like you want?: Not really, there are plenty of times I try to cuddle with him and does not want me to lay on him.

Saying the words I want to hear: HELL NO, because with the things he says it sounds like he's trying to obviously move on without me and if he wants to leave it is what it is.

Planning a future you are a part of: Not really, he keeps talking about getting a house but does not mention me moving in with him

Do you see love in his eyes?: Not really, I feel like he cares for me, but is falling out of love.

Do you feel passion in his touch?: The only passion I feel from him is when he is giving me the D to be honest with you.

Going out of his way to think of you first?: This is hard to anwser

Do I respect myself? Definitely

Can I do it by myself? Yes I can but I need to be making more $$ first.

money dont mean shit if you had to sell your soul for it. while some people may act like its cool....they are not.

you have more than enough to get outta dodge. some people are put on the streets with kids and nothing.

babygirl...your sense of reality is warped.

from what you are saying,,,you have nothing really to see things can be better or can get better so why would you want better.

talk is just that.

dreams are just that...

neither equals anything without the first step.

sounds to me ....you are not in the right place to hear the right things from the right person because you are in the wrong place, hearing the wrong things from the wrong person.

falling out of love is not abuse...falling out of love is maybe we should separate.

this nigga got his cake, eating it, hitting it, saying the cake aint sweet, but taking more bites and planning to open a bakery and not bring your cake to it. and here you are crumbling like an old coffee cake that hes gonna leave behind when the chance presents itself.

its like 7 billion people on this planet.

at least 3billion men

after the jailbirds, broken niggas, aint shit niggas, fat niggas, short niggas and bcottons...you still have like 1.5billion.

and you got a disrespectful immigrant to cuddle up to?

you dont think you can do better?

im saying even @kat got married.

its hope for you.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

seems to me....

the very thing you hated about your mom.....you just became.

if she ain't got heat or electric an she got a nigga....he aint taking care if home.

sound familiar.

we already talked about this.

you need to leave dude, start off small...maybe in cheap apartments and relocate to that place.

look online for a job elsewhere....if you get it...you already have the money to move. negotiate a deal with a local extended stay hotel or something. move your things into storage, and bounce.

you don't owe an explanation to anyone once you roll.

afterwards. you need to surround yourself with more positive people and people who will bring positive influence into your life to help with your self esteem.

it seems your esteem was already low and you got into something that kill it a bit more.

don't sacrifice who you are because of your financial situation. you sacrifice your financial situation because of who you are. that's more important.

These are some powerful words. To be honest with you, going on my own scares me but I need to face my fear.

fear is a method of mind control. you will learn alot about yourself by being on your own.

you don't know what or who you are if you never had to face odds alone.

you need a mentor or some guidance. someone to walk you thru this.

yes. it's scary. but loving yourself should not be an option you need to think about.

someone talked about the mirror.

let's try this....look in the mirror, and ask yourself ...are you important?

are you happy?

is this what you want?

is he touching you like you want?

saying the words you want to hear?

planning a future, you are apart of?

do you see love in his eyes?

do you feel passion in his touch?

going out his way to think of you first?

are you a temple that deserves respect?

does he worship your temple?

do you respect yourself?

can you do it by yourself?

try to give honest answers to yourself without crying.

record yourself asking yourdelf these questions.

look at it...how do you look? how do you feel about how you look.

Am I happy: Yes and no...I'm happy for the fact that I don't still live at my high as a kite cousin's house.

are you sure you are happy?

happy people wont stay around and allow someone to steal their shine or beat them down or break them.

the fact you are still there...tells me you are broken inside and allow something that is not cool.

if your happiness is based off of being with a verbal abuser vs a drug abuser who coulda got you raped....

sweetie

you should try to understand what true happiest is.

you too young for this shit....because you have the means to do better.

whats stopping you?

you have to work on why you are still there. mentally, he has you.

It's mainly because I don't make enough per hour to go on my own. If I had a nursing degree I would have been able to chuck the deuces a long time ago.

heir was a time slaves...didnt want to leave the plantation because they didnt know what was out there and massa treated them good. even tho massa raping them wives and daughter and sons and beating they ass....think about that.

you are making excuses....

to not leave

 

[SimplyKrys]

Yeah shit going so well, they should be married right ?

Chick practically screaming she got tons of other shit to deal with and marriage is supposed to be the answer ?

being with someone that long and you haven't even made a move towards marriage says dude ain't trying to see her as his wife. She's just pussy on tap; nothing more.

Truthfully, I don't understand people that have been with an S/O for over two years and ain't even engaged. At a certain point you're just wasting each other's time.

Bottom line, it shouldn't have even made it to this point. I understand the first two years 'cause they were in HS. I can even excuse the next 4 because of college (which is really a weak excuse, but whatever...), but past that? Nah B.

I have a friend that says that to me all the time, "how much longer are you going to be with this man with no commitment?" Then she said, "You shouldn't give it anymore than 2 more years because it shouldn't take over a decade to figure out if you really want to be with someone for the rest of your life."

 

[SimplyKrys]

does @SimplyKrys cook and clean?

Yes I do! I clean more than anyone in the house. If it wasn't for me the tub would be black af because no one else cleans it. Also I wash the dishes damn near every day. My bf's brothers lazy ass gf does not clean shit.

What is your zodiac sign by chance?

I'm a cancer (July 8th) my bf is a virgo btw.