Thoughts on modern-day chivalry.....

[EmM HoLLa.]

I ride the train Tuesday to Friday. It is every man and woman for themselves. However, I typically do give up my seat for older folks and pregnant women even though I don't see pregnant women while i'm on the train during rush hour.

That A train be no joke in the AM. I need a seat just cuz the stop between 125th and 59th is way too long lol.. NYC'er know what I'm talking about. lol..

 

[aneed123]

I ride the train Tuesday to Friday. It is every man and woman for themselves. However, I typically do give up my seat for older folks and pregnant women even though I don't see pregnant women while i'm on the train during rush hour.

That A train be no joke in the AM. I need a seat just cuz the stop between 125th and 59th is way too long lol.. NYC'er know what I'm talking about. lol..

Man I remember riding the subway and bus in NY with my grandma and she would make me give my seat up to women and old folk... I understand why but I used to be mad as hell lol

 

[jetlifebih]

I feel like that's the child's father issue not the community....I couldn't have mines riding the subway

lol

you shouldn't feel obligated, but it would be nice of you

not everyone is in the position to not have to ride the bus

gawd forbid a person is laid off from work or car goes down unexpectedly

shiddd I would rather ride the subway in nyc or most major cities than drive even if I had a car

Then why shame some men for not practicing chivalry?

It would be nice if i did but would it be mean if I didn't?

2 people can't put together money for a car ride?

If you live anywhere in the south where you need a car and it breaks down....you just ain't gonna make it that day, re-schedule the appointment.....

I agree with you about driving in cities, I was born and raised for most of my life in ny and didn't get my license until I came to Va ...it's actually a privilege to own cars in cities as the cost of owning and maintaining a car on top of them outrageous parking tickets(impossible to find legal parking in a lot of areas) easily becomes more of a hassle than convenience

 

[LcnsdbyROYALTY]

I'm with it all day, to an extent

I'll hold doors and give up seats and all that but I'll switch real quick when I notice you aint the least bit appreciative

held the door for this girl (very young and able) just the other day in TN and she took aaalll day gettin to it, and didnt say a word....I let it go right when she got in the path, chuckled and said my bad

It must be a Tennessee thing because it seem like damn near every young chick does it.

Definitely. These hoes feel so entitled that it's sickening.

 

[Madame_CJSkywalker]

I feel like that's the child's father issue not the community....I couldn't have mines riding the subway

lol

you shouldn't feel obligated, but it would be nice of you

not everyone is in the position to not have to ride the bus

gawd forbid a person is laid off from work or car goes down unexpectedly

shiddd I would rather ride the subway in nyc or most major cities than drive even if I had a car

Then why shame some men for not practicing chivalry?

It would be nice if i did but would it be mean if I didn't?

2 people can't put together money for a car ride?

If you live anywhere in the south where you need a car and it breaks down....you just ain't gonna make it that day, re-schedule the appointment.....

I agree with you about driving in cities, I was born and raised for most of my life in ny and didn't get my license until I came to Va ...it's actually a privilege to own cars in cities as the cost of owning and maintaining a car on top of them outrageous parking tickets(impossible to find legal parking in a lot of areas) easily becomes more of a hassle than convenience

I don't condone the shaming of men for not practicing chivalry

I would look side ways at anyone who would not give up their seat for a visibly pregnant person

And yes, sometimes 2 people can't put together money for a car ride... and not every pregnant woman has their child's father to depend on doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a small act of kindness lol

 

[twenty2]

I'm with it all day, to an extent

I'll hold doors and give up seats and all that but I'll switch real quick when I notice you aint the least bit appreciative

held the door for this girl (very young and able) just the other day in TN and she took aaalll day gettin to it, and didnt say a word....I let it go right when she got in the path, chuckled and said my bad

That's me all day! If I'm bein courteous.........and yo ass just mosey'n along...shiiiit. My motto is "If you ain't in no hurry to get here.....I ain't in no hurry to hold this muthafucka!" Bitch you betta put some pep in yo step!

 

[b'mer...]

Ultimately, id want someone to do it for my mother or my wife #RESPECT!!!

 

[Trollio]

Fuck nah

 

[deadeye]

So, I had a female "friend" on FB post this:

"It's sad that of the three people who offered me their seats on the train, all three were older women (over 50). Men, if you are riding public transportation, you should be ashamed of yourself if you are sitting while women are standing. You should be doubly ashamed of yourself if any woman standing is visibly pregnant or almost retirement age."

Thoughts?

Well, according to @desertrain10 .....now known as @Madame_CJSkywalker .......chivalry is a byproduct of the type of benevolent sexism that exists in a patriarchal society.

Therefore, instead of being shamed.....the type of gentlemen being referred to in the opening post should be commended for extolling the virtues of the feminist movement.

 

[deadeye]

i saw this tweet the other day where dude said he won't give up his seat for a pregnant woman because it's not his fault she got knocked up by a nigga with no car

 

[twenty2]

So, I had a female "friend" on FB post this:

"It's sad that of the three people who offered me their seats on the train, all three were older women (over 50). Men, if you are riding public transportation, you should be ashamed of yourself if you are sitting while women are standing. You should be doubly ashamed of yourself if any woman standing is visibly pregnant or almost retirement age."

Thoughts?

