Those Who Are Single or w/o Kids, How Do You Respond to Pressures to Get Married or Have Children?

[Will Munny]

1. I'm married, keep up William..guess I'm more of a woman now, huh?

2. You got a feelings because despite seeming to be cool with your own choice in a life of solitude, you always gotta come for those that don't, who may also be genuinely cool in their choice. Avoiding women and children certainly hasn't saved you from any cynicism and bitterness. Not a good look.

How is find a self actualized not involving raising another mans kid cynical?

If u give ur passions away by marrying a woman with kids cause ur scared of being alone, u are a pussy.

 

[Mister B.]

Fuck 'em.

I tell I got kids, but I send them home at 3PM every day. I use to be nice about it, but my family ran that shit into the ground over the last 5-7 years, so now they know better than to ask me that shit.

 

[Qiv_Owan]

What's annoying is when ur friends switch up and start asking permission to hang out and go hunting.

What's hella annoying is when ur friends date women with other kids and disappear.

I have no idea why any man would enter into a legal agreement with a woman and the government these days.

Tell em why you mad bruh

Well u just did

But tell em why u mad

 

[Kat]

1. I'm married, keep up William..guess I'm more of a woman now, huh?

2. You got a feelings because despite seeming to be cool with your own choice in a life of solitude, you always gotta come for those that don't, who may also be genuinely cool in their choice. Avoiding women and children certainly hasn't saved you from any cynicism and bitterness. Not a good look.

How is find a self actualized not involving raising another mans kid cynical?

If u give ur passions away by marrying a woman with kids cause ur scared of being alone, u are a pussy.

That's an opinion based on your own assumptions though. Maybe they actually care for the person..I know that may be hard for you to believe.

 

[T. Sanford]

(spin-off thread)

Especially for those who are 20+.

What's your response when your parents, siblings, friends, and/or society get at you for not being married or not having any children? Especially when they call you out for being selfish or wasting your prime years?

Do you ignore them? Give in to them? Fight them? Feel guilty?

There's obviously a generational difference between gender relations today and gender relations at least half-a-century ago, so I always tell my parents (I'm single with no kids) that times have changed, but they don't seem to understand or care. Honestly, I just think they want grandkids.

It's particularly annoying when all your friends are slowly getting married (one of my boy's wedding is in three months) and you're drama-free with a good job, and all your mother's friends are pushing their daughters on you. But I guess it could be worse.

I wish they would say this. I'll body their whole argument. We are all selfish to something

 

[Will Munny]

1. I'm married, keep up William..guess I'm more of a woman now, huh?

2. You got a feelings because despite seeming to be cool with your own choice in a life of solitude, you always gotta come for those that don't, who may also be genuinely cool in their choice. Avoiding women and children certainly hasn't saved you from any cynicism and bitterness. Not a good look.

How is find a self actualized not involving raising another mans kid cynical?

If u give ur passions away by marrying a woman with kids cause ur scared of being alone, u are a pussy.

That's an opinion based on your own assumptions though. Maybe they actually care for the person..I know that may be hard for you to believe.

I can care for someone and not marry them. Hell I can be BFF with a gal and no sex or nothing and take their kid fishing every now and then but I ain't ever gonna play daddy to a kid that ain't mine.

 

[Kat]

1. I'm married, keep up William..guess I'm more of a woman now, huh?

2. You got a feelings because despite seeming to be cool with your own choice in a life of solitude, you always gotta come for those that don't, who may also be genuinely cool in their choice. Avoiding women and children certainly hasn't saved you from any cynicism and bitterness. Not a good look.

How is find a self actualized not involving raising another mans kid cynical?

If u give ur passions away by marrying a woman with kids cause ur scared of being alone, u are a pussy.

That's an opinion based on your own assumptions though. Maybe they actually care for the person..I know that may be hard for you to believe.

I can care for someone and not marry them. Hell I can be BFF with a gal and no sex or nothing and take their kid fishing every now and then but I ain't ever gonna play daddy to a kid that ain't mine.

Okay that's cool...that's your right.

To assume that all your boys are selling out and are pussies who settle because they've chosen something different is lame though.

 

[Ajackson17]

@kat congrats!

 

[Lou Cypher]

Usually i dont respond lol. My mom is always talking to me about settling down with someone and starting a family and buying my own place, but I still got a lot of stuff i need to work on for myself before i worry about anyone else.

 

[Mister B.]

Y'all just need to join this FB group....

 

[So ILL]

Lol I ask their asses if they're going to babysit while I'm working crazy hours, or if I can get a honeymoon paid for first. They usually shut up after that.

 

[mrtdb]

Turn on my PlayStation and play 2k

 

[SimplyKrys]

To be honest, I don't get that much pressure to pop a kid out. My own mom even tells me don't have any kids until I am married and make sure you are secure before having them. My boss says that no matter what you will never feel 100% ready but I want to get to the point that I feel like I am very established (house,car, good job) because I want my kid to have it better than me.

 

[Doctopian]

I simply tell them, "When the time is right," and leave it at that. My fiancee and i may never have kids, but it is ultimately our decision to make. A life spent trying to fulfill the expectations of others is a life unfulfilled. Besides, it can be argued that both positions (kids vs no kids) are selfish.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

Nobody's ever said anything to me about it honestly

Because ur like me gabi, they know trying to set u up is a lost cause.

That's probly true B)

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Nobody's ever said anything to me about it honestly

cuz you cool as shit Gabi....an you got big legs so they not trynna get kicked in the ass

 

[dalyricalbandit]

 

[AP21]

i swear some of ya'll be overcompensating like a mf

 

[Lurkristocrat]

i swear some of ya'll be overcompensating like a mf

Name names nigga. U stay shooting and hidin ya hands!