What would you do?

[SimplyKrys]

Him having two cars and living at home ain't a good look. Fuck you need two rides for and you ain't got a crib?

That's the same thing I said, you already have a BMW which are very expensive to maintain and then he gets a damn Murano.

 

[SimplyKrys]

What's his side of the story - is he supporting you ? Are you paying half the bills ?

What type of shit you be talking when he calling you "convenience pussy" ?

It's always 2 sides.

I give his mom $100 every month, he does not pay any of my bills. I pay my own phone bill and student loans.

 

[So ILL]

Him having two cars and living at home ain't a good look. Fuck you need two rides for and you ain't got a crib?

That's the same thing I said, you already have a BMW which are very expensive to maintain and then he gets a damn Murano.

Yeah, that's crazy. Nigga must like bills lol.

 

[SimplyKrys]

Okay so here's the deal, I have been with my bf since 6/22/06 and I currently live with him, his mom, his dad, his brother, his brother's gf and their 8 y.o. son in his mom's house. I have been living here since 4/12/12 after moving out of my drug (dust) addicted cousin's house after one of her stoner friends tried to get some na-na while I was trying to sleep one night. Ever since I have been living here I graduated college, and saved up a little over $9,000 for an apartment. I finished college in December of 2015 and unfortunately I still don't have a job in my field (journalism).

There are times where my bf likes to say, "You are not related to anyone at the house," "You have a place to live because of me" and "Your time here is short." He has not said any of those things in a while but he has said those things more than once. My mom says that I can come back home but I'd rather not because she lives in a ratchet apartment with no heat or running water. On top of that I can't stand her bf and he's the main reason why I moved out in the first place, when I moved out we got into a big fight and they said that he (my bf) is going to start beating my ass.

Back in December he said that he was going to move out in January, but that turned out to be b.s. because he's still here. Honestly I think he just said that to scare me. On top of all of that his dad says that him and the mom are going to be going back to Haiti in about a year in a half and if no one takes over the house then he will sell it. About three weeks ago my bf even called me "convenient pussy." Fast forward to now and all of a sudden we are getting along much better but at the same time I know I need to leave these people's house. The only reason I am really still here is because I work part time at a restaurant and I don't make nowhere near enough money to live on my own. A friend said to me as long as you pay your rent for a few months upfront you will be fine.

Yesterday he said that the only way he would consider getting a place with me is if I got a higher paying job. He said, "I don't want to live with you if you are still working at that restaurant and can't contribute."

My friend made the point that if he is making more than you, you shouldn't be splitting things down the middle he should be paying more for the rent and utilities.

So if you were me what would you do? Try to get a full time job and get a place with the bf....or say eff it and go totally on your own whether or not you get a higher paying job?

Keep it real...

The bold is a damn shame.......Lol at him not wanting to live with you but y'all live together with 14 other niggas.

Look in the mirror say what you typed out loud and you'll answer your own question ma'am.

Well damn, now that I think of it, it's like a modern day black/Haitian Brady Bunch. SMH

 

[semi-auto-mato]

ok im keeping it real here...no disrespect but consider this tough love.

wtf is wrong with u? ur situation sounds fucked up but u seem to like that shit. I cant understand why u are a grown educated woman laying up with a grown man that acts like he is doing something special living with his momma and daddy and 10 other folks. that nigga don't sound like shit. u act like this dude is a huge loss if u leave him and he basically told u he bout to leave ya ass homeless when he finds some new pussy. smh

listen its time for ur to go and do it. get ur own spot. im sure ur school has people looking for a roommate. so what u aint got the best job. get focused and do it. u got some savings so don't go blow that all moving. take 3k of that and put it on ur rent. that should give u a few months and if u get a roommate it will give u a lil longer. it might be time to get two part time jobs or get one full time job so u can support urself will looking for the journalism job.

u can do this. don't let urself be abused or used. most of us struggled when we went out on our own. it builds character.

man u gotta me sound like captain save a ... lol..im just playing but good luck to u. u got this!

 

[i ro ny]

Get out, word to Jordan Peele.