Well, according to @desertrain10 .....now known as @Madame_CJSkywalker .......chivalry is a byproduct of the type of benevolent sexism that exists in a patriarchal society.

Therefore, instead of being shamed.....the type of gentlemen being referred to in the opening post should be commended for extolling the virtues of the feminist movement.

LMAO! Right... Isn't it like, the feminists' "desire" to be "free from the male gaze"? At least that's what I remember being quoted here before...

Soooo... If you're "freed from my gaze".........I'ont see you standin up!

 

[deadeye]

I can dig all that shit but the point of being civil(fuck chivalry) is that you dont need a thank you when you hold the door for a bitch...those that do good, dont know they do good...shit Ill hold the door for anyone regardless of gender if theyre right behind me and it looks like the door might slam in their face/close right in front of em...

Ol 'yeah I hold the door for you without asking but Ill be resentful if u dont thank me' azz mofos.

It's not about expecting a thank you...........it's simply a matter of common courtesy.

If it's too much for a woman to say a simple "thank you" to someone who holds a door open/gives up a seat for them..........then they don't deserve that type of kindness to begin with.

 

[deadeye]

fuck 'em

it ain't my fault that u let urself get skeeted in by a nigga who think so low of u that he letting u ride the bus/subway by urself

and u now dependent upon the chivalry of complete strangers

u should've chose better IMO :#

Funny thing is, we're all assuming that the pregnant chick is even "with" somebody to begin with.

 

[Plutarch]

If someone doesn't want to give up their seat, that's cool with me, that's his/her prerogative, and he/she has to deal with the consequences, whether those consequences are justified or not.

Same with someone who want's to give up his/her seat.

In my case, I generally offer my seat if I see someone who needs the seat more than me, regardless of sex, age, etc. I've had some deny, and some accept. No biggie to me. If you think of me less because I didn't offer, then I don't really care much.

Chivalry is just a non-essential luxury. I don't need to partake. Besides, respect should be earned, not designated.

I just wish you niggas would feel the same way about tips. Women don't get an automatic entitlement on the bus, but they do if they're a waitress? OK.

 

[jetlifebih]

I feel like that's the child's father issue not the community....I couldn't have mines riding the subway

lol

you shouldn't feel obligated, but it would be nice of you

not everyone is in the position to not have to ride the bus

gawd forbid a person is laid off from work or car goes down unexpectedly

shiddd I would rather ride the subway in nyc or most major cities than drive even if I had a car

Then why shame some men for not practicing chivalry?

It would be nice if i did but would it be mean if I didn't?

2 people can't put together money for a car ride?

If you live anywhere in the south where you need a car and it breaks down....you just ain't gonna make it that day, re-schedule the appointment.....

I agree with you about driving in cities, I was born and raised for most of my life in ny and didn't get my license until I came to Va ...it's actually a privilege to own cars in cities as the cost of owning and maintaining a car on top of them outrageous parking tickets(impossible to find legal parking in a lot of areas) easily becomes more of a hassle than convenience

I don't condone the shaming of men for not practicing chivalry

I would look side ways at anyone who would not give up their seat for a visibly pregnant person

And yes, sometimes 2 people can't put together money for a car ride... and not every pregnant woman has their child's father to depend on doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a small act of kindness lol

In the words of the wise quavo

"Late to the game got your seats stole"

How do you not condone shaming then in the next breathe "look at them sideways"

That's passive aggressive shaming at the least...some stares stay with you for life especially if the person has a unique face

You can get cars with nothing down ...if a woman doesn't have her child's father then its a different story

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

Yeah sure its called Valentine's day.

 

[blakfyahking]

Ultimately, id want someone to do it for my mother or my wife #RESPECT!!!

get ur mom and wife off the bus my nigga

time to go car shopping

 

[blackrain]

I'm with it all day, to an extent

I'll hold doors and give up seats and all that but I'll switch real quick when I notice you aint the least bit appreciative

held the door for this girl (very young and able) just the other day in TN and she took aaalll day gettin to it, and didnt say a word....I let it go right when she got in the path, chuckled and said my bad

I'm the same way.

chick feeling entitled so no thank you is needed.

smdh

as for the pregsnt on the train...I'll give up my seat but why ya man got her out here at appts alone an visibly preggo?

lol....imma asshole right now

No you not. Bitch need to rethink her choices if she pregnant by a dude and HAS NO CHOICE BUT TO TAKE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION.

If they can't afford a cab or uber they can't afford that baby!

I keep saying I make full concessions for lil kids, old people, physically and mentally disabled people.

Anybody else of age and able bodied better get the fuck out my face with that bullshit

You realize in certain cities public transportation is a matter of convenice and not cost right?

You realize the shit ain't convenient if they complaining right?

If the complaint is about other people and not the public transportation then your point misses it's mark

 

[Max.]

I gotta give up my seat bc you fuckn broke ass dudes with no car?

 

[b'mer...]

@blakfyahking, it was broad and general statement first of all. Some people live in big cities and a car isnt necessarily needed as a mode of transportation due to congestion. Therefore, public transportation is the no brainer smart guy. So, like i said, the gesture of a MAN giving up his seat to allow a WOMAN to sit down is what should be done. Now, a broad demanding a seat just because....is a different story. But treat women as they deserve.