mryounggun;5484650 said:
MzGrahamBitches;5484274 said:
mryounggun;5484251 said:
I've dated two white girls. The only things they had in common is emotional weakness. They couldn't handle stressful situations at all and let their emotions control them instead of controlling their emotions. Beyond that...night and day.
But I'd say a con is that being around their family was wack as fuck. Cool in small doses. But holidays and shit when there is like dinner and it's a sea of upper-middle class republicans and me, shit sucks.
lol...welcome to my world.
But yeah, dealing with the people OUTSIDE of you and him is probably one of the biggest cons.
I have to constantly be aware of that, worried about putting him in an uncomfortable or potentially offensive situation.
I feel your pain, Kat. Lol. My ex never understood that everybody ain't like her. Especially my family and people where I come from. She used to say 'You make people uncomfortable how you're so standoffish. It doesn't bother me, cuz I know you and I know you just don't fuck with a lot of people like that and don't do the small talk.'. I had tried to explain to her that where I come from, SHE makes people uncomfortable. All friendly and talkative and outgoing and shit. Cats where I'm from would think you the police!
I feel like the people that are comfortable in the situation (his people at his functions, my people at my fuctions) should take the ultimate responsibility in making the outsider feel comfortable initially. I mean it's not rocket science that anybody would feel a little uneasy..being around someone's family is nerve-wracking enough without the race factor coming into play.
It's not just race in our situation though. He grew up in a partying family that knows how to have a good time, my family is pretty religious and square..so you know he's not about to have much fun.
I just ask for Christmas and Thanksgiving..anything else and I usually let him off the hook.