 

[Kai]

for him to even fix his mouth to call you "convenient pussy," then basically threaten you with the fact that you're staying with him, cuz really why else mention that unless he's low key trying to say that he can take that shit away? anyway, that is more than enough for you to be done with him. no man who loves you and is supposed to be your protector would talk to you that way.

on a whole other note tho, how the fuck is it now bothering him to be grown as hell and have all those people around with his girl there. y'all gotta wait til everyone sleep and shit before you can fuck? i can be patient with a lot of shit, but people being in my personal space is not one of them

i don't know where you live, but if you have $9,000 saved up, and have a part-time job, that should be enough for you to move out and at least get a room mate. you could even just rent a room while you look for more full-time work. anything has to be better than living with a gang of people and being threatened over being put out, fuck all that

 

[konceptjones]

You two been together for a few months short of 11 years and y'all ain't married?

At this point you're just live-in pussy; nothing more, nothing less. He's pretty much said that much. It's time to stop fuckin around with your life and move on before this cat introduces you to his 3 year old son and 6 month old daughter by some broad named "Alize".

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

how do u even have sex?

 

[Kai]

Greatest opening paragraph to a thread this year

It had everything...bum ass boyfriend, attempted rape and a useless college degree

hey, journalists, real journalists, are sorely needed. they are just not wanted right now in this world of alternative facts and pay for play media

 

[Copper]

Nigga telling you to get a better job and he broke af too.

Actually he isn't. His degree is in Engineering and he works at a company called Cyient. He has two cars (one of which is a BMW) and makes 20-something an hour, (he won't tell me exactly how much he makes).

C'mon son ... lol

1. Where his money going?

2. Why he still at home living like chasinbundles??

 

[Copper]

Greatest opening paragraph to a thread this year

It had everything...bum ass boyfriend, attempted rape and a useless college degree

hey, journalists, real journalists, are sorely needed. they are just not wanted right now in this world of alternative facts and pay for play media

I can make the money she making now with a degree in fried foods

 

[Kai]

You two been together for a few months short of 11 years and y'all ain't married?

At this point you're just live-in pussy; nothing more, nothing less. He's pretty much said that much. It's time to stop fuckin around with your life and move on before this cat introduces you to his 3 year old son and 6 month old daughter by some broad named "Alize".

your first question was gone be my next one. how in the sam hell are you not married yet after all that time? you should've left like 6 years ago tbh. seriously, what are you getting out of this? he don't do for you, he's rude and disrespectful, i see all cons and not a single pro

and i'm surprised cuz you said he's Haitian, they're usually like africans when it comes to that shacking up shit, it doesn't fly. is it maybe cuz you're not haitian?

this is all bad tho, you gotta love yourself more than this. by being complacent and not demanding he do better, you put yourself in this position

 

[texas409]

damn that sucks staying around people that take you for granted and act like they dont want you around. You seem like a good person with a good heart so keep your head up things will get better

 

[texas409]

Greatest opening paragraph to a thread this year

It had everything...bum ass boyfriend, attempted rape and a useless college degree

lmao!!

yo you're a grade A asshole

 

[texas409]

9 thousand will get you a nice apartment or rent house plus the furniture to go in it down south.....pack them bags baby girl

 

[AggieLean.]

Nigga telling you to get a better job and he broke af too.

Actually he isn't. His degree is in Engineering and he works at a company called Cyient. He has two cars (one of which is a BMW) and makes 20-something an hour, (he won't tell me exactly how much he makes).

there is a lie somewhere.....

That nigga sells drugs

I said the same thing. That nigga making more than 20 in CT if what she saying is true.

Anyways, girl that nigga don't really fuck with you like that. Better drop him before he drops you.

 

[T. Sanford]

Legit question, why not move down south? You have enough money too. Start to look for a job in NC or SC or Atlanta etc... you have almost 0 chance in making enough money to live alone in CT.

I was just about to say this. The south is the GOAT to live in.

& your boyfriend is a bum. He should've been gotten a place for him & you to stay at. Leave dude tho, he want to stay complacent

 

[SimplyKrys]

how do u even have sex?

TBH we just have sex right in his bed..or on the chair.

 

[Go figure]

damn whats mom's situation does she live with a man or any children?